7. WHY we try controlling other peoples behaviour to feel good & HOW we can feel good no matter what's going on around us.

All of us have been there, at a point where we feel totally helpless because try as we might we simply cannot control how other people act, perceive and live their lives. All of us feel justified when we judge others, because we feel our judgements are just and that if the other person was to take our opinions or advice seriously then not only would our lives improve, but so would theirs. However, when we look closer at this and connect with the fact that in the moment, EVERYBODY feels like they're helping when they share their ideas with us - and we recall all the times that somebody shared advice or opinions that didn't feel helpful at all. In fact, the memories we can still recall were probably times where we felt hurt, judged or ridiculed by another person, not helped by them. Seeing this double standard, I'm sure you can see that just because you think you're right and just when you're telling someone else what's 'right' or 'correct' behaviour, the other person of the receiving end of the advice they never asked for is probably feeling a different kind of way about your 'helpful' feedback. Let me be real with you, trying to control how other people live their lives in order for you to feel good never works out how you wish it would. Let's explore!