Latest Pursuerwithdrawer Podcast Episodes
411: What Women Want
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - October 27, 2023 00:00 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWhat is it exactly that women want? As the conversation of patriarchy and toxic masculinity have buzzed over the past few years (and for good reason) we're all left scratching our heads navigating this conversation. Join Laurie and George today in this exploratory conversation on masculinity and ...
410: Recovery from the Negative Sexual Cycle
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - October 20, 2023 00:10 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsGeorge reminds us that the sexual relationship between adults is the ultimate playground and reclaiming that energy is what makes great lovers! When couples identify and de-escalate their negative cycle they can sometimes become unclear about what happens next. You've been so trapped in the confl...
409: What Withdrawers Want
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - October 13, 2023 03:23 - 37 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsIn this episode, George and Laurie explore the world of the sexual withdrawer. In the sexual cycle, withdrawers avoid, shut down or turn away from sexual connection. This causes the sexual pursuer to feel rejected, hopeless and abandoned and their reaction often confirms the withdrawers worst fea...
408: Desire: Initiating v. Responsiveness
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - October 06, 2023 00:47 - 37 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratings"Since the majority of women are responsive to desire, does that mean all women are sexual withdrawers?" Dr. Laurie says, "Absolutely not!" Join us on the episode as Laurie and George break down the difference between initiating and responsiveness and the pursue/withdraw cycle. How they look simi...
407: Embracing the Erotic
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - September 29, 2023 04:00 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsJoin Laurie and George in this episode as they answer a mailbag question from a devoted listener. The sexual pursuer asks the experts how can I tell my partner I am longing for more erotic connection without it coming across as criticism and causing my partner to shut down. George and Laurie vali...
406: Going Deeper
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - September 22, 2023 00:00 - 37 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsYou might be downloading this episode hoping to hear about a sexual position but this episode is all about going deeper into VULNERABILITY. Laurie and George get curious with the longings of the sexual pursuer and sexual withdrawer, what their experience is and how it manifests in the cycle. A se...
405: 10 Things to Not be Ashamed of During Sex
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - September 14, 2023 23:54 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsSights, sounds and smells OH MY! There are many aspects to sex that can cause embarrassment for partners. We are here to let you know that so many things you are worried about are NORMAL! Join us in this episode to hear our list of '10 things not to be ashamed of during sex'. Maybe you were told ...
404: 4 Ways Anxiety Kills Your Sex Life and How to Stop It!
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - September 08, 2023 23:33 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsDo you have anxiety when it comes to your sex life? Maybe you identify with the sexual pursuer role in the relationship and find that you are the partner that keeps track of when and how often you have sex. This can create so much pressure for you and your partner! Join Laurie and George today as...
403: Take the Pressure Off: How to Fix Delayed Ejaculation
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - September 01, 2023 13:10 - 39 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsDelayed ejaculation is when a man cannot reach orgasm intervaginally during sexual intercourse. If this is something you have dealt with, you are not alone! We know that this can be frustrating and embarrassing for men that have experienced this and today's episode will provide you with tangible ...
402: F the Cycle
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - August 25, 2023 01:00 - 43 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWelcome listeners! Today we are saying F the Cycle and using good energy to help deconstruct the negative cycle and rebuild a positive connection. In this episode George and Laurie reinforce the brain training concept, 'Name it to Tame it' in regards to the sexual cycle. Why is naming the cycle s...
401: How to Not Take it Personally
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - August 18, 2023 13:12 - 38 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsDo you take your partner's behavior personally? Learn how not to in this episode! It's common for individuals to engage in pursuing or withdrawing behaviors in their relationships. If not feeling heard or understood by your partner you might push to move through the conflict or withdraw to move a...
400: Women's Pleasure Techniques - Our 400th Episode!!
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - August 11, 2023 02:36 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsToday we are celebrating the 400th episode of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! The idea for the podcast originated after Laurie was told by commercial radio that she was too spicy for broadcast. Their loss is our gain. Join Laurie and George today as they celebrate this major accomplishment AND give...
399: "Help! I'm Not Attracted to My Spouse Anymore."``
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - August 04, 2023 00:00 - 37 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsOof listeners, this is some hard content that we are discussing today! Loss of attraction is often shared as the reason for the ending of a relationship. Maybe partners never felt deeply attracted to one another, or attraction waned over the years. Regardless of the reason, this is a must have co...
398: Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - July 28, 2023 00:03 - 49 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWhat's better than two relationship experts hosting a podcast? When they invite a guest and now listeners are privy to THREE relationship experts! Join Laurie and George in a special episode where we welcome Dr. Stan Tatkin creator of PACT couples therapy. PACT is a fusion of attachment theory, d...
397: Making Time for Open Heart Moments
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - July 21, 2023 13:28 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsHow often do you check in with your spouse where there is no agenda? We often check-in on logistics and focus on the caretaking needs of the family but do you ever just have moments where you ask your partner, "How are you, really?" Join our hosts in this episode to hear about the POWER of the in...
396: The 'Ins and Outs' of the Simultaneous Orgasm
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - July 14, 2023 01:03 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWe've seen it in the movies and on TV, the sexy, good-looking couple in bed that climax together. The simultaneous orgasm is a goal many couples think they need to achieve for mind-blowing sex. The problem? It sets most of us up for failure when we don't meet the Hollywood ending. Join George and...
395: How Women Are Wired
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - July 07, 2023 13:11 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsIn the quest to answer the age old question "What do women want?" have we forgotten to stop and ask how women work? Join George and Laurie today for a thrilling conversation to learn about how women are wired. Laurie describes that 50% of women have receptive desire. Meaning their brain needs to ...
394: What to do when your partner would rather catch ZZZ's than make fireworks.
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - June 30, 2023 00:00 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratings"Not tonight, I'm just too tired." If this phrase has echoed off your bedroom walls then this episode is for you! Life's demands, new baby, chronic illness, age are all reasons we have for being too tired. In fact, recent research touts just how important a good night's sleep is for our health to...
393: Good, Good, Good, Good Vibrations
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - June 23, 2023 14:39 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsAre you threatened by a vibrator? Maybe it's something you've been thinking about using or only using alone. Vibrators can play an important role in a couple's sex life but might bring up myriad emotions. You may worry that a vibrator means that you are a bad lover but we hope to reduce the stigm...
392: How to ask for what you need in a way that increases connection
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - June 16, 2023 00:00 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsEverybody in a relationship needs to learn this! Join Laurie and George today as they discuss and teach an integral relationship skill, asking for what you need from your partner in a way that increases connection. Each individual in a relationship has their own set of longings. Expressing a long...
391: Finding Common Ground
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - June 09, 2023 00:00 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWhen our brain is in a threat response our view narrows and we typically only see our side. Relationship research shows that secure couples are able to find common ground in conflict and widen their perspective to include their partner. Holding opposing points of view helps to reduce the negative...
390: Experiencing the BIG O!
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - June 02, 2023 02:00 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWho of our listeners wants a Full Bodied Orgasm? Join Laurie and George in this episode to learn all about the full bodied orgasm. A FBO is one that is felt throughout the entire body not just concentrated to the genitals. Laurie was recently interviewed and quoted in several publications, descri...
389: If I Don't Initiate We Would Never Have It!
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - May 26, 2023 13:00 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsIn Episode #389 Laurie and George discuss common roles in couple's relationships around sex. Are you the partner that initiates or the receptive partner? Our hosts detail that there is no right or wrong to either of these roles but when stuck in a negative cycle, couples can easily pathologize th...
388: Sex Life a Snoozefest?
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - May 19, 2023 00:22 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsBoring is a signal and it's a sign that something needs to change! A complaint about monogamy is that the line between responsibility and desire often gets blurred and it is responsibility and safety that win out. Long-term couples come to therapy with a complaint that sex is predictable and had ...
387: Answering a Listener Question on Sexual Withdrawers
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - May 12, 2023 00:00 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsIn this listener mailbag episode, Laurie and George receive a thoughtful question from a sexual withdrawer, asking help from our hosts. They notice that as their partner asks what they want in bed, they are often empty and unknowing of the response. George and Laurie work to honor the protection ...
386: Blocks to Sexual Connection
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - May 05, 2023 00:00 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratings"Mistrust is part of the change process." We long for things to change, for the negative cycle to shift and for us to achieve closeness and connection but it is SO normal for blocks to occur during this time. Join Laurie and George in this episode learning about blocks to sexual connection, commo...
385: Helping Withdrawers Identify and Express Longing
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - April 28, 2023 00:00 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsCan we ever get out of this place, this cycle? The answer is a resounding yes! Stage 1 in EFT works on de-escalating the negative cycle and creating more safety between partners. When there is safety to take the risk of expressing your longing that lives underneath the protection to your partner,...
384: The Heart of the Solution
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - April 21, 2023 00:00 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsAfter the negative cycle is de-escalated, couples have the opportunity to create a new positive cycle. When there is safety to take the risk of expressing your longing that lives underneath the protection to your partner, lies the solution to creating a more secure relationship. In this episode L...
383: If Your Genitals Could Talk
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - April 17, 2023 18:30 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWelcome listeners to another great episode of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! Recently, Laurie read the book, "The Existential Importance of the Penis: A Guide to Understanding Male Sexuality" by sex therapist,Daniel Watter and it sparked a conversation between Laurie and George. Low desire, erecti...
382: When the Sexual Withdrawer Re-Engages
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy - April 07, 2023 03:11 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 1.8K ratingsWelcome listeners to episode #382 of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! Join Laurie and George in a discussion on re-engagement of the sexual withdrawer. In this episode, Laurie shares about recent work she has been doing with a couple as the sexual withdrawer is taking new risks in the relationship. ...
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