Growth Marriage
330 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 157 ratingsHere at the Growth Marriage podcast, we believe every couple can have amazing communication, deep connection, and passionate, knock-your-socks-off love.
Back in 2012 I quit my fancy corporate job, sold everything I owned, and started traveling the United States with the goal of uncovering the secrets to truly epic love.
I’ve been trained by the world’s top experts, researchers, and authors - and I’ve interviewed the most incredible couples on the planet. And now my only focus is sharing the secrets of what makes amazing love possible with you.
Each week I’ll give you the tools you need take your marriage to the next level… but only if you’re willing take action. You’ll see that legendary love happens by choice, not by chance.
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The Epic Wives Experiment Details Revealed!
December 24, 2019 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32.9 MBOver the last few weeks I’ve been laying the groundwork for the Growth Ecosystem - the 3 fundamental principles you need to have in place to achieve your goals over the long-term, and experience explosive growth in your life (and in your marriage): Have a goal that inspires and motivates you (just like plants strive towards the sun). Surround yourself with a supportive and nurturing community (just like plants use soil to hold them in place during rough weather). Develop a system of regula...
What separates the best marriages from all the rest!
December 17, 2019 10:00 - 29 minutes - 66.7 MBOver the last 3 weeks, I’ve been breaking down this new idea I call the Growth Ecosystem. The idea is that having a growth “mindset” is not enough to create change in your life. Most people can dig deep and make positive short-term changes to their lives — like sticking to a new health routine, writing a few chapters of that book you’ve had in your head, or strengthening that weak spot in your marriage. But if they’re not living in an environment that encourages those changes to stick, they f...
Growth Ecosystem Pt 2: How To Access Unlimited Motivation and Encouragement
December 10, 2019 10:00 - 26 minutes - 59.9 MBToday’s podcast episode and accompanying blog post will make a lot more sense if you listen to to the past 2 episodes of the Growth Marriage Podcast first! In the first episode, I introduced the concept of the Growth Ecosystem. The idea is that a person (aka you), when placed in the right ecosystem, will grow and achieve their goals… just like a plant will grow when it’s placed in the ideal ecosystem. Have you ever attempted to unlock your potential by working towards a goal or making an imp...
Growth Ecosystem Pt 1: The First Step to Unlocking Your True Potential
December 03, 2019 10:00 - 24 minutes - 56.2 MBOn last week’s podcast episode I told you that after interviewing hundreds of madly-in-love couples, and the world’s top marriage experts (like Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, or Drs. John and Julie Gottman from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work), I pieced together a powerful, life-changing principle that nobody else is talking about. Yet, the most fulfilled couples on the planet are living this principle… most of the time without even knowing it… I call it The Growt...
What I learned interviewing hundreds of the world's top marriage experts
November 25, 2019 21:46 - 14 minutes - 33.1 MBWhenever I go to a party and someone asks, “So, what do you do?” I smile and take a deep breath. “I help people have amazing marriages.” “Oh, so you’re a therapist?” they inevitably ask. “Nope! I have no desire to be a therapist. Thought about it for a while… even got accepted into some great programs. But therapy is not my thing.” “Oh… so… what do you do then?” It’s fun to see their reactions when I tell them that back in 2012 when I went on a cross-country road trip to discover the secrets ...
The Gift Within Conflict with Rachel Abrams
May 03, 2019 19:54 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBOn today's episode I sit down with Rachel Abrams, co-author of the new book "" with her husband, Doug, and the renowned Drs. John and Julie Gottman. In today's episode - among other things - we talk about the Conflict Date, and why it's Rachel's favorite date. You'll learn about all the wonderful benefits and treasures you can discover for your relationship when you approach conflict with the right tools and mindsets. It's a powerful episode!
S04 E19 - The Gift Within Conflict with Rachel Abrams
May 03, 2019 19:54 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBOn today's episode I sit down with Rachel Abrams, co-author of the new book "" with her husband, Doug, and the renowned Drs. John and Julie Gottman. In today's episode - among other things - we talk about the Conflict Date, and why it's Rachel's favorite date. You'll learn about all the wonderful benefits and treasures you can discover for your relationship when you approach conflict with the right tools and mindsets. It's a powerful episode!
S04 E18 - Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel
April 11, 2019 18:04 - 45 minutes - 63 MBMort Fertel is the creator of , a relationship renewal system that’s been used by millions of people in marital crisis. He also authored the book On today's show we talk about some of the ways to get in your reps to build a healthy relationship. What are the things you can do to stay in shape, have good relationship nutrition, and keep your marriage strong and healthy.
Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel
April 11, 2019 18:04 - 45 minutes - 63 MBMort Fertel is the creator of , a relationship renewal system that’s been used by millions of people in marital crisis. He also authored the book On today's show we talk about some of the ways to get in your reps to build a healthy relationship. What are the things you can do to stay in shape, have good relationship nutrition, and keep your marriage strong and healthy.
S04 E17 - Part 1 of Double Podcast Relationship Extravaganza with Kyle Wright
April 03, 2019 15:27 - 45 minutes - 62.8 MBKyle Wright used to be a bartender, but now he's the cofounder of the with his wife, Rachel. Kyle just launched a new podcast called "Masculinity On The Rocks" which I'm REALLY excited about... especially since part 2 of this Double Podcast Relationship Extravaganza can be found on that very podcast. Make sure to check out Kyle and Rachel's that will help you find the right words when you need them the most.
Part 1 of Double Podcast Relationship Extravaganza with Kyle Wright
April 03, 2019 15:27 - 45 minutes - 62.8 MBKyle Wright used to be a bartender, but now he's the cofounder of the with his wife, Rachel. Kyle just launched a new podcast called "Masculinity On The Rocks" which I'm REALLY excited about... especially since part 2 of this Double Podcast Relationship Extravaganza can be found on that very podcast. Make sure to check out Kyle and Rachel's that will help you find the right words when you need them the most.
Stop saying, "I don't know." With Celeste Davis
March 27, 2019 15:44 - 50 minutes - 68.8 MBWhen you're faced with a struggle, an obstacle, or a challenge, the easy choice is to say, "I don't know what to do." But what if "I don't know," didn't exist? What would you do then? In today's episode, Celeste Davis of talks to us about how we're SO much smarter than we think. If there's an area of your life that you want to be better, you probably have the answers. Her ideas of how to find those answers are brilliant!
S04 E16 - Stop saying, "I don't know." With Celeste Davis
March 27, 2019 15:44 - 50 minutes - 68.8 MBWhen you're faced with a struggle, an obstacle, or a challenge, the easy choice is to say, "I don't know what to do." But what if "I don't know," didn't exist? What would you do then? In today's episode, Celeste Davis of talks to us about how we're SO much smarter than we think. If there's an area of your life that you want to be better, you probably have the answers. Her ideas of how to find those answers are brilliant!
S04 E15 - Grudges are good! With Dr. Mark Chamberlain
March 25, 2019 01:19 - 1 hour - 86.2 MBDr. Mark Chamberlain is a PhD in Psychology and specializes in helping couples go through the process of forgiveness, and navigate addiction. In today's episode we tackle some aspects of forgiveness that I've never considered before. Like the importance of holding grudges! (Yes, they're important. Listen to the episode for more.) And be sure to check out Mark's book, "."
Grudges are good! With Dr. Mark Chamberlain
March 25, 2019 01:19 - 1 hour - 86.2 MBDr. Mark Chamberlain is a PhD in Psychology and specializes in helping couples go through the process of forgiveness, and navigate addiction. In today's episode we tackle some aspects of forgiveness that I've never considered before. Like the importance of holding grudges! (Yes, they're important. Listen to the episode for more.) And be sure to check out Mark's book, "."
Do we expect too much? With Logan Ury
March 15, 2019 13:17 - 1 hour - 93.4 MBLogan Ury is one of those people I could talk to for HOURS. She's a TED Resident, Author, and Dating Coach. She hosted the Modern Romance series at Google which featured guests like Esther Perel and Drs. John and Julie Gottman. And she's just a fascinating person to talk to. I hope you enjoy this conversation which is essentially two relationship nerds picking each others' brains regarding what makes some marriages work while others fail, how to choose a partner, whether we expect too much fr...
S04 E14 - Do we expect too much? With Logan Ury
March 15, 2019 13:17 - 1 hour - 93.4 MBLogan Ury is one of those people I could talk to for HOURS. She's a TED Resident, Author, and Dating Coach. She hosted the Modern Romance series at Google which featured guests like Esther Perel and Drs. John and Julie Gottman. And she's just a fascinating person to talk to. I hope you enjoy this conversation which is essentially two relationship nerds picking each others' brains regarding what makes some marriages work while others fail, how to choose a partner, whether we expect too much fr...
S04 E13 - The Relationship Inventory
March 06, 2019 06:00 - 40 minutes - 55.4 MBI've been doing this marriage podcast for almost 7 years... and for 3 of them I've been married. And for some reason, I've never officially introduced you to my wife. No idea why. So in this episode you FINALLY get to meet Angilyn. And we're going to share with you one of the tools we use to keep our marriage healthy, thriving, and on-track. We call it the Relationship Inventory. You can call it whatever you want. I hope you enjoy getting a real personal look into our relationship.
The Relationship Inventory
March 06, 2019 06:00 - 40 minutes - 55.4 MBI've been doing this marriage podcast for almost 7 years... and for 3 of them I've been married. And for some reason, I've never officially introduced you to my wife. No idea why. So in this episode you FINALLY get to meet Angilyn. And we're going to share with you one of the tools we use to keep our marriage healthy, thriving, and on-track. We call it the Relationship Inventory. You can call it whatever you want. I hope you enjoy getting a real personal look into our relationship.
Creating Emotional Safety with Maggie Reyes
February 20, 2019 16:52 - 44 minutes - 60.8 MB"We just need better communication." "I just don't feel like I can trust him." "We need to do better at giving each other the benefit of the doubt." These are all symptoms of a relationship that doesn't have a strong foundation of . Create more safety, and these problems will resolve themselves. In today's episode we talk with Marriage Coach, Maggie Reyes about some practical ways you can create more emotional safety in your relationship.
S04 E12 - Creating Emotional Safety with Maggie Reyes
February 20, 2019 16:52 - 44 minutes - 60.8 MB"We just need better communication." "I just don't feel like I can trust him." "We need to do better at giving each other the benefit of the doubt." These are all symptoms of a relationship that doesn't have a strong foundation of . Create more safety, and these problems will resolve themselves. In today's episode we talk with Marriage Coach, Maggie Reyes about some practical ways you can create more emotional safety in your relationship.
True Commitment with John Farahmand
February 13, 2019 18:22 - 50 minutes - 69 MBCan you turn off your phone from 5:30 PM - 5:30 AM to make room for what's important? Can you say "no" to distractions so you can say "yes" to your priorities? Are you truly committed to epic love... or do you just tell yourself you are? Find out in today's episode.
S04 E11 - True Commitment with John Farahmand
February 13, 2019 18:22 - 50 minutes - 69 MBCan you turn off your phone from 5:30 PM - 5:30 AM to make room for what's important? Can you say "no" to distractions so you can say "yes" to your priorities? Are you truly committed to epic love... or do you just tell yourself you are? Find out in today's episode.
S04 E10 - John and Julie Gottman - The Science of Love
February 07, 2019 02:05 - 36 minutes - 50.7 MBJohn and Julie Gottman are the pioneers of relationship research. Their work has transformed the lives of millions of people all over the world. Yesterday, their new book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love came out, and I thought today would be a great chance to re-broadcast their interview and encourage you to snag the book. I hope you enjoy this interview with 2 absolute legends.
John and Julie Gottman - The Science of Love
February 07, 2019 02:05 - 36 minutes - 50.7 MBJohn and Julie Gottman are the pioneers of relationship research. Their work has transformed the lives of millions of people all over the world. Yesterday, their new book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love came out, and I thought today would be a great chance to re-broadcast their interview and encourage you to snag the book. I hope you enjoy this interview with 2 absolute legends.
S04 E09 - You can't have love without BOUNDARIES with Dr. John Townsend
January 31, 2019 00:23 - 45 minutes - 61.8 MBWhat are boundaries? Why are they important? How can I connect more with people who will uplift and support me to create the most epic marriage on the planet? We talk about all that and more on this week's episode with Dr. John Townsend, author of the NYT Bestseller, "Boundaries."
You can't have love without BOUNDARIES with Dr. John Townsend
January 31, 2019 00:23 - 45 minutes - 61.8 MBWhat are boundaries? Why are they important? How can I connect more with people who will uplift and support me to create the most epic marriage on the planet? We talk about all that and more on this week's episode with Dr. John Townsend, author of the NYT Bestseller, "Boundaries."
S04 E08 - What a MASTER INTERROGATOR can teach you about Love
January 24, 2019 16:56 - 1 hour - 84.7 MBDale Reeves has worked over 1,500 cases as an interrogator, and has a 100% confession rate. He worked 2 cases where he had to return to his client and report, "The people I interviewed are not guilty." In both cases, the client came back to him and told him that the money/merchandise that was reported missing was due to error, and there was in fact, no crime at all. Dale is a master of interpersonal communication, and human relationships. He handles high-conflict, high-stress, high-emotion co...
What a MASTER INTERROGATOR can teach you about Love
January 24, 2019 16:56 - 1 hour - 84.7 MBDale Reeves has worked over 1,500 cases as an interrogator, and has a 100% confession rate. He worked 2 cases where he had to return to his client and report, "The people I interviewed are not guilty." In both cases, the client came back to him and told him that the money/merchandise that was reported missing was due to error, and there was in fact, no crime at all. Dale is a master of interpersonal communication, and human relationships. He handles high-conflict, high-stress, high-emotion co...
Don't stay together for the kids!
January 16, 2019 08:00 - 50 minutes - 69.2 MBWhen should you leave your relationship and when should you say? It's a touch subject, but we get into it today... and we talk about the lame excuse of "Staying together for the kids" that SO many people use to stay in terrible relationships and not work on them. It's a delicate subject to address, and it might ruffle some feathers, but it needed to be said.
S04 E07 - Don't stay together for the kids!
January 16, 2019 08:00 - 50 minutes - 69.2 MBWhen should you leave your relationship and when should you say? It's a touch subject, but we get into it today... and we talk about the lame excuse of "Staying together for the kids" that SO many people use to stay in terrible relationships and not work on them. It's a delicate subject to address, and it might ruffle some feathers, but it needed to be said.
S04 E06 - Are you breathing? With Anna Smyth
January 09, 2019 18:52 - 1 hour - 83.9 MBIn life, you get to choose between the pain of growth and the pain of staying the same. If you choose to stay the same, you repeat the same problems over and over and over again. Growth, on the other hand, comes with pain... but it also fulfillment and accomplishment. In today's episode you'll find out how something as simple as breathing can help you choose the right pain to live a fulfilling live and create an epic relationship.
Are you breathing? With Anna Smyth
January 09, 2019 18:52 - 1 hour - 83.9 MBIn life, you get to choose between the pain of growth and the pain of staying the same. If you choose to stay the same, you repeat the same problems over and over and over again. Growth, on the other hand, comes with pain... but it also fulfillment and accomplishment. In today's episode you'll find out how something as simple as breathing can help you choose the right pain to live a fulfilling live and create an epic relationship.
The fallout that happens when you decide to change
October 09, 2018 17:16 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MBThe truth is, most people want marriage to be comfortable. Comfortable is easy. Comfortable is safe. Comfortable is predictable and doesn’t force us to confront scary things. When you change as a partner - when you truly commit to becoming a better version of yourself, and then follow through by taking action - things stop being so comfortable... and your partner might not like that.
S04 E05 - What happens when you decide to change
October 09, 2018 17:16 - 10 minutes - 14.9 MBThe truth is, most people want marriage to be comfortable. Comfortable is easy. Comfortable is safe. Comfortable is predictable and doesn’t force us to confront scary things. When you change as a partner - when you truly commit to becoming a better version of yourself, and then follow through by taking action - things stop being so comfortable... and your partner might not like that.
S04 E04 - What to do when your friends & family aren't supportive of your relationship
September 21, 2018 20:06 - 35 minutes - 49.2 MBWhat do you do if your friends (or your partner's friends) are having a negative effect on your relationship? How can you respond if they're bringing you down, talking bad about your partner, or marriage in general? Hopefully this episode is relevant and helpful if you’re in that situation.
What to do when your friends & family aren't supportive of your relationship
September 21, 2018 20:06 - 35 minutes - 49.2 MBWhat do you do if your friends (or your partner's friends) are having a negative effect on your relationship? How can you respond if they're bringing you down, talking bad about your partner, or marriage in general? Hopefully this episode is relevant and helpful if you’re in that situation.
S04 E03 - What to do when you're hurting
September 13, 2018 00:17 - 41 minutes - 57.4 MBYour partner roll’s their eyes at you, and sighs in exasperation. You feel a dagger of embarrassment and shame run through your heart. You are having a great day when suddenly your partner bursts through the door after a stressful day. You can tell they’re in a bad mood. They are short-tempered with you, and your stomach balls up in knots from the stress they brought into the room. Your partner says something that makes you feel like they’re intentionally targeting what they know to be one of...
What to do when you're hurting
September 13, 2018 00:17 - 41 minutes - 57.4 MBYour partner roll’s their eyes at you, and sighs in exasperation. You feel a dagger of embarrassment and shame run through your heart. You are having a great day when suddenly your partner bursts through the door after a stressful day. You can tell they’re in a bad mood. They are short-tempered with you, and your stomach balls up in knots from the stress they brought into the room. Your partner says something that makes you feel like they’re intentionally targeting what they know to be one of...
The Suzuki Method with Georgia Anderson
August 21, 2018 14:51 - 39 minutes - 54.6 MBThe Suzuki Method is an internationally recognized music curriculum that is very similar to the way we acquire language. Suzuki believed that even a toddler could learn to play the violin at a high level if the steps were small enough. In this episode, Georgia shows us how we can use the Suzuki Method to create epic relationships.
S04 E02 - The Suzuki Method with Georgia Anderson
August 21, 2018 14:51 - 39 minutes - 54.6 MBThe Suzuki Method is an internationally recognized music curriculum that is very similar to the way we acquire language. Suzuki believed that even a toddler could learn to play the violin at a high level if the steps were small enough. In this episode, Georgia shows us how we can use the Suzuki Method to create epic relationships.
S04 E01 - Meet Kenton
August 16, 2018 02:24 - 38 minutes - 53.5 MBFor the last 4 months, I've had my head down working hard on something BIG! Today, I introduce you to my buddy Kenton and the thing we've been working on that's going to lower the divorce rate and transform marriages. You're not going to want to miss this one!
Meet Kenton
August 16, 2018 02:24 - 38 minutes - 53.5 MBFor the last 4 months, I've had my head down working hard on something BIG! Today, I introduce you to my buddy Kenton and the thing we've been working on that's going to lower the divorce rate and transform marriages. You're not going to want to miss this one!
S03 E015 - Masturbation. Yes, we're talking about it.
July 24, 2018 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.4 MBThe “M” word makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Historically, it’s wrapped up in a lot of morality, myth, taboo, and judgement. In this episode we talk about where that discomfort comes from, how to examine where you got your beliefs about masturbation, and provide you with some great questions you can ask to come to your own conclusions.
Masturbation. Yes, we're talking about it.
July 24, 2018 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.4 MBThe “M” word makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Historically, it’s wrapped up in a lot of morality, myth, taboo, and judgement. In this episode we talk about where that discomfort comes from, how to examine where you got your beliefs about masturbation, and provide you with some great questions you can ask to come to your own conclusions.
The Surprising Truth About Pelvic Floor Health
July 17, 2018 09:00 - 26 minutes - 36.3 MBPelvic floor health is KEY to your overall health including your sexual health. If you had a baby and you now struggle with incontinence, this episode is for you. If you want stronger orgasms, this episode is for you. If you don't know what a kegel is... or if you've been taught to isolate your kegel muscles, this episode is for you. I hope you learn a lot!
S03 E14 - The Surprising Truth About Pelvic Floor Health
July 17, 2018 09:00 - 26 minutes - 36.3 MBPelvic floor health is KEY to your overall health including your sexual health. If you had a baby and you now struggle with incontinence, this episode is for you. If you want stronger orgasms, this episode is for you. If you don't know what a kegel is... or if you've been taught to isolate your kegel muscles, this episode is for you. I hope you learn a lot!
S03 E13 - How I Saved My Marriage with Nate Bailey
June 14, 2018 20:13 - 50 minutes - 69.8 MBNate Bailey started his career in the United States Army as a Platoon Leader in the Operation Iraqi Freedom. When he returned home from his service, he checked out of his marriage. It was tense, difficult and stressful. He knew if their marriage continued down this path, it would result in divorce, and he'd lose everything he cared about. So Nate changed his habits, his mentality, and eventually his marriage. This is his story...
How I Saved My Marriage with Nate Bailey
June 14, 2018 20:13 - 50 minutes - 69.8 MBNate Bailey started his career in the United States Army as a Platoon Leader in the Operation Iraqi Freedom. When he returned home from his service, he checked out of his marriage. It was tense, difficult and stressful. He knew if their marriage continued down this path, it would result in divorce, and he'd lose everything he cared about. So Nate changed his habits, his mentality, and eventually his marriage. This is his story...
S03 E12 - Sex, God & The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
June 07, 2018 17:27 - 52 minutes - 72 MBAfter seeing a massive increase in the number of students coming to her with crushing shame, confusion, and dread around sex as a professor at Seattle Pacific University, got curious. Why the sudden influx of young people experiencing so much shame around sex?