How to reclaim your sexuality after feeling like a sexual object (ft. Dr. Alexandra Solomon)
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English - May 02, 2022 10:00 - 42 minutes - 79.6 MB - ★★★★★ - 362 ratingsMental Health Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement spirituality podcast cptsd recovery complex trauma trauma healing childhood trauma self sabotage generational trauma jungian psychology depth psychology codependent podcast Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
On this episode of the podcast, I sat down with licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, author and retreat leader Dr. Alexandra Solomon to discuss how we can rediscover what a connection to the erotic looks like for ourselves and how to become more deeply grounded in pleasure - with or without a partner.
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER:
■ Felt so disconnected from your erotic nature that you’ve wondered if maybe you were asexual?
■ Spent much of your life feeling like you’ve performed sexuality rather than actually enjoying sex for yourself?
■Wanted to rip your own fingernails off when you see spiritual gurus on Instagram claiming to help you reconnect with your “divine feminine energy” if only you’d just drop $4k for their “healing course”?
■ Consistently faked orgasms to make sure your partner feels satisfied, while completely neglecting your own needs, leaving you feeling resentful of sex or dreading it as some kind of forced chore?
IN THE FULL EPISODE, WE ALSO EXPLORE:
■ The feeling of having a “sexual blockage”
■ The experience of dissociating during sex
■ Feeling like we have to “perform” sexually to land a partner
■ How to actually start reconnecting with your pleasure by finding what Dr. Solomon calls “tiny bites” or “edges”
■ Being so preoccupied with what your partner needs and how you look/smell/taste/sound during sex that what you need doesn’t even come into the equation
■ My experience as a sugar baby and working in private poker rooms in LA and the damage it did to my connection with my sexuality
■ Dr. Solomon’s view on what I call “the OnlyFans phenomenon” and “sex as self-harm”
■ The impact hard-core porn on sites like PornHub is having on intimacy and how this is enforcing “problematic gendered scripts”
■ The importance of promoting ethical, thoughtful and “intimacy-promoting” pornography and content creators
■ Women & porn (and the shame we feel around watching it)
■ Why Dr. Solomon believes faking orgasms is a form of “self-abandonment” (and how we can learn to “disrupt the sexual script” once and for all)
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Book | Reclaiming Pleasure by Holly Richmond
Book | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
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https://dralexandrasolomon.com/
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