Tell Me About Your Kids
176 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -Be a fly on the wall of unfiltered 1 on 1 counseling sessions as Bonnie Harris, 30 yr. veteran of Connective Parenting, author and counselor helps parents navigate their daily challenges and weaves her compassion and empathy for parents as she builds their capability to turn their frustrations into opportunities to connect with their children.
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What’s The Password For My Kid?
September 23, 2021 04:00 - 42 minutes - 29.3 MBBreaking the code into those hard conversations with your kids can be tricky when shut down and lock out is the norm. Kids don’t want to hear what you want when it means they don’t get what they want. Kim must plan carefully how she talks to her 13 yr. old son about maintaining some control over his (actually her) phone. Planning the right time, the right words and the right tone can take time but make all the difference. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years o...
The Two Hour Nagging Train Out the Door
September 16, 2021 04:00 - 45 minutes - 31.6 MBJanice’s mornings are fraught with battles with her strong-willed 3 year old. Janice has learned that the only way to get Emily out the door is to bribe her with M&Ms. Emily has learned that too. She knows just what to do to get rewarded. The expectation that a young child will cooperate with being rushed out the door sets up a dynamic of resistance and anger. This episode offers a shift in perspective so that Emily can eventually want to cooperate. And Janice can get out of the trap of doin...
"We Can't Make Him Do Anything"
September 09, 2021 04:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBAnkita and Amon have a 9 yo integrity kid. Stuck in a negative feedback loop for a long time, their son has lost trust in them and has gone into self-protective mode. They in turn anticipate his fights and refusal to do anything they want. Attitudes and disapproval have set the stage for resistance and a very stressed family. Other podcasts about Integrity and Harmony kids: Episode 12 – Oct. 6, ’20 The Orchid Child and the Dandelion Child Pt. 2 Episode 13 - Oct. 13, ’20 Stubborn K...
Finding Trust After Loss
September 02, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 26.8 MBKatie has 8 children living at home. Her first died at age 9 ½. Her fear regarding her teens when she can’t be with them is completely understandable but could interfere with their growing independence if she doesn’t learn to manage it instead of mask it. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) ...
Tip #4 The "Of Course" Mantra
August 26, 2021 04:00 - 10 minutes - 7.2 MBWithout realizing it, we often lose sight of what our children should be thinking and feeling and end up expecting more maturity than they are capable of. The ‘Of Course’ mantra keeps you in the right head to stay calmer and meet your child where she is. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) ...
Tip #3 What does Your Child’s Behavior Really Mean
August 19, 2021 04:00 - 10 minutes - 6.95 MBOur culture doesn’t understand behavior. We take it at face value and treat it accordingly. In doing so we add insult to injury with already hurting children. Learn how to see your child’s behavior from the perspective she needs you to. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident P...
Tip #2 Stop with the ‘Good Job’
August 12, 2021 04:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBPraise is overrated and misunderstood. Praise’s intention is to help children feel good about themselves, but blanket praise often results in children feeling patronized or becoming dependent on it. Learn what to do instead to create connection and really help your child feel good. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons...
Tip #1 Empathy vs Sympathy
August 05, 2021 04:00 - 8 minutes - 5.9 MBWe interrupt our usual programming for something new. Each week in August we are offering you short succinct parenting tips to help in your day-to-day parenting. We'll be back with one on one sessions in September. Enjoy these in the meantime. Thanks for being here. Tip #1 Empathy vs Sympathy When trying to connect with your children, feeling sympathy is not usually as effective as having empathy. We often mix these up but it’s important to understand the distinction. It’s about your rol...
Tip #1 Empathy vs Sympathy
August 05, 2021 04:00 - 8 minutes - 5.9 MBWe interrupt our usual programming for something new. Each week in August we are offering you short succinct parenting tips to help in your day-to-day parenting. We'll be back with one on one sessions in September. Enjoy these in the meantime. Thanks for being here. Tip #1 Empathy vs Sympathy When trying to connect with your children, feeling sympathy is not usually as effective as having empathy. We often mix these up but it’s important to understand the distinction. It’s about your rol...
One Mother’s Trash Is Another Child’s Treasure
July 29, 2021 04:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBSeven-year-old Lynn has always been more nervous and worried than her twin sister. Since summer camp began, she expresses her worries every night and every morning. And she has begun collecting bits of odd things that feel like her belongings. Her mother Ann and I work through how to talk about her worries and her collections. The gist is getting into Lynn’s reality with her in order to be helpful. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and...
“Mom, when can I start watching porn?”
July 22, 2021 04:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBConcerned about how your kids will approach their sexual development? Want to remain their source of influence? This podcast provides great lessons on the benefit of openness and sharing with your kids instead of hiding your own experiences. Beth suddenly discovers her son is “a twelve yr. old in a man’s body” with concerns about what he does now. Building a relationship from the get-go creates an environment that allows him to come to her about important issues like, when do I have sex? B...
Community Pieces #4: Special Education Advocacy
July 15, 2021 04:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MBSpecial Education consultant Lisa Stewart helps parents navigate the difficult waters of their children’s school careers when they don’t “fit the mold”. Ever had to communicate with your child’s school about lagging work, behavioral problems or decipher an I.E.P. or a 504 plan? Advocating for your child can feel like trying to tread water at best. It can be an intimidating, overwhelming job for which very few parents are qualified. Special ed. consultants can advocate for you advocating for ...
Losing a Son/Gaining a They
July 08, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBJean’s son has recently declared new pronouns, a new name, and a pan-sexual identity. They are there; the thinking and deciding has been done. But Jean and her husband are finding the change a bit daunting and are slower to climb on board with the correct terminology. Thirteen years of having a son with your chosen name is difficult to let go of and does not come without grieving a loss. We discuss how to accommodate each other with respect and mutual understanding so Jean no longer feels “c...
“Parenting him is like a full-time job”
July 01, 2021 04:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBAmong Willa’s “lots of kids”, her thirteen-year-old son, Dennis, is her biggest challenge. With an ADD personality and a brain going in all directions, this dysregulated teen looking for independence appears only to attract trouble. Being the “odd-one out” in his family, Dennis feels alone. The result is that Willa, a normally calm, caring mom, has ended this covid academic year exhausted and exacerbated. Structure proved to be what Dennis needed to succeed in school but now the summer is he...
“My brain is telling me this isn’t what I want”
June 24, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBPatricia is worried about her 7 1/2 yo son who she sees almost as a split personality. On one hand he has many strengths—he is extremely bright, perceptive and mature. On the other he is strong-headed and refuses to do what he doesn’t want. In most areas, she sees his strength, but in the food department, she sees his strong will as a weakness. Her fears are telling him not to trust himself when it comes to food choices—a message that could cause damage on down the line. Whatever the area of...
Puzzle Pieces #7: Finding The Delicate Balance Of Your Parent Authority
June 17, 2021 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBYour kids need you to be in charge. They also don’t like to be told what to do. How do you find the right balance between the two? When do you push and when do you pull back? There-in lies the challenge of parenting. But when you understand what you can appropriately expect, finding that balance gets easier. These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together t...
When “Calm and Collected” Gets In The Way
June 10, 2021 04:00 - 49 minutes - 34.1 MBSeven year old Maeve has big emotional upheavals that clash with her father’s Aspergers presentation of calm and collected. Edward longs to be the involved parent his wife is but his non-emotional way of presenting comes across harsh and uncaring. And Lee’s desire for all to be heard and get along makes it hard for her to say no. Maeve is caught in the middle. Sometimes conscientious parents can work too hard. Referred to episodes: (will you put links in here please) 5/27/21 #44 Be th...
Launching Out Of The Covid Cocoon
June 03, 2021 04:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MB14-year-old Andrew, an only child has been cocooning with his single mother over the past pandemic year and is showing signs of stress in anticipation of moving out into the world. We have no guidelines for how we do this—to mask or not to mask…. An already anxious kid who learned early on that his introversion was not okay with his father struggles with how it’s all going to happen. Fortunately, he has a strong connection and relationship with his mom. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Co...
Be the Coach Not the Referee
May 27, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBDeanna and Ed want their young sons to grow up to be strong, independent and best friends. We all want our kids to be friends—but how do you make that happen? The answer is you can’t. But you can work with them to learn how to solve their own problems so they don’t fight over you and spend a lot of time defending themselves and chalking up points against the other. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: b...
Sibling Rivalry: Be the Coach Not the Referee
May 27, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBDeanna and Ed want their young sons to grow up to be strong, independent and best friends. We all want our kids to be friends—but how do you make that happen? The answer is you can’t. But you can work with them to learn how to solve their own problems so they don’t fight over you and spend a lot of time defending themselves and chalking up points against the other. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: b...
The Shy Kids Are Alright
May 20, 2021 04:00 - 45 minutes - 31.6 MBShyness is a character trait; it’s not a choice. Ashley’s 10 and 14 year olds are both extremely shy, as is Ashley. Ashley sees traits in them that she abhorred about herself and worked to change and their dad, outgoing and social, just thinks they’re rude. “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” by Susan Cain - https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VGGFF9LX88NW&dchild=1&keywords=quiet+susan+cain&qid=1621200...
Puzzle Pieces #6 Your Kids Are Not Disrespecting You
May 13, 2021 04:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MBThese once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. It does no good to approach kids from the point of view that they...
I Should Have Been An Only Child
May 06, 2021 04:00 - 53 minutes - 36.5 MBShannon’s twelve year old son has never been okay with his younger sister. It’s as if her birth took something from him that he hasn’t been able to get back. Something broke in him. Trying to get him to be happier and see things differently may only be making things worse. Send an email to [email protected] and let us know what you're doing when you listen to the podcast! Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. ...
Controlling The Fight
April 29, 2021 04:00 - 49 minutes - 34.1 MBRenee and Gary have different perspectives on their sons’ sibling fights. But both agree the oldest, their Harmony Child, is getting the worst of it from the younger Integrity Child. Their task is in how to allow their boys to fight the good fight while supporting and guiding them to work out those fights. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (w...
Community Pieces #3: Child Behavior and Nutrition with Chris Kresser
April 22, 2021 04:00 - 51 minutes - 35.4 MBWorried your picky eater isn’t getting the right nutrition? Do you have a sugar junkie? Do you see the effects of food in your child’s behavior? Learn how food and nutrition shows up in your child’s behavior from an expert in functional medicine. Website: https://chriskresser.com – sign up for Chris’ newsletter Podcast: Revolution Health Radio Star Institute: https://sensoryhealth.org/basic/occupational-therapy-for-children Tell Me About Your Kids 12/22/20 episode: Eat Your Peas or No De...
Cutting The Invisible Phone Cord
April 15, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27 MBFrom the consequences of consequences, to relationship and consideration, to inappropriate text messaging, to role playing, Victoria, mother of 7 and 10 year old girls, and I cover a broad range of issues she is managing with her tween. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: ...
The Toothbrush Battles (and other struggles for power)
April 08, 2021 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.7 MBMichael is a dad of seven and ten year old kids who push him to his limit. When pushed, he pushes back engaging in endless power struggles. The fight required becomes an ongoing loop of frustration and anger continually fueling the opponent. To step out of the power struggle, Michael knows, is to take responsibility for himself and his problems. Easier said than done. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website...
When Connection Feels Overwhelming
April 01, 2021 04:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBWhen 12 yr. old Avery complains to her mother about friends who are mean and criticize the way she looks, Heather gets overwhelmed by the magnitude. When Avery is feeling down her reactions get misinterpreted by her mother. When Heather’s button gets pushed, she sees her daughter turning into a brat. But she has learned that she can step back, reframe and find the truth—her daughter is not being a brat, she’s having a hard time. With this understanding, connection can happen. Now Heather nee...
Puzzle Pieces #5 When Your Buttons Get Pushed
March 25, 2021 04:00 - 34 minutes - 23.5 MBThese once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Steps to take after a button-pushing incident. Do this work when...
The Squeaky Wheel Gets The Most But Wrong Kind of Attention
March 18, 2021 04:00 - 51 minutes - 35.4 MBAshley has 4 girls – the second to youngest is her Integrity Child who pushes her mother to the brink when she is trying so hard to understand why her daughter behaves so differently from the other three. Four girls plus Covid, and Ashley just wants things to change so her defiant one can be more manageable. Related podcast, episode #14 — Puzzle Pieces #1: “Why Would You Do That?” More about understanding the meaning of behavior and why addressing the behavior alone misses the mark. Bon...
How to be a Selfish Parent (but not too)
March 11, 2021 05:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBLauren is working out the fine-tuning of her parenting with her questions of what she has the right to want for herself vs her fear of not doing enough for her children. This episode grapples with the difficult daily decisions of, when do I sacrifice my needs for my child? and when do I put myself first with self-care? Where does my parental authority come in to play and where do I hand it over to my child? Strength comes for Lauren in knowing what she wants, what she has a right to—someth...
How To Be A Selfish Parent (But Not Too)
March 11, 2021 05:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBLauren is working out the fine-tuning of her parenting with her questions of what she has the right to want for herself vs her fear of not doing enough for her children. This episode grapples with the difficult daily decisions of, when do I sacrifice my needs for my child? and when do I put myself first with self-care? Where does my parental authority come in to play and where do I hand it over to my child? Strength comes for Lauren in knowing what she wants, what she has a right to—someth...
Stretched Thin
March 04, 2021 05:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MBCovid-related fears and worries are depleting Anne and Kevin so that by bedtime they are fried. Their three girls scramble for their parents’ attention while the parents are left feeling impatient, frustrated and angry. When worries are covered up, integrity kids like Grace see right through it and grab for attention. Unfortunately, her attempts only provoke more impatience and yelling. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing f...
Community Pieces #2 The Kids Are Going To Be Fine
February 25, 2021 05:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBA third grade teacher describes her experiences teaching both remotely and in person during these times of Covid. She shares her frustrations and delights, how she sees her children doing both online and in the classroom, and offers some advice for parents during these hectic times. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons ...
I Was Supposed To Have Taught Him That
February 18, 2021 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.6 MBGretchen wants her adolescent son to launch into his teen years with all the good work/study habits she thinks will get him far. Don’t we all. The problem is that’s her agenda. She has to trust her son to work out his own with more guidance and less advice. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/...
Standing Outside Your Children’s Problems
February 11, 2021 09:00 - 54 minutes - 37.4 MBAlan and Angela are exhausted by fear that their children are not getting their needs met during Covid isolation. Their boys fight more in close quarters. They must have friends and opportunities that are not possible to provide during these times. Alan and Angela feel like failures. What they need to know is that what their 3 children need most is parents who can see them through these tough times rather than parents exhausted from the mental anguish of trying to fix it all. Bonnie Harris,...
Fighting For The Spotlight
February 04, 2021 09:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBKarina is worn down by the willfulness of her 5 yr. old who not only resists her warnings but seems goaded by them. What she doesn’t want him to do is exactly what he does—and models for his 1 ½ yr. old sister. She reflexively throws out threats and punishments in her attempt to get him to listen. But ends up feeling horrible afterwards. “I’m going to do it anyway” has become his behavior of choice. We find a way to go with that to encourage behavior. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Conn...
Puzzle Pieces #4 "Keeping Your Kids Connected"
January 28, 2021 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MBThese once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Bonnie and Adam hash over her 4 main steps to insuring connection...
Screening Into The Void
January 21, 2021 09:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBRob and Claire’s eleven year old son is feeling the effects of both Covid and more screentime than usual. His emotions are easily triggered and distorted, angering his father and scaring his mother. Both Claire and Zach’s thinking lead to catastrophizing, while Rob wants to be listened to. This world, while quite “normal” these days, can send a tween or a teen into the bliss zone of cyberspace. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and wri...
Nobody Likes The Word Chore
January 14, 2021 09:00 - 46 minutes - 32.1 MBChristina is, rightly so, trying to get her 10 and 15 year olds to help out more at home. Her very busy life doesn’t have time to do it all. But she and her kids have been in a feedback loop of resentment, anger and guilt that triggers everyone into disconnect. Why should I? Why can’t you just…? You should know better…. are the questions spinning in Christina’s head that instantly and automatically create that disconnect. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of...
Community Pieces #1 When Conflict Between Parents Needs The Big Conversation
January 07, 2021 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBMost parenting partners face conflict about how to handle the kids. Conflict quickly triggers anger, resentment and blame. Rarely does the necessary conversation happen after emotions are cooled. Anger and resentment get squashed—but not forgotten. In this first Community Pieces episode, Bonnie talks with mediator and conflict resolution coach, Adar Cohen, who leads big conversations in conflict zones and in family rooms. Bonnie and Adar discuss both the approach and the how-to of the big co...
Community Pieces #1: When Conflict between Parents Needs the Big Conversation
January 07, 2021 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBMost parenting partners face conflict about how to handle the kids. Conflict quickly triggers anger, resentment and blame. Rarely does the necessary conversation happen after emotions are cooled. Anger and resentment get squashed—but not forgotten. In this first Community Pieces episode, Bonnie talks with mediator and conflict resolution coach, Adar Cohen, who leads big conversations in conflict zones and in family rooms. Bonnie and Adar discuss both the approach and the how-to of the big co...
Happy New Year From Tell Me About Your Kids!
January 01, 2021 09:00 - 2 minutes - 1.98 MBThank you for listening to Tell Me About Your Kids in 2020! You've made this podcast a success in so many ways. Stay tuned for all the great episodes we have coming up in 2021. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Rem...
From Power Struggle To Relationship
December 29, 2020 09:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MB2020 ends with a lesson on relationship. Tracy’s children are not too young to begin this important process. Most parents naturally get hung up on what is important to teach and get stuck in the minutia of daily life and chaos with young kids. We forget that the main thing we want our children to learn is to be respectful and considerate. Tracy gets a reminder of this important aspect of parenting and how her issue with getting toys picked up blocks her needed focus on developing a mutually ...
Eat Your Peas or No Dessert
December 22, 2020 09:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBEmily has gotten into a habit of using candy and sweets to get her three kids to eat a bite of everything on their plate. Her intention is good, but she learns that the lesson she is teaching may not be the lesson she wants them to learn. The goal gets lost when the immediate desire is front and center. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Ki...
Eat Your Peas or No Dessert
December 22, 2020 09:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBEmily has gotten into a habit of using candy and sweets to get her three kids to eat a bite of everything on their plate. Her intention is good, but she learns that the lesson she is teaching may not be the lesson she wants them to learn. The goal gets lost when the immediate desire is front and center. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Ki...
“I’m stupid, you hate me”
December 15, 2020 09:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBSix-year-old Luke is having trouble staying focused with remote learning. He “despises” reading and multiple times a day bemoans that he’s stupid and his mom hates him, much to Ariel’s bewilderment. She of course worries about his self-confidence and tries to convince him that he’s wrong. But her worry about Luke keeps Ariel from seeing what she unintentionally projects onto Luke that contributes to his lack of self-confidence. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ ye...
Puzzle Pieces #3 Boundaries: Whose job is it, anyway?
December 08, 2020 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBThese once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing. Adam and Bonnie discuss the art (and pit-falls) of problem solvin...
When Sibling Fights Trigger Parent Anger
December 01, 2020 09:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBJulie returns to the podcast (see Sibling Rivalry eps. 8 and 9) with a deeper layer exposed. We now look at why she gets so mad when her boys fight. She knows the fights are over nothing, she knows they can probably work it out, but she can’t stand the fighting, which triggers her rage and feeling out of control. Hang in till the end. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonni...
Creating Chaos Out Of Nothing
November 24, 2020 09:00 - 44 minutes - 30.5 MBLauren’s two boys, 7 and 11 are good examples of Integrity and Harmony kids. Jack’s easy-going, cooperative nature makes Lauren and her husband all the more determined to try to control the younger Bobby, whose attention-grabbing, highly frustrating behaviors are getting him in trouble at school. His parents are beginning to see him as the problem. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com -...