The BPD "favorite person" or FP relationship (disowned parts, original pain and abandonment wounds) | E17

back from the borderline

English - November 03, 2021 18:53 - 1 hour - 74.6 MB - ★★★★★ - 394 ratings
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Previous Episode: 16. How I Reparented Myself Through Chronic Feelings of Emptiness & Fear of Dying

Next Episode: 18. Growing Up Queer Struggling with Sexuality, ADHD, Shifting Self-Image & Self-Harm (ft. Jared Gelman)

I was determined to make the most epic, in-depth, spot on and healing FP episode in all of borderline content land, and you know what? I think I damn well did it. :)

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below are the topics covered on this episode:

0:00 | Intro (a meditation on feeling welcome)

03:34 | what’s coming next for the podcast? (big announcement!)

06:30 | why I chose to work with koji and patreon and what that means for you as a listener

11:21 | what is koji / how you can use it to interact with me directly

16:37 | patreon: how to choose which tier is best for you

24:25 | social media posts that stopped me in my tracks this week

25:12 | how our struggle with hearing “no” and rejection keeps us from experiencing real love

31:58 | spoken word poetry about processing childhood trauma and cPTSD

35:01 | breaking “toxic cycles” – exploring attachment issues due to abandonment trauma

41:00 | the pain people with bpd feel when we lose someone close to us

46:16 | when we grow up believing love = pain and how that impacts our adult relationships

47:40 | what is the core issue at the heart of the favorite person relationship?

53:40 | a moment of silence for the years of our lives pwbpd have spent waiting for a text back

55:10 | unpacking paranoid thinking in people with bpd in FP relationships

57:00 | shifting identity based upon our current partner – how to reconnect to your authentic sense of identity

1:03:30 | the impact of teen bullying on fp relationships and development of bpd (disowning parts of ourselves in childhood)

1:07:00 | the dangers of toxic “fp” relationships (feeling clingy and needy, pushing people away)

1:11:20 | how pwBPD can begin healing and approaching relationships in a healthier way

1:13:30 | “original pain work” - the abandonment wounds that create FP bonds later in life (toxic shame, cPTSD)

1:24:35 | how to express anger in a healthy way through voice dialogue

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon

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Maria Sosa, MS, MFT, Therapist

Mark Grove (@createthelove)