The Hidden Trauma of Emotionally Immature Parenting with Clinical Psychologist Stephanie Carinia

On this episode, you’ll hear my interview with Stephanie Carinia, a trauma and personality specialist based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Stephanie is trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) and Schema-Focused Therapy (SFT).

We cover a lot of ground on this episode, including:

■ A therapist view of working with patients with borderline personality disorder (BPD / EUPD)

■ BPD rage and how it impacts / feels for pwBPD as well as partners and loved ones

■ Navigating and overcoming paranoid thoughts

■ Splitting behaviors and fear of rejection (how we split on ourselves as well as our loved ones)

■ How BPD impacts intimate relationships (how to create a healthier dynamic and heal)

■ “Destigmatizing manipulation” (everyone does it, not just people with BPD)

■ How generational trauma and abuse is passed on and how we can break the cycle

■ How many of us think we are “empaths” but are often out of touch with true empathy (mentalization)

■ The soul-crushing damage of approval-seeking behaviors and fear of abandonment (“do you love me?)

■ Understanding emotionally immature parenting behaviors (and how to set boundaries)

■ Advice for those newly diagnosed with BPD

■ “The Alien Self” (how most individuals with personality disorders grow up without developing a strong sense of self and shifting identity)

■ Understanding the inner critical parent and self-loathing

■ The role gaslighting plays in childhood trauma (and how to recognize it)

■ Learning to trust our intuition and connecting with our sense of agency (developing an “inner safe space”)  

■ Ego fear and perfectionistic parenting (how to tell the difference between an “ego reaction” vs. authentic emotion)

■ How becoming comfortable with making mistakes and embracing our humanity is essential to recovery from childhood trauma

■ How to emotionally validate children in a healthy way (the importance of emotional maturity)

■ What are “emotional injuries” and what do they look like?

CONNECT WITH STEPHANIE:

Website: https://www.psychologiststephanie.com/

Instagram: @psychologiststephanie

Stephanie’s new relationship-based IG page: @psychologiststeph

OTHER MENTIONED RESOURCES:

Instagram: Seerut Chawla MBACP (Psychotherapist)

Instagram: Barlas Günay (Psychologist)  

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