169. BTS: Is it okay to bribe my kids to get them to cooperate?

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...

2:22 - Understanding the distinction between bribery and rewards, so you can be most effective in motivating your child.

5:05 - How to use rewards to help our children learn a new habit.

6:50 - A bribe is a tool in a parents toolbox, it's about knowing when to use that tool so you are doing it intentionally and not just falling back on it.

8:07 - A reward is to build momentum, not to sustain a behaviors for a long period of time.

9:10 - When using a reward system, we want to try to help our child notice the internal pleasure they derive from an experience, separate from the external reward.

11:30 - What the research reveals about the difference between using rewards for mundane tasks and chores (like brushing teeth) versus activities that are intrinsically rewarding (like reading, drawing, or practicing an instrument).

18:10 - Being intentional about the choices you make and working to use your parenting tools from a place of confidence rather than anxiety.

21:48 - What are other tools you can use to increase cooperation instead of bribery or rewards?

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