Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen
283 episodes - English - Latest episode: 13 days ago - ★★★★★ - 118 ratingsLearn how to stop overthinking and overdoing so you can connect to the one thing you shy away from: your emotions.
I’ll show you how to align your head and your heart so you can harness the power of emotion to take control of your life and create the impact you dream of.
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Forget Impressing, Start Blessing: Your Path to Real Connections
June 27, 2024 07:02 - 27 minutes - 48 MBIn this episode, we explore the transformative power of shifting our focus from impressing others to blessing them. Learn how this simple mindset change can lead to deeper self-discovery, authentic connections, and a more fulfilling life. We'll discuss practical tips and share inspiring stories to help you embrace the blessing mindset. Key Points: Introduction to the Topic: Definition of "impressing" vs. "blessing." The common societal emphasis on impressing others. The benefits of s...
How to be ok with looking at our thoughts- Castle Analogy Tools or Beginners Pt. 2
June 20, 2024 07:22 - 23 minutes - 44.3 MBThis series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves. In this epsiode we discuss the thing that can stop us from even getting to awareness or acceptance of our brains... which is that fear of us seeing what we're thinking. Join us as we explore the analogy of the castle and how that can help us take a step into our brains and closer to acceptance. Key Discuss...
Acceptance: The Key to Inner Peace- Tools for the beginner Pt. 1
June 13, 2024 07:00 - 20 minutes - 35 MBThis series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves. In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of acceptance and its role in achieving inner peace. Join us as we explore the foundations of acceptance, its benefits, and practical ways to cultivate it in our daily lives. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to Acceptance: Overview of the co...
Embrace Your Emotions: Empowering Insights into Near and Far Enemies
May 30, 2024 07:27 - 27 minutes - 44.9 MBIn this episode, guest Kathy Moffat and I, delve into the fascinating world of emotions with a focus on near and far enemy emotions. Our guest, an expert in emotional intelligence, helps us explore how understanding these nuanced emotional states can lead to personal growth, better relationships, and enhanced well-being. Tune in to discover practical strategies for recognizing and managing these emotions in your daily life. Key Topics Discussed: Introduction to Near and Far Enemy Emotions...
The Anger Epidemic Debate
May 23, 2024 07:02 - 14 minutes - 25.3 MBWelcome to the debut episode of The Anger Epidemic Debate! In this episode, we dive deep into the growing issue of anger and disconnection among today's youth. Join us as we explore the causes, consequences, and possible solutions to this pressing societal problem. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to the Anger Epidemic: Overview of the increasing disconnection and anger among children and teenagers. Impact of technology and social media. Influence of family dynamics and societal ...
Healing Inner Resistance- A Guided Meditation for Embracing Your Inner Child
May 16, 2024 07:14 - 11 minutes - 22.5 MBIn this episode, we invite you to join us on a 10-minute guided meditation designed to help you process feelings of resistance and shame by connecting with your inner child. This meditation offers a safe space to acknowledge and embrace difficult emotions with compassion and understanding. Whether you're new to meditation or a seasoned practitioner, this session aims to support your journey towards self-healing and inner peace. Show Notes: Get more here Key Takeaways: This meditation p...
Letting Life Flow: Acceptance as the Ultimate Energy Charger
May 08, 2024 07:06 - 21 minutes - 35.8 MBDescription: In this episode of "Living and Loving Your life," we delve into a fascinating concept: how acceptance can actually create energy in our lives. We explore the dynamics of resistance versus acceptance, uncovering how resisting what is can drain us, while accepting reality can invigorate us. From practical steps to recognizing resistance to real-life examples in work and emotions, we unpack how shifting from resistance to acceptance can transform our energy and outlook on life. K...
Spiritual Evolution: Nurturing Truth in Self-Discovery with Mark Butler
May 02, 2024 07:08 - 45 minutes - 79 MBShow Notes: Today I have the honor of having on Mark Butler as my guest on the podcast. Mark is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way of looking at and taking apart thoughts and ideas. I have always loved his perspective on religion and how it paires beautifully with coaching. This is something I have seen struggling in the world, in my personal relationships as well as in the industry and so I wanted to take this opportunity to take this apart with him. Listen in on this candid con...
Truth Unraveled: Navigating the Divide Between True Truths and False Truths
April 25, 2024 07:21 - 14 minutes - 25.6 MBShow Notes: Introduction Welcome to "Truth Unraveled," where we delve into the complexities of truth and falsehood. Today's episode explores the nuanced difference between true truths and false truths, shedding light on the blurry line separating authenticity from deception. Defining True Truths and False Truths What constitutes a "true truth"? How does it differ from a "false truth"? Discussing the importance of discerning genuine facts from misleading information. The Nature of Tr...
Transient Truths- Navigating Faith, Freedom, and the Four Steps to Liberation
April 18, 2024 07:00 - 29 minutes - 50.8 MBToday's podcast is a little different in that we are sharing favorite thoughts, insights and ideas. Think of this as a buffet of information and tools to use next. Favorite thoughts we explore today: Faith needs doubt to grow: What is faith without doubt? How faith requires doubt Everything is temporary Embracing the chaos within in order to let go of control You can be right or you can be free 4 steps to Freedom: I can't I strive to (I have to) I want to I am Takeaways...
Beyond Black and White: Embracing the Spectrum of All-In Living
April 11, 2024 07:02 - 22 minutes - 38.3 MBToday we're going to discuss the difference between being All in and All or Nothing thinking. There is a difference, and being able to recognize it will help us move forward in our growth and progress. Join us as we explore the key points and takeaways from our discussion on navigating life's complexities with flexibility, resilience, and growth. Key Points: Introduction to "All-In" Thinking: Definition and contrast with "all or nothing" mindset. Understanding the spectrum of possibili...
Beyond Self: Finding Harmony in Self-Development and Connection
April 04, 2024 07:40 - 16 minutes - 27.7 MBIn this thought-provoking episode, we explore the delicate balance between self-focus and connection with others. Join us as we delve into the importance of selfishness in self-development, the pitfalls of excessive self-centeredness, and the profound impact of meaningful human connections. Through real-life examples and insightful reflections, we uncover the essence of personal growth within the context of community and interconnectedness. Key Points: The Importance of Selfishness: Under...
Embracing Uncertainty- Finding Freedom in Lostness
March 21, 2024 07:00 - 16 minutes - 28 MBIn this episode, we delve into the intricate dance between feeling lost and uncertain, and how embracing love, curiosity, and openness can lead us to unexpected freedom. Through personal anecdotes and practical insights, we explore the transformative power of navigating uncertainty with a mindset of exploration rather than fear. Key Points Covered: Understanding the natural human experience of feeling lost and uncertain. The role of fear and anxiety in exacerbating feelings of uncertain...
Why Striving for Constant Happiness Could Be Holding You Back
March 14, 2024 07:35 - 15 minutes - 26.4 MBOn the show today we're all about keeping it real when it comes to happiness. You know, the kind that's messy, unexpected, and sometimes downright confusing. Let's face it, we're bombarded with this idea that we should be happy all the time, right? But what if I told you that striving for that constant state of bliss might be holding us back? Intrigued? Well, you're in the right place! Join us as we dive deep into the nitty-gritty of why chasing happiness like it's the Holy Grail isn't a...
Hit a plateau in your personal growth? Here are 4 keys to dramatically change your life with Monica Packer
March 07, 2024 07:00 - 33 minutes - 53.4 MBIn today's episode, our guest Monica Packer, a leading expert in personal development, introduces her unique "progress model." Get ready for an eye-opening discussion on sustainable growth, breaking free from the "all or nothing lie," and leveraging your intuition to navigate your path to progress. 🛑 Breaking the Plateau Myth: Monica challenges the common perception of plateaus as obstacles, reframing them as essential pauses in our progress. Explore the significance of these moments and h...
Navigating Resistance
February 29, 2024 07:00 - 18 minutes - 32.6 MBOne thing that has been very top-of-mind: Opposition. You know when you get in the groove and then suddenly life happens? It can be so frustrating and even tempting to throw yourself a pity party. But, what if that opposition was a sign that you’re doing something right? Or, that you might be on the right path? I’ve found that the greatest lessons can come in the resistance that pops up between us and our goals. I know you’ve heard the saying “if it was easy, everybody would do it.” Even...
What Would Love Do?
February 15, 2024 07:00 - 18 minutes - 31.4 MBI want you to ponder a profound question: "What would love do?" This simple yet potent inquiry holds the key to unlocking our truest selves and guiding us towards a life filled with authenticity and alignment. In this episode, we unravel the dichotomy between the ego and the essence of love. Our ego often leads us astray, causing us to act in ways that betray our deepest values and desires. It can cloud our judgment, fueling fear, insecurity, and selfishness. But when we consciously choose...
Habits that Make Life Simpler with Guest Chanelle Neilson
February 08, 2024 07:00 - 32 minutes - 58.2 MBIn today's episode, we're joined by Chanelle Neilson, a renowned expert in habit formation and the founder of Mom University. Get ready for an insightful conversation that explores the science behind habits and how implementing tiny changes can lead to significant improvements. 🔍 Episode Highlights: 1. Unpacking the Science of Habits: Chanelle breaks down the science of habits, explaining how our brains are wired to create and maintain routines. Discover the psychology behind habit forma...
The Journey from the Head to the Heart
February 01, 2024 07:00 - 31 minutes - 54.9 MBDo you struggle to understand the meaning behind emotion work? Do you hear other people talk about it and wonder what the buzz is all about ? Find out on today's podcast what the journey from your heart and head is all about. During todays episode we discuss the purpose of knowing your why behind doing anything and how that is a game changer when going through any growth. If you don't have an intention- you'll likely not follow through. So discover your why and then join me on the...
Belonging vs. Fitting In
January 25, 2024 07:00 - 20 minutes - 35.8 MBWe all want to feel like we have a place in this world. We want to be accepted and appreciated. However, the way we do that, really matters. Many of us may find that we tend to do what we can to fit in. We try to like the shows, the podcasts or songs of our friends to fit in and have something to talk about. Maybe you buy the clothes, say more things or do more things because you're trying to fit in. But how do you feel when you're trying to fit in? Usually it's a graspy heavy place. And...
When Emotions are High and Intelligence is Low
January 18, 2024 07:00 - 24 minutes - 42.1 MBDo you ever have those moments when you're feeling an emotion and you get stuck trying to figure out why? And as you try to figure it out- you find that you get frustrated? We've all heard that phrase "when emotions are high and intelligence is low" but for some reason we still think we need to figure it all out when we're feeling super emotional. What if trying to figure it out is half the problem? What if we just need to learn to validate the emotion to help navigate the situations t...
What if we treated our emotions like an illness
January 11, 2024 07:00 - 18 minutes - 31.8 MBWhen we are sick- do we try to just solve for it by doing more? Do we go for a run, or clean more? Do we try to understand where it's coming from? Not usually. Usually we just know that we're not doing good, we give ourselves the support we think we need, and we rest. We take it easy. The same is how we can support our emotions. Instead of just ignoring they're there, trying to outperform them or do something different- let's learn to slow down and be with them. We don't need to underst...
What Taking a Break can Create
January 04, 2024 07:00 - 31 minutes - 53.9 MBFive years ago, if someone had told me that I would take 8 weeks off my podcast- I would have dismissed that idea. Back then, I would have told you that wasn't what successful people do. But this year, things were different. This year with a lot of unknowns, I decided to embark on a journey or self-discovery and healing and today I'm eager to share my experience and insights with you. Can’t wait to hear what you think! &&& Exciting news mentioned in this episode: If you wanna kick off N...
Trying to Process Everything is keeping you Stuck
October 26, 2023 07:16 - 20 minutes - 38 MBFirst off- let's celebrate!! This podcast is 5 years old. 260 episodes and still going strong. Thank you for being apart of this community. I would love for you to share this podcast with 5 people AND leave a podcast review if you haven't yet. You are all amazing and appreicate your love and support. This week also marks my 40th birthday. 40 years. I'm old :). Or maybe I'm young. I have been reflecting back on 40 years of living and 5 years of this podcast. There has been such a transf...
Why your kids not having friends may not be a bad thing
October 19, 2023 07:00 - 15 minutes - 29.1 MBDo you ever worry that your kids not having friends in the way you think they should- might be a bad thing? Do you find yourself worrying what is going on? Do you blame yourself? Do you try to 'fix' the problem? What if I shared with you that having no friends isn't a bad thing after all? How would you look at the situation differently? How would you approach your kids situations? Today I want to share my own personal experience with this and what I'm choosing to do with it diff...
Triggers as Opportunities
October 12, 2023 07:00 - 18 minutes - 34.5 MBHow many times have you heard that we should avoid our triggers? How many times do you notice what triggers you and try to distract away from it? Or even blame the trigger for the way you feel? Many of us, especially in the self-development world have heard the term triggers and have actually be taught to not give our power to triggers. While I agree we don't ever want to give something outside of us our power, I also don't want to just dismiss our triggers. I believe that our tri...
What is Selfishness in Self-Development?
October 05, 2023 07:18 - 28 minutes - 53.5 MBWe are hearing a lot of messages around Selfishness lately. That we need to stop being so selfish. This has a lot of people in the self-development world scratching their heads. Should we stop working ourselves? Is that selfish? Selfishness in general has gotten a bad wrap. When we think of that word- we don't typically think of a positive definition. However, I think understanding what it actually is- can help us shed some light on what selfishness really is. I believe th...
Chopping Wood and Carrying Water- The Art of Daily Diligence
September 28, 2023 07:00 - 17 minutes - 33.4 MBHave you ever watched the show "Alone"? It's about these people that get dropped off into a forest with very few tools and compete to see who can outlast everyone else. They have to get prepared by making their own homes, and creating a food and wood storage to last through the cold winter. Now if someone decided one day to just not do anything because they didn't see the point, or because they thought it was so boring, then there may not be consequences in the short term, but their lo...
Receiving What's Working
September 21, 2023 07:00 - 19 minutes - 37 MBOften we can get caught up in our lives only focusing on what is not working. We are of course- programmed to look for the problems. However, sometimes its good to take a pause and remember that there are a lot of things working in our lives. There's a lot we could receive. Receiving is a skill to grow. We love to give. We love to solve. But receiving is often a bit harder. So today, I challenge you to work on receiving more in your life. More in your day. More in y...
What emotional intimacy with ourselves has to do with intimacy in our relationships
September 14, 2023 07:00 - 17 minutes - 33.4 MBWe have a desire to be connected to our loved ones on a deep level. We want that intimacy. And yet, for so many they are lacking in that connection. They think it has to do with getting their love language fulfilled. Or even having them show up a certain way. I want to offer that in order to be connected to anyone else, we have to become intimate and connected to ourselves. We are the gatekeeper to our intimacy. We only allow in what we believe. So if you're wanting to deepen y...
Trying to Be Productive is Actually Making You Unproductive
September 07, 2023 07:00 - 20 minutes - 38.9 MBAre you feeling overwhelmed? Unsupported? Frustrated? Are you feeling like there isn't enough time to get everything done? I am noticing a collective of people and clients going through this right now. They're is this fear that if they don't get things done, then they are going to be considered unproductive. This is so fascinating to me. We are pushing non stop for what? To prove what? I want to shift this conversation to seeing how the drive to being productive as determined o...
What are you Trying to Prove?
August 31, 2023 07:00 - 25 minutes - 49.2 MBDo you notice areas in your life where you're feeling burned out, stuck or frustrated? My guess is that you're trying to prove yourself in some way in those areas. What are you trying to prove? If you don't prove yourself, what does it mean? I noticed this pattern running in my life recently. It's one I have been using for as long as I can remember. I've been trying to prove myself in my business to get valdiation from friends and family members. I've been trying to prove myself ...
Creating a Heart Learning Home with Laura Lines
August 24, 2023 07:00 - 23 minutes - 38.2 MBWith a new school year, emotions are high. We're on high alert navigating kids big emotions while also making sure they are getting the education we think they need. Today I want to introduce you to my amazing guest and friend Laura Lines. Laura is a Certified Life Coach helping moms navigate homeschooling and bringing a heart learning home into their kids learning environment. Even if you don't do homeschooling, this conversation is gold. She discusses the gap in the learning system a...
Accepting Chaos as Part of Transformation
August 17, 2023 07:02 - 20 minutes - 37.9 MBLife in new phases can feel chaotic. And with the chaos we can feel drained, and overwhelmed. We want to believe that chaos isn't necessary. But I want to shift how we look at chaos. Because over and over again, I can see evidence as to when we allow and even accept chaos, there is massive growth. Staying calm, and in structure doesn't do much for change. It just keeps us the same. So instead of resisting the chaos- what if we embraced it? What might be different? If you're wan...
Stop using judgements as a distraction
August 10, 2023 07:00 - 19 minutes - 36.6 MBHow often do you judge yourself? How often do you tell yourself that you shouldn't be thinking or feeling a certain way? How often do you beat yourself up for being a certain way? My kids are all getting ready for school and this has been something we've been discussing. There are some that are upset with how things were last year and have a lot of fear about those things repeating. They are tellling themselves they should be happier or better in some way. However, those judgements, on...
When you have no friends
August 03, 2023 07:00 - 21 minutes - 40 MBDo you have friends? Are you satisfied with how your relationships are going? Do you feel like you're validated? Do you feel like you're getting what you desire from them? For many people I've been speaking to recently, I've noticed that that hasn't been the case. Many people are expressing that they feel like they have no friends, or that friends are changing and how lonely they are. I myself have noticed this shift lately. I've noticed how lonely I've been feeling as relationships are...
Letting Go of Everyone's Expectations
July 27, 2023 07:00 - 19 minutes - 36.3 MBRecently I have been really becoming aware of the thing that has been leading to a lot of undo stress and anxiety for me. And this things is also a theme I see for a lot of my clients too. Because of our desire to belong and do things right- we can often take on the world's view and standards without ever giving ourselves permission to decide for ourselves what we want to believe. The world likes to tell us how to parent, what to do in our businesses, how to treat others... and yet ...
4 Stages to Connecting To Your Body
July 20, 2023 07:00 - 24 minutes - 46.5 MBWhen we are in our heads, we tend to do things that disconnect us even more from our bodies. We don't take care of ourselves very well when we're in our head. We want to make a shift from out of our head and more into our body. We want to step more into ourselves. Today I want to share with you the 4 stages of connecting more to your body. This will help you to recognize what stage you might be in, or even help you to get started on connecting more to yourself. If you're wanting ...
Doing what you should- even when you don't want to
July 13, 2023 07:09 - 20 minutes - 37.9 MBWhy is it so hard to do the things we don't want to? Like going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing the laundry or cleaning the bathroom? I think for many people, they're waiting for this magic emotion that is going to make them motivated to get those things done. In fact, I believe people have this misconception that successful people don't ever have this problem of not wanting to do the small little things. No- I think successful people just understand that they can feel d...
Handling Your Inner Critic
July 06, 2023 07:00 - 21 minutes - 40.8 MBYou know that voice that is very opinionated? It's not very nice? It has a lot of harsh judgements to offer up all the time? You might even know it as your inner critic. I get this question a lot about how to handle the inner critic. They believe that the inner critic is controlling them and preventing them from doing what they want. I know a lot of efforts have been made to get rid of the inner critic and avoid it. But just like everything else we teach here, I think what we run...
There are no problems- just 'I get to' experiences
June 29, 2023 07:02 - 16 minutes - 30.9 MBI love to really consider that there is no such things as problems in this world. Really there isn't. Everything you feel coming up in you and saying 'ya but'- I want you to just notice and let it sit with you. What if that ya but wasn't true? Your emotions aren't a problem. Your relationships aren't a problem. Your money isn't a problem. Your life isn't a problem. If that was the case, what might become available to you? Problems create so much overwhelm in our world. P...
The #1 thing you need in order to experience abundance
June 22, 2023 07:00 - 22 minutes - 43.4 MBSign up for it here! Start your Spiritual Sprints today! Your #1 asset is the connection to yourself. We often think our #1 assets is something outside of us- money, time, business, people. Then we spend our time chasing and trying to 'get' those things. This creates so much lack, and scarcity. Instead of thinking anything outside of us is an asset, work to creating that asset with yourself. What do you think you get with money? Safety? Security? Then build that within yourself....
Emotional Constipation
June 15, 2023 07:02 - 23 minutes - 44 MBSign up for it here! Start your Spiritual Sprints today! Have you ever been constipated before? It feels aweful. You feel sluggish, and just like you can't move your best throughout the day. To relieve it means trying so many things, positions, foods and relaxation to learn to let it go. It is not a fun process. However, so many of us are feeling emotional constipation and don't even realize it. Emotional constipation prevents us from havng connection with ourselves, othe...
Get Excited About YOU
June 08, 2023 07:32 - 10 minutes - 19.8 MBSign up for it here! Start your Spiritual Sprints today! So often we can get hung up on a good idea, or inspiration we recieve earlier in life. We can get stuck in a past good job, relationship or body. Instead, I want to offer that NOW and this moment is all that matters. Listen in today to learn how to be more in the NOW. If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to tap more into your why- sign up with this link here. Show Notes can be found here
Be Seen By Yourself
June 01, 2023 07:08 - 15 minutes - 29.3 MBSign up for it here! Start your Spiritual Sprints today! Fear seems to be a wall we can sometimes come up against in different situations. It can feel like a block...like you've gone blank... like you're confused. This is how I felt after deciding to sit and do this podcast today. Before today I was feeling so inspired by so many amazing ideas. Then today, all I could feel was fear. Fear of being unseen. Fear of doing it all right. It was like a wall. However, this time,...
True Self vs. False Self
May 25, 2023 07:05 - 20 minutes - 38.6 MBIf you're wanting access to the Private Podcast and start going to your Spiritual Gym- Here is the link to get the download When babies are first born, they don't think anything about themselves. They are just love. And we praise them for them being who they are. This is what I call true self. Who you inherently are. Valueable, worthy, no matter what. That true self inside of you right now. The problem is that as we grow up, a second identity shadows that true identity. I call it ...
Why and Hour of Silence is Worth doing
May 18, 2023 07:11 - 19 minutes - 36.7 MBIf you're wanting access to the Private Podcast and start going to your Spiritual Gym- Here is the link to get the download You've probably heard the hype around meditation. Maybe the thought of sitting in silence frightens you. It did me for a long time so I completely understand. However, I recently have made more of the connection as to why these hours of silence are so powerful and impactful. In the scriptures over and over again it talks about the breath and heart as a connection...
The one phrase needed to dissolve fear
May 11, 2023 07:00 - 15 minutes - 28.8 MBIf you're wanting access to the Private Podcast and start going to your Spiritual Gym- Here is the link to get the download As we get to know our emotions and our stories more- it can feel like there's a lot to 'fix'. It can feel like everything is more chaotic and messier. However, I want you to understand that as you start to get to know yourself more, it can feel like it's more overwhelming before it feels more peaceful. You are letting out things that have been repressed for year...
Focusing on the WHY instead of the HOW
May 04, 2023 07:16 - 16 minutes - 32.2 MBIf you're wanting access to the Private Podcast and start going to your Spiritual Gym- Here is the link to get the download So often we get caught up in focusing on HOW to do things. And thankfully we live in such an amazing and abundant world, that we can literally figure out HOW to do anything pretty quickly. However, I think we've also become accustomed and dependent on knowing HOW to do everything which ironically has left many of us feeling lost and stuck. How- quite frankly...
Encountering Shame
April 27, 2023 07:39 - 21 minutes - 40.4 MBIf you're wanting access to the Private Podcast and start going to your Spiritual Gym- Here is the link to get the download Make sure to download the Private Podcast if you haven't yet- it will really help you do more of what we're going to discuss today- which is connecting more to yourself. When we say connecting more to ourselves, I think we 'get it' on some level, but there's still a part of us that is screaming at the top of the lungs to stay far away from that intimate connection b...