My Life My Choice
300 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 5 years ago - ★★★★★ - 4 ratingsLife Is A Choice:
Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do and did it in the name of love, or because you were told it’s your duty, or for a promotion or to keep your current job or because they would like you the best or to fulfill your need to belong or fit in? You are not alone.
This podcast takes a candid look at our choice making skills, where our choices have lead us. It evaluates where we place ourselves in our choice making process. It’s also takes a poignant look at the impact our choices have on our successes, perceived failures, health, wealth, relationships and happiness.
I'm Dr. Wendy Dearborne Holistic Life Coach and I'm your host and with my experience as a life coach and a holistic healing practitioner I will help you to create the life you want to live through the power of conscious personal choice.
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Chaos: Prevent It From Ruling And Ruining Your Life
March 13, 2019 20:00 - 1 hour - 59.7 MBIn our lives, to varying degrees, we will experience states of utter confusion, total lack of organization and general order. When this occurs in your life, you’ve experienced chaos. Chaos can show up in minor ways, like the small junk draw in the back of your garage. It can also show up in larger ways, like your closets that a filled to overflowing with outdated clothing. And then it can present itself in epic ways, where you have become paralyzed, you’re literally frozen in place and una...
How Do I find Me When I’m So Lost In My World?
February 20, 2019 21:00 - 59 minutes - 53.9 MBFinding you, that’s who, and what you are, shouldn’t be an ah ha moment experienced on your death bed. Although, it could be argued, better late than never. Finding yourself is to know yourself at a conscious authentic level, and then choosing an authentic life even if it goes against the grain of what everybody believes you must do. You’re lost because you are not doing what is authentically right for you. You are not living your truth. And the TRUTH will always come out, because that i...
Are You Dying To Manifest Your Life?
February 13, 2019 21:00 - 59 minutes - 53.7 MBIn order for you to have something new come into your life, what has gone before must die. This is one of the biggest challenges that many people face because they don’t want to let go. Letting go is key in your ability to manifest what you want for your life. From health to wealth and everything in between. When you look at the life cycles of a butterfly, you can witness from conception to birth what has to take place to make that happen...for the butterfly to be born. It goes through ch...
Desire And The Things It Will Make You Do
February 06, 2019 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.4 MBMany people have a hard time justifying why they have taken a certain action, especially when it goes against the grain of their moral fiber. Reconciling the action is a confusing challenge because it doesn’t mesh with their ethics, nor is it a part of their intrinsic belief. It doesn’t belong in their culture, up bringing or religious or spiritual doctrines. And this is not who they are showing up in the world as, and yet still, they have done the deed. You see this exhibited as addictio...
Choice Is The First Law In The Laws of Attraction
January 23, 2019 21:00 - 59 minutes - 53.5 MBYour ability to choose, is without a doubt, the most powerful energy that you will ever control. Choice, much like DNA, are the building blocks that give physicality to everything created inside and outside of your life. Choice is the power upon which the Universe is created. The first law in the Universal Laws of Attraction is choice. It’s a natural law, a spiritual law, manmade law and it IS God’s Law. Nothing can and will happen in your life, good or bad, without you first making a choi...
The Emotional Discount Game
January 16, 2019 21:00 - 59 minutes - 53.6 MBWhen we want what we want, many people do what they must do, to get it, even if it means cutting corners. As human beings the desire to have a specific experience within a relationship, with people, places and things creates an interesting dynamic for playing “the discount game.” If you’ve ever felt that you have been taken for granted, you’ve experienced being discounted. If you’ve used someone for your own agenda at their expense, you’ve discounted that person. And if you go back and f...
The Positive Benefits of Creating A Win-Win Attitude In Your Life
January 09, 2019 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBLife is always moving and as a result of that events are continuously unfolding or manifesting. Some will be to your liking and others will not. This is the natural order of life with is dualities and polarities that are required for us to consciously and unconsciously manifest. One of the most powerful positive attributes you can acquire is to always make the choice to find the win-win in every situation. There is always a “learning” or a takeaway from every situation that you can apply ...
What Happens To You When They Move The Goalposts During The Game?
December 05, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBI want a divorce. You’re fired! You have 8 weeks to live. Wow, that smoke I saw was my house burning to the ground. You don’t qualify. Your too white, too black, too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too smart, too dumb, too young, too old. You’re too critical, too much, too understanding, too negative etc. You will always be too something for someone. Life has been likened to a game and in order to play the game of life, you must understand the Universal Laws and the rules of eng...
Your Subconscious Mind Doesn’t Get the Punch line of The Joke
October 24, 2018 20:00 - 59 minutes - 54 MBUnderstanding the function of your subconscious mind is a powerful key that helps you get what you want in life. Your subconscious mind operates just like the hard drive found on your PC or the OS or IOS iPhone Operating System on your mobile phone, tablets and iPads. Your subconscious mind doesn’t get the punch line of a joke, understand slang, sarcasm, colloquialisms or rhetorical talk. It only understands what you tell it, verbatim. It only takes action to manifest what you tell it to...
Nuances In Your Thoughts, Actions & Speech Control What You Manifest In Life
October 10, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 72.9 MBNuance what it is and what does it mean for your life? Nuance: It’s a subtle difference and a distinction in the expression of your meaning. Next to lack of self-discipline, understanding the nuances of your thoughts, speech, actions and deeds is the second reason why people are unable to manifest what they want in life. What you believe is what you receive. This is a fundamental Law and it is unchangeable. Today, we are going to be exploring “nuances” and how using them unintentionall...
Am I The Source of Negative Conditions In My Life?
October 03, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 75.3 MBThe word negative and negate come from the same Latin root: negativus, which means to deny, refute, refuse and or subtract. In today’s world, negative translates to someone who has a disposition that just brings everything down. They detract or subtract from any circumstance by not adding anything of value. The irony is negative people, conditions or circumstances that show up in your life, are doing so because you have brought them there. The Universal Law of Negativity is designed to sh...
Are You Prepared To Pay The Price For What You Want?
September 26, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 81.5 MBWhen people are asked, are you prepared to pay the price for anything, most think in monetary terms. Paying the price for what you want in life is really about you, your spirituality and using your spiritual currency. While he didn’t coin the phrase, Dr. Joseph Murphy states, “there are no free lunches.” And it’s true. There is a cost for everything that you do…even breathing! So, with that in mind are you prepared to pay the spiritual cost using your spiritual coin from your invisible b...
What Are You Subconsciously Choosing And Co-creating In Your Life?
September 19, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 76.6 MBWherever you find yourself, whatever your current circumstance is, you have co-created this by the choices you have made. By the words that you have spoken, by the actions that you have taken and the deep-seated feeling you hold within your heart. This is one of the hardest realities for people to accept; that they are the co-creators of what has, and, is transpiring in their lives. What makes this hard to accept, is that people look at their circumstances in terms of the end result, then ...
What Is The Universal Law of Love?
July 25, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 82.1 MBLove, is it what we think it is or is there more to this word? Throughout the years the word love has somehow morphed into a term that is colloquially used to describe the depth of our feelings. From, “I love you to I’m not so in love with that,” and everything in between. Based on where the word love falls within a phrase or sentence, along with intonation, body language and facial expressions it will tell you what the person is really saying. The Universal Law of Love, isn’t so much a...
Do Angels And Spirit Guides Really Exist?
July 18, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 78.9 MBWe are not alone. We have never been and never will be. There is help, support, guidance and wise counsel for everyone. There is so much more happening in our lives than where we find ourselves at this moment. Throughout the ages there have been raging debates, that continues to this day, as to whether or not angels and spirit guides are real. Are these heavenly beings’ figments of our imagination or just the stuff that mythological legends are made of? Interestingly, all cultures and d...
How To Change Your Life To Get What You Want
July 11, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 82 MBIn today’s show we are going to be talking about changing our dialog and creating the perfect scenario for hearing your inner voice. One of the most important things you do in life is talk to yourself. You talk to yourself 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and believe it or not, from before you enter into this life and after you leave it. Talk, talk, talk! You are always talking to yourself. If you stop to think about this fact, and it is a fact, it will tell you how important your self-ta...
How do We Help The People We Love Get Through Hard Times In Life?
June 13, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 80.7 MBIn life, we want our loved ones to be happy, whole, capable and complete. We want to see them healthy, wealthy and wise, living a life that's a pure joy to behold and inspiring to be a part of. However, in the real world it can be gut wrenching watching as their lives unfold one crisis after another. Wanting what you want for them and trying to make them do your bidding, no matter how forcefully or gently it’s put across, usually leads to the dissolution of relationships and friendships. ...
Whose Truth Is This Anyway?
June 06, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 81.7 MBWe live our lives based on our version of our truth…and that’s all we can do. People live their lives base upon their version of their truth…and that’s all they can do. However, we spend an inordinate amount of time everyday trying to make someone else’s truth ours or trying to make someone believe and take on the mantel of our truth. There is no right or wrong to this, it just is. But as a result, we spend far too much time on things that don’t matter, verses living a purpose filled life...
How To Live A Limitless Life Within Life's Limitations?
May 30, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 80 MBWhen you are playing your game of life the ideal way to play it is with no limits! The life that you are living today, is the back bone of the future that you will experience tomorrow. Whatever limits you impose on your life today will manifest in your life tomorrow. It's really as simple as that. We have a tendency to over complicate our lives and get caught up with the "emotions" of the game instead of how we are playing the game. So how do you live a limitless life within the limitatio...
Let’s Talk About How To Live The Life You Want
May 23, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 94.7 MBMost people are striving to live the life that they say they want, and yet, for many this proves to be illusive. And for others wanting to live their dream life is downright unattainable. Most people don’t understand the Universal Laws, God’s Laws, Spiritual Laws and the nuances associated with them. And as a result, they’re imagining things, thinking things, saying things and doing things that disrupt their ability to manifest what they want. They are still working in DOS when new and...
Things You Need To Know About The Law of Attraction 2018
May 16, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 80.9 MBThere are a few things you need to be consciously aware of when using the law of attraction. The Universal or Spiritual Laws have individual, collaborative and collective functions within the manifestation and creation process. It’s important to note that whether the action of the law is collaborative or collective each law retains its individuality or specific function. What I mean by this is a cardboard box will carry things, yet, it still remains a cardboard box. Within the last two d...
How To Stop Struggling With Self Praise And Accept It
May 09, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 72.3 MBMany people don’t realize that their ability to consciously manifest what they want in life is being hampered by their inability to receive and accept praise. You know the “attaboy or attagirl,” that people give when you have accomplished something. This underlying issue with the inability to do this for self is a serious one. It has the atomic potential to undermine everything that you want, and wreck everything that you have. The Universal Law of Acceptance speaks to the energy of whe...
I Don’t Want To Be In This Relationship Anymore
May 02, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 78.2 MBTo everything in life there really is a season, including the starting and ending of relationships. Our lives are built upon relationships not only with people, but with places and things too. We never really think of ourselves as being in a working or active relationship with our homes, cars, pens, papers, food, plants or the location where we live. More often than not, when people speak in terms of relationships they are speaking of a dynamic between two or more people. It can also be ...
How To Live In Contentious Times
April 18, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 81.8 MBIs there a way to live a stress free life, when all around you it seems that there is nothing, but machiavellianism, mendaciousness, murder and mayhem? Along with wars! Rumors of wars, social unrest and civil discord. Man’s inhumanity to man and the list goes on and on. By consciously choosing to live a drama free life, can you positively impact the world with your “happy” thoughts, righting many of the perceived injustices and imbalances? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and La...
Is Dying To Please Others Slowly Killing You?
April 11, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 64 MBPeople spend far too much time worrying about what other people will think of them, verses what they think about themselves. As a result of this many people are living lives of quiet desperation, because they are dying to please others so that they will fit in. They are saying yes, when they really mean no. They are sucking it up, when they should be letting it rip. All the time making choices based on what others will think. We spend an enormous amount of time throughout our lives tryi...
Is God Listening To My Prayers?
April 04, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 60.9 MBPrayer is consciously thanking The Universal Creator, the Grand Architect, The God Within or whomever your chosen deity is for your desired outcome, before it has manifested into your life. That’s prayer in a nutshell. It’s important to understand the structure of prayer and know the distinction between talking with God and praying to God. Many people don’t understand this nuance and their prayers are structured incorrectly and as a result they feel that their prayers are left unanswered....
Has Overthinking Your Next Move Left You Paralyzed?
March 21, 2018 20:00 - 1 hour - 81.3 MBHas overthinking your next move left you in a state of I don’t know what to do paralysis? Agonizing over figuring out if the next move is the right move has left many people opting to do nothing. And that is downright painful. We have been taught we must find a solution. Not that there is always a solution, but, we must find the solution. That nuance is huge. In fact, it’s the difference between the solution being revealed to you and you trying to unearth it. There is a simple process ...
Sacrifice Is All About An Agenda What’s Yours?
March 14, 2018 20:00 - 59 minutes - 54 MBWhen people speak of sacrifices that they have made in their lives for others, they are speaking in terms of what they have given up. What they have done and what has happened to them as a result of this sacrifice. “I did this all for you so that you could have the experience that you wanted.” The word sacrifice literally means to give something up or permit something to happen in order for someone to achieve a desired goal. Be under no illusion, no matter how heart wrenching, how disappoin...
Is It Time To Upgrade Your Life?
March 07, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 74.4 MBUpgrading your life can take many forms, and yet, the end result will always be a profound change within self. The process of upgrading literally means that you have outgrown that which you currently have. And more importantly, you have the conscious realization that it’s time for something new. The new maybe similar, yet, it is something new. Should you want to upgrade your life? What if you love the life you are living and you don’t want anything to change? How do I upgrade my life an...
It’s Not What You Know It’s Who You Know; Isn’t It?
February 28, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBFor those of you on the journey of finding self, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” is a cold hard fact. In truth, it’s not who you know, it’s how you apply what you know, to experience the conscious manifestation of what you want for your life. You can have all the knowledge in the world, yet if it is not applied in the right way, it’s just knowledge. It’s a little like faith without works or inspired action, is dead. The saying, “It’s not what you know, but it’s who you know”...
Are You Running With Knives & Scissors?
February 14, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 81.1 MBHow many times did you hear this as a child from your parents, grandparents, teachers or siblings. or tell a child this as an adult, “don’t run with scissors in your hand.” As kids, our guardians always instructed us not to run with glass, knives, sharp objects or scissors. Why? Because the potential to seriously injure self was a reality. As adults you are running with a different kind of sharp object, but no less lethal. Your running with people who don’t give a damn about you and ha...
Why Can’t I Just Get Over It?
February 07, 2018 21:00 - 53 minutes - 47.7 MBLetting go of people, places and things, hurts, grudges and feuds is one of the greatest challenges you will ever face. Why? Because in some shape or form your needs, wants and desires have been minimized and then trampled into nothingness. When you think you’re done, and over it, you fill in the blank, along comes a button pusher to check you, letting you know you are still firmly in its grasp. So why can’t you just get over it? Why can’t you let it go? The answer to that is simple; you...
Abundance and The Law of Attraction in Action
January 31, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 81.5 MBThe law of Attraction is a magnetic force of intention, which is made up of many, many laws. The Law of Abundance invokes plenteousness in extremes. How do you attract into your life money, health, good relationships, fame and all the things that you want? Part I of the process involves having a clearer understand of the Laws and how you can use them. And part II is understanding how to hold the “space” so that what you desire can come into form. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert ...
Using The Art of Revision To Change Your Life
January 24, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 68.8 MBThe word revision might have a tendency to conjure up thoughts of endless homework, looking at CliffsNotes or SparksNotes and or days and nights spent swotting for exams. However, when used with the Laws of Attraction the art of revision will catapult your desired manifestation toward you. When consciously revising situations and events that have occurred in your life, puts you in the unique position of being able to decode it, rewrite the script or at the very least not give it any more of...
Do I Need To Know The Answer To The Question Why Before Moving On?
January 17, 2018 21:00 - 56 minutes - 50.6 MBGetting mental clarity for reasons you are making the decisions that you do can sometimes be supported by having the question “Why” answered. Gaining the knowledge or knowing “why” has the ability to set you up in various ways, so that you can make a choice to move on or let go. Or it can hold you in bondage. Knowing why, can provide understanding, which may or may not lead to clarity. Just because you acknowledge something doesn’t mean you have true understanding of it. In short “your w...
Are Your Life Situations Sending You Important Messages?
January 10, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.4 MBFiguring out the message that your life’s situations are telling you, no matter how joyous or hurtful, is really a process of decoding. For you, it will take practice not to continue to fall into a cycle of emotional highs and lows. Your emotional roller coaster keeps your situations negatively or positively charged, which results in smoking mirrors, uncertainty and confusion. And that can be a challenge when making choices in the best interest of self or making choices to manifest what y...
Will You Pay The Price For What You Want?
December 13, 2017 21:00 - 1 hour - 108 MBIn life there is always a price to pay. The question is, ”Are you willing to pay that price for what you want?” Many people when asked this question assume that payment is in the form of money. Cold, hot, hard soft cash! There is another form of currency and it’s called spiritual currency. It represents the intangible energies that we trade much like money represents the tangibles we trade in. You don’t get something for nothing, even if it appears that way. What are you willing to gi...
Divine Intervention: What Is It And Can I Get Some?
December 06, 2017 21:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBIs there such a thing as Divine Intervention and if so what is it, and, better yet, can I have some? Divine intervention is usually ascribed to a miraculous happening. Something that defies scientific explanation and logic. Yet, when witnessed or experienced, we as humans may not understand the mechanics of Divine Intervention, but at an intrinsic level, we get it. We know it to be true. So, how do we go about consciously creating Divine Intervention or miracles in our lives? Join me Dr...
God, Please Help Me To Fix My Life
November 29, 2017 21:00 - 1 hour - 80.5 MBAt some stage, we will all arrive at this point in our lives. It’s the point where we are literally crying out to the Universal Creator to “fix it!” Or for the answer to the question, “What must I do next?” Very few of us make it through life, without hitting our preverbal emotional “brick” wall, or, spiraling down into our self created abyss. It matters not whether you believe in God or something greater than self. You see, whether you are a believer, atheist or agnostic when we are c...
Are You Choosing The Right People To Be In Your Life?
November 15, 2017 21:00 - 1 hour - 80.7 MBIt’s important to choose the people who you allow into your life, wisely and with great care. They have the potential to influence your choices, therefore, influencing how you live your life. The people who you currently mix and mingle with mirror back aspects of your inner beliefs as to who you are. This doesn’t apply to friends; it applies to everyone in your life, including your family and nearest and dearest. Do you like what you see when you look at the people in your life? Is the r...
Wow How Did I Get To This Point In My Life?
November 08, 2017 21:00 - 59 minutes - 53.8 MBMore often than not, we have a tendency to move through life, almost, as if we are flying by the seat of our pants or being dragged along. We find ourselves in situations and places that leave us trying to figure, “how did this happen? Or how did I get here?” In order for your life to manifest the car, house, relationship, money, career, health etc., the way in which you want it to, you must first figure out what you want and then ask for it. In life we don’t get what we want, we get what w...
Are You Living In A Emotional Haunted House?
November 01, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 81.4 MBIf your past is holding you back, you are haunting yourself. If you are living in your past, you are haunting yourself. If you are trying to change your past you are haunting yourself. If you are doing anything that doesn’t serve you and support you living at your highest potential you are living inside your head in a haunted house. To haunt means: to visit habitually or regularly. Is this you? Are you habitually visiting your past…on a regular basis? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Exp...
Can I Experience More Abundance In My Life?
October 25, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 73.8 MBThis is a question that many people ask themselves, “Can my life be more abundant?” Typically, when people speak of abundance, they associate it with money and the things that money can bring. In fact, most metaphysical/spiritual teachers teach from that perspective, for you to experience abundance you must have money. Affluence is the monetary segment of the Abundance wheel, but by no means is it the greatest portion. And this is where many people become stuck. Not realizing that abundan...
Who Are You To Stand In Judgement Of Me?
October 11, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 76.5 MBThe Universal Law of Judgement invokes your right to make an informed opinion based on your knowledge or passed experiences. This opinion is used to support you in making decision. However, your opinion is yours and yours alone. You having an opinion, doesn’t make it right. Nor does it make it right for me or anyone else even if you think so. In life, this is where things have gone radically wrong. People will stand in judgement of others who do not embrace or share the same opinions. A...
Are You Putting Up and Shutting Up Just To Make It Through Another Day?
October 04, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 81 MBAre you putting up and shutting up just to make it through another day? If this is true for you then you need to map out your life. Do you have a map of your life’s journey? If you don’t, you should. Without a map you will undoubtedly find yourself in a place where you don’t want to be. Married to someone you shouldn’t be, working in a job you shouldn’t be, living beyond your means when you shouldn’t be, experiencing ill health when you shouldn’t be and generally unhappy with the life that...
God Intended This For My Good Even If You Didn’t
September 27, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 54 MBWhen things happen in our lives good and or bad, but in particular bad or traumatic, we have a tendency to view it from a negative standpoint. Why me? How could they? How dare they? We allow our emotions to dictate how we respond. And as a result, we perpetuate negativity in all areas of our lives which prevents our conscious expansion or spiritual growth. When people do things to us with the intent that they are hurtful, mean spirited, cruel, abusive etc. we automatically assume it’s be...
How Do I Uncomplicate My Life?
September 20, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 77.6 MBIn the blink of an eye our lives can become very complicated. One moment everything is fine and the next it appears that everything has exploded into a million fragmented pieces. Many people struggle to create the lives they say they want to live, because, it’s complicated. As a result of “it” being complicated, many people talk themselves into staying in relationships, marriages, homes, jobs, health protocols you name it. In fact they talk themselves into doing many things that they reall...
Isn't This How The Laws of Attraction Works?
September 13, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 55.4 MBIt’s helpful having an understanding of how the Universal Laws of Attraction work together, whether you are wanting to use them consciously or not. The Laws of Attraction are natural Laws, Spiritual Laws, God’s Laws or your chosen deity’s Laws. These Laws are immutable and exacting by nature. These two facts, immutable and exacting, say it all when it comes to the Universal Laws and how things unfold in our lives. They, the Laws, exhibit the true meaning of detached involvement. You see,...
Why Is Manifesting What I Want So Uncertain?
August 23, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 54.4 MBThere are usually multiple reasons why manifesting is uncertain. But, in the main it boils down to the violation of four Universal Laws: Polarity, Fixation/focus, Intention and Clarity. Asking in the right way is the key to receiving what you want. The life that you want to live, the love that you want to experience. The health that you desire, the money that you want to have, the house, the car, family, friends, and anything else, is yours for the asking. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choic...
Do You Find Expressing Yourself To Get Your Needs Met Hard?
August 09, 2017 20:00 - 1 hour - 80.3 MBMany people find expressing themselves a challenge. They don’t want to hurt anyone and they don’t want to be hurt themselves. Usually, what needs to be said is caught up with highly charged emotion and deep seated feelings, which, can prove to be unhelpful. We have a tendency to wait until a gasket is ready to blow and then purge, venting and expressing in a way that is hurtful to us and the person(s) we are addressing. Expressing yourself doesn’t require you being angry or building ange...