To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
92 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 months ago - ★★★★★ - 25 ratingsInterviews, discussions and storytelling around sex, relationships, and intimacy: “The Sex-Ed Curriculum You Never Had.”
A podcast for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with partners and children, “To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon” offers communication tools and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships.
Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions.
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Good Boy, Hush (The Femme Domme Call to Arms)
October 30, 2020 05:00 - 6 minutes - 13.3 MBGood Boy, Hush (The Femme Domme Call to Arms) by Ellen Melon Produced by Jonah Weingarten and Tony Prestin Music by Jonah Weingarten Lyrics by Ellen Melon Vocals by Ellen Melon Back-up vocals by Mallory Jacobson and Jonah Weingarten Genre: Satire https://soundcloud.com/ellenmelonshow/good-boy-hush-a-call-to-arms-for-femme-dommes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelon...
#20. Adolescent experiences of racism: Sexuality, body image, self-worth - with Simone, PART 1
October 21, 2020 06:00 - 48 minutes - 92.1 MBSYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts. In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We’re going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we’re also going to talk about her early experiences of racism. A couple points of our discussion: The definition of...
#21. Adolescent experiences of racism: Color of your skin, objectification, and Sarah Bartman - with Simone, PART 2
October 21, 2020 06:00 - 40 minutes - 78.4 MBSYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts. In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We’re going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we’re also going to talk about her early experiences of racism. A couple points of our discussion: The definition of...
#20. Adolescent experiences of racism: Sexuality, body image, self-worth - with SYM1, PART 1
October 21, 2020 06:00 - 48 minutes - 92.1 MBSYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts. In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We’re going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we’re also going to talk about her early experiences of racism. A couple points of our discussion: The definition of...
#21. Adolescent experiences of racism: Color of your skin, objectification, and Sarah Bartman - with SYM1, PART 2
October 21, 2020 06:00 - 40 minutes - 78.4 MBSYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts. In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We’re going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we’re also going to talk about her early experiences of racism. A couple points of our discussion: The definition of...
#19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements
October 08, 2020 01:50 - 46 minutes - 89.8 MBWelcome back to Season 2 of To Hump A Pillow! My aim with this podcast is to enhance the language and conversation around sex to give partners, people, the community, the courage to speak up, ask questions, and discover pleasure. To choose pleasure, love and joy and opt out of suffering. I’m kicking off this season with something that I have found incredibly helpful and an agent for change. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book is directly connected to our relationship with S...
#19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements - with Ellen Melon
October 08, 2020 01:50 - 46 minutes - 89.8 MBWelcome back to Season 2 of To Hump A Pillow! My aim with this podcast is to enhance the language and conversation around sex to give partners, people, the community, the courage to speak up, ask questions, and discover pleasure. To choose pleasure, love and joy and opt out of suffering. I’m kicking off this season with something that I have found incredibly helpful and an agent for change. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book is directly connected to our relationship with S...
To Hump A Pillow, Season 2 Update
August 19, 2020 22:57 - 7 minutes - 13.9 MBAs we close season 1, Ellen Melon shares with you some updates from her personal life, and what is coming down the pipeline in Season 2, coming this October 2020. Events & Goddess Gatherings: https://www.ellenmelon.com/events "Good Boy (Hush)" song coming this 2020 election Produced by Jonah Weingarten and Tony Prestin Music by Jonah Weingarten Lyrics by Ellen Melon
Reflection - On acceptance, compassion of self, and when to stop asking WHY (Bonus footage from Episode 18)
July 29, 2020 15:57 - 14 minutes - 23.8 MBWho feels like they are curious and always ask WHY? Why though? I want to better understand. Well, this audio is BONUS footage, leftover from episode 18 and might offer some perspective. After listening to the bonus footage from episode 18, Sex & intimacy after chronic illness - with Chris Maxwell Rose, I’ve realized that sometimes asking why IS QUITE HARMFUL, because it brings me further away from acceptance. Take a listen if you feel like you ask why…….all the freaken time and want to fi...
REFLECTION - On acceptance, compassion of self, and when to stop asking WHY (Bonus footage from Episode 18)
July 29, 2020 15:57 - 14 minutes - 23.8 MBWho feels like they are curious and always ask WHY? Why though? I want to better understand. Well, this audio is BONUS footage, leftover from episode 18 and might offer some perspective. After listening to the bonus footage from episode 18, Sex & intimacy after chronic illness - with Chris Maxwell Rose, I’ve realized that sometimes asking why IS QUITE HARMFUL, because it brings me further away from acceptance. Take a listen if you feel like you ask why…….all the freaken time and want to fi...
#18. Sex & intimacy after chronic illness - with Chris Maxwell Rose
July 23, 2020 00:36 - 1 hour - 115 MBTo be healthy and able-bodied is a blessing and the possibility of that changing MANY TIMES throughout the course of our lives is very realistic. Bodies change. Health events occur. To both us and to our loved ones, and thus, we experience different erotic seasons. In this episode, I invite Chris Maxwell Rose to lead a discussion on the love and compassion we need to give ourselves when our health takes a nose-dive. How does sexuality change? Intimacy? Desire? Touch? We discuss how to lis...
#17. Things I’ve learned about myself 1 year after a big breakup - with Ellen Melon
July 01, 2020 20:29 - 50 minutes - 73 MBThis episode marks 1 year almost to the day since the end of my 8 year relationship. July 2nd would mark both our anniversary and also the day he moved out. 365 days have gone by since the breakup of the most significant relationship in my life. I knew I would do this episode and I’m really excited to share with you what I’ve learned about myself and how my view of the world has changed as a result of the processing and internal work I’ve done. While it’s none of your business what I’ve le...
#16. A discussion on harassment, independent women, and making spaces safer - with Shawna Potter
June 19, 2020 01:48 - 1 hour - 129 MBWhat does mean to make a space safer? What is a safe space? According to Shawna Potter, it’s being aware of the presence and behavior you have in places where you work, gather, and play. In this episode, Shawna and I discuss street harassment and how to stop it as a victim and as a bystander, healthy flirting, what it means to a feminist, and how being “an independent woman” can hold you back from interpersonal relationships. All of these things are laid out in greater detail in her book M...
Poem - "Rise" by Jessie Michelle
June 10, 2020 08:00 - 3 minutes - 8.43 MBThere’s poem I read back in February 2019. At the time of discovery, it helped give me permission to feel okay in my emotions. Right now, in MPLS, MN, THE USA, THE WORLD, there is a lot of hurt and anger and fear, so I thought I might share it with you. Poem is called RISE by Jessie Michelle https://www.instagram.com/_jessie.michelle_/
Poem - Rise by Jessie Michelle
June 10, 2020 08:00 - 3 minutes - 8.43 MBThere’s poem I read back in February 2019. At the time of discovery, it helped give me permission to feel okay in my emotions. Right now, in MPLS, MN, THE USA, THE WORLD, there is a lot of hurt and anger and fear, so I thought I might share it with you. Poem is called RISE by Jessie Michelle https://www.instagram.com/_jessie.michelle_/
Reflection with Poem - "Rise" by Jessie Michelle
June 10, 2020 08:00 - 3 minutes - 8.43 MBThere’s poem I read back in February 2019. At the time of discovery, it helped give me permission to feel okay in my emotions. Right now, in MPLS, MN, THE USA, THE WORLD, there is a lot of hurt and anger and fear, so I thought I might share it with you. Poem is called RISE by Jessie Michelle https://www.instagram.com/_jessie.michelle_/
#15. Long-term triad and thrupple relationships from a man’s perspective - with Jonah
June 04, 2020 19:11 - 1 hour - 90 MBIn Episode 6, we hear a woman’s perspective on what it’s like to experience a long-term triad, thrupples, and polyamory. Today, we get to hear from Mallory’s partner, Jonah all about the man’s perspective. We’ll hear about his sexual upbringing, his take on power dynamics in a triad, and his experiences and thoughts on polyamory and thrupples. Listen to Episode #6: Bisexuality and thrupples: Exploring triad relationships in your late 20s - with Mallory for lady perspective. _____________...
#14. How sex changes in partnerships for first time parents, genito-pelvic pain, and arousal disorder - with Dr. Natalie Rosen
May 20, 2020 16:19 - 1 hour - 92.1 MBWhen you enter parenthood for the first time, your duo relationship becomes a trio and everything is new. That’s what our guest is going to be talking about today. In this episode, Dr. Natalie Rosen joins us from Hallifax to discuss how sex changes in partnerships with first time parents, taking a deep dive into her resource called; Post Baby Hanky Panky. She will also be telling us about her other areas of research: genito-pelvic pain; low libido, arousal disorder, vulva shaming, and a few ...
#13. How dating and sex has changed from your early 20s to approaching 30s - an honest conversation with my dear friend Tom
May 06, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 128 MBDo you have a close friend of the opposite sex, with whom you can speak intimately and informally? I do and boy, am I fortunate. This is a non-judgemental, playful, and open conversation between two people that have been really good friends for almost a decade. In this episode, I invite my dear friend, Tom, to the show. I’ll be asking about his sexual experiences from adolescence, how his sex life has changed from early 20s to approaching 30s, what’s his take on the dating scene in the adv...
#12. A transgender story with educational tips on LGBTQ terminology and proper etiquette — with Eli Scriver
April 22, 2020 23:12 - 1 hour - 94 MBThis episode is for those who need help understanding transgender experiences. Maybe you are intimidated by the LBGTQ jargon or feel like you can’t keep up. Maybe you have kids that are experiencing gender dysphoria or gender fluidity. Maybe you are a person who feels like you’ve never REALLY FELT LIKE you’ve been yourself and are looking for answers. Wherever you’re at, Episode 12, this episode, is going to provide you with a new perspective. I’ve brought back special guest and sex-educa...
#11. First-time prostate massage, prostate milking, and male G-spot orgasm — with Marlon
April 08, 2020 04:25 - 1 hour - 167 MBWhat the heck is prostate massage? Prostate milking? The male G-spot? In this episode, we’re going to tell you all about it — how prostate massage can lead to powerful 'Super' orgasms. Our guest, Marlon is sharing his story about his sexual education upbringing, walks us through his curiosity with anal play, and in great detail shares with us his first-time experience of using a prostate massage. Shop prostate massagers: https://www.aneros.com/#a_aid=ellenmelon Interesting in working wit...
#10. Thinking about a career in sex work? Common misconceptions about the sex work industry - with Alice Little
April 02, 2020 03:12 - 1 hour - 167 MBAlice Little is the most successful licensed sex worker in the United States. She has been voted the #1 Companion of the Year at the world famous Moonlite Bunny Ranch legal brothel in Carson City, Nevada. She is also an intimacy and sexuality coach, an outspoken advocate for sex worker rights and vocal champion for an all-inclusive sex-positive society. In this episode, we get to know Alice personally, learning about her childhood upbringing, how she learned about sex-ed, and her early car...
#9. Vaginal tearing during child labor: Sex, anatomy, fear, and lessons learned - with Alyssa
March 25, 2020 05:00 - 56 minutes - 81.6 MBAre you having a baby soon? Your FIRST baby soon? Lots of women express “not knowing enough” or being “terrified of the pain” during their first childbirth — Vaginal tearing being at the top of that list. Perineal tears are tears that occur between the vaginal opening and your anus, and are very common, and heal quickly, however not many people get the full education and outlook on their options. That’s what Alyssa will be telling us about today – the information she wished she would have ...
#8. Tips on initiating sex and dealing with rejection Part 2 of 2 - with Ellen Melon
March 16, 2020 02:01 - 36 minutes - 54.3 MBHow do you initiate sex with your partner or partner(s)? Do you give them a look, do you send them a text, do you outright ask? Are you someone who always initiates sex? Never initiates sex? In this episode, I’ll be discussing research on initiating sex, why being rejected sexually is so devistating in a partnership, understanding why we initiate sex, communication styles around initiating sex, and finally tips in dealing with rejection with the communication tools to help you out. This p...
#7. The messages we receive about sex when we’re young PART 1 of 2 - with Ellen Melon
February 26, 2020 05:01 - 57 minutes - 82.4 MBThis is Part 1 of a 2-Part series. Part 1 is about (Episode 7) The messages we receive about sex when we’re young and Part 2 is (Episode 8) Tips on initiating sex and dealing with rejection in relationships. Both of these episodes were born from a place of frustration with Ellen’s own libido, sexual shame, self worth and vulnerability. They contain her experiences and tools used for growth in sex/pleasure and also the things she’s learned from listening to others experiences. In this ep...
#6. Bisexuality and thrupples: Exploring triad relationships in your late 20s - with Mallory
February 12, 2020 06:15 - 55 minutes - 80.9 MBWe all know that maintaining a relationship between 2 people is hard work, so what would it be like if there was a third? With the rise in polyamory and non-monogamy, we’re seeing a shift away from traditional relationships and today we’re talking about thrupples and bisexuality. In this episode, we sit down with a dear friend of mine, Mallory who has been in monogamous relationships her whole life...UNTIL the last couple years. She unconvered she was bisexual not too long ago and has sinc...
#5. Erectile dysfunction (ED) and how it relates to vulnerability - with Joe Molinari
January 29, 2020 09:00 - 47 minutes - 69 MBTHE PENIS (AND ITS ERECTION) IS NOT THE CENTER OF THE SEXUAL UNIVERSE and we need to stop putting that kind of pressure on penises. In this episode we are discussing erectile dysfunction (also known as ED) with Sex Therapist, Joe Molinari — What is erectile dysfunction and why does it happen? Joe has helped couples and inidivduals with all kinds of emoitional complications that can arise during sex. I wanted to have Joe on the show teach us about difficulties with erections providing us w...
#5. Erectile dysfunction (ED) and how it relates to vulnerability - with Men's Sex Coach & Therapist, Joe Molinari
January 29, 2020 09:00 - 47 minutes - 69 MBTHE PENIS (AND ITS ERECTION) IS NOT THE CENTER OF THE SEXUAL UNIVERSE and we need to stop putting that kind of pressure on penises. In this episode we are discussing erectile dysfunction (also known as ED) with Sex Therapist, Joe Molinari — What is erectile dysfunction and why does it happen? Joe has helped couples and inidivduals with all kinds of emoitional complications that can arise during sex. I wanted to have Joe on the show teach us about difficulties with erections providing us w...
#4. The birds-and-the-bees conversation, revisited - with Mary (my mom)
January 12, 2020 23:13 - 31 minutes - 47.8 MB“The-birds-and-the-bees” — We all know the term, but not all of us got an opportunity to have that conversation. Maybe we talked to a friend. A cousin. A sibling. Some may have even had the stereotypical talk — the one where you sit and wince through an awkward lecture WITH your parent(s). Whatever the case, we seem to never revisit it, if there even was a conversation to revisit. Today, Ellen sits down with Mary, her mother, to revisit that conversation. They’ll talk about: How Mary was ta...
#4. The Birds-and-the-Bees Conversation, Revisited - with Mary (my mom)
January 12, 2020 23:13 - 31 minutes - 47.8 MB“The-birds-and-the-bees” — We all know the term, but not all of us got an opportunity to have that conversation. Maybe we talked to a friend. A cousin. A sibling. Some may have even had the stereotypical talk — the one where you sit and wince through an awkward lecture WITH your parent(s). Whatever the case, we seem to never revisit it, if there even was a conversation to revisit. Today, Ellen sits down with Mary, her mother, to revisit that conversation. They’ll talk about: How Mary was ta...
#4 The Birds-and-the-Bees Conversation, Revisited - with Mary (my mom)
January 12, 2020 23:13 - 31 minutes - 47.8 MB“The-birds-and-the-bees” — We all know the term, but not all of us got an opportunity to have that conversation. Maybe we talked to a friend. A cousin. A sibling. Some may have even had the stereotypical talk — the one where you sit and wince through an awkward lecture WITH your parent(s). Whatever the case, we seem to never revisit it, if there even was a conversation to revisit. Today, Ellen sits down with Mary, her mother, to revisit that conversation. They’ll talk about: How Mary was ta...
#3. What do you want in 2020? - with Ellen Melon
January 07, 2020 02:47 - 35 minutes - 51.4 MBShow Description: While this is a podcast about sex-ed for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with their partners and children, it’s also the turn of the year — a very relfective time for lots of people — and in order to go forward, you gotta look back. This episode contains a look ahead at What I Want in 2020, separated into four categories: HEALTH SPIRIT CAREER RELATIONSHIPS I know it’s hard for some to carve out the time for introspection, so ...
#3 What do you want in 2020? - with Ellen Melon
January 07, 2020 02:47 - 35 minutes - 51.4 MBShow Description: While this is a podcast about sex-ed for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with their partners and children, it’s also the turn of the year — a very relfective time for lots of people — and in order to go forward, you gotta look back. This episode contains a look ahead at What I Want in 2020, separated into four categories: HEALTH SPIRIT CAREER RELATIONSHIPS I know it’s hard for some to carve out the time for introspection, so ...
#2 Childhood adolescent sexuality; New ways to talk to your kids about genitals, puberty, and masterbation - Interview with Elleri Scriver
December 18, 2019 22:50 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBIn childhood sexual development, adults often want to know which behaviors are appropriate and indicate “healthy” childhood sexual development. To answer that, we need to first understand that sexuality is much more than sex – it’s our values, attitudes, feelings, interactions and behaviors. Sexuality is emotional, social, cultural, and physical. Episode #2 of To Hump A Pillow features Eli Scriver, a sex educator from the Twin Cities pursuing a self-designed sex education undergraduate...
#2 Childhood adolescent sexuality; New ways to talk to your kids about genitals, puberty, and masterbation - with Elleri Scriver
December 18, 2019 22:50 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBIn childhood sexual development, adults often want to know which behaviors are appropriate and indicate “healthy” childhood sexual development. To answer that, we need to first understand that sexuality is much more than sex – it’s our values, attitudes, feelings, interactions and behaviors. Sexuality is emotional, social, cultural, and physical. Episode #2 of To Hump A Pillow features Eli Scriver, a sex educator from the Twin Cities pursuing a self-designed sex education undergraduate...
#2. Childhood adolescent sexuality; New ways to talk to your kids about genitals, puberty, and masterbation - with Elleri Scriver
December 18, 2019 22:50 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBIn childhood sexual development, adults often want to know which behaviors are appropriate and indicate “healthy” childhood sexual development. To answer that, we need to first understand that sexuality is much more than sex – it’s our values, attitudes, feelings, interactions and behaviors. Sexuality is emotional, social, cultural, and physical. Episode #2 of To Hump A Pillow features Eli Scriver, a sex educator from the Twin Cities pursuing a self-designed sex education undergraduate...
#1 What does having HIV mean? - Interview with Jon King
December 13, 2019 05:49 - 42 minutes - 61.2 MBThe debut of To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon! During this first episode, Ellen sits down with Minneapolis-based muralist and hand-letterer extraordinaire, Jon King. They discuss his upbringing as part of a large family living in rural Wisconsin, how sex-education was addressed while being home schooled, and coming out as queer in his 20s and a brief discussion on being in the gender binary. Finally, his story of contracting HIV and what it means to live with HIV. Thank you Jon King for y...
#1 What does having HIV mean? - with Jon King
December 13, 2019 05:49 - 42 minutes - 61.2 MBThe debut of To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon! During this first episode, Ellen sits down with Minneapolis-based muralist and hand-letterer extraordinaire, Jon King. They discuss his upbringing as part of a large family living in rural Wisconsin, how sex-education was addressed while being home schooled, and coming out as queer in his 20s and a brief discussion on being in the gender binary. Finally, his story of contracting HIV and what it means to live with HIV. Thank you Jon King for y...
#1. What does having HIV mean? - with Jon King
December 13, 2019 05:49 - 42 minutes - 61.2 MBThe debut of To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon! During this first episode, Ellen sits down with Minneapolis-based muralist and hand-letterer extraordinaire, Jon King. They discuss his upbringing as part of a large family living in rural Wisconsin, how sex-education was addressed while being home schooled, and coming out as queer in his 20s and a brief discussion on being in the gender binary. Finally, his story of contracting HIV and what it means to live with HIV. Thank you Jon King for y...
#0 Introduction - To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon
December 10, 2019 03:50 - 1 minute - 7.34 MBAn introduction, episode #0. For parents who need help building language in how they talk about sex to their partners and children, ‘To Hump A Pillow’ offers communications and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions, through raw interviews with guests and sharing her own ...
#0. Introduction - To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon
December 10, 2019 03:50 - 1 minute - 7.34 MBAn introduction, episode #0. For parents who need help building language in how they talk about sex to their partners and children, ‘To Hump A Pillow’ offers communications and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions, through raw interviews with guests and sharing her own ...
#0 - Introduction - To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon
December 10, 2019 03:50 - 1 minute - 7.34 MBAn introduction, episode #0. For parents who need help building language in how they talk about sex to their partners and children, ‘To Hump A Pillow’ offers communications and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions, through raw interviews with guests and sharing her own ...