Shooters Gotta Shoot
192 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 months ago - ★★★★★ - 610 ratingsComedian Erica Spera brings on a guest each week to talk about dating and relationships. In 2019, Erica publicly came out about having herpes, and how that has affected her dating life. Since then, no topic is off limits. She takes a sports mentality when it comes to dating, and instead of throwing in the towel she breaks down different relationship books, research, tricks and tips with her guests to see what is real and what is B.S. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/shootersgottashoot/support
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#38 Alexis Guerreros - Everyone told my wife to leave me
June 11, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 68.4 MBALEXIS GURREROS (Netflix, The Cooligans) joins Erica & Molly to share his story of going from breadwinner to broke in his marriage. We discuss; how to support your partner during job loss, the financial double standards men face, why money doesn't fix all of your problems, how losing a job can make you feel inferior, and why strong women are the most attractive. Join our Patreon Team here for extra episodes & to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot **LEAVE US A ...
#37 Taking a break for Black Lives Matter
June 04, 2020 04:00 - 26 minutes - 24.7 MBWe'll be taking a break from our regular dating/relationship content to provide you with some resources for how you can help with Black Lives Matter. Check out the list of resources on our website: https://www.shootersgottashoot.com/black-lives-matter-resources Contact us if you have anything you think we should add to this list: [email protected] or on Instagram: @shootersgottashootpod instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod Erica Spera: @spericaa instagram.com/spericaa ...
#36 The Fanisode - Shots Fired, Age Gaps & Quarantine Breakups
May 28, 2020 04:00 - 47 minutes - 43.6 MBErica & Molly answer some fan questions! Send us your questions and updates: [email protected] How do you shoot your shot when bars are closed? What do you say to a racist DM? Does age really matter or is it just a number? How should you navigate a breakup in a shared apartment? and Erica shares her "golden ticket" risky middle school moves that, of course, never worked. Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgot...
#35 Rules for living together
May 21, 2020 04:00 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBErica goes on a few FaceTime dates and the girls debate if dating apps are really worth your time. Erica & Molly discuss the chapter "Be Easy to Live With" from the book "The Rules" and cover; how to adjust to living with your significant other, roommate conflict, the two types of "dishes" people, how to ask for your space, and please don't kill your parents. Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot **LEAVE US A RAT...
#34 Jordana Abraham - Attached - We are only as "needy" as our unmet needs
May 14, 2020 04:00 - 47 minutes - 43.4 MBJORDANA ABRAHAM (Betches, U Up?) join Erica & Molly to discuss the book Attached which breaks down attachment theory. We discuss; the different styles of attachment (secure, anxious, & avoidant), the dependency paradox, why codependency is a myth, the dangers of playing games, how fighting can help a relationship, and if men are ever intimidated by a woman's success. Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot **LEAVE US...
#33 Joe List & Sarah Tollemache - Herpes Herpes Herpes
May 07, 2020 04:09 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBJOE LIST & SARAH TOLLEMACHE join Erica & Molly to talk about all things HERPES! Joe was diagnosed with herpes 11 years ago, and not long after started dating Sarah (his now wife) who is still herpes free. We discuss; accepting your diagnosis, the best ways to tell people you have herpes, some rejections Joe faced when disclosing to partners, how people assume Sarah must have herpes too, dealing with outbreaks, and much more! Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podc...
#33 My husband has herpes and I don't w/ Joe List & Sarah Tollemache
May 07, 2020 04:09 - 53 minutes - 48.5 MBJOE LIST & SARAH TOLLEMACHE join Erica & Molly to talk about all things HERPES! Joe was diagnosed with herpes 11 years ago, and not long after started dating Sarah (his now wife) who is still herpes free. We discuss; accepting your diagnosis, the best ways to tell people you have herpes, some rejections Joe faced when disclosing to partners, how people assume Sarah must have herpes too, dealing with outbreaks, and much more! Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podc...
#32 Sara Levine - Why do women date murderers?
April 30, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 56.9 MBSARA LEVINE (Betches & Not Another True Crime Podcast) joins Erica & Molly for to talk about women who date murderers. We discuss; the penpal fantasy, what exactly makes women fall in love with a killer, the Bonnie & Clyde complex, Ordinary vs. Famous murderers, and online dating dangers and tips. We share a few shooting your shot stories, how Molly once got a letter from a prisoner, and our past dating app experiences. CNN: Killer love: Why people fall in love with murderers Psychology T...
#31 Francis Ellis - The 5 Love Languages
April 23, 2020 04:00 - 48 minutes - 44.4 MBComedian FRANCIS ELLIS (Barstool Sports & BroBible) joins Erica & Molly for to talk about The 5 Love Languages. We discuss; what each Love Language means, why it's a bad idea to buy an apology gift, engagement ring and proposal mistakes, and why you shouldn't withhold sex (physical touch) as a punishment. We each take the Love Languages test below and Francis can't figure out why we're still single. Love Language Test: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Join our Patreon Team here f...
#30 Taylor Tomlinson - Long Distance Relationships
April 16, 2020 04:00 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBComedian TAYLOR TOMLINSON joins Erica & Molly for to talk about being in a long distance relationship (LA to NYC) with comedian Sam Morril. We discuss; how to keep the love alive despite the distance, Taylor's broken engagement, rebounding precautions, how you know you're ready to date again, and what questions you should ask yourself & your partner before getting into a long distance relationship. We end the episode with Taylor sharing a hilarious story of how she "shot her shot" and missed...
#29 Kacie Main - I gave up men for Lent
April 09, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 78.5 MBHAPPY EASTER! KACIE MAIN joins Erica & Molly for to talk about her book "I Gave Up Men for Lent". Kacie gave up dating and drinking for 40 days and talks to us about how her life has changed since. We discuss; how to deal with jealousy of family and friends, the parental pressures we feel while single, how dating mistakes help you in the end, and the importance of your relationship with yourself. Join our Patreon Team here for more episodes & to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com...
#28 Chris James - FaceTime dates in Coronavirus lockdown
April 02, 2020 04:00 - 38 minutes - 35.2 MBCHRIS JAMES joins Molly & Erica to talk about how the coronavirus quarantine has changed the dating game. Chris recently went on two FaceTime first dates and shares with us his experiences. We talk about the benefits of FaceTime vs. Real Life dates, how online dating app activity has changed, sexting with a stranger, and how Molly is going to tell future dates about contracting coronavirus. You can buy a T-shirt here: https://www.customink.com/fundraising/shootersgottashootpod OR Join our...
#27 Coronavirus tips and avoiding Cabin Fever
March 26, 2020 04:36 - 49 minutes - 45 MBMolly talks about what changes she made to improve her coronavirus symptoms. The girls discuss tips to avoid getting cabin fever during quarantine time, and new ways you can help your community. Keep staying home as much as possible! You can buy a T-shirt here: https://www.customink.com/fundraising/shootersgottashootpod Join our Patreon Team here to support the Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Contact Progressive Dental NY for your 3D Printer Questions: 607-754-2273 U...
#26 Molly has Coronavirus COVID-19 so you should stay home
March 23, 2020 17:25 - 27 minutes - 25.3 MBMolly has the Coronavirus aka COVID-19. We talk about her symptoms Day 5, how we're coping with the virus under our small roof and how Molly is doing. Everyone keep staying home!!! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Want more episodes? Support the podcast? Join our Patreon Team here: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] ...
#25 Buyer Beware
March 19, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 55.3 MBMolly and Erica get into Chapter 17: Buyer Beware from the book "The Rules". This chapter gives us different dating scenarios and red flags, which we play a game to see if we can guess the "Buyer Beware" warning correctly. Listen and play along with us. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottas...
#24 Steven Rogers - The grass is greener where you water it
March 12, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 69.8 MBThis episode is with special guest STEVEN ROGERS! Steven joins Molly and Erica to discuss ANXIETY and EQUALITY in relationships. Steven and his girlfriend are both stand up comedians, and we discuss the benefits and challenges of dating someone you work with. He shares with us how he deals with his anxiety in both romantic and personal relationships. We breakdown the chapter "Finding the Prince in Every Toad" from the book "Getting to I Do" by Dr. Patricia Allen & Sandra Harmon. We also disc...
#23 Thomas Whitfield - Break your dating patterns
March 05, 2020 05:01 - 1 hour - 80 MBThis episode is with special guest THOMAS WHITFIELD! Therapist and doctoral candidate Thomas joins Molly and Erica to discuss THERAPY! The difference between CBT Therapy, Exposure therapy, Psychotherapy, etc. and how we can use them to improve our relationships. Thomas opens up about getting HPV, and how to tell your future partners about incurable STIs. They also talk about; how we always choose the people we date, how to break your past relationship patterns, and why we must accept people ...
#22 Colum Tyrrell - The Games never go away
February 27, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 65.3 MBThis episode is with special guest COLUM TYRRELL! Colum joins Molly and Erica to discuss tips from "Where to Find Him" - advice on places to meet men. They also talk about; the games we play in relationships, how men love logically, "fixer upper" relationships, moving in with your partner, and why you shouldn't waste someone else's leftovers. We round out with our new segment "Man's Opinion" and answer fan emails. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving awa...
#21 Jared Freid - Date like you own the company
February 20, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 62.5 MBThis episode is with special guest JARED FREID ! (the Jtrain & U Up? Podcasts) Jared joins Molly and Erica to discuss "The Rules - 12 Extra Hints". We start off with our new segment "Man's Opinion" and answer the following questions: Should I be concerned with my boyfriend liking Instagram Model's photos? Why do guys say “Let's do this again sometime” and then disappear? They also discuss; why men love vague relationships, how the honest one gets screwed over, the importance of "practice lik...
#20 Corinne Fisher - Pick a reason for the Breakup
February 13, 2020 05:46 - 1 hour - 61.7 MBThis episode is all about BREAKUPS! Cohost of Guys we Fucked CORINNE FISHER (the Queen of Petty) joins Molly and Erica (fresh off a breakup) to discuss the book & TED talk "How to Fix a Broken Heart" by Guy Winch. They talk about why we idealize the person that broke our heart and why we shouldn't. They also discuss; the importance of closure, the similarities of Love & Drugs, the best methods to get over heartbreak, the dangers of blame, Blocking/unfriending on social media, how to reclaim ...
#19 Jourdain Fisher - Step up your style and tongue game
February 06, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 76.1 MBJOURDAIN FISHER joins Molly & Erica to discuss; tips from "How to Look Good to Him", the importance of having a sense of style, how to slide into the DMs gracefully, interracial dating, why everyone should be going downtown, and much more! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod Want mor...
#18 Amarie Costillo - You date to the level of your self-esteem
January 30, 2020 06:06 - 1 hour - 84.3 MBAMARIE COSTILLO joins Molly & Erica **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod Want more episodes? Join our Patreon Team here: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Amarie Co...
#18 Amarie Castillo - You date to the level of your self-esteem
January 30, 2020 06:06 - 1 hour - 56.2 MBAMARIE CASTILLO joins Molly & Erica to discuss; taking big shots in real life, how to attract what you’re really looking for, why women shouldn't date like they have a "biological clock", bouncing back after a breakup, and much more. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod Want more epis...
#17 Remy Kassimir - Your orgasm is your responsibility
January 23, 2020 07:31 - 1 hour - 78.6 MBREMY KASSIMIR joins Molly & Erica for their best episode yet. Remy shares with us an abortion story, and we discuss how men should react to pregnancy news. We discuss; the article “If You Don’t Have Sexual Chemistry With Your Partner, Here Are 5 Things Experts Say To Do”, how more women need to masturbate, how to discuss your sex life with your partner, vaginal vs clitoral orgasms, how sex is a valid dealbreaker & so much more. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'l...
#16 "Success" doesn't mean "Marriage"
January 16, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 58.9 MBMolly and Erica breakdown "Stuff your 'Rules' by Taffy Brodesser-Akner, a critique of the book "The Rules". “The Rules” taught us how to present ourselves to nab a husband. But what would we do once we had him? They discuss; how "The Rules" gives women a short term marketing plan, how to be blunt with your partner, the struggle to balance your career and love life, and how every relationship has "the one who loves more". **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be gi...
#15 Tawanda Gona - Let him be the little spoon
January 09, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 72.8 MBTawanda Gona (former Hinge employee) joins Molly and Erica to share his online dating tips! We discuss: the male perspective on what it really means to be exclusive, how to move from exclusive to girlfriend, when to DTR, how to be honest in the easiest way possible and much more. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: in...
#14 Mara Marek - 7 Rings, 3 Divorces
January 02, 2020 05:00 - 57 minutes - 52.3 MBHappy New Year! Mara Marek from the “Happy Never After” podcast joins Erica and Molly to talk about: how being divorced has changed her dating life, how and when to share your marriage baggage, what made 7 different men want to propose to her, why she has a 3 date rule and much more. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM u...
#13 Suck it up and show up
December 26, 2019 05:00 - 54 minutes - 49.9 MBMerry Christmas! Happy Boxing Day! Happy Kwanzaa! Erica & Molly talk about "Experience Gifts", how to go outside your comfort zone to meet men, and how to try and balance friends & family during the holiday season. They breakdown The Rule "Show up even when you don't feel like it" and accept the challenge to go out alone. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: shoo...
#12 Lev Fer - How to get his attention
December 19, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 72.3 MBLev Fer from the “Yung Daddy” podcast joins Erica and Molly to give a man’s perspective on: what gifts to buy your guy, how to communicate what you want in bed, what will really make a guy notice you, and much more. Quiz to take with your partner: https://www.weshouldtryit.com/ **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW FOR A CHANCE TO WIN $100** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards once we hit 300 reviews! Email us your questions & DM stories at: [email protected] or DM us: instagr...
#11 Hannah Berner - Blow jobs are better than no jobs
December 12, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 60.4 MB*FIRST GUEST ALERT* HANNAH BERNER from Bravo TVs "Summer House" Hannah Berner joins Molly and Erica to talk about a Blow Job class they took, how they first got the courage to go down, and some hot tips and hot misses they’ve had along the way. Erica and her herpes finally get laid, and Molly explains being over “the old college try”. The WOMEN discuss the following questions: how long would you wait to see if you’re sexually compatible with someone? Is having sex in your parents house hot ...
#10 I think you're great, but...
December 05, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 56 MBThis podcast is all about shooting your shot, and this week Molly and Erica share some hard misses they've had throughout the years. Molly gets the classic "You're great, but..." after attempting to DTR. Erica makes a big romantic gesture to her science fair partner. We discuss Oprah's tips on how to deal with rejection, getting friend zoned, asking out your friends with benefits, etc. On this weeks DM Corner: a male listener shares a BEAUTIFUL cover letter and you'll want to slide into his D...
#9 Don't jinx it: Don't name the puppy
November 28, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 55.8 MBHAPPY THANKSGIVING! Erica gives a herpes disclosure update. The girls discuss the 'Don't name the puppy theory", and how to not jinx your future relationship. They also breakdown the 3 C's "Chemistry, Compatibility & Communication" along with the "Relationship Stages" from the book "Getting to I Do" by Dr. Patricia Allen. When should you define the relationship? What comes after the honeymoon phase? Should women date as if they don't have a biological clock? **HELP THE PODCAST & LEAVE US A...
#8 I want to be the feminine one, but I don’t have the patience
November 21, 2019 05:00 - 54 minutes - 50 MBErica and Molly recap some missed shots from the weekend. They discuss the difference between being the masculine vs. feminine energy of a relationship from the book "Getting to I Do" by Dr. Patricia Allen. They end with a new segment & special guest: Questions with Marv. **HELP THE PODCAST & LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW** We'll be giving away 3 Amazon Gift cards (worth $100 each) once we hit 300 reviews Email us your questions, comments, and concerns for our well being: shootersgottashoot...
#7 He used me to cheat, then married that girl
November 14, 2019 04:56 - 56 minutes - 51.8 MBErica and Molly have both unintentionally been "the other woman" and talk about how they handled the situation. Molly messages the girlfriend of a cheating man to let her know what he's really been up to. Erica receives an apology from the man that gave her herpes. The girls cover "The Rules" #23 Don't Date a Married Man, and reasons to "pull a Molly". They answer the following questions; Can you truly be friends with an ex? Should you give a cheater a second chance? Does speaking up about ...
#6 Chlamydia is more dangerous than Herpes
November 07, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 61.9 MBErica and Molly get into CNN's latest article "STDs are Sexist and Women are the Losers". They tell some chlamydia tales, talk about the "3 Condom Rule", the effect of STDs on your mental health, and introduce the new DM Corner segment. **HELP THE PODCAST & LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW** Email us your questions, comments, and concerns for our well being: [email protected] If you'd like to receive extra episodes every month join our Patreon Team here: https://www.patreon.com/...
BONUS PATREON - How did you tell your parents you got herpes?
November 05, 2019 10:04 - 3 minutes - 3.26 MBErica reads the letter she sent her parents about having herpes a few weeks before the podcast officially came out and how they handled the news. She also forgot to tell her sister before her secret was public. Whoops. To hear the full episode (plus bonus episodes) join our Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Follow us on Instagram: @shootersgottashootpod Erica Spera: @spericaa Molly DeMellier: @theguaca_molly If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Suppor...
#5 Whenever you feel fat just wear Red
October 31, 2019 04:00 - 1 hour - 59.2 MBHappy Halloween Shooters! Molly and Erica dive into the Costumes vs Clothing chapter of the book "Never Sleep Alone" by Dr. Alex Schiller. They breakdown the "4 types of people everyone wants to sleep with" for both men and women, and some tricks and tips for what to wear on a date. Join them in this week's challenge to wear a "costume" everyday, for one week, whenever you leave the house. **HELP THE PODCAST & LEAVE US A RATING AND REVEIW** Email us your questions, comments, and concern...
#4 I followed The Rules and got Herpes
October 24, 2019 03:42 - 44 minutes - 40.9 MBThis week the girls talk about PDA, how much is too much? If a guy doesn't make a move by the third date, does that mean he's not into you? Erica gets rejected twice within the same date, while Molly would rather die than be physical in public. They breakdown Chapters 14 & 15 of "The Rules" which state no more than kissing on the first date. They discuss waiting to have sex, dumb hotties, why nice guys finish last, and how following the rules might leave you with herpes. **HELP THE PODCAST ...
BONUS PATREON EP - Knock knock, who's there?
October 22, 2019 04:37 - 56 minutes - 51.8 MBWe're giving you a FREE Patreon episode this week to show you what we're doing over there. If you'd like to receive extra episodes every month join our Patreon Team here: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot IT'S MOLLY'S BIRTHDAY! The past knocks on Molly's door TWICE on her birthday. Her sister calls & she receives an unexpected DM slide from a past heartbreak. They discuss boundaries, gaslighting, birthday sex, some shots that get blocked, and faux fur. **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVE...
#3 You eat like you're blind!
October 17, 2019 05:21 - 46 minutes - 42.6 MBErica and Molly discuss eating on dates, what foods to avoid, Erica's system, and the importance of sharing food. Erica finds a man who has never had an eggs benedict and Molly has a sushi date turn into a Chuck Norris movie. Enjoying the pod? **Leave us a Rating and Review** Email us your questions, comments, and concerns for our well being: [email protected] Follow us on Instagram: @shootersgottashootpod Erica Spera: @spericaa Molly DeMellier: @theguaca_molly Help us make...
#2 I felt like Herpes ruined my life
October 16, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 78.9 MBMolly and Erica dive into their baggage. Molly opens up about her sister excommunicating with the family and Erica shares her herpes secret. It's a heavy one but they find some places to laugh along the way. Email us your questions, comments, and concerns for our well being: [email protected] Follow us on Instagram: @shootersgottashootpod Erica Spera: @spericaa Molly DeMellier: @theguaca_molly Help us make the podcast sound better and shit by becoming a Patreon: www.patreon.c...
#1 Slow dances are when I get shit done
October 08, 2019 05:35 - 46 minutes - 42.4 MBOn the very first episode of Shooters Gotta Shoot, Molly somehow manages to get recruited for therapy and Erica gets unsolicited dating advice from a southern Uber driver. At 17:25 it's The Rules according to Erica & Molly. They breakdown The Rule: "Don't Talk to a Man First and Don't Ask Him to Dance" and Erica explains her go to move in college. They answer the following questions: What does it means to be a "shooter"? Would you breakup with someone for not dancing with you at a wedding...