Growth Marriage

Sex, God & The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

June 07, 2018 17:27 - 52 minutes - 72 MB

After seeing a massive increase in the number of students coming to her with crushing shame, confusion, and dread around sex as a professor at Seattle Pacific University, got curious. Why the sudden influx of young people experiencing so much shame around sex?

S03 E11 - Choose Wonder with Amber Rae

May 15, 2018 05:00 - 50 minutes - 69.5 MB

We all have stories running through our heads that are holding us back, and keeping us from enjoying life. Here are some examples off the top of my head from my life and the lives of some people I know in my life: “If I stop being sad about losing the love of my life, it must mean our love wasn’t special. I have to hold onto the pain and mourn forever.” “If my kids suffer and I don’t suffer with them, it means I’m not a good parent.” “If she found out I look at porn, she’ll see me as a fraud,...

Choose Wonder with Amber Rae

May 15, 2018 05:00 - 50 minutes - 69.5 MB

We all have stories running through our heads that are holding us back, and keeping us from enjoying life. Here are some examples off the top of my head from my life and the lives of some people I know in my life: “If I stop being sad about losing the love of my life, it must mean our love wasn’t special. I have to hold onto the pain and mourn forever.” “If my kids suffer and I don’t suffer with them, it means I’m not a good parent.” “If she found out I look at porn, she’ll see me as a fraud,...

S03 E10 - Dr. Brent Atkinson

May 10, 2018 00:02 - 28 minutes - 38.7 MB

Everyone has patterns of behavior that cause breakdowns in their relationships. Maybe you constantly assume the worst if you don't have the whole story (She's running late... she's probably dead!). Maybe you have a tendency to overreact when a conflict involves a particular subject. Maybe you get defensive or shut down when things get tenuous. Or you pout when you don't get your way. Or you nag when things don't get done the way you want them. Or you give the silent treatment when you feel yo...

Dr. Brent Atkinson: Breaking Destructive Relationship Patterns

May 10, 2018 00:02 - 28 minutes - 38.7 MB

Everyone has patterns of behavior that cause breakdowns in their relationships. Maybe you constantly assume the worst if you don't have the whole story (She's running late... she's probably dead!). Maybe you have a tendency to overreact when a conflict involves a particular subject. Maybe you get defensive or shut down when things get tenuous. Or you pout when you don't get your way. Or you nag when things don't get done the way you want them. Or you give the silent treatment when you feel yo...

Process & Principles vs Content & Outcomes with Dr. Adam Mathews

April 10, 2018 21:09 - 32 minutes - 44.2 MB

Sometimes when we're in pain, we focus more on controlling the outcome of a conflict than we are on staying true to our values. We forget that we can't control the behaviors, words, feelings, or thoughts of others, and so we really don't have any control over the outcome. In this episode, we talk about how to communicate in a way that stays in line with your values and prevents the stress of worrying about the outcome.

S03 E09 - Process & Principles vs Content & Outcomes with Dr. Adam Mathews

April 10, 2018 21:09 - 32 minutes - 44.2 MB

Sometimes when we're in pain, we focus more on controlling the outcome of a conflict than we are on staying true to our values. We forget that we can't control the behaviors, words, feelings, or thoughts of others, and so we really don't have any control over the outcome. In this episode, we talk about how to communicate in a way that stays in line with your values and prevents the stress of worrying about the outcome.

What happens in the office of a sex therapist?

March 27, 2018 17:49 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MB

What does it mean about our relationship if we need therapy? What if the therapist tells us our issues are unfixable? Shouldn't we be able to fix this ourselves? What if we start going and our therapist just wants us to come back over and over again for years? How do we know when we don't need therapy anymore? Are they just going to make me talk about my feelings? How do we even figure out whether or not our struggles are worthy of a therapist?

S03 E08 - What happens in the office of a sex therapist?

March 27, 2018 17:49 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MB

What does it mean about our relationship if we need therapy? What if the therapist tells us our issues are unfixable? Shouldn't we be able to fix this ourselves? What if we start going and our therapist just wants us to come back over and over again for years? How do we know when we don't need therapy anymore? Are they just going to make me talk about my feelings? How do we even figure out whether or not our struggles are worthy of a therapist?

Think you are someone who doesn't have a fantasy?

March 14, 2018 18:14 - 33 minutes - 46.1 MB

We have never met a man or woman who didn’t have a fantasy. Whether it’s having your partner finding a babysitter, planning a date night and whisking you away or trying a new adventure in the bedroom—the spectrum of fantasy is a fun and powerful tool to incorporate into your relationship. You might be surprised at what you learn about the art and power of fantasy in a relationship whether you ever act on one or not.

S03 E07 - Think you are someone who doesn't have a fantasy?

March 14, 2018 18:14 - 33 minutes - 46.1 MB

We have never met a man or woman who didn’t have a fantasy. Whether it’s having your partner finding a babysitter, planning a date night and whisking you away or trying a new adventure in the bedroom—the spectrum of fantasy is a fun and powerful tool to incorporate into your relationship. You might be surprised at what you learn about the art and power of fantasy in a relationship whether you ever act on one or not.

What I learned about love from Super Bowl Champ, Setema Gali

March 02, 2018 16:17 - 35 minutes - 49.3 MB

Setema is not just a Super Bowl Champ. He's an entrepreneur, a high-end coach, a speaker, an author, and most importantly, he's an incredible husband and father. If you want to get a glimpse into what an extraordinary marriage can look like, this episode is for you.

S03 E06 - What I learned about love from Super Bowl Champ, Setema Gali

March 02, 2018 16:17 - 35 minutes - 49.3 MB

Setema is not just a Super Bowl Champ. He's an entrepreneur, a high-end coach, a speaker, an author, and most importantly, he's an incredible husband and father. If you want to get a glimpse into what an extraordinary marriage can look like, this episode is for you.

Bonus Episode - Q&A With Kristin & Nate

February 27, 2018 21:14 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MB

Here are the questions we tackle today: "I feel like every since I have had my children my sex drive has gone out the window! Before children it was crazy and now it is mind-boggling to me how it has changed! What advice do you have to rekindle it?" & "I had to be on pelvic rest during the last 1/2 of my pregnancy. I often offered to take care of my husband sexually, but he only let me do it once. When I offered again, he said sex is something we do together and not just him receiving the ple...

Lube... this conversation will blow your mind

February 22, 2018 21:01 - 35 minutes - 48.3 MB

When Kristin first approached me about doing an episode on lube, I was like, "Uh... won't that just be like a 30-second episode? Lube reduces friction. Done." "Nate, there's so much more to than that!" Boy, was she right! Lube in the United States is not regulated by the FDA. That means companies can put all sorts of stuff in their products that could do damage to your body. Many lubrications include chemicals that cause allergic reactions, that leave you with a rash, itchiness, sensitivity, ...

S03 E05 - Lube... this conversation will blow your mind

February 22, 2018 21:01 - 35 minutes - 48.3 MB

When Kristin first approached me about doing an episode on lube, I was like, "Uh... won't that just be like a 30-second episode? Lube reduces friction. Done." "Nate, there's so much more to than that!" Boy, was she right! Lube in the United States is not regulated by the FDA. That means companies can put all sorts of stuff in their products that could do damage to your body. Many lubrications include chemicals that cause allergic reactions, that leave you with a rash, itchiness, sensitivity, ...

S03 E04 - "What's your goal?" with Ashley and Nathan Logsdon

February 14, 2018 20:02 - 41 minutes - 57 MB

It's rare to meet a couple who lives as intentionally as Ashley and Nathan Logsdon. They're crystal clear about what's important to them, how they want to feel in their life and in their relationship, and what they need to do to create those feelings. Their life is extraordinary in large part because they've walked away from what the world thinks they SHOULD want and have chosen to pursue something entirely different... what they ACTUALLY want. In this episode, we talk about how Nathan and As...

"What's your goal?" with Ashley and Nathan Logsdon

February 14, 2018 20:02 - 41 minutes - 57 MB

It's rare to meet a couple who lives as intentionally as Ashley and Nathan Logsdon. They're crystal clear about what's important to them, how they want to feel in their life and in their relationship, and what they need to do to create those feelings. Their life is extraordinary in large part because they've walked away from what the world thinks they SHOULD want and have chosen to pursue something entirely different... what they ACTUALLY want. In this episode, we talk about how Nathan and As...

S03 E03 - Advice from a Sex Therapist: Where did my libido go after I had a baby?

February 08, 2018 18:26 - 34 minutes - 46.7 MB

Having a baby comes with some major gifts and some serious side effects. Today we're going to talk about what happens to your body and your libido after you pop out a human... and what to do if your body isn't responding the way you hoped and dreamed it would. Join The Loveumentary’s Season 3 hosts, Nate Bagley and Kristin Hodson (LCSW and AASECT certified sex therapist) as they talk about how you can create a fulfilling, exciting, and satisfying sex life… because you deserve it! We’re excit...

Advice from a Sex Therapist: Where did my libido go after I had a baby?

February 08, 2018 18:26 - 34 minutes - 46.7 MB

Having a baby comes with some major gifts and some serious side effects. Today we're going to talk about what happens to your body and your libido after you pop out a human... and what to do if your body isn't responding the way you hoped and dreamed it would. Join The Loveumentary’s Season 3 hosts, Nate Bagley and Kristin Hodson (LCSW and AASECT certified sex therapist) as they talk about how you can create a fulfilling, exciting, and satisfying sex life… because you deserve it! We’re excit...

S03 E02 - Why am I struggling to have an orgasm?

February 01, 2018 18:56 - 32 minutes - 44.9 MB

Orgasms can be tricky and elusive things to experience. Unless you understand the context and the circumstances that create a good orgasm, you can chase it and chase it and it will always remain just out of reach. On today's episode, Nate and Certified Sex Therapist, Kristin Hodson, talk about the female orgasm, and how to increase your capacity to achieve one. The episode is JAM PACKED with information. Listen closely to make sure you don't miss anything. And if you have questions, feel free...

Why am I struggling to have an orgasm?

February 01, 2018 18:56 - 32 minutes - 44.9 MB

Orgasms can be tricky and elusive things to experience. Unless you understand the context and the circumstances that create a good orgasm, you can chase it and chase it and it will always remain just out of reach. On today's episode, Nate and Certified Sex Therapist, Kristin Hodson, talk about the female orgasm, and how to increase your capacity to achieve one. The episode is JAM PACKED with information. Listen closely to make sure you don't miss anything. And if you have questions, feel free...

How to talk to your partner about sex

January 24, 2018 17:29 - 36 minutes - 50.4 MB

There are tons of reasons couples avoid talking about sex. In this - the first episode of an entire season of podcast episodes dedicated to sex - we’re going to talk about how to talk about the thing we don’t talk about. Join The Loveumentary’s Season 3 hosts, Nate Bagley and Kristin Hodson (LCSW and certified sex therapist) as they talk about how you can create a fulfilling, exciting, and satisfying sex life… because you deserve it! We’re excited to have you join us and answer your question...

S03 E01 - How to talk to your partner about sex

January 24, 2018 17:29 - 36 minutes - 50.4 MB

There are tons of reasons couples avoid talking about sex. In this - the first episode of an entire season of podcast episodes dedicated to sex - we’re going to talk about how to talk about the thing we don’t talk about. Join The Loveumentary’s Season 3 hosts, Nate Bagley and Kristin Hodson (LCSW and certified sex therapist) as they talk about how you can create a fulfilling, exciting, and satisfying sex life… because you deserve it! We’re excited to have you join us and answer your question...

What to do when your partner suffers from depression with Kim and Seth Adam Smith

January 15, 2017 11:00 - 52 minutes - 72.7 MB

Depression and mental health is something we are all affected by. We know so little about it, and there isn't a lot of help or resources that have proven to be effective across the board. The help, support, and resources that do exist are typically for the person suffering from mental illness, and not for the partner, which can leave the partner who isn't battling the illness feeling just as alone and helpless as the person who is. In this episode Seth and Kim give us a look into how they hav...

S02 E07 - What to do when your partner suffers from depression with Kim and Seth Adam Smith

January 15, 2017 11:00 - 52 minutes - 72.7 MB

Depression and mental health is something we are all affected by. We know so little about it, and there isn't a lot of help or resources that have proven to be effective across the board. The help, support, and resources that do exist are typically for the person suffering from mental illness, and not for the partner, which can leave the partner who isn't battling the illness feeling just as alone and helpless as the person who is. In this episode Seth and Kim give us a look into how they hav...

S02 E06 - How to get the love you want and give the love they need!

January 08, 2017 10:00 - 50 minutes - 69.4 MB

Vienna Pharaon is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is one of the most talented relationship counselors I have had the pleasure of meeting. A lot of her teaching focuses on the narratives that we have in our heads about ourselves and those we love... and how those narratives are often not based entirely on reality. She teaches about how to change our personal story so that it empowers us to be great partners, and to create amazing love. I think you'll love this episode!

How to get the love you want and give the love they need!

January 08, 2017 10:00 - 50 minutes - 69.4 MB

Vienna Pharaon is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is one of the most talented relationship counselors I have had the pleasure of meeting. A lot of her teaching focuses on the narratives that we have in our heads about ourselves and those we love... and how those narratives are often not based entirely on reality. She teaches about how to change our personal story so that it empowers us to be great partners, and to create amazing love. I think you'll love this episode!

When Couples Live With Intention with Aaron and April Jacob (Nurturing Marriage)

January 02, 2017 23:51 - 1 hour - 85.5 MB

Aaron and April Jacob created Nurturing Marriage because they wanted to share with the world what makes relationships work, and what makes couples happy. Their website, NurturingMarriage.org is a fantastic resource to learn more about things like conflict management, navigating intimacy, and keeping the flame alive. I hope you check out their stuff, and I hope you love this episode!

S02 E05 - Aaron and April Jacob (Nurturing Marriage)

January 02, 2017 23:51 - 1 hour - 85.5 MB

Aaron and April Jacob created Nurturing Marriage because they wanted to share with the world what makes relationships work, and what makes couples happy. Their website, NurturingMarriage.org is a fantastic resource to learn more about things like conflict management, navigating intimacy, and keeping the flame alive. I hope you check out their stuff, and I hope you love this episode!

S03 E04 - Emotional Obesity w/ Laura Coe

December 20, 2016 05:25 - 49 minutes - 68.5 MB

It's easy to describe how to get a healthy body. You eat nutritious foods, you exercise regularly, and you avoid doing things that will cause long-term damage to your bones and muscles... But what's the emotional equivalent to healthy eating, working out, and taking care of yourself? Do you know how much your emotional baggage weighs? Do you know what daily workout routines you could be doing to manage your stress, depression or anxiety? In this episode we sit down with Laura Coe, author of E...

Emotional Obesity with Laura Coe

December 20, 2016 05:25 - 49 minutes - 68.5 MB

It's easy to describe how to get a healthy body. You eat nutritious foods, you exercise regularly, and you avoid doing things that will cause long-term damage to your bones and muscles... But what's the emotional equivalent to healthy eating, working out, and taking care of yourself? Do you know how much your emotional baggage weighs? Do you know what daily workout routines you could be doing to manage your stress, depression or anxiety? In this episode we sit down with Laura Coe, author of E...

S02 E03 - Thomas Edwards and Laurie Davis

December 13, 2016 03:44 - 56 minutes - 51.1 MB

Laurie Davis is a professional dating coach responsible for helping hundreds of people find true love. Thomas Edwards is a professional wingman in New York City, helping elite men find and date incredible women. How did I get them together on this podcast? Well... they're married. This episode is a great look into what the marriage of two professionals in the relationship world looks like. They share some great tips and tricks, and some fantastic stories about true love. I think you'll love it.

When a professional wingman and an award winning dating coach get married? With Thomas Edwards and Laurie Davis

December 13, 2016 03:44 - 56 minutes - 51.1 MB

Laurie Davis is a professional dating coach responsible for helping hundreds of people find true love. Thomas Edwards is a professional wingman in New York City, helping elite men find and date incredible women. How did I get them together on this podcast? Well... they're married. This episode is a great look into what the marriage of two professionals in the relationship world looks like. They share some great tips and tricks, and some fantastic stories about true love. I think you'll love it.

Four ways you can support your partner in their dreams with Michelle Peterson from #StayMarried

December 05, 2016 01:35 - 54 minutes - 75.6 MB

I live for episodes like this. Michelle Peterson shares with us what it looks like to create dreams together as a couple, and four different ways you can support your partner in their dreams: Emotional Support Esteem Support Informational Support Tangible Support (actions) It's interviews like this that show me incredible ways to level-up my relationship. I hope you learn a lot and feel the same!

S02 E02 - Michelle Peterson from #StayMarried

December 05, 2016 01:35 - 54 minutes - 75.6 MB

I live for episodes like this. Michelle Peterson shares with us what it looks like to create dreams together as a couple, and four different ways you can support your partner in their dreams: Emotional Support Esteem Support Informational Support Tangible Support (actions) It's interviews like this that show me incredible ways to level-up my relationship. I hope you learn a lot and feel the same!

Jennifer Finlayson-Fife: Virtue, Passion, and Owning Your Desire

November 24, 2016 19:04 - 59 minutes - 81.7 MB

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife sits down with me to talk about how a patriarchal view of sex can be really damaging to your relationship (and what it is in the first place), why it's important to take ownership of our own desires and our own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how awesome sex takes lots and lots of practice. Here are some of my favorite quotes: “Women have more sexual capacity then men do.” ______ Are you prepared to be married to an equal? (for...

S02 E01 - Jennifer Finlayson-Fife: Virtue, Passion, and Owning Your Desire

November 24, 2016 19:04 - 59 minutes - 81.7 MB

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife sits down with me to talk about how a patriarchal view of sex can be really damaging to your relationship (and what it is in the first place), why it's important to take ownership of our own desires and our own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how awesome sex takes lots and lots of practice. Here are some of my favorite quotes: “Women have more sexual capacity then men do.” ______ Are you prepared to be married to an equal? (for...

What You Don't Know About Porn with Kristin Hodson LCSW

April 14, 2016 21:59 - 1 hour - 69.5 MB

Porn is a contraversial subject. It polarizes people. It gets people emotionally charged. It's also something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable to talk about. So, I'm taking one for the team! I'm going to have the conversation for you. In this episode Kristin and I talk about some important things: What is porn? Is there such a thing as Porn Addiction? Why is this such a contraversial thing? What is addiction, exactly? Why do people look at porn? If you or someone you know has a nega...

Episode 85 - What You Don't Know About Porn with Kristin Hodson LCSW

April 14, 2016 21:59 - 1 hour - 69.5 MB

Porn is a contraversial subject. It polarizes people. It gets people emotionally charged. It's also something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable to talk about. So, I'm taking one for the team! I'm going to have the conversation for you. In this episode Kristin and I talk about some important things: What is porn? Is there such a thing as Porn Addiction? Why is this such a contraversial thing? What is addiction, exactly? Why do people look at porn? If you or someone you know has a nega...

"I love you and you're my best friend." Rahul and Sarah Gupta

March 25, 2016 21:58 - 1 hour - 78 MB

Join us as we talk to Rahul and Sarah about their amazingly authentic and loving relationship. Here are some of the things we talk about: Every night they end their evening by look each other in the eyes and saying, "I like you and I love you." How they dealt with Rahul's faith change (to atheism). Being cheerleaders for each other's dreams and goals. Rahul's admiration for Sarah, and the example she is for their daughter, and Sarah's respect for Rahul's efforts to be an amazing dad. What I...

Episode #85 - Rahul and Sarah Gupta

March 25, 2016 21:58 - 1 hour - 78 MB

Join us as we talk to Rahul and Sarah about their amazingly authentic and loving relationship. Here are some of the things we talk about: Every night they end their evening by look each other in the eyes and saying, "I like you and I love you." How they dealt with Rahul's faith change (to atheism). Being cheerleaders for each other's dreams and goals. Rahul's admiration for Sarah, and the example she is for their daughter, and Sarah's respect for Rahul's efforts to be an amazing dad. What I...

Thoughts on love, trust, kindness, and marriage with John and Julie Gottman

March 21, 2016 17:09 - 35 minutes - 41.1 MB

A lot of people profess to have great relationship and marriage advice... but few people give advice based on decades of longitudinal research. John Gottman has been studying couples, how they interact with each other, the physiology of the body when they are under duress, the facial expressions they make when in arguments, the tone of voice and words they choose to use when communicating with each other... and the list goes on. The Gottman's are fiercely committed to only providing science-b...

Episode 084 - John and Julie Gottman

March 21, 2016 17:09 - 35 minutes - 41.1 MB

A lot of people profess to have great relationship and marriage advice... but few people give advice based on decades of longitudinal research. John Gottman has been studying couples, how they interact with each other, the physiology of the body when they are under duress, the facial expressions they make when in arguments, the tone of voice and words they choose to use when communicating with each other... and the list goes on. The Gottman's are fiercely committed to only providing science-b...

The number one quality you should look for (and develop) in a partner with David and Gretchen

March 12, 2016 07:36 - 1 hour - 77.8 MB

David and Gretchen are one of the most phenomenal couples I've ever met. They have a mission statement for their marriage. They try to get every person they meet one step closer to achieving their goals. How cool is that?! They also gave me some of the most compelling marriage advice I've ever heard from anyone. I think you'll like it. I hope you enjoy this episode, and that it inspires you to be a little kinder, and love a little more deeply.

Episode 083 - David and Gretchen

March 12, 2016 07:36 - 1 hour - 77.8 MB

David and Gretchen are one of the most phenomenal couples I've ever met. They have a mission statement for their marriage. They try to get every person they meet one step closer to achieving their goals. How cool is that?! They also gave me some of the most compelling marriage advice I've ever heard from anyone. I think you'll like it. I hope you enjoy this episode, and that it inspires you to be a little kinder, and love a little more deeply.

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