Enneagram and Marriage
394 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 180 ratingsThe Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, hosted by Christa Hardin, MA, is rooted in two decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. On top of her expert marriage advice, Christa uses the Enneagram to add another layer of understanding in how we work as individuals and gives us deeper insight into how we connect and shine together in marriage and relationships across the collective community.
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Bringing Minimalism to Your Marriage w/Diane Boden, The Minimalist Mom, Type 7 (7-5 Pairing)
April 22, 2024 06:00 - 32 minutesHow do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively s...
Learning to Reveal the Truth in Your Marriage w/Laurie Gerber, Enneagram 6
April 17, 2024 06:00 - 30 minutesSo many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are "How do you start becoming more truthful?" "How do you tell harder truths?" "How can you welcome truth from y...
Bringing Joy & Clarity to Your Work w/Marty Munger, CEO, Work Coach Co, Type 7
April 15, 2024 04:00 - 42 minutesWhether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity...
What Every Spouse of a Logically Wired Partner Needs to Know About Resolving Conflict
April 10, 2024 09:51 - 25 minutesEach of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk through conflict with those people with temperaments who do not show as much emotion and/or prefer to solve problems logically or linearly. You'll learn ways you can develop a healthier internal narrative as well as prevent and repair conflict, building understanding together, too! Make sure you get a copy of "The Enneagram in Marriage" also here to ...
Finding Your Body's Monthly Rhythms for Relationship & Productivity, w/Occupational Therapist Renae Fieck, Enneagram 9w8
April 08, 2024 06:00 - 47 minutesTroubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and in your marriage dance as well! If you want to truly ignite your love and work in the best ways possible, you’ll pay attention to these rhythms and honor each precious week across the month for what it really allows for versus forcing everything all at once. Yes, every week truly has a sacred gift of its own, whether rest, reflection, or revving...
Understanding the Sexual Response Cycle in Marriage: Igniting the Sexual Instinct Series
April 03, 2024 06:00 - 30 minutesOften, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just building attraction and desire and also how to successfully approach sexual arousal and resolution, especially since statistically women experience about half the full sexual arousal as compared to men. Improving your sexual intimacy together in the bedroom takes not only guesswork but active research and tips that begin outside of the bedroom ...
Sacred Rest for You & Your Relationship w/Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD, Type 3
April 01, 2024 06:00 - 36 minutesRest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Ch...
Sacred Rest for You & Your Relationship w/Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD, Type 3
April 01, 2024 06:00 - 36 minutesRest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Ch...
Building Sexual Attraction Together in Marriage: Igniting the SX Instinct Together in Marriage
March 27, 2024 06:00 - 26 minutesAs you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here! This week only, join the Enneagram &...
Connecting Authentically to Process Our Joy & Grief, w/Author Molly Stillman, 2w3 (2-8 Pairing)
March 25, 2024 06:00 - 57 minutesRight now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply ...
Igniting the SX Instinct in Marriage: An E + M Series
March 20, 2024 09:36 - 15 minutesMarriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landsca...
Help for Dealing with Narcissists in Relationships, w/NPD Certified Expert Melissa Thompson
March 18, 2024 06:00 - 43 minutesThough compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship...
Typing + Lessons in Love from Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4
March 13, 2024 06:00 - 41 minutesIn this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about y...
Finding Restful Rhythms for Your Personality Type in Marriage
March 11, 2024 06:00 - 29 minutesNow that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here! Get your Enneagram Glow pairing gu...
Improving Energy Levels for Your Relationship Type by Type
March 06, 2024 07:00 - 23 minutesAs humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://po...
Caring for the Soul of the Helper with Dr. Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Pairing)
March 04, 2024 07:00 - 37 minutesIf you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul o...
An E + M Mini: Myers-Briggs (MBTI) & Your Marriage
February 28, 2024 07:00 - 18 minutesAlthough the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging...
How Neurobiology Can Bring Safety, Empowerment, and Connection, w/Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT
February 26, 2024 07:00 - 41 minutesOften you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and bo...
Cultivating Humility in Your Relationship (For All Personality Types)
February 21, 2024 07:00 - 17 minutesHumility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and eve...
All the Light We Cannot See, w/Wes Hardin, Enneagram 1
February 19, 2024 04:33 - 51 minutesWhen you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the...
Special Valentine’s Episode: Balancing Healthy Masculinity & Femininity To Ascend in Your Relationship
February 14, 2024 07:00 - 28 minutesWhat do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass h...
Staying Calm & Resolving Conflict When You’re Upset, w/Mediator Hesha Abrams
February 12, 2024 07:00 - 44 minutesSo many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! S...
Taylor Swift and the Enneagram with Melody Hardin, Type 9
February 07, 2024 01:41 - 20 minutesMusic can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here! Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 of...
Exploring the World of Girls and Parenting w/Nellie Harden, Type 2
February 05, 2024 07:00 - 59 minutesParenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your ow...
A Relaxation Exercise to Strengthen Emotional Agility: An E + M Mini Episode
January 31, 2024 07:00 - 17 minutesEmotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on...
Growing Your Business Without Burning Your Marriage or Family Out w/Amy Wicks, Type 7
January 29, 2024 07:00 - 41 minutesHow do you balance work and life? How do you grow at work but also leave room for family? What do successful leaders wish you knew at the beginning of an entrepreneurship journey? Today Christa is joined by superstar Amy Wicks and they are not holding back as they share tips for those wanting to create a better work-life balance. Join the chat here and sign up for the Elevate and Activate conference also! Watch on YouTube here! Find Amy's website here! Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leade...
Finding Each Other Through the Fog of Perimenopause with Bria the Period Whisperer
January 24, 2024 07:00 - 34 minutesWhen you or your spouse are experiencing mood shifts, don’t forget that between ages 35-55, perimenopause may beat work. Today we talk with Bria Gadd aka “Bria the Period Whisperer” about her specialty of perimenopause as she helps to identify symptoms and also helps to support families through this often foggy period. Here we invite empowering conversation around shifting health rhythms and personal and couple’s empowerment as you remobilize for thriving and rest in perhaps new ways. Bria al...
Healing from an Emotional Affair with Josh and Katie Walters
January 22, 2024 07:00 - 45 minutesWhen you're in a really thin season with your temperaments both on override and also hiding vulnerabilities, you're bound for difficult marriage territories you hardly recognize, territory where you're tempted to blame your spouse or lose your marriage altogether. For Josh and Katie Walters, it was too, and it was a big something: infidelity. Today as guests on the pod, Josh and Katie speak to the pain behind infidelity and more importantly, how to courageously walk forward in actually lovin...
The Three Desires in Marriage: An E + M Mini Episode
January 16, 2024 07:00 - 14 minutesDuring these winter months when everyone is hibernating, it can be tempting to turning inwards and shut off your love. In this mini-episode, Christa helps you to rev up your love together again as you learn tips to relight the fires of desire. We’ll talk about safety, sex, and society as you warm up by the glow of your love! Let us also know if you’d like to join us in our E + M Certified Coaches Course that starts February 15, 2024, and runs for 12 weeks! Let's dig deep together! $500 off w...
Finding the Way of Love in a World of Hurt w/Grammy-Award Winner Charlie Peacock & Andi Ashworth
January 15, 2024 07:00 - 54 minutesWhen we're feeling weary, our temptation is often to run away from the very things that heal - authenticity, community, sacred daily rhythms, and most of all, Christ. We can even allow our creative outlets to be another way of escapism, or move so fast into the "post-human" world of bots and "ten easy steps" that we miss relating and sharing Christ's love. Today we get to talk about this human tendency and about finding our truest mission - and solace - in real community and giving as Christ ...
Delving Into the Enneagram 4.5 Space in Marriage with Sharleen Joynt, 4w5 and Andy Levine, 5w4 of Dear Shandy
January 10, 2024 07:00 - 51 minutesThe 4.5 space in marriage is a beautiful place to create, plan, dream, and think, yet this pensive space can keep partners lonely without healthy habits and movement. Today we give our audience tips for finding safety and respect in the depths of the heart and mind with the generous help of the wildly popular husband-and-wife podcast host team, Sharleen Joynt, 4w5, and Andy Levine, 5w4 of the Dear Shandy podcast, as they humorously but soulfully and honestly allow us to plunge the depths of t...
How Do We Grow Closer Together with the Enneagram in Marriage?
January 08, 2024 07:00 - 25 minutesIn this inspiring getting-your-love-back-on-track episode, Christa takes you through several seeming paradoxes of relationship health on this heart-to-heart journey. We look closely at the work every personality type needs to do as they face the issues of independence versus leaning in, self regulation versus spousal care, and how to establish social bonds to encourage you both as you begin walking toward your partner. Come away from this episode with newfound courage, wisdom, intimacy-buildi...
A Fresh Take on the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Kuhnley
January 03, 2024 07:00 - 55 minutesOne of the key factors that will determine how healthy you are in your marriage is and will always be working with your attachment styles and responses to threats and triggers. Yet the typical attachment wiring labels (secure, disorganized, anxious, withdrawing, and more) also need more fleshing out as well as acceptance, for each part of you has a role to fulfill to protect you and make you feel safe. As we open the new year, Christa is joined by Dr. Anita Kuhnly (Baker Books, The Four Relat...
Bringing the Big 5 to Your Life & Relationships This New Year!
January 01, 2024 05:00 - 24 minutesWhen it comes to personal and marriage growth this 2024, it's helpful to have not only a type-finding tool like the Enneagram but a trait finder like the most empirically scientifically studied personality test, the Big Five, to go along with it. Let Christa guide you on a relationship-based Big Five convo as you find out how you score on Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism scales, and allow yourself to come into some refined New Year's learning with us a...
FREE Subscriber Series Episode: What to Do When Instincts Take Over
December 27, 2023 07:00 - 31 minutesWhen any one of your SP (self-preserving), SX (sexual), and SO (social) instincts is taking over, you'll find yourselves in a sad or collapsing marriage state, maybe even metaphorically dying as a couple. Couples who want to grow and thrive need to use thinking skills also as well as to distinguish feelings versus just using automatic responses. In this final episode of the year, join Christa in walking you through the rubble to hope on the other side with tips and tactics for finding your de...
Deepening Intimacy in Marriage With Prayer & Scott Kedersha, Type 3
December 24, 2023 05:00 - 41 minutesAuthor Scott Kedersha, Enneagram 3 (3-9 pairing) is not only a fellow Baker author with Christa but also the long-standing marriage pastor at Harris Creek Baptist Church out of Waco, TX. His conversations with couples over the last seventeen years have led him to understand the biggest themes in marriage issues also involve a lack of vulnerability and prayer in marriage. In fact, he's discovered that couples who pray together have unparalelled commitment and a far less drastic divorce rate, w...
Finding Kindness and Compassion Across Every Personality Type This Holiday
December 20, 2023 07:00 - 16 minutesEvery personality type in marriage DESPERATELY needs compassion and kindness if they expect the marriage to be joyful, yet kindness and compassion look different across personality types. Since each has a different main emotional and mental struggle, today on this E + M mini, Christa walks you through a baseline and type-by-type reminder of how you can stay strong yet kind and deeply joyful this holiday. For all, there are important and specific steps to add more kindness and compassion as we...
Attending to the Stories Behind Trauma Cycles in Marriage w/Dan & Becky Allender, 8-9 Pairing
December 18, 2023 12:03 - 54 minutesGiving space for suffering and holding space for one another, as well as working through life and generational trauma in marriage are essential practices for long-term couples. Almost everyone has been through something hard or incapacitating by the time they are married for any number of years. Today Christa is joined by the esteemed Dr. Dan Allender and Becky Allender, co-founders of The Seattle School/The Allender Center, who in their 8-9 pairing have helped hundreds of thousands of people...
How can we find more compatibility? Using your instincts to bridge the gap
December 13, 2023 07:00 - 13 minutesRelationships are all about learning to connect, challenge, and adapt to one another’s gifts and ways of thriving in the world. When we are no longer thriving in our instincts, but over-or-under usng them, our spouse or partner tends to feel incompatibility with us and our inflexible behaviors do not bring us the joy they promise. We are no longer seen as comforting, fun, adaptive, and expansive but rigid and cut off from growth - a major turnoff for partnerships. Tune into this E + M-mini as...
Are We Compatible? How to Work on Personality Type Incompatibility Issues Type by Type
December 11, 2023 07:00 - 39 minutesThe number one question Christa has been getting on her podcast tour has been about partner compatiblity. Why does it feel like partner incompatibility often only grows with time in marriage? What can you do when the years have disconnected you? How can you prevent rigidity in personality structure from leading to the perceived incompatibility in relationship that many divorcing couples cite? Listen or watch along on YouTube as Christa helps you to discover not only what draws you apart, but ...
The Past, Present, and Future of Your Relationships Through the Lens of "A Christmas Carol" by Charles Dickens & The Enneagram Stances
December 06, 2023 07:00 - 22 minutesWhen Ebenezer Scrooge is hit with the alarming totality of death in a fever-dream like observation of his past, present, and future, he is awakened to the magnificent springboard of joy that comes with the awareness of all the good one can still do in the world with and for others. You too, as you look deeply at your life with us in this episode, can view your past, your present, and your future with intention and intentionality. Join us in this fun episode where Christa coaches you into dari...
Soul Care + Tips for Learning Emotional Attunement for Men w/Travis & Jessica Vangsnes, 8-4 Pairing
December 04, 2023 07:00 - 1 hourIn this two-for-one episode, you get a chance to first learn soul care from coaching duo Travis and Jessica Vangsnes (8-4 pairing), who are both trauma-informed E + M Certified Coaches with skills in emotional intimacy building. First, take a deeper dive into what soul care is and how you can attune with yourself in the heart, mind, and body individually and together with these trauma-informed expert coaches who help us through integrating contemplative prayer practices and ideas for each of ...
An E + M Holiday Mini: Analyzing Our Favorite Family Christmas Movies w/Hannah Hardin, Type 4
November 29, 2023 07:00 - 24 minutesIn this fun Christmas movie episode, we take a break with our favorite holiday drink to allow cinematic mastery to woo us into a healthier intimate dance of relationship together in middle marriage. Here, Christa is joined by Hannah Hardin, 4 as we talk about a favorite family and more realistic middle-marriage movie to watch during the holidays (and a modern nod to It's a Wonderful Life), The Family Man with Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni, Don Cheadle, and Jeremy Piven, as well as another family f...
Why Forgiveness is Essential in Relationship + A Forgiveness Practice for You
November 27, 2023 07:00 - 18 minutesIf you're deeply hurt but you keep moving, but you’re locked up with resentment, you and your spouse and family can feel it on an internal level. It robs you and threatens your felt sense of safety and regulation, and it chokes you of joy, peace, and compassion. Today in this experiential episode where we discuss forgiveness and experience a forgiveness practice together, Christa takes time with the Enneagram & Marriage community to walk through the best ways to heal an attachment wound and f...
An E + M Holiday Special: Analyzing Little Women Characters Type by Type
November 22, 2023 07:00 - 24 minutesJoin us for laughs and love as we walk and talk together through the beautiful Little Women story and find the beautiful virtues in this epic holiday tale mini-episode. If you love this book or movie, you'll love leaning in with us as we go type by type in this lighthearted conversation, covering Jo, Meg, Amy, and Beth, along with Professor Bhaer and Theodore Lawrence. We hope this episode brings a burst of joy to your holidays as we remember the joys and sorrows of life, love, legacy, and fa...
I Didn't Sign Up For This: Conflict & Communication with Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Enneagram 1
November 20, 2023 07:09 - 39 minutesIt's never easy to face squarely that the person we signed up to marry has changed - or worse, that we've changed and no longer feel the same level of desire together. In these critical middle seasons of marriage stages of fighting for your family and partnership, we need every tool we can get to add joy and decrease resentment together. Join Christa and world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Ph.D., Enneagram 1 (1-9 marriage), as we discuss exactly what you can do whe...
An E + M Mini: Opening Up Your Relationship Window of Tolerance
November 15, 2023 07:00 - 15 minutesOnce we pull back the curtain under our conflicts and see what's hindering us, we can work on our issues with one another - that is if we're emotionally regulated. In this quick episode, Christa will help to stabilize you and your conflicts further by helping you open up your relationship window of tolerance. Don't miss this regulating episode right here! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindl...
Healing Soul Wounds in Marriage with Drs. Bill and Kristi Gaultierre, Types 1 & 2
November 12, 2023 07:00 - 52 minutesToday we’re joined on the pod by Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre, psychologists and spiritual directors who help us to find one another's gifts amidst the rubble of soul wounds as we learn to offer Christ's compassionate healing to one another. They do this with us with structure but also gentleness and care as a mature 1 & 2 pairing. You won't regret taking the time to dig underneath the anger, shame, and anxiety to journey through the soul with grace and healing from God and one another ri...
An E + M Mini: Facing Difficult Conversations Individually & Together
November 08, 2023 07:00 - 19 minutes85% of adults will have experienced a traumatic event by the time they’re 18, which means that virtually all married individuals need good ways to cope with trauma. In today’s brief episode, Christa walks you through five tried-and-true methods for walking through traumatic conversations and situations in marriage, with as much resiliency as possible. She'll share tips for working through your triggers and enduring vulnerabilities, as well as practical, logical steps, and lots of love. Do not...
How to Heal Generational Trauma in Your Family w/Courtney J. Burg, 1w9
November 06, 2023 07:00 - 34 minutesThe last thing you want are holiday arguments between you or your extended family to carry forward to future generations and this week's shows are aimed at helping you to process, love, and set the boundaries you need. We welcome expert and author, Courtney J. Burg, author (Thomas Nelson, 12/12/23, Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting) to the pod today to help you truly find your way together this season, as we discover how boundaries can bec...