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Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries

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Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries is a weekly podcast hosted by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal and Creatrix of The Radiant Threefold Path. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.

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#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II)

July 28, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 35.3 MB

Last week, I talked about the first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound familiar, I recommend going back to listen to Episode 142.) This week, I’ll cover the third and fourth essentials: “Live and Let Live,” and “Change (So That I Can Feel Better).” But before we begin, I want to share a big announcement: this will be the final episode of the Beyond Bitchy podcast. This has been a productive and fulfill...

#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)

July 21, 2021 07:00 - 39 minutes - 38.8 MB

I’m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I’m back, I’m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challenges I see across all sorts of boundary questions in various situations. I’ll cover the first two challenges today, and the third and fourth next week.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #142: Even if it’s only a few minutes a day, please carve out ...

#141 - Are Boundaries a Sign of Disapproval?

July 07, 2021 07:00 - 18 minutes - 26.4 MB

People have a lot of misconceptions about boundaries. You may hear people say that boundaries are harsh, rigid, a punishment, or even selfish. Some people even believe that sharing boundaries is a way to control others or tell them what to do. Recently, I’ve heard another misconception: setting a boundary with someone is a sign that you disapprove of them. Tune in to learn why this isn’t the case, and how your boundaries are all about you.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #141: Whether ...

#140 - ENCORE - Rest, Don't Quit

June 30, 2021 07:00 - 31 minutes - 33.9 MB

Lately, have you noticed a sense of collective exhaustion, sadness, and impatience? Right now, it may feel like there’s not a lot to celebrate. This is especially true with the holidays coming up, since they're going to look much different than usual this year. With everything going on, you might feel like you want to quit, because what’s the point? If this resonates with you, it may be time for you to take a rest. Tune in to learn what this may look like for you. Biggest Takeaways From Ep...

#139 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries

June 23, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 35.1 MB

At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Episode #49 and #50. I’m so glad to be back! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #50: At certain points in our lives, each of us needs to go into what...

#138 - ENCORE - Rest, Rejuvenation, & Boundaries

June 16, 2021 07:00 - 22 minutes - 29 MB

Today’s episode is all about rest, rejuvenation, and boundaries, which absolutely relate to one another! I’ll explain why rest is so important and why it’s so difficult to unplug in our uber-connected, device saturated world. I’ll also give you some tips on how to truly rest and enter into states of being rather than doing, and why rest is crucial for health, creativity, and even productivity. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #31: To create spaces of time off—whether for a few hours or a fe...

#137 - Trade Your Triangles for Straight Lines

June 09, 2021 07:00 - 23 minutes - 29.7 MB

Are you ready to trade your triangles for straight lines? Don’t worry, you’re not back in geometry class; this is actually related to the talking boundary. Triangulation is something that we do all the time, but we should all work toward straightening out those lines and practicing direct communication whenever possible. (There are a few notable exceptions, which I’ll also address in this episode.)   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #137: Triangulation describes a common but harmful form ...

#136 - When Someone You Love Is in Danger

June 02, 2021 07:00 - 26 minutes - 31.1 MB

People in your life may be facing a variety of dangers, from mental health issues or suicidal urges to addiction or unsafe behavior. But today, I’ll focus on a specific type of danger: physically or sexually abusive relationships. It’s painful to know (or suspect) that a loved one is in a relationship like this, but it’s also tough to know what to do. I’ll give you some specific advice on how to proceed—and what to avoid doing.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #136: Here are some things...

#135 - When Your Ex Doesn't Behave

May 26, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 37.3 MB

Before we start, I’d like to offer you a quick apology! You may not have been able to find the earliest episodes of the show because of a mistake in the podcast settings on the back end. That’s fixed now, and you should be able to access all of the episodes again. And now, onto today’s subject! If you have an ex, especially if you’re co-parenting with them, I’m guessing you’ve had a problem with your ex misbehaving. So what do you do? Tune in to find out!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode...

#134 - Using the Talking Format (Part 3 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)

May 19, 2021 07:00 - 32 minutes - 34.3 MB

Are you ready for the third part of my series on the talking boundary? This one is all about a specific process from the work of Pia Mellody: the Talking Format. This strategy is a roadmap around how to share information with another person, and is ideal for challenging conversations. If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with how to express yourself effectively in a difficult interpersonal situation, don’t miss this episode!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #134: The Talking Format ...

#133 - Speaking to Be Heard (Part 2 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)

May 12, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 37 MB

If you haven’t heard last week’s episode yet, I recommend listening to that one too if you’re interested in this exploration of the talking boundary. In that episode, I covered what the talking boundary is, and what talking boundary violations look like. This time, I’ll move into what it looks like when you have a healthy, effective talking boundary. I’ll also share some questions to ask yourself to help ensure your talking boundary is in great shape.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #1...

#132 - She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary

May 05, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 37 MB

By special request, I’m doing a deeper dive into the talking boundary. I’ve mentioned this boundary in 25 episodes, but I’ve never gone into the level of depth that it deserves. When your talking boundary is functioning well, you express yourself in a healthy, relational way while sharing your authentic reality. You may be surprised by some examples of what talking boundary violations look like, so tune in to learn all about this important topic!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #132: T...

#131 - ENCORE - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd)

April 21, 2021 07:00 - 42 minutes - 40.2 MB

Right now, in the United States, trauma is speaking. Prejudice and racism wounds, and are potentially traumatizing to anyone who experiences them. But listening to another person’s trauma is a challenging thing to do, especially if we perceive that we may have played a part in their experience — even when remaining silent or looking away. Let’s talk about how to listen when trauma speaks. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #93: The listening boundary is the most challenging boundary for most ...

#130 - What to Do When You Regret Saying Yes to a Request

April 14, 2021 07:00 - 27 minutes - 31.6 MB

We’ve all been there: you say “yes” to a request or accept an invitation, then realize that it just doesn’t work for you. But are you allowed to change your mind even if you’ve already said yes? As counterintuitive as it might feel, the short answer is that you always have the right to change your mind. And if you think your situation is an exception to that rule, then this episode is for you!    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #130: You always have a right to change your mind, no matter...

#129 - What is "Leaky Sexual Energy"?

April 07, 2021 07:00 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MB

If you’ve ever encountered someone whose sexual energy seems like it’s just spilling out all around them, you already have an idea of what “leaky sexual energy” is. While it can be hard to pinpoint or define (and isn’t based simply on what clothes someone is wearing), you’ll generally be able to sense it when someone has leaky sexual energy. Tune in to learn more!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #129: Boundaries have two functions: protecting yourself (and/or other people), and definin...

#128 - Bodies & Boundaries

March 31, 2021 07:00 - 20 minutes - 27.6 MB

Did you know that tuning into your body is a brilliant source of information about you and your emotions? It can even help you learn about the boundaries you may want to set. The first step is to notice when you feel emotions in your body, and then start identifying which physical sensations track to which emotions for you.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #128: Once you’ve noticed the signals from your body, you get to interpret them. You can download this emotions chart based on Pia M...

#127 - ENCORE - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

March 24, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 36.7 MB

From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11 ways to avoid biting it. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #95: The dictionary definition of bait causes us to focus on the wrong thing in interpersonal reactions: the other person’s intent. Instead, thin...

#126 - Are Your Consequences Punishment or Self-Care?

March 17, 2021 07:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MB

The next monthly boundaries clarifier workshop is coming up next Tuesday, March 23, 2021! Bring an issue or boundary, and we’ll all work on it together by using the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. But let’s get onto today’s topic: your responses to boundary issues and why self-care can be a far better choice than consequences. In fact, whenever you experience a boundary violation, I’d like to invite you to start by thinking about self-care. How can you get your needs met while taking car...

#125 - You Have the Power: Revisiting Step 3 of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Process

March 10, 2021 08:00 - 50 minutes - 45 MB

In case you haven’t already heard, I’m holding monthly boundaries clarifier workshops. At these events, we walk through the first four steps of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. Today’s episode was inspired by something that came up in the very first of these workshops: Step 3 (Identifying Your Power Center) is challenging for a lot of people. That’s why today’s episode is all about this step of the process, and how to decide between your four options. Biggest Takeaways From Episode ...

#124 - Repeat After Me: I Am Not Responsible For Other People's Feelings!

March 03, 2021 08:00 - 30 minutes - 33.6 MB

You are not responsible for other people’s feelings. This may feel hard to believe if you tend to immediately feel responsible and guilty when someone is upset with you (as many of us do!). Tune in to learn how to navigate situations where someone else is blaming you for their reaction or feelings, and why it’s so dangerous to believe that we are responsible.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #124: When you find yourself starting to take on the blame for someone being upset with you, sta...

#123 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries

February 24, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 35.8 MB

At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Episode #49 and #50. I’m so glad to be back! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #123: At certain points in our lives, each of us needs to go into wha...

#122 - What Other People Do is 100% About Them

February 17, 2021 08:00 - 18 minutes - 26.6 MB

Lately, I’ve been focusing on the theme of “return to you.” And getting caught up in the belief that what other people do is about you can get in the way of returning to, or knowing, yourself. So I’d like to dedicate this episode to exploring the fact that what other people do is in fact about them, not you. If that idea sounds counterintuitive or hard to believe, I hope this episode will help explain why I believe so strongly that it’s true. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #122: While the...

#121 - Quick Tips #16: When Grandma Pushes Your Limits

February 10, 2021 08:00 - 21 minutes - 28.4 MB

Sooner or later, every single one of us will feel manipulated by someone. That’s why this episode is for you, even if you don’t specifically have a grandmother who’s pushing your limits. Today I’ll cover some strategies to help you find solutions in these situations. One point that I can’t emphasize enough is how important it is to focus on what you want, instead of what you don’t like. Tune in to learn more, so you’ll be prepared next time you’re feeling manipulated.   Biggest Takeaways...

#120 - The Man Cave, Take 2

January 27, 2021 08:00 - 39 minutes - 38.9 MB

In case you missed it last time, I have an exciting announcement! Next month (February 2021), I’ll be starting a brand new event: a monthly live, interactive boundary clarifier workshop. Sign up here to be the first to get updates! If someone is doing something that you don’t like in any of your relationships, this episode is for you. You may remember Episode 71, when I talked about the man cave. In response to that episode, I got a fascinating listener question, and that’s what I’ll be ad...

#119- ENCORE - Is Free Speech Really Free?

January 20, 2021 08:00 - 29 minutes - 33.1 MB

There's been a lot of talk recently about free speech—specifically, news stories about a somewhat infamous media figure who was banned from several major social media sites. It got me to thinking about the limits of free speech, which is all about boundaries. In this episode I'll talk about why boundaries have a lot to do with free speech, as well as how freedom of speech operates in both physical and virtual space. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #28: Although each of us is free to say or...

#118 - How Your Boundaries Get Calibrated

January 13, 2021 08:00 - 32 minutes - 34.6 MB

Before we get into the main part of this episode, I have a big announcement! Starting in February, I’ll be offering monthly workshops to support you as you work your way through the 5-Step Boundary Solution process. Sign up for workshop updates and more details using this link! The idea of calibration is a hugely important one when you’re doing boundary work. This scale for what is standard or normal affects so many parts of our lives, from our initial reactions to people all the way to ...

#117 - The Connecting Power of Boundaries

December 16, 2020 08:00 - 20 minutes - 27.5 MB

Happy holidays! This is the final episode for this year, but I’ll have some exciting news exclusively for listeners next year, and I’m looking forward to sharing that with you. For now, let’s talk about the connecting power of boundaries—because they do actually create connection, despite their bad reputation! I’d also like to invite you to reflect on the ways that you want to be more in alignment with yourself, which is one of the best ways to create more connection with others.   Bigge...

#116 - Unique Snowflakes & Boundaries

December 09, 2020 08:00 - 16 minutes - 25.3 MB

People tend to see their situations as special or unique, when in reality, that’s not the case most of the time. But we often get tripped up around exceptionalism when it comes to our boundaries. There are two common “unique snowflake” traps that we all fall into, and I’ll dig into both of them today. Remember that even though your situation may feel exceptional, the principles of the boundary work involved are the same.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #116: The “unique snowflake trap”...

#115-ENCORE-If I'm Triggered, Are You Responsible?

December 02, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 37.5 MB

When you get triggered, is the person who you got triggered by responsible? And what does this have to do with boundaries? Today’s episode will dig into these important questions. If you’re a long-time listener, you may have guessed that triggers are related to the listening boundary, which is the most difficult of the four primary boundaries. Tune in to learn about triggers, boundaries, and how to respond when you feel triggered. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #78: Triggers are individua...

#114 - COVID-19 Boundary Challenges & the Holidays (Pandemic Episodes)

November 25, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 30.6 MB

Happy Thanksgiving! This episode is coming out just in time to help you navigate the complexities of holidays in the time of COVID-19 (although the points about safety are always relevant). As we explore this new complex landscape, let's take some time to talk about boundaries, agreements, and the freedom to choose.    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #114: When you hear words like “let” or “made” (in the sense of “making” someone do something), they often indicate that the person using t...

#113 - Rest, Don't Quit

November 18, 2020 08:00 - 30 minutes - 33.2 MB

Lately, have you noticed a sense of collective exhaustion, sadness, and impatience? Right now, it may feel like there’s not a lot to celebrate. This is especially true with the holidays coming up, since they're going to look much different than usual this year. With everything going on, you might feel like you want to quit, because what’s the point? If this resonates with you, it may be time for you to take a rest. Tune in to learn what this may look like for you.   Biggest Takeaways Fro...

#112 - "She Has a Spell on Him." What Should I Do?

November 11, 2020 08:00 - 27 minutes - 31.6 MB

Have you ever disliked the spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend, or date of someone you’re close to? Or wondered what your friend or relative sees in that person? Most of us have been there, struggling to understand how someone we care about can fall for (or even seem bewitched by) someone who we find deeply off-putting. Tune in to learn some important questions to ask yourself when you’re in this situation.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #112: It’s not uncommon to hear someone say that an...

#111 - Your Reality is the Only One You Need

November 04, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 29.2 MB

If you’ve ever gotten into an argument with someone else about the reality of a certain situation, or what “really happened,” this episode is for you. The fact is that your reality is what is true for you in the moment, and someone else having a different reality doesn’t mean that yours, or theirs, is either “correct” or “wrong.” Tune in to learn why it’s okay to disagree about reality, and why (as Terry Real says) there is no place for objective reality in relationships.   Biggest Takea...

#110 - What to Do When People Make You Feel Left Out

October 21, 2020 07:00 - 40 minutes - 38.9 MB

I’ve definitely felt left out, forgotten, or excluded… and I’m guessing you have, too. This episode, which was inspired by a listener’s question, is about what to do when you feel that way. I’ll do things a little differently this time! Using the question as a foundation, I’ll walk you through the 5-Step Boundary Solution Process. (Follow along with the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier.)   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #110: Trying to figure out the “why” of someone who makes you fee...

#109 - Is It Ever Okay to Violate Another Person's Boundaries?

October 14, 2020 07:00 - 29 minutes - 33 MB

The reality is that we violate other people’s boundaries all the time, and tell ourselves that we have a right to do it. But is that true? Is it ever okay to violate someone else’s boundaries? You may already know the answer as soon as you hear the question, but there are a lot of nuances to this complex topic, so we’ll take a deep dive into it.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #109: If you have an agreement with another person about something that’s usually a boundary, such as an open ...

#108 - Quick Tips #15: You Always Get to Change Your Mind

October 07, 2020 16:27 - 12 minutes - 23.1 MB

We’ve all been there: you’ve said “yes” to something, and then later changed your mind or realized that it’s not a fit for you. So what do you do? Are you obligated to follow through with your initial answer, or are you allowed to change your mind? (If you’ve read the title of the episode, you already know the answer!) Let’s talk about how to handle this situation, and how to navigate it gracefully. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #108: While this episode was inspired by a question about w...

#107 - You Can Ask for Anything (and the Answer May Be No)

September 30, 2020 16:58 - 14 minutes - 24.5 MB

So many people struggle to speak up or make a request to get their needs or wants met, so I tell you all the time that you can ask anyone for anything. But just as you have the freedom to ask, the other person has the freedom to say “no” if they so choose. (They can also say “yes” or negotiate a different agreement with you.) An email I received recently is a perfect example of both this freedom to ask, and the freedom to decline. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #107: It’s better to ask an...

#106 - "Why Don't You Cover Up?"

September 23, 2020 07:00 - 23 minutes - 29.2 MB

Have you ever felt disrespected by what someone chose to wear (or not wear) around you, your romantic partner, or other loved ones? And what should you do when someone else’s attire makes you feel uncomfortable? The sometimes-difficult truth is that you don’t control what other people wear, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have any options. Tune in to learn about your choices in this situation, and what’s within your circle of control.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #106: We have compl...

#105 - Managing "Quarantine Work Creep" (Pandemic Episodes)

September 16, 2020 07:00 - 36 minutes - 37.2 MB

Almost all of us are struggling with the new landscape of our jobs right now. And in this sudden reality of working from home, it can be a challenge to set healthy work boundaries. Without the separation between home and office, you might be finding yourself working longer hours or feeling like you’re constantly on call. Tune in to learn how to establish healthy work boundaries and avoid letting “quarantine work creep” take over your life. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #105: Get started ...

#104 - How to Use Boundaries to Control (Don't Do It!)

September 02, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 35.9 MB

If you’ve started using boundaries to try to control other people, congratulations! Your boundary skills are likely improving, and you have some knowledge of boundaries. That’s the good news. Now, the bad news: using boundaries to control isn’t a relational strategy, and leads to a loss of intimacy and connection. Plus, when we use boundaries to control, we miss a great learning opportunity to figure out what’s inside (and what’s outside) of our own circle of control. Biggest Takeaways Fro...

#103 - Can Boundaries Be Gentle?

August 26, 2020 07:00 - 25 minutes - 30.4 MB

One of the biggest misconceptions about boundaries is that they’re harsh, rigid, or mean, and that they damage intimacy. In fact, boundaries can absolutely be expressed in a gentle way. And that’s exactly what I’m going to talk about in detail today! I’ll share six easy and specific ways that you can express a limit gently. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #103: Sometimes we go from one extreme to another, going from struggling to say “no” to saying “no” frequently or in a way that’s diffic...

#102 - Should I Make a Request or Express a Desire? (For Women)

August 19, 2020 21:04 - 35 minutes - 36.5 MB

Women, do you fully understand the difference between making a request and expressing a desire? The concept of expressing a desire as an alternative to making a request is a relatively new one for me, and I want to explore it with you in depth today. I’ll give you some guidelines and suggestions that will help you understand both and learn to use whichever works best for your situation. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #102: Requests are always questions, and there are three possible respon...

#101 - What to Do When Loved Ones Don't Wear a Face Mask (Pandemic Episodes)

August 05, 2020 07:00 - 52 minutes - 45.9 MB

Has someone close to you made the decision not to wear a face mask? I experienced this recently, and  I know that many of you have faced this issue as well. Today’s episode is dedicated to the topic. To help you understand how you can respond to this situation, I’ll walk you through exactly what I did and said, how it turned out, and the choices you can make when you find yourself in a similar position. And a quick announcement: I’ll be holding another amazing live video call — Clarity Cir...

#100 - 100 Episodes, One Baby Step at a Time

July 29, 2020 07:00 - 24 minutes - 29.9 MB

I’m so grateful, amazed, and happy to be here releasing episode #100 of the podcast! And I’m truly humbled by some of the responses I’ve received, and the impact this podcast has had on listeners. Let’s celebrate by looking back on how all this came to be, and exploring some powerful concepts around quality over quantity and creating transformation one choice at a time. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #100: This podcast came from a quick decision, and was launched within a couple months. S...

#99 - Back Off, I Need Some Space!

July 22, 2020 07:00 - 26 minutes - 31.3 MB

Can you believe that next week will already be Episode #100? Wow! Stay tuned for something special. But for now, let’s talk about a topic inspired by the listener questions archive. Even if you love to get up close and personal with others, there has probably been a time when you wanted someone to just back off and give you space. And yes, this even applies during the pandemic! Tune in to learn how to navigate this situation and create the space you need.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode...

#98 - 7 Questions to Ask Before Speaking Your Authentic Truth

July 15, 2020 07:00 - 38 minutes - 37.8 MB

It’s important to speak your authentic truth, but that doesn’t mean you should do so blindly or recklessly. Today, I want to share seven questions to ask yourself before sharing your authentic truth with someone else to get clarity and ensure that you’re doing it in a relational way.    Biggest Takeaways From Episode #98: It isn’t always easy to share our authentic truth. We may not even know what it is, or we may be unwilling to admit to ourselves what it is. Or we may mistake a knee j...

#97 - Quick Tips #14: For Clarity, Check It Out!

July 08, 2020 07:00 - 13 minutes - 24 MB

Last week’s episode was a marathon, so I'm going to balance it out this week with a quick tips episode. This one was inspired by a listener’s question that came from a miscommunication around something I said about children having the right to choose their friends. The miscommunication brings up a broader point about checking things out, which I want to explore as a relational tool.   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #97: Young children do not get to decide who their friends are. When I s...

#96 - Listener Questions Marathon!

July 01, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 66.7 MB

This special episode is a little different than usual! Last week, I did a live call to answer the massive backlog of listener questions from the podcast, and this episode is a recording of that call. If you’ve ever submitted a question, tune in since I might have answered yours directly. And if you haven’t, I’m going over such a broad range of questions that you’ll still find something relevant to you. So settle in with a cup of tea, and enjoy! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #96: There ar...

#95 - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

June 24, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 35.7 MB

From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11 ways to avoid biting it. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #95: The dictionary definition of bait causes us to focus on the wrong thing in interpersonal reactions: the other person’s intent. Instead, thin...

Episode #95 - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

June 24, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 35.7 MB

From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11 ways to avoid biting it. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #95: The dictionary definition of bait causes us to focus on the wrong thing in interpersonal reactions: the other person’s intent. Instead, thin...