19 Year Old Shrink
121 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago - ★★★★★ - 210 ratingsAt first glance you’re probably thinking this show was made by that guy going up to people at parties asking about their self development and meditation experience; and so would I. After all, I'm a 19 year old dude hopping in front of a mic talking about feelings. Actually, this podcast was created during the struggles of Covid and is used as a vehicle to deliver on the areas where we have fallen short in our lives. I interview business leaders, sports figures, life coaches and many more influencers. I ask them the questions I think you would want answered. Join me every week for a new episode, new interview, and new insight!
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The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why We Become Deceived
May 04, 2022 06:00 - 6 minutes - 4.17 MBIn this episode I talk about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. This fallacy is when a person refuses to abandon something because they have invested so much into it already. Perfect examples of this are when you go to sports game and spend a ton of money on seats, and your favorite team is getting smoked, but you want to stay until the end because you payed good money. But, you already spent the money, nothing can change that, and what you don’t realize is you could do something more productive with t...
Missing Tile Syndrome: How to Fill the Mosaic
April 27, 2022 04:00 - 7 minutes - 5.21 MBThis episode is a perfect metaphor for so many experiences in our life. We have so many times that are worth appreciating, “the little tiles” that make up the bigger mosaic. But sometimes there’s one thing that’s faulty, “the missing tile” that causes us to lose sight of all of the great things we have going for us. As a result, we have a negativity bias that is based on lack. In this episode, I discuss areas where I have fallen short with this and how we can overcome the Missing Tile Syndr...
One Year Later: How to Stay Consistent with Your Passion
April 20, 2022 04:00 - 8 minutes - 5.94 MBIn this episode I talk about all of the learning experiences that have come with staying consistent over the last year with this podcast. Funny enough, I planned on quitting doing the podcast right before putting out the first episode a year ago Tuesday. Im laughing thinking about this but I was scared and worried people would judge me and call me a know it all because I was a 19 year old kid giving life advice. But if I did, I would’ve missed out on all of the amazing people that I have be...
Breaking Down the Methods of Persuasion
April 12, 2022 17:00 - 4 minutes - 3.36 MBIn this episode I talk about the importance of persuasion and what causes certain people to be more persuasive than others. The two key factors in this talk are about central route persuasion as well as peripheral route persuasion. Central route focuses on the actual argument that is being made, while peripheral focuses on surface level aspects of an argument. For example, central would be the words of the speech, whereas peripheral would be the attractiveness of the speaker or credibility ...
Why Do People Lose Interest in Those That Show Too Much Interest?
April 06, 2022 04:00 - 8 minutes - 5.63 MBIn this episode I talk about the idea of wanting what you don’t have. Specifically what I’ve seen with a lot of my friends and even myself is the idea of losing interest in people that show too much interest. Someone who you were initially interested in starts texting more often, getting to the point where they’re asking to hangout a lot more than you are. Or, maybe the situation is flipped. But, at face value, everything looks completely fine. Someone who you are interested in shows a lot ...
Mapping Out a Creative Day: Giving Your Mind a Break
March 29, 2022 07:00 - 7 minutes - 5.02 MBIn this episode, I talk about the importance of taking a creative day. This is something that I’ve done in the past that’s not always easy. We spend so much of our time trying to respond to emails, get groceries done, do schoolwork, and succeed in jobs. And taking a day off from all of that sometimes gives us the idea that we are taking a step back. But, what I’ve learned is that we’re actually taking a step “back” to take two steps forward. By having this free day, we are able to improve o...
Destigmatizing Mental Health on College Campuses with Will Brennan
March 22, 2022 22:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBIn this episode I sit down with my friend Will. He is a sociology major here at LMU and is VP of Recruitment for Agape, a service org on campus. During our talk, we learn about his upbringing as a child and how that led to his passion for destigmatizing mental health. Stories of his father leaving and lack of acceptance for seeking outside help along with the great support from his mom fuel an in depth perspective of childhood impact on our lives. Will later goes into his experience with t...
Discovering Your Ikigai: Finding Your Purpose
March 16, 2022 06:00 - 9 minutes - 6.5 MBIn this one I talk about where I and others struggle to find that balance towards our Ikigai and what questions we need to ask ourselves in order to discover it. Some of those questions include: What do you love? What are you good at? What does the world need from you? What can you get paid for? Many people might thrive in one specific area but are lacking in another, which causes doubt and insecurities to creep in. These doubts start to give us anxiety which makes us feel further away ...
Aiming High and Missing Vs. Aiming Low and Hitting
March 08, 2022 19:00 - 7 minutes - 5.17 MBIn this episode I talk about aiming high and missing vs. aiming low and hitting. This is the idea of people including myself being afraid of having too high expectations and not reaching their goals. And most of the time, people don’t fail completely, they just succeed at something that requires lower expectations. In this one I’ll talk about where I’ve been a victim of this and how to be ok with aiming high and missing and using it as a vehicle towards success.
Aiming High and Missing Vs. Aiming Low and Hitting
March 08, 2022 19:00 - 7 minutes - 5.17 MBIn this episode I talk about aiming high and missing vs. aiming low and hitting. This is the idea of people including myself being afraid of having too high expectations and not reaching their goals. And most of the time, people don’t fail completely, they just succeed at something that requires lower expectations. In this one I’ll talk about where I’ve been a victim of this and how to be ok with aiming high and missing and using it as a vehicle towards success.
Training Your Brain To Not Think Worst Case Scenario
March 01, 2022 08:00 - 5 minutes - 4.14 MBIn this episode I talk about our natural inclination towards worst case scenario thinking. With my own life, I’ve seen that I’ve naturally resorted to that way of thinking because it gives off the illusion of being more prepared. We feel as though worrying about things has some sort of productive nature rather than allowing things to run their course and be at ease with it. Something that has been said is the idea that when you might be worried about something you said or did, chances are ...
Hurting People's Feelings: Dealing with Cognitive Dissonance
February 22, 2022 19:00 - 4 minutes - 3.29 MBIn this episode I discuss the role that cognitive dissonance has when hurting other people. This state is the feeling of discomfort that we have when our actions or decisions aren’t in line with our beliefs and values. I experienced this recently this last week, and learned in class that there are three ways to reduce dissonance. The first way to reduce dissonance is to change the behavior, the second being changing the cognition, and the third is adding a new cognition. I use an example of...
Finding Ways to Stand out in a Competitive Society
February 15, 2022 23:00 - 7 minutes - 4.96 MBIn this one I talk about the reality of how our world is getting more competitive each and everyday. And finding ways to stand out is very important. One example I give is with handwriting letters. I used to laugh at my dad when he told me to do this, but now I realize how effective it was. When applying to jobs or building relationships, it’s easy to fall into the crowd. “They were a good interview” “They were a nice person” is fine, but this is something that will allow others to remember...
Soulpreneurship and Changing Your Life Story with Varun Gandhi
February 08, 2022 22:00 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MBIn this episode, I interview Varun Gandhi, who is the host of “What’s your Story” show on YouTube and a successful soulpreneur that spends much of his time trying to help others reshape the stories they tell themselves. He originally was an environmental engineer who lacked direction in his life. This led to him feeling consistent pain in his solar plexus when he would wake up in the morning. He would continue to go back to the same job, but eventually listened to his body, and realized he...
Soulpreneurship and Changing Your Life Story with Varun Ghandi
February 08, 2022 22:00 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MBIn this episode, I interview Varun Ghandi, who is the host of “What’s your Story” show on YouTube and a successful soulpreneur that spends much of his time trying to help others reshape the stories they tell themselves. He originally was an environmental engineer who lacked direction in his life. This led to him feeling consistent pain in his solar plexus when he would wake up in the morning. He would continue to go back to the same job, but eventually listened to his body, and realized he...
How to Get Out of a Creative Slump
February 01, 2022 19:00 - 8 minutes - 5.77 MBIn this episode I talk about how to get out of a creative rut. And to start, some people think that they aren’t creative at all. They think that they have to be an artist, musician, etc. to have creative ability. But even when applying for job or writing a speech, you need to use your creativity to deliver the most unique message possible to others. One of the tools I use for when I’m lacking that creativity is staring off into space. Sometimes when we meditate, we put pressure on ourselve...
Appreciating the Temporary Nature of Life
January 25, 2022 22:00 - 8 minutes - 6.13 MBIn this episode I talk about accepting some parts of life as temporary. And when you hear this, usually you would think of this as being negative, but it really isn’t. Sometimes we start off struggling, begin noticing we’re struggling, and then putting more weight on it to the point where it becomes a bigger problem that we think will last forever. On the flip side, when things are going really well, we take it for granted and don’t realize that this feeling won’t last forever. We don’t ...
Public Speaking Blunders: Getting Over Embarrassment
January 19, 2022 02:00 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about something that everyone has gone through at some point: public speaking blunders. Throughout this talk, I describe an experience I had last week with public speaking where I messed up a speech and felt really embarrassed. Sometimes we go into a speech with a specific vision, put in all the work we needed to, and it still doesn't go as well as planned. When this happens, we start overanalyzing what others are thinking about us and thinking in the context of wor...
Public Speaking Blunders: Getting Over Embarrassment
January 19, 2022 02:00 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about something that everyone has gone through at some point: public speaking blunders. Throughout this talk, I describe an experience I had last week with public speaking where I messed up a speech and felt really embarrassed. Sometimes we go into a speech with a specific vision, put in all the work we needed to, and it still doesn't go as well as planned. When this happens, we start overanalyzing what others are thinking about us and thinking in the context of wor...
Why Keeping Lifelong Friendships is Important
January 12, 2022 01:00 - 10 minutes - 6.99 MBIn this episode I talk about the importance of keeping your friendships throughout the years. This became more relevant as I came to college, because being far away from home definitely presents its challenges. But, by keeping these friendships with people who we are close to, we are able to not only keep those good memories close to us but gain a new perspective on the tough ones. We naturally associate people in our lives with different times and feelings about those times. And when we st...
Texting Anxiety: Creating a World of Miscommunication
January 04, 2022 22:00 - 8 minutes - 6.01 MBIn this episode I talk about the anxiety that comes with the age of texting. I’ve noticed from a lot of the conversations I’ve had with others and also my own experiences, good communication can be thrown out the window when texting. Without body language and tone of voice, it could sometimes be difficult to understand the true meaning of someone’s message. And from here, we sometimes make up these stories about why someone responded a certain way, and sometimes they can feel self inflicted...
Falling Into February: How To Keep New Years Resolutions
December 28, 2021 19:00 - 8 minutes - 6.11 MBIn this episode, I discuss the reasons why so many people including myself don't follow through with their New Years Resolutions. Much of the struggle to keep them lies in not being specific with your goals and for focusing too much on the end result. An example that I give is "I want to eat better," but what does "Better" mean? Throughout this talk, I discuss focusing more on what feeling you want to get from the goal you have, because everything that we want in life is traced back to a ...
Holiday Hack for Getting Back Your Good Habits
December 21, 2021 08:00 - 18 minutes - 12.5 MBThis episode is definitely very relevant for our winter break right now. Although it was very exciting returning to in person classes and meetings, the adjustment was definitely challenging. For myself and some of my friends who I’ve talked to, quarantine allowed us to become regimented in our routine and build a lot of structure for ourselves when we didn’t naturally have it. With going back to in person classes, I felt like I lost a lot of those habits and routines, making this semester ...
Improving Teaching Effectiveness with Michael Weinraub
December 14, 2021 21:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBIn this episode, I talk with Michael Weinraub about his efforts in creating a more effective environment for learners to learn and teachers to teach. He describes his experiences starting out as a teacher in the LA Unified School district and how those extremely difficult first years allowed him to gain a lot of knowledge into helping students. He mentions the idea of being able to look at the entire class as a whole while also being able to understand each individual and their different l...
Improving Learning Effectiveness with Michael Weinraub
December 14, 2021 21:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBIn this episode, I talk with Michael Weinraub about his efforts in creating a more effective environment for learners to learn and teachers to teach. He describes his experiences starting out as a teacher in the LA Unified School district and how those extremely difficult first years allowed him to gain a lot of knowledge into helping students. He mentions the idea of being able to look at the entire class as a whole while also being able to understand each individual and their different l...
American Christmas: Decorating New York City and Beyond with Fred Schwam
December 07, 2021 08:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBIn this episode, I interview Fred Schwam, former owner and CEO of American Christmas. This company is focused on commercial holiday decorating throughout New York City and around the world. Fred took over the company when he was just 21 years old and describes his 30+ years of experience building up the company to where it is today. He started off as the production person, bookkeeper, truck driver, decorator, and salesperson. For the first 9 years of his career, he hadn’t seen any huge res...
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
November 30, 2021 08:00 - 12 minutes - 8.69 MBThis episode focuses on overcoming Imposter Syndrome, which is feeling inept in a specific area of your life despite all of the experiences and accomplishments that you have. I was listening to Ed Mylett's interview with NFL Hall of Famer Michael Strahan, which inspired this topic. Strahan mentioned how even with all of his accomplishments, whenever he’s preparing an interview, or speaking with another accomplished person, he still has those feelings of self doubt creep in, wondering if he ...
Avoiding Advice From People Who Lack What You Want
November 23, 2021 08:00 - 10 minutes - 7.04 MBDuring this episode I discuss our ability to sometimes look for advice from people who shouldn't be giving us advice. In my own experience, sometimes I view them as being a great emotional support for me during a tough time, and I remember them giving great advice for one moment in my life. And from there, we assume that they will give great advice in every area of our life. But everyone has strengths and weaknesses in their life, and it’s important to decide who the best person to help you...
Avoiding Advice From People Who Lack What You Want
November 23, 2021 08:00 - 10 minutes - 7.04 MBDuring this episode I discuss our ability to sometimes look for advice from people who shouldn't be giving us advice. In my own experience, sometimes I view them as being a great emotional support for me during a tough time, and I remember them giving great advice for one moment in my life. And from there, we assume that they will give great advice in every area of our life. But everyone has strengths and weaknesses in their life, and it’s important to decide who the best person to help you...
Being Okay With Not Having All the Answers
November 17, 2021 01:00 - 13 minutes - 9.14 MBIn this episode I discuss something we’ve all experienced which is not having all the answers. Something that I’ve struggled to accept and especially up to this point in my life which can be tough And sometimes detaching yourself from a situation or being vulnerable can be really intimidating to start off, especially when you have so much running through your mind. Maybe you’ve never experienced these feelings before and you’re trying to push them away, or you really don’t know how to feel ...
The Entrepreneurial Mindset in Every Aspect of Your Life
November 09, 2021 21:00 - 8 minutes - 5.95 MBIn this episode I talk about the lessons I learned during startup weekend at LMU, where we had 54 hours to build a prototype for a business idea. I start off talking about how much your initial plan for a business idea changes and how looking back on it five years down the line, you realize you took a completely different path. Our product, “The Dream Machine” was an app designed to help people journal about their dreams so that they can be able to track how they are feeling in a specific p...
Stopping Three Feet From Gold: Quitting Before Seeing the Reward
November 02, 2021 07:00 - 9 minutes - 6.81 MBIn this episode I discuss the struggle that exists of people quitting right before they see the results. A lot of times we are putting in the effort day after day and we start expecting that this effort will immediately show results and when it doesn’t, we give up. And a lot of that comes from the perception of instant gratification that is portrayed on social media and other outlets. In our society today with the vast amount of opportunities and different industry’s developing, it can some...
Humility in the Age of Over Exposure
October 26, 2021 08:00 - 8 minutes - 5.79 MBThis episode explores humility in the context of current society. We are inundated with visions of comparison and there is often this understanding that others might be getting more recognition than ourselves. And we begin to crave that feeling so much, that when we don’t get it, we begin talking about our accomplishments until we do. And in my opinion, this relates back to our past experience of receiving recognition. When we did something great, we were acknowledged. In my opinion we begi...
Project Memento: Exploring Mindfulness in Every Day Life with Josh Nutson
October 19, 2021 09:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MBIn this episode, my friend Josh Nutson joins to discuss his experience with mindfulness. Josh is a Management major and Psychology minor at Loyola Marymount and has spent much of the last year focusing not only on the benefits of mindfulness but the different ways an individual can experience it. For college students, Covid was definitely a time for self discovery, and in our conversation Josh reflects on him learning more about becoming more present and mindful of his experiences. We s...
Seeking Other People's Approval: How to Change Your Perspective
October 12, 2021 08:00 - 10 minutes - 7.09 MBIn this episode, I discuss something we have all struggled with at one time or another; caring about what people think. And sometimes it's good to care about what people think, because they are doing it in your best interest. One example of this discussed in the episode involves cheating on a test, and your friend telling you it's not the right thing to do. Being open minded to your friends advice and realizing that habit needs to end is important. But, where we get into trouble is changing ...
From Wall Street to Recovery with Intervention Specialist Trevor Shevin
October 05, 2021 07:00 - 59 minutes - 40.8 MBTrevor Shevin, Intervention Specialist joins me to discuss his experience of addiction and how it led to him becoming an interventionist for those who struggled like he did. We start off hearing about his life on Wall Street where he was ultra focused on results and spent a lot of time trying to people please. We dive into his struggles with alcohol and drug abuse that led to him being intervened on by his friends. From here, Trevor mentions his process of intervening on someone and the J...
Apologizing To The People You Have Hurt
September 28, 2021 07:00 - 10 minutes - 6.89 MBIn this episode, I talk about something that we’ve all dealt with in the past, which is hurting people close to you. And during this, I bring up a small metaphor from when I was a kid that holds a similar meaning to our experience of apologizing to others. Sometimes it’s difficult, and our ego gets in the way of fully admitting we’re wrong. We start coming up with little excuses and deflecting our mistakes on other people by creating a story where we aren’t in the wrong. And sometimes, ove...
Apologizing To The People You Have Hurt
September 28, 2021 07:00 - 10 minutes - 6.89 MBIn this episode, I talk about something that we’ve all dealt with in the past, which is hurting people close to you. And during this, I bring up a small metaphor from when I was a kid that holds a similar meaning to our experience of apologizing to others. Sometimes it’s difficult, and our ego gets in the way of fully admitting we’re wrong. We start coming up with little excuses and deflecting our mistakes on other people by creating a story where we aren’t in the wrong. And sometimes, ove...
CBD: Breaking Down the Science and Benefits with Lea Durante
September 21, 2021 08:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBIn this episode I sit down with Lea Durante, nurse practitioner and outspoken educator on the importance of caring for the Endocannabinoid system. She helps others find relief from various physical and mental ailments using USDA organic hemp CBD. During our discussion, she mentions how the Endocannabinoid system affects every aspect of our health and CBD is used as a way to help regulate the system and much of our functions as human beings. We learn that being selective with the CBD brands...
The 19th of 21 Children: The First to Graduate College with Paul Lamar Hunter
September 14, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBPaul Lamar Hunter joins me to discuss his experience growing up as the 19th of 21 children. He mentions the poverty and neglect he experienced as well as how the family and community reacted to his brother and fathers death when he was still a young kid. Paul discusses the emotionally taxing experience and affect losing his brother in a house fire had on him but how having the support of his large family helped him through it. In addition, we learn how his mother coped with losing her husba...
A Year and a Half Later: Returning to a College Campus
September 07, 2021 07:00 - 11 minutes - 7.88 MBThis week has definitely been an exciting one, finally being back at LMU and seeing people I haven’t seen for over a year. And college kids all across the country have been experiencing a similar type return over the last couple weeks. At LMU, Qdoba has hit different and a late night Iggys Diner run has been a hell of an upgrade from the Habit. But I've definitely been a little jealous of the freshman because I felt robbed of a year of college and still feel like we’re finishing up that ye...
A Year and a Half Later: Returning to a College Campus
September 07, 2021 07:00 - 11 minutes - 7.88 MBThis week has definitely been an exciting one, finally being back at LMU and seeing people I haven’t seen for over a year. And college kids all across the country have been experiencing a similar type return over the last couple weeks. At LMU, Qdoba has hit different and a late night Iggys Diner run has been a hell of an upgrade from the Habit. But I've definitely been a little jealous of the freshman because I felt robbed of a year of college and still feel like we’re finishing up that ye...
Mary's Meals: Feeding the World One Shirt at a Time with Gillian Giangrande
August 31, 2021 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MBIn this episode, my sister Gillian joins me to discuss her experience as an intern with Mary’s Meals. The mission of the organization (marysmeals.org) is to provide a meal to a hungry child in their place of education with the hope that they not only meet the need of the hungry child, but they also encourage education. By following through on this, Mary’s Meals is breaking the cyclical experience of poverty that these nations experience. The influence has been able to spread to 19 different...
Mary's Meals: Feeding the World One Shirt at a Time with Gillian Giangrande
August 31, 2021 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MBIn this episode, my sister Gillian joins me to discuss her experience as an intern with Mary’s Meals. The mission of the organization (marysmeals.org) is to provide a meal to a hungry child in their place of education with the hope that they not only meet the need of the hungry child, but they also encourage education. By following through on this, Mary’s Meals is breaking the cyclical experience of poverty that these nations experience. The influence has been able to spread to 19 different...
Hard-Easy: The Mindset and Discipline for Financial Success with James Giangrande
August 24, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MBIn this episode, I talk to my father James Giangrande, financial advisor and partner at Altium Wealth Management about everything surrounding finance. We first start out hearing about his beginning years in the industry and lessons that he learned starting out. Those lessons include building other peoples trust in someone like himself who was new to the business but was in charge of handling their money. Fast forwarding a bit, we walk through the process of him and his partners creating Al...
Hard-Easy: The Mindset and Discipline for Financial Success with James Giangrande
August 24, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MBIn this episode, I talk to my father James Giangrande, financial advisor and partner at Altium Wealth Management about everything surrounding finance. We first start out hearing about his beginning years in the industry and lessons that he learned starting out. Those lessons include building other peoples trust in someone like himself who was new to the business but was in charge of handling their money. Fast forwarding a bit, we walk through the process of him and his partners creating Al...
At The Push of a Button: Finding People Who are Strong Where You are Weak
August 17, 2021 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12 MBThis episode is tied to a Henry Ford quote that realizes the importance of finding the people who have strengths where you have weaknesses. Many of us think that burning out is a sign of hard work, where we are responsible for 100% of the growth we experience as a person. And if we're not burning out, we think we are doing everything wrong. But, this Henry Ford quote proves this belief wrong, which is discussed in detail throughout the episode. We've all had those moments where we've spen...
At The Push of a Button: Finding People Who are Strong Where You are Weak
August 17, 2021 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12 MBThis episode is tied to a Henry Ford quote that realizes the importance of finding the people who have strengths where you have weaknesses. Many of us think that burning out is a sign of hard work, where we are responsible for 100% of the growth we experience as a person. And if we're not burning out, we think we are doing everything wrong. But, this Henry Ford quote proves this belief wrong, which is discussed in detail throughout the episode. We've all had those moments where we've spen...
From Homeschool to a College Campus: Struggles to Strengths with Bonnie Baldwin
August 10, 2021 07:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBIn this episode, I talk with Bonnie, rising Junior at University of Dallas about her experience being homeschooled and the transition to life on a college campus. She spent her first 15 years moving 30 times, which made homeschooling an easier option. Later on, we talk about the struggles in her transition to a college campus including her unfortunate experience of sexual abuse freshman year. And then, we will talk about her diagnosis of Bipolar 2 earlier this year and the effect it has ha...
Sitting in the Other Chair: A Therapist's Perspective with Doctor Eric Schleifer
August 03, 2021 07:00 - 50 minutes - 34.7 MBIn this episode, I have a conversation with Dr. Eric Schleifer, therapist in the Southern Connecticut area. We discuss his perspective as a therapist by breaking down the counseling process for patients. I ask him questions about the guidelines of taking on a new client, the reason so many people are opposed to therapy, his view on the diagnosis process, and how he handles his work life balance considering some of the conversations he has at work can be difficult. Also, we talk about how ...