Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries
145 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 411 ratingsBeyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries is a weekly podcast hosted by Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal and Creatrix of The Radiant Threefold Path. Beyond Bitchy dispels the common misperception that boundaries are selfish, rigid, and controlling, and offers a fresh vision of personal limits as a source of freedom and liberation. Get expert information about how to identify, create, and establish effective personal and relationship boundaries so that you can get the space you need, and the connection you crave.
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#94 - How Far Can You Go? Sometimes, Boundaries Are Not the Answer
June 17, 2020 07:00 - 17 minutes - 25.9 MBThis is a scary time. So many of us are dealing with fear about what’s happening and what may happen, as well as not knowing what’s going to happen or what the future will look like. So let’s talk about something uplifting, forward-thinking, and expansive, that will stretch us beyond our limited mindset, beliefs, or fears. How far can you go? Biggest Takeaways From Episode #94: The future has always been uncertain, but this year has brought that perspective to the front and center. Even...
#93 - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd)
June 10, 2020 07:00 - 41 minutes - 39.7 MBRight now, in the United States, trauma is speaking. Prejudice and racism wounds, and are potentially traumatizing to anyone who experiences them. But listening to another person’s trauma is a challenging thing to do, especially if we perceive that we may have played a part in their experience — even when remaining silent or looking away. Let’s talk about how to listen when trauma speaks. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #93: The listening boundary is the most challenging boundary for m...
#92 - How Face Masks Became Patriotic & Sexy
June 03, 2020 07:00 - 20 minutes - 27.5 MBThe title may be wishful thinking, but I want to make a case for it! Boundaries are about protection, and in boundaries terms, wearing a face mask is about protecting other people. I want to dig into this today, and talk about wearing a mask as an act of compassion, courage, honor, strength, and patriotism. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #92: Two factors, among many, that contribute to our COVID-19 death rate in the US are our failed healthcare system and our rugged individualistic mindse...
#91 - Are Boundaries Optional?
May 20, 2020 07:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBLast week, I had a totally new realization about a new boundaries framework. I stumbled on another way to conceptualize the way we experience boundaries or limits, and that’s what I want to share with you today. This is all about the hierarchy of boundaries, and whether or not boundaries are optional. Do some of us get a pass on boundaries, or get to decide that boundaries don’t apply? Tune in as I talk about anyone is “above the law” as it comes to boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episo...
Episode #90 - 7 Ways to Stop Unproductive & Harmful Thinking
May 13, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 34.1 MBHow do you stop or change thoughts that harm you? This time of uncertainty, vocational insecurity, job loss, and other upheavals is the perfect opportunity to explore being more aware of our thinking, and how our thoughts impact our emotions (and our lives). Let’s talk about seven ways you can turn around unproductive or harmful thoughts. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #90: Even in the best of times, our thoughts are usually our worst enemy. Your thoughts create your emotions, and negativ...
#90 - 7 Ways to Stop Unproductive & Harmful Thinking
May 13, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 34.1 MBHow do you stop or change thoughts that harm you? This time of uncertainty, vocational insecurity, job loss, and other upheavals is the perfect opportunity to explore being more aware of our thinking, and how our thoughts impact our emotions (and our lives). Let’s talk about seven ways you can turn around unproductive or harmful thoughts. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #90: Even in the best of times, our thoughts are usually our worst enemy. Your thoughts create your emotions, and negativ...
#89 - It's Time to Get a Better Schedule! (The Pandemic Episodes)
May 06, 2020 07:00 - 22 minutes - 28.9 MBThe challenges around structure, limit-setting, and boundaries are continuing throughout the coronavirus situation, so this is another of what I’m calling “The Pandemic Episodes.” What does life look like if it stays the same for many months — or years — to come? When one day blurs into another, it’s so easy to fall into bad habits. Grab a pen and some paper, and get ready for a workshop-inspired episode to help you fix what’s not working in your schedule. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #8...
#88 - Random Thoughts on Quarantine & Beyond (Part 3 of the Global Pandemic Episodes)
April 29, 2020 07:00 - 39 minutes - 38.7 MBI hope you and your loved ones are safe and healthy during this pandemic. A few weeks ago, when I did my first episode about COVID-19, I thought that would be my only episode on the topic. But here I am doing Part 3, because things continue to shift and change. This one will be a bit different than usual, with more of a hodgepodge of random thoughts around the pandemic. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #88: This is a scary time, and a lot of us need comfort during this disorienting exp...
#87 - How COVID-19 is Giving Us a Master Class on Boundaries (Part 2)
April 22, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 34.8 MBA couple of episodes ago, I talked about how the pandemic is giving all of us a master class in the way boundaries work. Since then, it’s become clear that those weren’t the only lessons we can be learning. Today, I’ll dig into several more lessons we can learn, and talk about how they relate to fundamental principles of personal and relationship boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #87: If you go down a rabbit hole, it’s easy for fear to get the best of us right now. In general, t...
#86 - 5 Ways to Have Fun with Boundaries
April 15, 2020 07:00 - 25 minutes - 30.7 MBDuring this global pandemic, options for having fun have been whittled away for most of us. This got me to thinking about the intersection of boundaries and fun, and that's what we're going to explore together today! I’ll share five ways to have fun with boundaries, and I hope you’ll come up with your own examples too. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #86: When you learn how personal and relationship boundaries work, they can actually be fun! Expect it to take some time to reach this point,...
#85 - How a Global Pandemic Is Giving Us a Master Class on Boundaries
April 08, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 32 MBI hope you are safe, well, and healthy during these uncertain and frightening times. We’re all making adjustments, but I’m profoundly grateful to have my health and to be here to talk to you today. Instead of sticking with my planned topic, let’s take this time to reflect on five specific lessons of the master class that this virus is giving all of us. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #85: Our personal health impacts the whole. It has never been more obvious than it is now that if you’re n...
#84 - Boundaries Quick Tips Episode #13: When Being Kind to You Means Saying "I Can't"
February 26, 2020 08:00 - 11 minutes - 22.8 MBI'll be taking the next few weeks off from the podcast to get moved into my new home — so excited! This is a perfect example of what it looks like to be kind to yourself, which is what this Quick Tips episode is all about. Learn why self-kindness is so important, how you can figure out the best way to be kind to yourself, and what all of this has to do with boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #84: Most people struggle with being kind to themselves, partly because of a fear of missi...
#83 - Finding Clarity in Not Knowing
February 19, 2020 08:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBHow do you feel about not having clarity or answers, or not knowing what to do next? Most of us (including me!) don’t like the feeling. But as hard as it is, I want to make the case for uncertainty as a distinct state in its own right, with its own unique brand of clarity. Tune in to learn how to accept uncertainty as a predictable — yet frustrating — part of life. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #83: The uncomfortable way that we feel about (and react to) not knowing is related to control...
#82 - Managing Expectations Wisely (Just in Time for Valentine's Day)
February 12, 2020 08:00 - 31 minutes - 34 MBA lot of listener questions I get have embedded expectations in them. And while not all expectations are bad, they can definitely get us into trouble. Valentine’s Day is a great example of this. You may be expecting your partner to give you flowers or show up for you in a certain way, but unless you’ve expressed this to your partner or you're not willing to take action on what you have power over, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment and disconnection. Tune in to learn how to manage...
#81 - Diagnostic Distractions: When Someone You Love is NPD, MEM, ADHD, Bi-Polar, etc.
February 05, 2020 08:00 - 16 minutes - 25.7 MBAs surprising as it may sound, you shouldn’t tailor your boundary work to the diagnosis of a loved one. Working with hundreds of women over the years, I’ve found that women tend to be more focused on trying to figure out their loved one's conditions and diagnoses, and that's why I’m dedicating this episode to women. In this episode you'll learn why digging into a loved one’s labels and conditions is ultimately a distraction from boundary work, which always starts and ends with you and your ...
#80 - How Boundaries Supercharge Your Success
January 29, 2020 08:00 - 28 minutes - 39.6 MBHave you ever considered how your boundaries may impact how successful you are professionally? I’ve always been interested in the intersection of boundaries and business, but I’ve been digging even deeper into the topic recently as I’ve added a few people to my team. Inspired by what I've observed during this process, I'm excited to share today six ways your boundaries make you more successful! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #80: From time to time, reflect on what success means to you. Tr...
#79 - Boundaries Quick Tips Episode #12: What's In Your Circle of Control?
January 22, 2020 08:00 - 18 minutes - 41.6 MBThere’s a simple reason that this episode on what's in our circle of control is a quick tips episode: our circle of control is pretty tiny! But confusion about what’s inside and outside of that circle is at the heart of many questions I get from listeners so the topic is worth reviewing. Tune in to learn how to stay in your own lane, and what to ask yourself when you're tempted to control. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #79: Our circle of control includes what we have the power to mak...
#78 - If I'm Triggered, Are You Responsible?
January 15, 2020 08:00 - 35 minutes - 65.3 MBWhen you get triggered, is the person who you got triggered by responsible? And what does this have to do with boundaries? Today’s episode will dig into these important questions. If you’re a long-time listener, you may have guessed that triggers are related to the listening boundary, which is the most difficult of the four primary boundaries. Tune in to learn about triggers, boundaries, and how to respond when you feel triggered. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #78: Triggers are indiv...
#77 - How to Get More of What You Want in 2020
January 08, 2020 08:00 - 28 minutes - 40 MBThere’s nothing wrong with wanting more, as long as what you want more of brings you more happiness, connection, abundance, satisfaction, and love. (Not more drama, pain, or junk food!) But most of us have a habit of saying and doing things that actually accomplish the exact opposite. Today, you’ll learn the secrets to turning that around and responding to situations in a way that gets you more of what you want. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #77: Wanting more of what you want isn’t selfi...
#76 - Balancing Giving & Receiving . . . Just in Time for the Holidays
December 11, 2019 08:00 - 32 minutes - 19 MBYou’re probably familiar with the idea that it’s better to give than to receive, but is it true? With the holidays coming up soon, it’s time to explore the important topic of balancing giving and receiving. Many of us are hungry to receive attention, compliments, love, and affection, but still struggle with accepting them. Tune into this episode to learn all about achieving balance and receiving graciously! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #76: Giving relates to boundary work because it’s a...
#75 - Boundaries & Mothers-In-Law
December 04, 2019 08:00 - 22 minutes - 13.6 MBLet’s talk about mothers-in-law! Even though boundaries and rules work the same way across all adult relationships, there’s a tendency to forget this with our parents and our in-laws (especially mothers-in-law). That’s why this episode is dedicated to the often-complicated relationship with mothers-in-law. If you’ve ever felt slighted by your mother-in-law or wanted more connection than she seems willing to give, this is the episode for you! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #75: Keep in mi...
#74 - 8 Phrases to Help You Keep the Peace During the Holidays
November 27, 2019 08:00 - 24 minutes - 14.3 MBHere in the US, we’re officially in the holiday season! But do you feel like the abundance of opportunities to spend time with people are actually stressful obligations? You may find yourself in a reactive (rather than responsive) mode, or feeling triggered or baited. I’d like to give you eight phrases that you can pull out to help you get through this potentially challenging season. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #74: During the holiday season, it’s easy to end up reacting rather than re...
#73 - Boundaries Quick Tips Episode #11: Finding Your "I Can't"
November 20, 2019 08:00 - 11 minutes - 7.3 MBAs you’ll hear in my voice, I’ve been under the weather lately. This quick tips episode is partially inspired by my recent experiences while sick, when I’ve had plenty of opportunities to say “I can’t.” As you’ll learn today, expressing your “I can’t” is the best choice not only for you, but also everyone who you want to have a close, intimate relationship with. If you’re confused or intrigued by the idea, or struggle with saying “no” or “I can’t,” don’t miss this episode! Biggest Takeaway...
#72 - Are There Different "Boundaries Rules" for Loved Ones?
November 13, 2019 08:00 - 19 minutes - 11.8 MBHave you ever thought that boundary work is different with loved ones? If so, this episode is for you! Even in my own family, some people expected family members to do certain things that they would never expect from anyone else, just because we were family. Today’s episode will dig into whether there are different rules for boundaries with family or loved ones than with everyone else. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #72: Some people behave as if being family exempts a person from bein...
#71 - Men, Requests, & The Man Cave
November 06, 2019 15:53 - 35 minutes - 20.8 MBWhile this episode is about men, it’s actually intended for women, and addresses a common dynamic between the genders. I’ll dig into how a common desire among women can come across to men as pressure or control, and cause them to go into their "cave." Tune in to learn why it’s so important to let your man go to his cave when he needs to! And if you’re a LGTBQ+ listener, please reach out to let me know if this dynamic plays out in your relationships! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #71:...
#70 - Two Types of Self-Care & Committing to Both!
October 30, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 18.2 MBKnowing the two types of self-care and practicing both is good for you and everyone around you! Tune in and learn the two types of self-care, why you may be challenged around meeting your self-care needs and how to hold yourself accountable for practicing good self-care. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #70: There are two types of self-care: self-care needs and self-care wants. We learn about self-care first in our family of origin. If some of our needs were neglected as children, we m...
#69 - Boundaries Quick Tips #10: Why You Should Wait for the Ask
October 23, 2019 07:00 - 15 minutes - 9.08 MBHave you gotten into a habit of answering questions that haven't even been asked? It's easy to do, especially when you can tell that the other person is feeling insecure, fearful, or potentially angry with you. Tune in and learn how to recognize statements that seem like questions and why you should avoid answering. Plus, tips on how to do that while preserving your energy, minimizing drama, and maintaining connection. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #69: How to recognize a temptation to a...
#68 - Giving, Receiving and Boundaries
October 16, 2019 07:00 - 23 minutes - 13.6 MBHave you ever felt pressured to give to another person — your time, money, or something material? Giving is a boundary issue, and you hold the power to choose to give or to not give. Choosing wisely keeps you resentment free. Tune in and learn how it works! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #68: Giving and receiving come both come from a place of abundance. Skillful gifting comes from a foundation of an abundance of spirit and resources, and good receivers graciously express their apprecia...
#67 - What is “Unreasonable?” [Spoiler Alert: It’s in the Eye of the Beholder]
October 09, 2019 07:00 - 20 minutes - 12.3 MBHas anyone ever told you that you were being unreasonable or that you made an unreasonable request? It's a common argument, with a simple resolution. In today's episode Vicki talks about why unreasonable is in the eye of the beholder, and how you can avoid arguing about whether or not something is unreasonable. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #67: What is reasonable is a perception or an opinion. Arguments about what is reasonable or unreasonable tend to arise when someone makes a reques...
#66 - Managing Draining People and Over-Sharers (Women’s Episode)
October 02, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 18.1 MBIts that time again the first episode of the month, the one that is dedicated to women and boundaries. Are you friends with someone who is draining you? Do they make you tired because they won’t stop talking? Vicki is going to give us some simple strategies to distance yourself to stop the madness. Vicki shares with us the consequences of allowing over-sharers too much of our time, the things you can miss out on and the relief you will feel once you disengage from them. She says when we ta...
#65 - Giving Unsolicited Advice, Take 2
September 25, 2019 07:00 - 28 minutes - 17 MBIf you're feeling a bit unclear about whether or not you're giving unsolicited feedback or advice, today's episode is going to give you the clarity you need. Vicki talks about one sure-fire way to know you're not giving unsolicited advice, why you should avoid offering feedback when it's not requested, and how we can fall into the trap of giving feedback when what we really want to do is control another person. Tune in! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #65: Giving unsolicited advice even wh...
#64 - Boundaries Quick Tips #9: Is Sex a “Need” Your Partner Must Fulfill for You?
September 18, 2019 07:00 - 11 minutes - 7.24 MBAre you feeling pressured to have sex with your partner or spouse? While this is a serious topic that deserves time, the answer is clear and unambiguous. Vicki provides answers for both the one being pressured, and the person pressuring their partner for sex. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #64: No person has a right to another person’s body! Even if sex is a need rather than a want, it doesn’t mean another person must fulfill it for us. Adults are responsible for taking care of their...
#63 - How to Fix a One-Sided Relationship
September 11, 2019 16:00 - 24 minutes - 14.2 MBHave you ever felt like you were in a one-sided relationship? This episode was inspired by a listener asking for help with that very issue. Vicki explain how to set boundaries if you feel you're being taken advantage of, and why if you don’t, you may end up feeling angry and resentful. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #63: Healthy relationships feel mutual, even though there may be temporary imbalances in giving and receiving. One-sided relationship usually cause anger, which leads to re...
#62 - How Over-Giving Damages Intimacy (Women’s Episode)
September 04, 2019 07:00 - 29 minutes - 17.2 MBThis first episode of the month is dedicated to the topic of women and boundaries. We'll talk about over-giving and how it can damage intimacy in relationships between women and men. Vicki gives us 5 ways ways over-giving can damage intimacy. Tune in! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #62: Men and women are totally different animals, so to speak, so it's unhelpful to assume they see the world the same way. Almost 70% of women initiate divorce in heterosexual relationships. Women have a ...
#61 - 4 Reasons Why Arguing Perceptions is a Losing Battle
August 28, 2019 07:00 - 31 minutes - 18.5 MBIn this episode Vicki talks about why arguing perceptions is almost always a losing battle. Perceptions are just opinions, and everyone has one. When we argue perceptions we forget that everyone has a right to theirs, and that two people can have exactly the same experience and perceive it completely differently. And the worst part is we often lose intimacy with others for the sake of being right, winning an argument, or simply proving out point. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #61: Your o...
#60 - Quick Tips #8: Do Children Have a Right to Set Boundaries?
August 21, 2019 07:00 - 14 minutes - 8.98 MBA listener wanted to know if her child has a right to decide who, when, and how she plays with her friends. Vicki answers this question, and offers some great tips on how to handle parents — or even family members — who criticize your child when she wants to set a boundary. If you're a parent or will become one in the future you, this is information about children and boundaries that you need to know. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #60: Children have a right to say no when they are asked ...
#59 - When You Get Stuck on Making a Request
August 14, 2019 07:00 - 32 minutes - 19 MBThis episode was inspired by another listener's great question on how to avoid getting stuck when you (may) need to make a request. Vicki breaks it down and gives us tips on how to be more specific in our requests and what you say when you want something to stop, or you want a change of behavior from another person. Listen in to hear Vicki’s do’s and don’ts for making requests, tools and strategies for making requests easier, and insight on when the time is right for the best outcome. Bigg...
#58 - Codependency & Boundaries
August 07, 2019 07:00 - 46 minutes - 27 MBIt's time to talk about boundaries and codependency! In today's episode we'll discuss how to recognize codependency, why codependency is a boundary problem, and how to stay on your side of the street. We're all battling codependency to one degree or another, so tune in and find out how codependency stops you from creating the limits you need to create. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #58: How to recognize codependency in your life. Why codependency is a boundary problem. The 5 core...
#57 - Emotional Vampires & Boundary Violators in the Workplace
July 31, 2019 07:00 - 33 minutes - 19.8 MBHow do you deal with emotional vampires and boundary-violators in the workplace? Learn what an emotional vampire is, along with tools for responding to their intrusive behaviors. This episode is all about exercising your right to privacy and boundaries while maintaining professional relationships in the workplace. Tune in! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #57: How to deal with people who act victimized by boundaries that you’ve set. Why "shoulding" is a form of manipulation. Learn w...
#56 - Boundaries Quick Tips # 7: When You Didn't See That Boundary Coming . .
July 24, 2019 07:47 - 21 minutes - 12.6 MBThis episode is a quick bit of boundary truth! A listener wrote in asking about what to do when a very hard boundary comes seemingly out of nowhere. Tune in to learn what to do when you just didn't see that boundary coming, and get a refresher about non-negotiable boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #56: We discuss what non-negotiable boundaries are and why they present a problem for open communication. Learn the two types of non-negotiable boundaries and why that knowledge dire...
#55 - Extreme Accountability
July 17, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 17.7 MBHave you ever made a commitment to yourself or to someone you care about that you didn’t keep? Have you ever promised yourself you would stop doing something or even treating another person abusively, but you just couldn't stop? Then it may be time for extreme accountability! Listen to learn why it's sometimes necessary to interject some extreme accountability in your life, and stay tuned to the end to hear my extreme accountability commitment to you! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #55...
#54 - Above & Beyond Gratitude: Expressing Appreciation for the Ordinary and "Expected”
June 19, 2019 07:00 - 18 minutes - 11.2 MBExpressing appreciation and gratitude communicates love to the important people in your life. Understanding how your loved ones receive — or want to receive — appreciation requires both a good talking and listening boundary. When is the last time you expressed gratitude for the small things? Are you confused about expressing gratitude for the "basics" in a relationship due to past hurts? Tune in and learn more about expressing appreciation and gratitude. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #54:...
#53 - Practicing Healthy Detachment
June 05, 2019 07:00 - 32 minutes - 19.1 MBWondering how detachment relates to boundaries and why practicing detachment is so difficult? Listen close because in today’s episode we dig into the definition of detachment and how properly implementing this skill in our relationships will help strengthen them and our boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #53: Detachment cannot be practiced without boundaries because no matter how you choose to detach, a boundary must be set for detachment to succeed. It is important to recognize...
#52 - Quick Tips #6: What Not to Do On an Elevator Alone With a Woman
May 22, 2019 07:00 - 16 minutes - 10 MBThis quick tips episode is officially called “What Not to Do On an Elevator Alone With a Woman,” but it’s actually a boundary rant. Speaking of boundary rants, I’ve been thinking about making rants a regular series on the blog. If I do, I’ll even invite listeners to call in with recorded rants about boundaries, and then play a few on the podcast. If that sounds interesting to you, send me a note! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #52: This episode was inspired by a recent experience in an el...
#51 - Intuitives, Empaths & The Personal Energy Boundary
May 15, 2019 15:54 - 28 minutes - 17 MBToday’s episode is all about intuitives, empaths, and the personal energy boundary. If you think that sounds a little woo-woo or out there, I get it! If you immediately recognize yourself in the title, I get that too. More than others, this episode may not be for some people—but I think it will be deeply valuable for the people who do resonate with the topic. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #51: The personal energy boundary is our felt sense of another person’s energy. It might not be some...
#50 - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries
May 08, 2019 07:00 - 32 minutes - 18.9 MBAt some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Episode #49 and #50. I’m so glad to be back! Biggest Takeaways From Episode #50: At certain points in our lives, each of us needs to go into ...
#49 - Quick Tips #5: 4 Signs Your Boundaries May Be Too Harsh
March 20, 2019 07:00 - 16 minutes - 9.76 MBHas anyone ever told you that your boundaries are too harsh? Probably so! If they have, this is the episode for you. If you automatically believe your boundaries are too harsh, you will likely lead you down the wrong path. After all, getting pushback on boundaries is usually a sign that, at a minimum, you’re doing something different! It is possible, though, for boundaries to be over-the-top. You’ll learn four signs today that your boundaries have gone too far. Biggest Takeaways From E...
#48 - Relationship Boundaries with Mother Enmeshed Men (MEM)
March 13, 2019 07:00 - 45 minutes - 26.7 MBThis is the first episode of the month, so it’s dedicated to the topic of women and boundaries. Specifically, this episode is a response to a listener’s question about being in a relationship with a man who suffers from mother enmeshment. If you haven’t heard of this term, this episode will clarify what mother enmeshment is, how it develops, as well as what you need to know if you are in an intimate relationship with a mother-enmeshed spouse. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #48: Enmeshment...
#47 - Boundaries With “Avoiders”
February 27, 2019 08:00 - 37 minutes - 22.1 MBThis episode is for anyone who needs to learn more about boundaries, but I have a special announcement today for listeners who are betrayed partners. The Friday after this episode airs, I'll be starting a start a five-part class: The Survive and Thrive Blueprint Live Online Mini-Course. Registration is open until February 28 at 11:59 PM! Today’s episode is inspired by a listener’s question about the role of boundaries in relationships with what she calls “avoiders.” Tune in and learn all a...
#46 - Boundaries Quick Tips #4 | Are You Open to Feedback?
February 20, 2019 08:00 - 20 minutes - 11.9 MBHave you ever been given advice, suggestions, recommendations, or feedback that you didn’t ask for or want? Or maybe you tend to offer these things yourself? I was inspired to create this episode shortly before Valentine’s Day, when a blog follower let me know about a typo in an email I sent to one of my lists. Tune in to learn why giving unsolicited advice and feedback is problematic, how to determine whether to offer another person feedback, and what to do if someone offers you their unsol...