BPD Splitting (Part 2) | The Good and Bad Breast | EP 02
back from the borderline
English - July 20, 2021 02:32 - 41 minutes - 32.9 MB - ★★★★★ - 394 ratingsMental Health Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement spirituality podcast cptsd recovery complex trauma trauma healing childhood trauma self sabotage generational trauma jungian psychology depth psychology codependent podcast Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
To split something means to divide it. “Splitting” is often considered a hallmark of BPD / EUPD. It is characterized by the propensity to completely idealize or devalue other people, places, ideas, or objects. To see them as all good or all bad. Splitting causes those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder to view life, ourselves, and others in extremes. Black and white thinking, no gray areas.
This episode of Back from the Borderline is part two of a three-part deep-dive on Splitting.
In this episode, Mollie talks about the history of the term splitting, how the term is discussed in professional therapeutic circles, and her own experience with splitting after an unexpected breakup. She finishes by reading passages from others in the BPD community to shed light on the fact that everyone suffering with BPD has their own unique experience.
• 01:40 Intro - The importance of the concept of integration for those of us with BPD
• 07:01 What we can learn about making integrity our "one thing" (from Glennon Doyle)
• 11:30 How identifying with our Higher Self can reduce splitting and other coping / defense mechanisms
• 14:45 How the DSM defines splitting and mood reactivity
• 17:08 Splitting as a developmental stage: how splitting behavior begins in infancy
• 17:08 Object relations theory, our two primary "drives", and the "good breast" and "the bad breast"
• 20:57 Otto Kernberg's developmental model as it relates to splitting and integrating feelings of love and hate
• 24:40 The loop we get stuck in if splitting isn't resolved in childhood and the act of reparenting ourselves
• 25:56 How media attention is primarily focused high profile and extreme examples of splitting
• 27:00 Splitting across history and the resulting grand-scale generational trauma
• 30:00 How drawing a daily Tarot card (yes, really) became an important emotional regulation tool in my BPD recovery toolbox
• 32:22 Outro - The powerful messages about our Highest Self and integration that we can find in the Tarot card "The Lovers"
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