Your Next Best Decision
228 episodes - English - Latest episode: 24 days ago - ★★★★★ - 268 ratingsMaking decisions can be HARD, but it doesn’t have to be! Jessica is here to help you make your next best decision with clarity, confidence, and concision! Learn more at: https://nextbestdecision.com/workshop.
Many of us feel that our decision-maker is broken from a lifetime of being told what our life “should” look and feel like. Society, culture, family, friends, and religion have told us how to think, feel and do… Then, when we have thought, felt, and done all the things, we are left wondering, “Is this it?! I don’t feel fulfilled like I was told I would be.” Which leads to feelings of anger, bitterness, overwhelm and despair.
BUT I AM HERE WITH GOOD NEWS! Your decision-maker isn’t broken! It just needs a little love and attention to bring it back to life. Here at “Your Next Best Decision” we are going to help you hear YOU again!
We will be tackling questions like:
How do you know what is the right thing to do?
How do you silence the programming around you that tells you what you “should” do so that you can do what is right for you?
How do you make decisions that are aligned with what it is YOU want and need?
How do you keep decision fatigue from overwhelming you and emotionally weighing you down?
And so much more!
You can be a powerful decision-maker, and I can show you how. Let’s get this party started.
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Episodes
28: The Aftermath
December 11, 2019 12:00 - 50 minutes - 45.8 MBIn this episode, Steve and Jessica will share what life was like for each of them during their separation. They will reminisce about how they spent their Thanksgiving that year, and talk about their cooking skills, or lack thereof for Steve. When they separated Jessica was in Boise living in their old house and working with a lawyer on their divorce papers, while Steve was in Oklahoma. Even though it was emotionally challenging for them to spend time together, Steve would always make sure h...
27: Blended Families, Co-Parenting, And Making It All Work - Interview Ashlan And Wallace Nelson
December 04, 2019 14:16 - 46 minutes - 42.6 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will welcome two very special guests, Ashlan and Wallace Nelson. They'll be talking about their experiences blending families, co-parenting, and making it all work. Ashlan and Wallace have been married a little over two years now, and their marriage was the second one for each of them. They blended two families when they got together with Wallace bringing in his five kids and Ashlan her three kids. Their story is quite unique in that they knew each...
26: Attitude of Gratitude
November 26, 2019 12:00 - 46 minutes - 42.5 MBIn this episode, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will talk about gratitude and how it plays into our individual lives and things that we're grateful for, as well as how it plays into relationships. They will start off by each sharing what they’re most grateful for and Steve will talk about being grateful for him and Penny being alive after the slight accident they had on the road when they hit a deer. Matt will talk about being grateful for family, the relationships ...
25: Be Bold
November 20, 2019 12:00 - 50 minutes - 46.7 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will talk about Jessica’s book and journal, and specifically the journal. It’s called the Boldology Journal and it’s aimed at helping people determine where they have issues in their lives so they can work towards being happier and more fulfilled. They will talk about the part of the previous episode where Steve’s sister was present that they didn’t air because she didn’t feel comfortable about it being aired. Even though that episode would have hel...
24: Lippage
November 13, 2019 12:00 - 44 minutes - 40.5 MBIn this episode, Matt will talk about what life was like after his divorce from his ex-wife was finalized. He had just found out that she was three months pregnant for the man that she had cheated with, and life was a little too hectic for him to even date again. He will dive into some of the terms of their divorce decree, most of which were more favorable to him, and how he used his time after the divorce to write business plans for some of the great business ideas he had. Eventually, he s...
23: I Am Laughing At You, Not With You
November 07, 2019 12:00 - 45 minutes - 42.2 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will dive into Matt’s backstory and where he’s at with his relationships. They’ll start off by reading a few great reviews from some of their rabid listeners and then get into the nine months that Matt was separated from his ex-wife before they eventually got divorced. Matt will get vulnerable and share what he went through when he found out that she was unfaithful, how people around him speaking out about it after the fact helped him get closure, a...
22: Ohana
October 30, 2019 11:00 - 47 minutes - 43.1 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve and Jessica will bring Steve’s sister Suzi onto the show to share her perspective during the time Steve was coming out and during Jessica and Steve's divorce. Steve and Suzi start off by sharing their fondest memories of each other when they were growing up. They will then dive into Suzi’s side of things about Steve and Jessica’s marriage and how it progressed up until when Steve told her that the marriage wasn’t in a good place. It’s gonna be a super fun story....
21: Giving And Receiving Support
October 23, 2019 11:00 - 47 minutes - 43.9 MBIn this episode, Matt and Jessica go along with Steve in a self-exploration process to understand a little bit more about the time he just came out of the closet with his family and why he felt so incapable of receiving support from his loved ones? For Steve, coming out of the closet in front of his parent and his church was one of the most difficult experiences ever and so, in the anticipation of him been rejected by pretty much everyone he knew, started to isolate from his loved ones desp...
20: Playing Catch Up
October 16, 2019 11:00 - 43 minutes - 40 MBIn this episode, Steve and Jessica will open up about what happened when Jessica and Penny went to Steve’s parents’ house where everyone, including Steve’s siblings, was waiting to stage an intervention to find out how they could support Steve. Steve was not okay and could not see his self worth, and Jessica knew he needed to be loved by his family members, so she made sure they knew everything that they needed to know and do. Listen in as they share the heartwarming events of that period i...
19: The Long Drive Home
October 09, 2019 11:00 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve, and Jessica will start off by sharing some of the numerous awesome reviews they’ve received on iTunes and Steve will share his deep concerns about the issue of gay people who are afraid to come out choosing to commit suicide. Steve and Jessica will then talk about the period when they officially split and Jessica moved away from Oklahoma with Penny. Before the move, the two of them, Penny included, had had dinner with Sebastian... the guy Steve had cheated wit...
18: Oklahoma - Part 2
October 02, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 41.6 MBIn this episode, Steve and Jessica will talk about the point at which their marriage finally ended and the events that led to that. It all started when they moved to Oklahoma and living in a hotel before they could move into their new house, and Steve cheated with a guy he met. He expected to be repulsed by the whole experience, but he ended up embracing it, and he had to tell Jessica about it so she could help him move forward with their marriage. Eventually, Steve couldn’t stop contacting...
17: Who's Toby...
September 25, 2019 11:00 - 52 minutes - 48.2 MBIn this episode, Matt, Steve, Jessica will pick up where they left off on the previous episode, talking about how Steve and Jessica progressed in Colorado Springs. They’ll dive into Jessica’s creativity side hustle while Steve was away at work and what it was like for him to slowly come out as gay to people - including the “Same-Gender Attraction Group”. Then comes Toby... ...The Volkswagen bus they used to have, and how it made Steve feel more masculine. Tune in to find out why Steve na...
16: Goal Digger
September 18, 2019 11:00 - 40 minutes - 37.1 MBIn this episode, Steve will share his experience with wanting to get the love and support of his loved ones when he came out, and how that applies to relationships in general. Matt and Jessica will share their thoughts on that and dive into how it affects people. They will also talk about their long and short term goals, and how important it is for someone to sit down and write out their goals so they can hold themselves accountable to accomplishing them. Tune in to learn how you can set yo...
15: The Time Is Always Right
September 11, 2019 11:00 - 36 minutes - 33.9 MBIn this episode, Matt, Jessica, and Steve will talk about relationships and how difficult they can be to build. Jessica and Steve will share the ups and downs they went through in developing their relationship when they were married, up to the point they’re at now. It’s going to be a super interesting story of the good and bad times they had all through their marriage, and how they relate with each other now. Enjoy! Highlights of the discussion: Why we should avoid anger in relationships ...
14: Why Do It Alone?
September 04, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 41.3 MBIn this episode, Jessica and Steve will talk about their move from Belize to Colorado Springs, how they adjusted themselves to the new environment, and the ups and downs they went through. They also dive extensively into Steve’s past struggles with pornography and being gay, while sharing how he overcame all that. Tune in and enjoy. Highlights of the discussion: Steve’s new job after moving from Belize to Colorado (01:04) Pornography did not make Steve gay (07:50) Support groups for Ste...
13: What Hurricane?
August 28, 2019 11:00 - 46 minutes - 42.2 MBIn this episode, Jessica and Steve will share the story of how their daughter Penny was born. Penny’s arrival was a week late and it had been announced that the destructive hurricane Ida was headed their way. Listen in as they dive into how hectic the duration of the pregnancy was, the highly stressful situation that surrounded Penny’s birth in Belize, and how scary and emotional it was for Steve. Highlights of the discussion: The hustle of giving birth in Belize (01:03) Full day doctor’...
12: Ambien
August 21, 2019 11:00 - 39 minutes - 36 MBIn this episode, Matt discusses how the separation left him tired and exhausted, which happens to just about tally with how Jessica felt upon her split with Steve. Was the situation negatively affecting Matt so much that he was becoming a broken version of himself? Fortunately for him and his kids, his parents and his extended family rose up to the occasion to pick the pieces up. This episode definitely drives home the importance of families - it even shines the light on extended family mem...
11: Disc Golf Anyone?
August 14, 2019 11:00 - 55 minutes - 51.1 MBIn this episode, Matt shares the rest of his story and dives into his open-mindedness about Steve and Jessica’s relationship. With Jessica and Steve’s contributions, they talk about how important that is and the impact it has had on each of them. Matt talks about his marriage to his ex-wife and what it was like, and all the ups and downs he went through in that marriage. This is gonna be a great listen, you won’t wanna miss it. Highlights of the discussion: Was Steve being judgemental of ...
10: Folding Laundry
August 07, 2019 11:00 - 40 minutes - 36.7 MBIn this episode, Matt, Jessica, and Steve will share part two of their conversation with Natalie Hodson on her Pulling Back the Curtain Podcast. They will dive into everything from religion, divorce, and dating, with each one sharing their own personal experiences on those topics, while Natalie will talk about how she is making all types of relationships work in her life. Matt, Jessica and Steve will also talk about their very atypical relationship and how they co-parent together while main...
09: Religion, Divorce, And Dating
July 31, 2019 11:00 - 37 minutes - 34.1 MBIn this episode, Matt, Jessica and Steve will share the conversation they had with Natalie Hodson on her Pulling Back the Curtain Podcast. They will talk about everything from religion, divorce, and dating, with each one sharing their own personal experiences on those topics. Matt, Jessica and Steve will also talk about their very atypical relationship and how they co-parent together while maintaining the utmost respect for each other. This episode will be very beneficial to you no matter w...
08: Eight Months Pregnant
July 24, 2019 11:00 - 39 minutes - 35.8 MBIn this episode, Matt will talk about his first marriage and life after his mission to Guatemala. He will talk about his college experiences and dive into how he met an eight months pregnant woman, started dating her, stood by her even during her delivery, and ended up marrying her. It’s a super interesting story. Enjoy it. Highlights of the discussion: Focusing on Matt (02:37) Deciding not to complete college (06:06) Text messaging during church (09:03) The baby daddy issue (14:11) Ch...
07: Packing Up & Moving To Belize
July 17, 2019 11:00 - 50 minutes - 46 MBIn this episode, Jessica and Steve will talk about the cool experience they had when they moved to Belize after Steve was offered a job as an operations manager in a beachfront resort in San Pedro. They didn’t love their jobs that much at the time, and they had been trying to get a baby with no success, so when the resort job came up, they just decided to pack up and leave for Belize. They will talk about the good, the bad, and the outright amazing moments they had living and working in Bel...
06: Denial At It's Best
July 10, 2019 11:00 - 43 minutes - 39.7 MBIn this episode, Jessica, and Steve will talk about their first year of marriage, having a blast in college and actually completing college debt free because they were doing so well for themselves. Jessica will then share the story of how she came upon Steve’s gay porn on the computer while he was away at work. Back then, Steve hadn’t yet come to terms with the fact that he was gay, and he was devastated by Jessica’s discovery. They will share all that transpired after that and it’s going t...
05: Gay Pride
July 03, 2019 11:00 - 46 minutes - 42.2 MBIn this episode, Matt, Jessica, and Steve will talk about the Boise Gay Pride Festival and what their experiences were. Steve will dive into being deeply involved in organizing the different pride festivals that have been held in the past and all the challenges they go through. The three of them, with Steve’s guidance, will then demystify the societal misconceptions about so much relating to the LGBTQ Plus community, and talk about how amazing gay pride events really are. Highlights of the...
04: Sliquid Nitrogen?
June 26, 2019 11:00 - 44 minutes - 40.9 MBIn this episode, Stephanie May (we mentioned her in the last episode. Remember?) comes on to talk about how she introduced Steve and Jessica to each other. Steph will ask Steve and Jessica a range of questions just to get a better understanding of what really happened that led to their eventual divorce. It’s gonna be a hilarious one. You won’t wanna miss it. Highlights of the discussion: The third wheel on the first date (01:03) The cupcake fight (03:48) Jessica’s dates with other peopl...
03: Cat Shoes And A Cake Fight
June 19, 2019 11:00 - 41 minutes - 37.8 MBSo, how did Steve and Jessica even meet in the first place?! In this episode, Steve and Jessica will dive into how they met and how their relationship developed - ultimately leading to their marriage. Through deliberate effort by Steve (he was admittedly intrigued by Jessica), they met back in college and the story of how they got to the point where they got married and honeymooned in Victor, Idaho, is both funny and amazing, so you won’t wanna miss it. Curious about the cat shoes?! You'll...
02: Before The Relationsh*t
June 12, 2019 11:00 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MBIn this episode, Steve, Jessica and Matt will introduce themselves and each of them will give their back history. They will talk about their childhoods, the things that really impacted them in a big way as they were growing up, and what makes them tick. They’re going to share their great co-parenting experiences and how they relate cordially amongst themselves. Highlights of the discussion: All about Jessica (01:19) Biggest lifelong impact growing up (04:36) Steve and his experiences gr...
01: Oklahoma
June 05, 2019 00:15 - 41 minutes - 38.4 MBThis was the time of the most turmoil and stress in Jessica and Steve's marriage. It was the breaking point. Steve had an affair with a man in hopes that it would shut down the gay side of himself, but the reality was quite the opposite. As with everything in their relationship, they put everything out on the table and discussed how they could move on from this. The problem was, neither of them knew how it was possible and they walked around for weeks like emotional zombies. This all came ...