Shame, Blame & Complexity

This episode is one where I give some initial thoughts on shame and blame. I've been drawn to Audre Lorde's quote that "there are no single-issue problems because we don't live single-issue lives" and I really appreciate this when I think about intersectionality and neurodiversity because we are such complex beings but often grow up not seen or able to show that complexity.  

We are so different, yet are pressured into being "the same" and trying to give "explanations for and fix" our differences so that we can make sure others don't feel the discomfort (or we don't feel the discomfort)  that comes with taking responsibility or facing shame. Blame is a lot easier to do and sit with, whether we're blaming ourselves or others.  Shame not so much and there's a lot of ways we're defined by the one thing that we're blamed for and then shamed (or feel shame because of it), meanwhile our differences don't make it into the part of our story and they need to be. 

Thoughts include:
Blame as a way to deal with shame
Blame, being invisible and shame tied together
No single issue problems
Lack of representation and colour blindness
Thoughts on self-blame

Takeaway: 
Seeing differences

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Intro & Outro music: Joseph McDade
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