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But Not All At Once

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Every last woman, even the glossy picture of perfection who intimidates you to bits, has a story that would stun you. It's time we hear it. Let's discuss it all, learn it all, figure it all out - but not all at once.

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Harry, Meghan & A Million Headlines

January 12, 2023 04:00 - 1 hour - 63.3 MB

Welcome to 2023 and a metric ton of royal updates, flip-flopping opinions and journalistic analysis. Recently, royal-watching has been both a sociological study and a Rorschach test; what we see reveals much about us. If you haven't heard the in-depth walk-through of H&M's first three docuseries episodes, listen to The Doc Without Drama before pressing play here. (BTW, an additional 100-minute royal rundown will be live tomorrow on Patreon as thanks for subscribing!) I intended this to be...

Harry & Meghan: The Documentary Without Drama?

December 10, 2022 03:00 - 2 hours - 85.8 MB

After a sabbatical, we're back with a quick-turnaround episode dissecting the first three episodes of the Sussexes' Netflix documentary. Come back next week for a breakdown of the final three! We mix in a bit of history, context, caveats and perspective, but I anticipate a third episode will come post-documentary where we dive into the Queen's death and funeral; who's gotten new titles; who didn't inherit the ones they were promised; who's in danger of losing theirs; what King Charles' coro...

The Birds & The Bees

August 25, 2022 02:00 - 1 hour - 58.7 MB

Nothing about growing up is easy, whether you have kids or not. To be candid, my four children have done nothing but make clear how NOT grown up or prepared I am for the realities of life with children in 2022. Today, Meg and Mary Flo of Birds & Bees are here to save us. And maybe our sanity and a whole lot of face while they're at it! Every part of parenthood requires a deep bench and lots of backup. Today, I hope you'll hear how many folks are in your corner. Whether it's learning to lab...

Where We Are & Where I’ve Been

May 25, 2022 18:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MB

There aren’t words for today, just loosely connected thoughts and a deep, aching well of feelings. If you need a friend’s voice right now, here’s one. 💗 This episode was released earlier today on Patreon.  Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com. For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming details about possible 2023 in-person events, visit Patreon.

Spring Break for Grown-Ups

April 04, 2022 17:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MB

Do women have hobbies? Do grown-ups know how to blow off steam? Is it possible to relax while both doing and NOT doing something? Let's dive in to what spring break could look like for grown-ups. Come back later this week for a meatier interview; in the meantime, let's imagine we've rented the largest beach house known to mankind and dedicated each room to a different fantastic activity. (Yes, napping is an activity.) I can't wait to hear what the perfect solo spring break would look like ...

We Were On. A. Break! Let's Pick Up Where We Left Off...

March 11, 2022 20:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MB

It wasn't an announced break, but we WERE on a break - and now it's over. Delighted to catch back up with you about how I've been, how you've been, how the world has been (eep), what the royals are up to, and what we can expect in the months ahead. Have missed you, friends! Episodes mentioned: Margot Guy's Long Road to Motherhood Oprah's Sussex Interview The update to Margot's episode will be available on Patreon early next month! If you'd like to participate in the "Postcards as Pick...

Hope is Worth the Wait with Megan Scherer

February 03, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.2 MB

In the midst of a challenging season (say, facing your high school sweetheart's metastatic cancer diagnosis), it can be hard to see anything beyond the moment ahead. Envisioning the future, or even making it through the next step, can seem downright impossible. Megan Scherer knows that feeling well, and her family has used it to change the lives of others'. The Scherers' charity, Worth the Wait, provides emotional and financial support for cancer patients hoping to preserve their fertility ...

Bonus Episode: What Makes a Hot Mess and Is Grief Really Gratitude?

January 14, 2022 05:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MB

Here's an extra chat for you this week based on a through-line in my conversations this week. My colleagues and friends (and I) seem to be feeling, thinking, crying over, looking like and worrying about things that may resonate with you too. Listen first, and then have a cookie. Take a nap. Send someone else a chicken pot pie. Ask for a break. Cry all the tears. Punch some pillows. Give yourself a sanity walk. DM me. Allow yourself to be an unkempt, actual hot mess - not an Instagram one. ...

An Update and A Metric Ton of Inspiration with Meredith Jaggard

January 13, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 44.9 MB

 In April 2019, Meredith Jaggard was fearless enough to join But Not All At Once as our first-ever guest. The podcast was just a concept then, and by pouring out her heart and her story, Meredith started it with a bang. Now she's back for more. Today we talk about the lives her words changed, an obituary I had to write, pandemic weight gain, modern marriage, and uprooting your whole life a second time to build a new one. Learn how she moved (again!) and continued to battle MS during Covid...

Living Out A Sister's Legacy with Liz Fisher: Part Two

January 06, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 58.9 MB

Brooke Turner's story may be But Not All At Once's most downloaded episode ever - and for good reason. Describing herself as a "student of hope" despite unexpected widowhood and terminal cancer, Brooke shared words I revisit whenever I need a little perspective and a few hours with a friend. Today Brooke's sister, Liz, finishes her story with an update on the grieving, healing, joy-filled Turner/Fisher family of eight. She and her husband now have six children from third to sixth grades, an...

Living Out A Sister's Legacy with Liz Fisher: Part One

December 10, 2021 03:00 - 1 hour - 46.1 MB

Brooke Turner's story may be But Not All At Once's most downloaded episode ever - and for good reason. Describing herself as a "student of hope" despite young, unexpected widowhood and a terminal cancer diagnosis, Brooke chose her words carefully and meant every one of them. It's a conversation I revisit when I need a few hours with a friend, and one of the great privileges of my life. Today Brooke's sister, Liz, steps away from her very full plate to give us an update on the Turner/Fisher ...

Women, Work, and Treating Humans Like Humans with Amber Michels

November 20, 2021 21:00 - 1 hour - 50.9 MB

Amber Michels, founder of The Peace of Mind Project and the forthcoming Lighthouse Effect, joins But Not All At Once to talk about women and work. Things you'll hear us touch on: -What is the Great Resignation, and why is it happening now? -"It isn't that complicated." Treating employees like humans, not machines, changes everything. -There's no such thing as a non-working mom. -Parental leave, healthy work environments, and work-life balance benefit employees regardless of whether or not t...

Things That Get Easier (And A Few That Might Not)

November 04, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MB

In genuine irony, this episode was delayed a week after things did not in fact get easier. With both a new puppy and a new business, things felt flat-out wild. But we're back, and I'm reminding us all of what gets easier over time, just in case it's hard to imagine from deep in the trenches. If you saw my list on Instagram, you'll have a preview of what I mean. Parts of life, decision-making, body issues, communicating, self-care and even parenting do get easier over time. (Conversely, part...

The Glue of Our Family: A Story of Down Syndrome with Katie Alice Walker

October 21, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 62.9 MB

October is Down Syndrome Awareness Month, and today But Not All At Once dives into the story of Katie Alice Walker and her beautiful third baby, Jayne. Katie Alice walks us through the shock and grief of an unexpected diagnosis and the joy of meeting a child whose name has been spoken by an entire community in prayer. There's beauty to be found even in the uncertain, unforeseen and just plain hard; Katie Alice's words are a testament to that. Whether your family has faced similar news, y...

How Exactly Do You Feel Your Feelings? with Meredith Puckett

October 07, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 53.2 MB

Meredith Puckett joins But Not All At Once to answer listener questions about grief, loss, and the seemingly easy task of "feeling your feelings." It's everyone's go-to advice for women facing divorce, life change, loss, or parenting in a pandemic, but how exactly how do we do it? (For reference and as a caution for anyone who may need it, this episode includes general themes of grief around separation, divorce, and pregnancy/infant loss.) Later this month, Meredith will be on the podcast...

Bonus Episode: What If You're Still Broken?

September 27, 2021 23:00 - 55 minutes - 37.9 MB

September 27th is a day Anne's body remembers each year, even if her brain doesn't quite catch up to it. This bonus episode dives into grief, miscarriage, trauma, guilt when you don't feel grateful "enough," and why you don't have to be useful to be worthy. You can read more of these words at Anne's blog, from a previous lifetime, on the subject.  Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on socia...

So What If You're Still Broken?

September 27, 2021 23:00 - 55 minutes - 37.9 MB

September 27th is a day Anne's body remembers each year, even if her brain doesn't quite catch up to it. This bonus episode dives into grief, miscarriage, trauma, guilt when you don't feel grateful "enough," and why you don't have to be useful to be worthy. You can read more of these words at Anne's blog, from a previous lifetime, on the subject. 

Blooming Right on Time with Mamie Morgan

September 23, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 69.5 MB

Mamie Morgan is a poet, educator and entrepreneur with an eye for design and a passion for accepting people as they are. Today she talks to But Not All At Once about finding grown-up love; the beauty of blooming late; grieving a parent; and building a life more beautiful (but quite different) than you imagined. You can read Mamie's poetry at mamiemorgan.com and visit Opal Bride in West Greenville or at opalbride.com. To support the work of But Not All At Once, hear bonus episodes, and wat...

The Gift and the Sadness with Mamie Morgan

September 23, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 69.5 MB

Mamie Morgan is a poet, educator and entrepreneur with an eye for design and a passion for accepting people as they are. Today she talks to But Not All At Once about blooming late, losing a parent, shaking off shame, finding love when you were certain you wouldn't, and building a life more beautiful (but quite different) than you imagined. You can read Mamie's poetry at mamiemorgan.com and visit Opal Bride in West Greenville or at opalbride.com. To support the work of But Not All At Once,...

A Potluck Podcast

September 18, 2021 00:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MB

Today's episode is a smorgasbord of topics requested by our little Instagram community. First up, the Murdaugh (pronounced "Murdock") murders right here in South Carolina. This is a tragic, complicated, ready-for-Netflix story. I recommend you dive into Mandy Matney's podcast to catch up on years of Lowcountry legal entanglements, unfortunate deaths and mysterious happenings. Next, the Time 100 cover featuring Harry, Meghan and a boatload of memes about their pose. Also, Britney Spears' e...

In the Thick of It with Tinsley Maness

September 09, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 69.7 MB

Shakespeare wrote that "the course of true love never did run smooth." While they could apply to any facet of life, these words may encapsulate best the exhaustion and adventure of parenting. That's certainly the case for Tinsley Maness and her son, Hart. What started smoothly when her second child was born soon changed course, planting a desire to advocate not only for him, but also for others outside the "typical." You'll hear Tinsley speak of Hart's school, the Meyer Center, and Greenv...

Big Leaps and Non-Linear Paths with Sarah Shell of Fern Studio

August 26, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 49.4 MB

Sarah Shell spent three years in law school, passed the bar and began a promising legal career in a Savannah office with a river view. Something was missing, though... Today Sarah and I walk through her "non-linear" path to owning a floral design studio whose first dedicated space opened just before Covid hit. We talk about finding your path, starting over, and letting others take a chance on you. You can find Sarah at Fern Studio in Columbia, South Carolina, where she brightens locals' da...

Non-Linear Paths with Sarah Shell of Fern Studio

August 26, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 49.4 MB

Sarah Shell spent three years in law school, passed the bar and began a promising legal career in a Savannah office with a river view. Something was missing, though... Today Sarah and I walk through her "non-linear" path to owning a floral design studio whose first dedicated space opened just before Covid hit. We talk about finding your path, starting over, and letting others take a chance on you. You can find Sarah at Fern Studio in Columbia, South Carolina, where she brightens locals' da...

An Exhaustion Epidemic: All the Work You Can't See

August 19, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 45.3 MB

When I came across Laura's TikTok content earlier this month, I knew she'd make the perfect podcast guest. As @thatdarnchat on social media, she puts words to the epidemic of exhaustion I've seen in friends and strangers alike over the years. You see it too: wives, mothers, and working women crumbling under the weight of invisible labor, unrealistic expectations, and unspoken hopes for parenthood and marriage. In today's episode, you'll hear us praise the men in our lives, break down the pa...

Raising Kids in a Digital World with Suzy Dover

August 05, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 48.2 MB

Suzy Dover spends her days guiding elementary schoolers through the ins and outs of technology, then comes home to do the same with her own children. One question the instructional technology coach answers more than any other is, "How do I keep my kids safe online?" In today's episode, we answer just that - and it starts at a far more foundational level than parental controls or security apps. Suzy explains her philosophy of technology as communication; how children are the same online and...

He is Not Less than Anyone with Abby Banks

July 22, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 63.3 MB

One night can change everything. Abby Banks, this week's guest, put her healthy infant son to sleep, but the next morning, he was paralyzed. Without warning, a rare autoimmune disease attacked his spinal cord; there was no cure or road map for healing from his diagnosis, transverse myelitis, short of a miracle. Abby walks us through the life she envisioned for Wyatt, and the one her son has today. Rather than facing the unknown full of fear, the Banks family finds joy in every gift - includ...

If Your Miracle Never Comes with Abby Banks

July 22, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 63.3 MB

One night can change everything. Abby Banks, this week's guest, put her healthy infant son to sleep, but the next morning, he was paralyzed. Without warning, a rare autoimmune disease attacked his spinal cord; there was no cure or road map for healing from his diagnosis, transverse myelitis, short of a miracle. Abby walks us through the life she envisioned for Wyatt, and the one her son has today. Rather than facing the unknown full of fear, the Banks family finds joy in every gift - includ...

What the '90s and '00s Taught Us About Beauty - and Have We Unlearned It?

July 15, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 42.5 MB

When I recall the beauty standards of my formative years, I think of two Kates, one Fiona, and my beloved (but sometimes side-eyed) Friends.  Kate Moss, the queen of heroin chic;  headlines decrying "overweight" Kate Winslet; Fiona Apple, unshowered, underfed, and undressed on a dirty carpet in her "Criminal" video; and Friends' lazy punchlines about Monica in a fat suit. Not to mention Bridget Jones' topping out at 140lbs in her panicked diet diary entries or Renee Zellwegger's "brave" w...

Girl, You Don't Need Rachel Hollis

July 01, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MB

You can't be an expert on living. Perhaps intuitive eating, child-rearing, business, style, fitness - any number of things that require licenses, credentials or letters after your name. But living? Hmm. Perhaps that's how we got into a "personal development" situation. After our first Rachel Hollis discussion, there was a clamor to dive in a bit deeper, so here we are. Let's talk masterful word salad, accountability versus cancel culture, platforms versus pedestals, and what it means to be ...

"Lili?! But...": On a Royal Baby's Name and an International Brouhaha

June 17, 2021 04:00 - 38 minutes - 26.5 MB

Lilibet Diana Mountbatten-Windsor arrived ten days ago; a press release and a flurry of headlines marked her debut. This week we delve into royal names, royal gossip, my baby-naming preferences and strategy, and more. Next we'll dive into Rachel Hollis' return to (and quick retreat from) social media on Patreon. Can't wait to hear your thoughts!  Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social ...

What Makes a "Good" Mom with Mary Van Geffen

June 10, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 51.7 MB

Parenting coach Mary Van Geffen guides folks daily through the process of raising "spicy" kids. Want to really get her going? Talk about the societal pressure to be a "good" mom, and the many meaningless, artificial and external markers that indicate what success looks like for modern parents. Mary unpacks and refutes every bit of that. I wish I could quote our entire conversation, but you'll just have to listen yourself. We cover every Southern woman's weakness; the perpetual pleasers who...

A Child's Mental Health Shapes Generations

May 27, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 43.6 MB

As Mental Health Awareness Month ends, we talk with Tanya Camunas about how families can break generational cycles; what makes healing from trauma possible; how communities can preserve families and support their children's mental health; and why families of every socioeconomic status struggle. More than an executive director far removed from her field, Tanya herself is in therapy to heal from childhood trauma. Adopted at two after neglect and abuse from parents with untreated mental illnes...

Staying, Leaving and Surviving a Spouse's Addiction

May 20, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 43.1 MB

Author Ashley Adams is a happily married mother of three; if you saw her around her Virginia hometown, you'd never guess what she's survived. Today Ashley shares her years-long struggle to decide if she should leave or stay in her first marriage to a man who secretly battled alcoholism. With two toddlers, she became a single mother who would eventually walk them through the loss of their father to his addiction. Unable to find the resources she needed, Ashley wrote her own; you can find ...

What Faith Could Look Like with Rev. Kendra Plating

May 13, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 42.7 MB

Our 95th episode focuses on a topic listeners have requested for months: faith. Where does one start? How can you deconstruct a lifetime of beliefs and rebuild new, deeper ones? What role does spirituality have in modern society? How has the need to congregate changed during Covid? Rev. Kendra Plating and I could have discussed this for days, but in an hour we touch on women in church leadership; healing from church or childhood trauma; deconstructing from a legalistic Christian background;...

The Long Road to Motherhood with Margot Guy

May 06, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 69.1 MB

(A little caveat: It's Mother's Day week. If you're in a tender spot around parenthood, loss, or pregnancy, be gentle with yourself and pick another episode. Shoot me a DM and we'll find just the words you need to hear today.) "Ten in ten." That's how Margot Guy describes the losses she and her husband, TJ, have faced in a decade of trying to grow their family. Nearly six years after becoming parents to a baby girl born halfway across the world, thanks to a surrogate in Mumbai, the Guy fami...

Dear Annie: Advice for Listeners (and Preaching to Myself)

April 29, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 45.1 MB

Since discovering Dear Abby in the early '90s, my dream has been to have an advice column. Giving people wisdom you'd never live out yourself - how does adulthood get better than that? Here we dive into an hour of DMs, comments and other listener submissions ranging from unwanted houseguests, post-COVID socializing, brides as centers of the universe, body boundaries, managing post-divorce dating expectations, naming babies, planning your family size, why there should be two different Mother...

'I'm Sad' is Hard to Say with Sangeeta Hardy

April 22, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 65.1 MB

Spoiler alert: Sangeeta Hardy is snuggling a baby as you read this. The decade of her life before meeting her daughter, however, brought hurdle after hurdle: infertility, miscarriage, surrogacy, potential adoption, grief amidst marriage, wincing at baby shower invitations, and hours of therapy to prove that feelings deserve to be felt, not compartmentalized. You'll love Sangeeta's assertion that, while immensely grateful, she didn't need this happy ending to be happy. Her friends taught her...

Culpability, Compassion & Khloe Kardashian

April 19, 2021 16:00 - 43 minutes - 30.2 MB

Let's talk about the recent Khloe Kardashian kerfuffle. An (allegedly) unedited swimsuit photo of her made its way to Instagram via her grandmother; the whirlwind that ensued convinced many that Khloe suffers as intensely from body dysmorphia as her followers, who consume the family's typically Photoshopped content, do. In this episode we dissect the weird mix of culpability (you create the beauty standards you suffer from, Khloe!) and compassion (unrelenting media scrutiny and decades of b...

Compassion, Culpability & Khloe Kardashian

April 19, 2021 16:00 - 43 minutes - 30.2 MB

Let's talk about the recent Khloe Kardashian kerfuffle. An (allegedly) unedited swimsuit photo of her made its way to Instagram via her grandmother; the whirlwind that ensued convinced many that Khloe suffers as intensely from body dysmorphia as her followers, who consume the family's typically Photoshopped content, do. In this episode we dissect the weird mix of culpability (you create the beauty standards you suffer from, Khloe!) and compassion (unrelenting media scrutiny and decades of b...

A Pep Talk for Your Second Rodeo

April 15, 2021 04:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MB

A long-promised mini pep talk for women bringing home their second babies. You know just enough to worry yourself sick, but not enough to feel confident that you can do this once again. Let me be the voice who reminds you: You. Sure. Can. You may be wondering if your world is about to be flipped upside down again. Can you love another small human? Who will need you most? How can you ever, in a moment of double tears, pick one over the other? How will you find the guts to ask for help? What ...

A Pep Talk for Moms Times Two

April 15, 2021 04:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MB

A long-promised mini pep talk for women bringing home their second babies. You know just enough to worry yourself sick, but not enough to feel confident that you can do this once again. Let me be the voice who reminds you: You. Sure. Can. You may be wondering if your world is about to be flipped upside down again. Can you love another small human? Who will need you most? How can you ever, in a moment of double tears, pick one over the other? How will you find the guts to ask for help? What ...

An Anne Intro: A Peek at How We Got Here

April 15, 2021 03:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MB

If talker's block were a thing, I'd have the opposite. SO many things to tell you and so little time before your AirPods need charging. After last week's rollicking Rachel Hollis rundown, we have oodles of new folks and a number of longtime listeners who may not know the who/what/why on Earth is this girl pulling life stories out of every woman she's ever met? So here's a quick peek into my brain and chapter one of a (fifteen-part, believe it or not) series that'll continue on Patreon. We...

Girl, That's Not An Apology: On Rachel Hollis, Cancel Culture, Condescension & Consequences

April 09, 2021 21:00 - 59 minutes - 40.9 MB

Here's a spicy take to start your weekend! Get the rundown on the brouhaha around Rachel Hollis' careless condescension and oblivious "apology" this week. We walk through personal development gurus, hypocrisy, privilege, cancel culture, consequences, accountability, growth, and the kiss of death in personal relationships (and public ones too). Support the podcast at Patreon.com/butnotallatonce, where we'll be tackling the toxic combination of body dysmorphia, beauty standards (both the cre...

Inventing Your Dream Job with Lacey Hennessey

April 08, 2021 18:00 - 1 hour - 49.6 MB

Artist Lacey Hennessey joins us to talk money, courage, fulfillment, optimism and whether Beyonce has more hours in the day than the rest of us. (She doesn't, but she DOES pay a lot of people to do things you might enjoy doing yourself.) Whether you have a secret dream you'd love to pursue, wonder how much money "starving" artists can actually make, or want to stop caring what others think, Lacey's infectious attitude may be just what you need. Need specific advice or encouragement? Lacey ...

Her Happiness Matters More than a Diagnosis

March 25, 2021 03:00 - 1 hour - 51.1 MB

Imagine you're at a playground when your child toddles over to a girl in a wheelchair and asks, in all sincerity, why she can't walk. Do you dig a hole in the sandbox and hide? Shush him and scurry away? Join them both for a conversation and some toy-sharing? Greenville mom and advocate Cat Stevens hopes you'll do the latter. And while you're there, she'd love you to ask about all three of her children - two "typical" and one with differences both visible and unseen. You'll hear the joy in...

Less Stress, More Peace: Intuitive Eating in a Pandemic and Beyond

March 18, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 44.2 MB

Intuitive eating counselor Kate Morris, whose gentle wisdom we first heard last May in episode 56, is back for a much-needed discussion about parenting children (and re-parenting ourselves) to become healthy, happy eaters who trust themselves.  We're drowning in messages about eating perfectly, feeding our children "well," and controlling our diet. But if our kids are 242% more likely to develop eating disorders than type 2 diabetes as teens, how do we teach them to respect, trust and fuel ...

Oprah, Harry, Meghan & Media Madness

March 11, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 55.3 MB

All right, friends. The Sussexes spilled it. Every last drop. Now what? Let's talk it out!  Here's a rundown, a breakdown and a few follow-ups. This episode was released Monday evening on Patreon for subscriber to get an early listen. (I note this because even more headlines have emerged since that time. Just you wait; we'll chat about them too.) Look for a new pep talk later this week! Until then, you can support the podcast by joining Patreon.com/ButNotAllatOnce for extra episodes, gues...

How to Talk to Women: A PSA

March 04, 2021 03:00 - 58 minutes - 40.1 MB

But Not All At Once started solely as an Instagram account, launched as a series of PSAs encouraging people to phase out the thoughtless, rude, invasive, dismissive and otherwise inappropriate phrases they use toward women. Today, we're going back to our roots by revisiting the issue. We cover what not say, what works instead, how to apologize (and what does NOT count when saying you're sorry), what communication will look like post-COVID and how to connect with others until then. Listen w...

This is Your Body in a Pandemic

February 25, 2021 04:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

As the one-year mark of this pandemic (pandemonium/panda democracy/panini/Panera/Le Pain Quotidien) approaches, and in honor of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, here's a little chat about your body in a pandemic. Please excuse the tears and sniffles; it's not possible for me to discuss what we nearly lost when our daughter was a baby, or what I hope for her future, without choking up a bit. Consider it a sign of affection that I didn't edit it out? Next up this season is a second ...

What's Next for But Not All At Once

February 25, 2021 04:00 - 16 minutes - 11.6 MB

In another two months, the But Not All At Once podcast will celebrate its second birthday, In the meantime, here's a quick peek into what the road ahead looks like for the podcast, its humble host, and our growing community. You can support the work of But Not All At Once via patreon.com/butnotallatonce, or by leaving five star reviews at tinyurl.com/butnotallatonce, sharing with your friends, or just engaging with our social media posts. None of this would be possible without you, friends...

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