EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
344 episodes - English - Latest episode: 17 days ago - ★★★★★ - 134 ratingsThis podcast is all about Couples and the 3C’s: Communication, Conflict, Connection. These are not skills you automatically have when you get into a relationship, but that need to be developed to overcome the inevitable challenges that will come up. Couples who listen to the podcast say, “are they watching us?!” because of how extremely relatable and practical to your day-to-day life together these topics are! Hosts Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman are authors of The Argument Hangover and their programs and workshops have reached over a million people. They are parents to baby Skye Noël and live in Phoenix, Arizona.
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Behind the Scenes - Writing The Argument Hangover Book Together: Episode 140
March 18, 2021 06:00 - 29 minutes - 32.3 MBThe Argument Hangover book was released this week! Do you think you could write a book with your partner, what would that even take? Well let's dive into the behind the scenes of how we wrote this book together, where the ideas came from, who wrote each chapter, and any challenges that came up! The intention is to have some fun hearing about how this process went and some interesting things that you would otherwise never hear about. All for the bigger purpose of having you ... (well you...
5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges: Episode 139
March 16, 2021 06:00 - 39 minutes - 43.6 MBChallenges arise in every relationship and this is not something you have to try and change. It’s about whether you approach the challenges as a team or against each other. To have the best shot at staying on the same team, you need to be prepared before they show up. Then you will respond rather than react to them. Today’s podcast goes into 5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges. Of course there are others, but these are some of the most common ones we see. By knowing these 5 chal...
The Silliest Things That Have Caused Arguments (from your IG DM’s): Jocelyn Solo Episode 138
March 11, 2021 09:00 - 9 minutes - 13.5 MBToilet paper, the cost of rice, who changes the water dispenser more. These are just a few of the submissions we received from you all on IG about: the silliest things that have caused arguments. This will be an episode that you just chuckle and realize that we’re all human in relationships. We all have those moments where we’re fighting like it matters to us a lot, but isn’t life altering in hindsight. As you listen to the episode, make sure you order The Argument Hangover book! It’s sh...
Managing Your Emotions to Shorten Your Argument Hangovers: Episode 137
March 09, 2021 07:00 - 28 minutes - 31.1 MBHow good are you at managing your emotions as an argument begins? Do you recognize the emotion that you’re feeling, but still choose your words and actions consciously? Or do you find that your emotions (anger, sadness, etc) drive your words and actions that lead to disagreements escalating to the point of hurting your partner and the relationship? The thing is, it’s absolutely OKAY whatever emotion you’re feeling. The goal isn’t to get to a place where NO emotion comes up for you in argum...
The Miraculous Story About How We Got This Book Deal, and It’s Powerful Life Lesson: Episode 136
March 04, 2021 07:00 - 12 minutes - 13.7 MBLife is on your side, even if you don’t always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season. P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It’s shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationsh...
3 Needs Men Have, But Rarely Vocalize to Their Partner: Episode 135
March 02, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 41.4 MBYou got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn’t always happen right? Especially for men to show up as, and express, unconditional love. Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of men are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you, the partner of a man, because often men do not even realize, let alone vocalize, an...
“What’s Wrong?” Why You Never Want to Ask This Question and What to Say Instead if Your Partner Seems Off: Jocelyn Solo Episode 134
February 25, 2021 07:00 - 10 minutes - 13.9 MBWhen your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, “what’s wrong?” I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today’s quick episode, I’ll chat with you about: Why asking “what’s wrong” has the opposite effect on your partner What to ask them instead if they seem “off” And what to do if they keep saying “I’m fine,” but you feel like they’re really not Also, make sure to CLAIM YOUR BONUSES for pre-...
Express Yourself But Make Sure You’re Not Relying on Your Partner For THIS: Episode 133
February 23, 2021 07:00 - 28 minutes - 31.2 MBBeing able to fully express yourself is one of the most important aspects of being in a relationship. This is what allows you to be known by and connected with your partner! This is what leads to a healthy and loving relationship. However there is one thing to this, that could have you be dependent on them for. It will also lead to diminishing your own ability to self-sooth and self-regulate your emotions. On the other hand, by not relying on your partner for this one thing, you will fe...
The ONE Thing That Could Be Blocking Your Connection: Episode 132
February 18, 2021 07:00 - 8 minutes - 9.62 MBThe Couples Workshop is coming up on February 21st, 2021. Save your seats before it passes. To get a bonus copy of The Argument Hangover with it, enter this code when you check out: podcast2021 Your relationship is meant to be about experiencing love and connection. As time passes, there is a subtle and sneaky thing that arises that blocks you from feeling connected to your partner. This is a short "check yo' self" motivational episode so that you can be aware of this one thing that is ...
Signs You Could Use Some Alone Time and How to Bring it Up Without Hurting Your Partner’s Feelings: Episode 131
February 16, 2021 07:00 - 32 minutes - 35.5 MBHealthy relationships consist of both time together and time apart. Which of course can feel much harder (and even more necessary) right now. Perhaps you’ve been needing some “alone time,” but haven’t expressed it to your partner. Or, you’ve mentioned it before, but no action was put in place so it’s a point of tension between you two now. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss: Signs that alone time would be helpful for your relationship How much alone time is healthy How to bring it up ...
If You’re Really Trying to Grow in the Relationship But Your Partner Doesn’t Take as Much Initiative: Jocelyn Solo Episode 130
February 11, 2021 07:00 - 21 minutes - 30.4 MBDon’t get discouraged if your partner isn’t taking as much initiative. Or if you’re still running into challenges, even though you’re really trying to 'work on things'. This episode will give you the dose of perspective and the encouragement you need to keep staying on track in your relationship. Real quick, did you check out the 5 Day Couples Challenge that’s starting February 15th? We don’t want you to miss out on this time to be more intentional in your partnership, overcome communica...
The Seemingly Innocent Things That You Should Never Say to Your Partner (and what to say instead): Episode 129
February 09, 2021 07:00 - 30 minutes - 34.4 MB“You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that’s not what happened.”... Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated. In this episode you will get: 6 phrases to never say to your partner The negative impact they can have (especially if said repeatedly over time) 5 phrases to say instead, that respect & honor ...
Your Past is Not Fixed, You Can Change It: ADVANCED Aaron Solo Episode 128
February 04, 2021 07:00 - 20 minutes - 34 MBYou have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right? What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past? In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep you feeling disconnected, angry, or disappointed. This of course does not lead to more love,...
You’re Not Upset For the Reason You Think You Are: Episode 127
February 02, 2021 07:00 - 25 minutes - 27.6 MBSmall things in your relationship can be what build up and cause you to feel disconnected or upset with your partner. Of course when this happens there isn’t room for the love, connection, and happiness that you desire to experience. It could be things you say to yourself like: “Ugh, if they’d only pick up their socks, if only they’d stop being on their phone at night, if only they would eat healthier with me.” Though it might seem that these little things are the way they are and you w...
Our Daily and Weekly Mindset Habits So We Can Show Up Better For Each Other: Jocelyn Solo Episode 126
January 28, 2021 07:00 - 18 minutes - 26.2 MBOur happiness and motivation can’t be reliant on outside circumstances. Yes, times are crazy. But we have the ability to shift our focus and mood by our daily and weekly habits. In this episode with Jocelyn, you’ll hear: A story she’s barely ever told about breaking her back and spiraling down to depression Our daily and weekly habits we’ve been doing for years How these will lead you to taking control of your mood and how you show up for yourself and your partner Resources For Y...
The 4 Communication Personality Types and Understanding Your Dynamic as a Couple: Episode 125
January 26, 2021 07:00 - 29 minutes - 32.2 MBCommunication is not “one size fits all” and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up). But guess what...your communication can significantly improve as you understand the “4 Communication Personality Types” and by determining which type rep...
If You've Felt Discouraged Lately, Listen to This One to Feel Different: Episode 124
January 21, 2021 07:00 - 9 minutes - 10.6 MBCan this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner. But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contribute to life feeling hard. So is the goal to try and wait it out and hope that things get bette...
When Your Partner Gets Triggered: The Do’s and Don’ts Episode 123
January 19, 2021 07:00 - 30 minutes - 32.7 MBWhen your partner gets triggered, what do you do?... #1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument? #2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them? Don’t feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into. We weren’t taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they’re triggered, especially in a romantic relationship. And instead of it bringing healing, they often create arguments and emoti...
I'm an ‘Assertive’ Woman With a ‘Reserved’ Partner: How I Learned to Not Make Him Feel Dominated: Jocelyn Solo Episode 122
January 14, 2021 07:00 - 17 minutes - 25.5 MBI’m an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover. Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict train...
How to Bring Up Challenging Conversations Without Triggering an Argument or Defensiveness: Episode 121
January 12, 2021 07:00 - 32 minutes - 35.6 MBWhen you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument? You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding. You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship. In this episode, you’ll hear: Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument How to handle times your partner g...
4 Steps to Help Men Identify What They’re Feeling and Be Comfortable to Share It: Aaron Solo Episode 120
January 07, 2021 07:00 - 20 minutes - 24.2 MBIs there any place in your relationship that you shutdown and isolate from your partner by saying nothing or getting away from them? Are you even on the other side of things where you lash out at your partner to get them off your back? In either case this is probably because you are not "good with emotions". Which is not something to feel bad about because not many of us start out with the ability to even identify exactly what we are feeling to even be able to articulate it. This episod...
The 4 Elements of True Love (They’re Not What You Think): Episode 119
January 05, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 36.6 MBLove is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing? You sho...
Differentiate What Your Partner is Saying vs What They Actually Need: Episode 118
December 29, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 31.4 MBLet’s be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: “that’s not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn’t make sense”. Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side. Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different...
Our Ritual for Reviewing Life and Creating New Aligned Goals Before Starting the New Year Episode 117
December 22, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 35.2 MBWhether you can’t wait to end this year or you are just excited to keep the momentum you have going, this is the episode for you. The end of the year just so happens to be a “made up” time that you can truly reset and refocus. For some you don’t want the next year to be like this past year. For others, you realize you just want to experience life and your relationship newly. Either way it comes down to a lot more than just setting new goals like most everyone talks about at the end of each y...
I Used to Hate My Body and it Impacted My Relationship - Here’s How I Became Confident: Jocelyn Solo Episode 116
December 17, 2020 07:00 - 19 minutes - 27 MBYou aren’t alone if you’ve dealt with body image challenges. In this episode, I share the vulnerable truth about my relationship to my body growing up, and specifically how it negatively impacted my romantic relationships. You will hear the 6 things I did to start loving myself (inside and out) so that I could show up as an authentically confident partner. Feel free to steal any one of them for yourself so you can show up more confident in your own relationship. Resources For You: ...
“I Don’t Feel Desire For My Partner These Days, What Does This Mean?” Episode 115
December 15, 2020 07:00 - 29 minutes - 32.7 MBIt can be a hard thing to admit to yourself, let alone your partner, that you are not feeling the desire for them. This can feel like a very significant, lonely, and discouraging place to be. It can even bring up a feeling of doubt about the relationship as you might think this is a feeling you cannot come back from. Because, what is there to really do as this is just what you feel right? In this episode you will hear the two central causes for this feeling as well as what to do depending ...
The One Thing You Can’t Sit Back and Wait to Happen in Your Relationship: Aaron Solo Episode 114
December 10, 2020 14:17 - 10 minutes - 17.3 MBThere is one particular area that we all are guilty of sitting back and waiting to happen. When this takes place in your relationship it can lead to discouragement and staying relatively in the same place for years. Listen in to this solo episode with Aaron to find out what this one thing is so you don't get caught in the waiting game for your relationship to become what it can be! Resources For Your Relationship: As mentioned in the episode you can access The Argument Hangover 90...
Do You Try to Change Your Partner? When to Speak Your Mind vs Keep it to Yourself Episode 113
December 08, 2020 07:00 - 30 minutes - 32.1 MBHow many times have you thought to yourself “should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?” It’s almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another. The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don’t say anything it can feel like you have to suppres...
Being Cheated On By My Ex Made Me a Better Wife Today--Here's Why: Jocelyn Episode 112
December 03, 2020 07:00 - 23 minutes - 31.8 MBI actually had several exes cheat on me. It might sound odd to say, but I’m grateful that it happened because of who I am today as a wife. There’s a deeper gift that came from that experience, so dive in to this episode and send it to ANY friend that’s been cheated on before. Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we’re hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training ...
5 Behaviors That Push Your Partner Away That You Don’t Realize You’re Doing Episode 111
December 01, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 33.8 MBThere usually isn’t just one big event that ends a relationship. It's an ‘eroding’ slowly over time. It's the result of frequent behaviors like chronic defensiveness, small criticisms, and not prioritizing them. We are not even saying that you are necessarily at the place of ending the relationship, and we never want you to be. Hence why we are giving you the 5 behaviors that we see, that you might not notice, that will over time have you be in a place where you say “how did we get here?”...
The 4 Keys to Know That You Are in the Right Relationship: Aaron Episode 110
November 26, 2020 09:00 - 19 minutes - 32.7 MBThere are particular seasons within a relationship where you will ask yourself “is this the right relationship?”. There is nothing wrong with this question at all. You might be trying to decide to propose to your partner, having a tough week or month, or even deciding to stay in the marriage. No matter the place you find yourself, the next real question is “how do I really determine this?” Most people default to their recent mood, attitude, or level of love or happiness now. But this is v...
Resist or Accept: Do You Understand Your Partner’s Emotional Triggers Episode 109
November 24, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 32.3 MBIf you haven’t said this yourself, you’ve at least seen these “love” posts go around: “I accept all of you” or “there is nothing you could do for me to stop loving you”! While this is a great sentiment, the majority of people only know what half of this declaration really means. Of course this is a great intent to accept your partner, but there is one major area that, if you are not prepared for, will come as a huge disappointment and upset for you in the future. There are easier areas...
When You're the One Trying to Get THEM to “Work” on the Relationship: Jocelyn Episode 108
November 19, 2020 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.6 MBThere's that feeling of trying to pull or "drag" your partner along when you want to grow and strengthen your own relationship. Here you are with good intentions to make certain areas of your relationship even better... but it's almost like you are doing it on your own or that you are literally forcing your partner to participate. This can feel so draining and frustrating when your positive intention is met with resistance, push back, or even resentment. Almost like trying to get a child ...
What Healthy vs. Unhealthy Expectations Are In Your Relationship Episode 107
November 17, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 36.9 MBIf you are in a relationship, you have been disappointed at some point. If you are a human being even, you have been disappointed at some point in your life. Any disappointment in a relationship comes from a certain expectation that you had of your partner to do something, act or be a certain way. So is it bad to have expectations in your relationship, is this just a path to an unhealthy relationship? Well not necessarily… you will ALWAYS have expectations while you are alive as a human be...
The Argument Hangover: How to Shorten the Time You Feel Disconnected After a Fight Episode 106
November 10, 2020 09:00 - 34 minutes - 40.4 MBYou have been in an argument before right? You have also had a food or alcohol hangover at some point in your life too right? Well, put these two together and you have the term for how you feel in that period of time after you have a fight with your partner until you reconnect together. You might feel resentful of them, low energy, angry, hurt, or even not wanting to be around them. Whatever the emotion, how long does this last? It can be hours, days, weeks, or even years. The goal in rel...
Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough and What to Say or Do Instead Episode 105
November 03, 2020 09:00 - 40 minutes - 49 MB“I said I’m sorry, can’t we just move past this?” Is this a statement that you hear from your partner, or even one that you have said to them before? It most likely is and for some reason saying “I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem to cut it to resolve a conflict all the way and reconnect you both. Any idea why this is or what you can say (or do) instead? Well that is exactly what we are going to cover this episode today, as “I’m sorry” on its own is just not enough. During this episode you will ...
It’s Moving Week! How We Make Big Decisions Together And Why We Chose To Sell Our House And Move Across The Country Episode 104
October 27, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 40.7 MBWould you be willing to sell your house in 24 hours, and move across the country in under 3 weeks? Well we are, and we did! Whether that is something that you even thought about or not, the point is about being able to make BOLD decisions together, even during uncertainty, that will ultimately benefit your life and relationship. Often there are many decisions that go into a BIG decision, and maybe you feel that you are good at coming up with ideas, but get stuck in taking that leap of fai...
The Art Of Giving Appreciation And Being Able To Let Yourself Receive Appreciation From Your Partner Episode 103
October 20, 2020 08:00 - 42 minutes - 46.5 MBYes we know that when you see the word Gratitude or Appreciation you think “I’ve heard that a thousand times”! Yet giving and showing your partner appreciation is one of the secret ingredients to a truly happy and connected relationship, one that barely gets it’s deserved air time. The reason being it’s never taken far enough. Appreciation is actually an art to be given so that it has a real impact and it’s just as important that you allow yourself to receive appreciation from your partner! ...
Why You Would Have An Adult Temper Tantrum Rather Than Consciously Self-Express Episode 102
October 13, 2020 08:00 - 35 minutes - 39.6 MBYour immediate reaction to this episode might be “yes my partner definitely has some adult temper tantrums”. Which is probably true at times, so we will of course go more into how you can HELP and SUPPORT them, rather than avoiding or getting mad at them yourself. BUT if you were really being honest, you might see that you yourself have your own tantrums sometimes. These are places that you just don’t know how else to express yourself or realize what it is you really want and need. Many o...
Feeling a Bit Like Roommates With Your Partner? Implement These 3 Things Episode 101
October 06, 2020 08:00 - 29 minutes - 32.7 MBOf course this seems like something that could never happen, but being honest, do you feel like you and your partner are just high functioning roommates? We are not talking about your actual college roommates, but at some point the experience of aliveness, passion, and being prioritized was overtaken by getting things done, having half conversations, and even disconnection. This is happening for a lot of couples in the season however, as even mentioned by Chris Rock this week on SNL (elud...
Love Is Not Enough: 3 Skills You Must Have As A Couple For Lasting Love Episode 100
September 29, 2020 08:00 - 27 minutes - 29.7 MBIt’s shocking and contradictory from what you’ve heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It’s not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship. Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills! In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you ...
You Will Communicate Better In Just 5 Hours At The Couples Workshop Episode 99
September 24, 2020 08:00 - 11 minutes - 11.7 MBHey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.) The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home! Here is the website to read more and save your seats The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Bette...
How Do You Deal With a Partner Who Shuts Down When They’re Mad? Episode 98
September 22, 2020 08:00 - 24 minutes - 26.1 MBSo here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say “I’m not talking about this, move on” or even “get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue. Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be tal...
Keep Your Upbringing or Past Relationships From Sabotaging Your Relationship Now Episode 97
September 15, 2020 08:00 - 39 minutes - 42.8 MBEver have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that’s often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past! Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun. In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or...
We Talked About Ending Our Relationship This Weekend Episode 96
September 08, 2020 08:00 - 41 minutes - 47.2 MBReal talk....we had a 3 hour conversation this weekend about the possibility of ending our partnership. Not because we haven't been "happy" or that we don't love each other anymore... but because we haven't been living in our full potential as individuals or as a couple. We have high standards for what kind of partnership we're capable of and that's what we invite you into. So we shared openly and candidly with each other about our disappointments, frustrations, and doubts. We used ou...
My Parents Are Still Married, Jocelyn’s Got Divorced: How Both Upbringings Impact Our Marriage Now Episode 95
September 01, 2020 08:00 - 36 minutes - 39.7 MBIf you are like Aaron and had a loving upbringing with lots of support from your parents, that means you would be better set up for a strong relationship rather than if you were like Jocelyn and had your parents go through a divorce or tough upbringing right? NOPE! Did you ever think that whatever your past upbringing, it could be what is causing any hiccups in your current relationship? In this episode will hear each of our stories about how we grew up and how Aaron was limited in being a...
You Will Never Positively Influence Your Partner While Having a Bad Attitude Episode 94
August 25, 2020 08:00 - 28 minutes - 32.1 MBYou can’t get ‘down’ enough or have a bad enough attitude to positively influence your partner. You just can’t; and we prove it to you today! This episode will light a fire in YOU, and shift a destructive belief you might have about how to truly influence your partner to change. Sure, you could get your partner to be “compliant” because of your bad attitude and they just want to succumb to make you happy or get you off their back. But that’s not a recipe for lasting love and connection. In...
Take Control Of Your Own Emotions & Mental Health, So You Don’t Rely On Your Partner To Feel Better Episode 93
August 18, 2020 08:00 - 36 minutes - 40.2 MBThis is one of the truest quotes we've ever heard: "There isn’t anything that anyone wants for any other reason than they believe that they will feel better in the having of it." So everything you do in life is all for this one reason-- to feel better! The problem is that this puts your experience of life based on things you don’t have 100% control over. It gets even worse for your relationship if you rely on your partner's mood, energy, or actions to make you feel good. This puts pressure...
Listening To Your Partner From Ego Vs Your Heart Episode 92
August 11, 2020 08:00 - 29 minutes - 31.7 MBListening is not a passive action! Listening is actually an intentional action. You might not recognize the difference between when you’re listening from your EGO vs your HEART. In this podcast, we’re going to break down the difference- how it sounds, how it feels to you, and how it feels to your partner. None of us were really taught how to LISTEN, which can leave your partner not feeling truly understood. Sure, you might have HEARD them, but did you TRULY listen. You’ll find out how to...
Being Passive Aggressive Means THIS is Missing In Your Marriage Episode 91
August 04, 2020 08:00 - 36 minutes - 39.1 MBHave you ever found yourself or your partner avoiding direct or clear communication, evading problems, fearing intimacy or competition, making excuses, blaming, playing the victim, feigning compliance with requests, being sarcastic, or hiding anger? All of these behaviors describe being passive aggressive! You might not have thought of this at first, but there are many couples that are experiencing this right now in their marriage. This topic even comes from patterns we saw in our coup...