Securely Attached artwork

Securely Attached

240 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 days ago - ★★★★★ - 74 ratings

Securely Attached is your go-to parenting podcast, supporting moms and dads from pregnancy all the way through their child's adolescence and every stage in between.

Join us every Tuesday as clinical psychologist and mom of two Dr. Sarah Bren shares her expertise and interviews top experts in the field, simplifying complicated concepts and pulling back the curtain on the brain science and psychology that drives and shapes the parent-child relationship.

And now, every Thursday, Dr. Sarah Bren is joined by Dr. Emily Upshur and Dr. Rebecca Hershberg for a special segment, Beyond The Sessions. We’re answering YOUR parenting questions from the perspective of clinical psychologists highly trained in developmental science and real-life moms who get that parenting is messy, and sometimes we have to laugh, cry, and throw out the “rules.”

From toddler tantrums, to effective discipline strategies, to leaning into the principles of respectful parenting, and to managing your own mental wellness as a parent—this podcast is your ultimate resource for judgment-free, research-backed information you know you can trust.

About Sarah Bren, PhD
Dr. Sarah Bren is a licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two who helps parents understand the building blocks of child development and how secure relationships form and thrive. Her work is focused on helping parents find their inner confidence so they can respond to any parenting problem that comes along and raise kids who are healthy, resilient, and kind.

Parenting Kids & Family Health & Fitness Mental Health attached infants parenting parentingsupport childdevelopment dad family kids mentalhealth mom
Homepage Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed

Episodes

188. Finding positives in spite of our pain: A mother's journey navigating her child's illness with Dr. Maggie Kang

March 26, 2024 09:00 - 48 minutes - 66.7 MB

No one prepares you for hearing that your child is sick. Navigating a child’s harrowing medical diagnosis is often one of the hardest things a parent can go through. Today, we talk with a mother who has walked this path, and how she found a way to redefine her narrative in order to diminish her pain and suffering in one of her life's most challenging moments.   Joining me today is board-certified radiologist and Certified Life Coach Dr. Maggie Kang. Dr. Kang was faced with the unthinkabl...

187. BTS: How can I parent my daughter so she doesn't become a people pleaser?

March 21, 2024 09:00 - 26 minutes - 35.8 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     1:25 - Some of the most common traits and characteristics of a people pleaser.   5:00 - How the role of gender plays a part in people pleasing.   7:44 - Subtle language shifts parents can make to promote your child's ability to tune into themselves and their needs.   10:28 - Helping bridge and stretch your child's understanding of them...

186. Using presence as the antidote to trauma: How we begin to break cycles with Dr. Jacob Ham

March 19, 2024 09:00 - 57 minutes - 78.7 MB

An exploration of healing trauma through presence, connection, and self-awareness.   Joining me to take us on this journey of discovery is licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jacob Ham. Dr. Ham will offer listeners a deeper understanding of trauma's impact on a person's neurobiology and their interpretation of the world around them, while emphasizing the importance of our relationships as a means of healing. All parents will benefit from the wisdom he shares on reflective functioning and ...

185. BTS: How can I handle jealousy and sibling rivalry?

March 14, 2024 09:00 - 29 minutes - 41 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     3:27 - How to use radical acceptance rather than trying to make everything "fair" or "equal" between siblings.   6:28 - Forging an individual relationship with each of your children and offering them one-on-one time separate from their siblings can be helpful.   9:43 - We tend to focus on the difficult moments (like when our kids are fight...

184. Breaking the silence: A mother's personal story of surviving postpartum psychosis

March 12, 2024 09:00 - 1 hour - 95.1 MB

Trigger Warning: This episode involves topics related to postpartum psychosis, suicide, and infanticide.   In this eye-opening conversation, one mother is sharing her raw and unfiltered story of navigating a postpartum psychosis diagnosis, shedding light on this often misunderstood and stigmatized perinatal mood and anxiety disorder.   After the birth of her second son, Chelsea battled with intense challenges with postpartum depression, which eventually snowballed into postpartum psy...

183. BTS: What is the best way to allow my preschooler to play with gender norms?

March 07, 2024 10:00 - 19 minutes - 26.3 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:10 - Playing with gender norms is developmentally typical for preschoolers and is how they learn to make meaning of things.   3:12 - For most parents, this is less a worry of our child's playful experimentation and more about how the world will respond to them.   8:50 - You can have family rules and still be supportive of your child's ex...

182. Raising conscious kids: A thoughtful exploration of bias, cultural identity, and diversity with Dr. Dana E. Crawford

March 05, 2024 10:00 - 49 minutes - 67.9 MB

Discover how to navigate bias and guide your children toward a future of genuine cultural understanding and allyship!   Join me for a vulnerable and honest conversation on how we can navigate bias, and nurture cultural and racial awareness and inclusivity in ourselves and our children with pediatric and clinical psychologist, Dr. Dana E. Crawford. Dr. Crawford is the developer of the Crawford Bias Reduction Theory & Training (CBRT), a systematic approach to reducing bias, prejudice, and ...

181. BTS: How can I get my 3-year-old to do things they don't want to do?

February 29, 2024 10:00 - 24 minutes - 33.6 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:20 - At 3 years old, kids often start to have more desires for autonomy.   4:13 - The more we can be a predictable container and create consistent routines and boundaries for our kids, the less they will feel a need to test limits.   7:30 - Theory of Mind is the ability to understand that there are perspectives different from one's own. ...

180. How mentally strong people handle life's up's and downs: Unpacking honesty, kindness, guilt, and intentionality with Amy Morin

February 27, 2024 10:00 - 47 minutes - 65.2 MB

Discover how being self-aware and intentional in your actions can shape your children's emotional resilience!   Joining me today is licensed clinical social worker and the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do, Amy Morin.   In this episode, Amy and I are shedding light on how parents, couples, and friends can harness this empowering mindset. From fostering curiosity and confidence to navigating complex emotions like guilt and values like honesty and kindness, we're pro...

179. BTS: How do I support my child through distress without rescuing them immediately?

February 22, 2024 10:00 - 24 minutes - 33.1 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     3:28 - This age is when "stranger danger" and object permanence comes online with typical cognitive development.   6:47 - Crying to alert you that they don't prefer being held by another safe adult that is not Mom doesn't always mean they are in distress.   9:41 - Building resilience means reflecting our child's feelings back to them and s...

178. ADHD and attachment security: How to connect with and support your neurodiverse child with Dr. Norrine Russell

February 20, 2024 09:00 - 1 hour - 82.9 MB

Unlock the transformative power of understanding and connecting with your child's ADHD brain - rather than fighting against it!   Joining me is the founder of Russell Coaching for Students and the author of Asking the Right Questions Before, During, and After Your Child’s ADHD Diagnosis, Dr. Norrine Russell.   If you have a child with ADHD, you won't want to miss this episode where we're sharing personal insights, evidence-based techniques, and empowering strategies to guide parents...

177. BTS: How do I know when my child's anxiety requires a mental health intervention?

February 15, 2024 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29.1 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     1:52 - When is it appropriate to seek help from a mental health professional to help your child manage their anxiety and fears?   4:40 - How to identify the difference between our child's natural desire for information versus a desire for us to soothe their anxiety.   8:45 - Addressing concepts like death with your child is difficult becau...

176. Love, intimacy, and parenthood: Fostering our romantic relationships with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

February 13, 2024 10:00 - 51 minutes - 71 MB

Did you know that a staggering 67% of couples experience a dip in relationship satisfaction after the birth of a child?   Joining me is clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and sought-after relationship expert, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. Dr. Tracy is the founder of Be Connected Digital, the author of I Didn’t Sign Up for This, and the host of the I'm Not Your Shrink podcast.   Today, we discuss how to signal for support and communicate our needs (even when sleep-deprived) to our par...

175. BTS: When I tell my child to stop, they just dig their heels in more—what can I do?

February 08, 2024 10:00 - 25 minutes - 34.4 MB

>>> Enrollment is now open for Parenting by Design, my simple, evidenced-based coaching program for parenting your sensitive child in a way that increases cooperation, discharges power struggles, and rebuilds their trust in your authority–all while supporting your child’s mental health and your own.      Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     3:50 - At 3-years-old you need to ph...

174. Back by popular demand: How to change your child’s behavior in just 3 weeks

February 06, 2024 10:00 - 50 minutes - 69.9 MB

>>> HEAD HERE TO GRAB THE FREEBIE FOR THIS EPISODE: Your Step-By-Step Guide for How to Change Your Child's Behavior in Just 3 Weeks!   Back by popular demand! For parents who want to learn my simple framework for how to change your child's behavior in just 3 weeks!   In this episode, I am breaking down the 10 simple steps I teach to the families in my clinical practice to help them make small shifts to their own behavior that will result in some big changes in their child.   Plu...

173. BTS: Preventing burnout when you have a sensitive child

February 01, 2024 10:00 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...       4:33 - Breaking down what "don't overthink the lava" means and how to use that in your parenting.   9:05 - The content of the lava is not the problem we need to solve and spending time and energy on this can reduce our bandwidth.   10:48 - When you have a sensitive child who demands a lot of support, you need to get a tighter grip on ...

172. Being intentional about the time and energy you devote to your many roles: Balancing parenthood, partnership, and work with Dr. Yael Schonbrun

January 30, 2024 10:00 - 1 hour - 85.9 MB

Discover how the principles of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) can revolutionize the way you manage the complexities of everyday life.   Joining me to help busy parents learn science-backed strategies to ditch guilt, manage overwhelm, and grow meaningful connections is Dr. Yael Schonbrun.   In this episode, Dr. Schonbrun shares actionable insights and strategies to help you thrive in your many roles. Whether you're a parent seeking to raise well-adjusted and healthy kids, a ...

171. BTS: When school calls: How to address behavioral concerns from my child's teacher?

January 25, 2024 10:00 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     5:10 - Approaching the situation without shame and trying to do our best not to go to the meeting at the school from a defensive frame of mind.   7:55 - Zooming out from the behavior itself to try to understand what types of emotions are leading to these outbursts will allow us to be more effective in "treating" it.   9:50 - Creating a re...

170. Debunking the myth of learning styles: What the research actually says are the best ways to teach our children with Dr. Dan Willingham

January 23, 2024 10:00 - 53 minutes - 74.1 MB

Would you say you're a 👁️ visual or an 👂🏼 auditory learner? What if I told you that the research has actually debunked the theory that learning styles even exist?   So, then what actually is the best way for helping our kids to learn, feel successful, and become resilient?   That is exactly what I’ll be talking about with University of Virginia Professor of Psychology and the author of several amazing books, including the best-selling Why Don't Students Like School?, and most recent...

169. BTS: Is it okay to bribe my kids to get them to cooperate?

January 18, 2024 10:00 - 31 minutes - 43.5 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:22 - Understanding the distinction between bribery and rewards, so you can be most effective in motivating your child.   5:05 - How to use rewards to help our children learn a new habit.   6:50 - A bribe is a tool in a parents toolbox, it's about knowing when to use that tool so you are doing it intentionally and not just falling back o...

168. Managing anxiety and stress in parenthood: Finding balance and joy in the journey with Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco

January 16, 2024 10:00 - 59 minutes - 82.1 MB

Uncover proven techniques to manage anxiety, guilt, and overwhelming emotions, empowering you to parent with confidence. 👩‍👧   Joining me this week is Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco. Ilyse is the Founder/Director of the North Jersey Center for Anxiety and Stress Management and the author of Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood—and Relax into Your New Self.   This episode is a must-listen for all new and seasoned moms, with acti...

167. BTS: What can parents do to help support their child with ADHD?

January 11, 2024 10:00 - 22 minutes - 31.5 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   If your child (or you!) has ADHD, you're going to love all the products from BestSelf as much as I do! CLICK HERE and use code DRSARAHBREN15 to save 15% off your entire purchase!   3:50 - How parents of a child newly diagnosed with ADHD can utilize specific strategies to support them.   6:02 - Understand ADHD and what a child with ADHD might s...

166. The fluidity of secure and insecure attachment patterns with Dr. Annie Zimmerman

January 09, 2024 10:00 - 51 minutes - 70.5 MB

Embark on a journey of self-exploration that will empower you to rewrite your attachment narrative!   Joining me to share her expertise on attachment patterns in adult relationships is psychotherapist and the author of the new book Your Pocket Therapist, Dr. Annie Zimmerman.   Together Dr. Zimmerman and I have an engaging conversation that dives deep into the nuances of matrescence and patrescence, how to begin unpacking your triggers, and the transformative 5-step process she outlin...

165. BTS: Are there effective strategies for curbing biting before toddlerhood?

January 04, 2024 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21.2 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:02 - Distinguishing between the different interventions for how to respond to biting with a young child versus an older toddler.   5:55 - Babies don't often bite out of angry, but for many other reasons including exploratory and sensory seeking behaviors.   7:53 - When a baby bites another kid and the child has a big reaction, our baby m...

164. Parenting in the digital age: Navigating screen time, cyberbullying, and social media with Dr. Devorah Heitner

January 02, 2024 10:00 - 45 minutes - 63.1 MB

Effective strategies for guiding your child through the digital landscape and preparing them for a tech-savvy future!   Join us in this episode as Dr. Devorah Heitner unravels the mysteries of parenting in the age of social media, online gaming, and rapid technological changes. Gain practical insights into setting boundaries, modeling positive behavior, and empowering your kids to navigate the complexities of the digital universe with confidence.   Dr. Devorah Heitner has a Ph.D. in ...

163. BTS: How can I help my child prepare for and transition to new childcare?

December 28, 2023 10:00 - 18 minutes - 25.1 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:05 - Parents are often worried this transition will be traumatic, but most children will be able to get through it in a healthy way, even if they have big feelings about it.   3:44 - Be mindful that how we feel about this transition is often predictive of how smoothly it will go and can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.   6:04 - There i...

162. Transforming Relationships: How Integrative Attachment Family Therapy can deepen bonds with Dafna Lender

December 26, 2023 10:00 - 50 minutes - 68.8 MB

How can parents use the principles of Integrative Attachment Family Therapy (IAFT) to strengthen their connection with their child?   That is what I'll be exploring with the co-author of the new book, Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship through Play, Co-regulation, and Meaning-Making, Dafna Lender, LCSW.   This episode offers a unique perspective on parenting, emphasizing the importance of play, co-regulation, a...

161. BTS: What can I do to ensure my child doesn't feel pressure to perform for other adults?

December 21, 2023 10:00 - 27 minutes - 37.3 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     1:40 - Unpacking whether our child is anxious about this experience, or if we might be projecting our own feelings onto the request for them to perform.   5:33 - What interventions can you use in the moment when someone asks your child to do something you're not sure they want to do.   9:26 - How to avoid fragilizing our kids in this world...

160. Why one size-fits-all parenting doesn't work and how to parent for the way YOUR child is wired with Dr. Danielle Dick

December 19, 2023 10:00 - 58 minutes - 80.3 MB

🧬 How do genetics impact our child's temperament, personality, and development?   Here to talk about the impact of DNA, environmental factors, and the interplay between a child's actions and a parent's response is Dr. Danielle Dick. Dr. Dick is the author of The Child Code and an internationally recognized and award-winning expert on genetic and environmental influences on human behavior.   This episode offers a roadmap for parents, empowering them to embrace their child's innate str...

159. BTS: Can a child be too young for parents to build their resilience?

December 14, 2023 10:00 - 27 minutes - 38.2 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   2:10 - You can build your child's resilience by helping them establish healthy and secure relationships.   5:22 - Understanding the importance of "good enough" parenting for your child's development.   6:19 - What is the goal of parenting in our child's first year? Is there such a thing as a child being too young for you to build up their resi...

158. Breaking the perfectionist mold: How embracing the messy middle is healthier for you and your kids with Monica Packer

December 12, 2023 10:00 - 53 minutes - 73.7 MB

In a society that places a premium on perfection, reshaping our personal and parenting goals to prioritize growth over perfectionism becomes a formidable task.   Here to help empower you to navigate the messy middle ground of parenthood, embrace the long game, and find beauty in the small wins is the founder of About Progress, Monica Packer. Monica is a mom of 5, podcaster, coach, and "recovering perfectionist" herself.   Monica's wisdom challenges the conventional all-or-nothing min...

157. BTS: When do I allow my partner space to problem-solve with our child and when is it time to step in?

December 07, 2023 10:00 - 19 minutes - 26.5 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:55 - Raising our own tolerance to the discomfort of our partner being "less effective" than we know we could be with our children.   5:55 - Ask yourself: "What if I am actually NOT the only expert on my child and what my partner is giving her is actually what she needs."   6:47 - Can you physically remove yourself (just in the short term...

156. Resilience in the face of transition: Supporting your kids through a big move with military spouse and psychologist Dr. Hannah Samaha

December 05, 2023 10:00 - 51 minutes - 70.3 MB

One of the biggest transitions a child can experience is a move away from family, friends, their school, and the life they knew...   For military families in particular, this is a challenge many are faced with over and over, so establishing strategies for supporting yourself and your children can be particularly vital.   Joining me today is military spouse and clinical psychologist Dr. Hannah Samaha. Together, we'll share practical moving hacks for kids, creative ways to keep them co...

155. BTS: How can we implement consequences that teach, not just punish, our kids?

November 30, 2023 10:00 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MB

>>> Download my FREE guide with 3 psychologist-approved discipline strategies that DON'T utilize shame or guilt (and still work to get your child to behave!)     Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     5:02 - Your tone of voice and way you communicate the consequence to you child is important.   6:45 - Is there a difference between a consequence and a punishment?   7:33 - ...

154. Balancing love, limits, and empathy: How to use connection to make parenting easier with Jennifer Kolari

November 28, 2023 10:00 - 59 minutes - 82.1 MB

🧠 Ready to Level Up Your Parenting Game?   Tuning into our bond with our child and their attachment to us can be one of our most powerful tools in parenting.   Jennifer Kolari is the founder of Connected Parenting, a method based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behaviors and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.   Tune in to discover the power of empathy, ...

153. BTS: Does using Elf on the Shelf undermine my respectful parenting philosophy?

November 23, 2023 10:00 - 18 minutes - 25.2 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   3:41 - Respectful versus intentional parenting - and how not to let either cause parents to be too fearful of "messing up."   4:11 - Making strategies your own. There is a way to stay authentic to your values while also infusing the magic of the holidays.   4:51 - "No one thing you're going to do is going to blow everything up."   5:52 - W...

152. Combating milestone anxiety: What to know about child development from pediatrician Dr. Jessica Hochman

November 21, 2023 10:00 - 57 minutes - 79.6 MB

Find out how your child’s pediatrician can become an invaluable resource for YOU in your parenting journey. 🩺 👶🏼 👩‍⚕️   Here to discuss the nuances of what is normal when it comes to childhood milestones, reassuring parents that the journey isn't one-size-fits-all, is board certified pediatrician Dr. Jessica Hochman.   Whether it's a late walker or a picky eater, we'll provide practical guidance on when and how to trust your gut as we explore the intersection of parental anxiety a...

151. BTS: My 4-year-old can't keep his hands to himself, could that be a sensory issue?

November 16, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     2:25 - Understanding the difference between typical development and when there is a sensory issue.   4:04 - The recommendations for how to handle sensory issues, ADHD, and anxiety at a young age are all the same, so it’s less about having to identify it perfectly and more about how we respond to it.   5:21 - At 4 years old a lot of these s...

150. Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole Katz

November 14, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 87.7 MB

How the time-tested traditions of yoga and modern scientific advancements are revealing a similar path for enlightenment and well-being! 🧘‍♀️🔬   Today we're exploring the intersections of parenting values, child development, and secure relationships, allowing parents to identify that sweet spot in their own life where all these things overlap.   Joining me this week is seasoned yoga therapist, mom of two, and the mastermind behind some extraordinary moms groups, Nicole Katz.   N...

149. BTS: How to answer your kid's questions about gender

November 09, 2023 10:00 - 22 minutes - 31.1 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   3:07 - Do we encourage or dissuade our kids from asking people if they are a girl or a boy?   5:32 - Separating your own discomfort and embarrassment when your child says something that goes against the social construct.   7:28 - Kids point out differences when they see differences, and we don't need to shut that down.   9:13 - Being open ...

148. Unlocking the power of polyvagal theory: Using the nervous system to wire our children for resilience, with Seth Porges

November 07, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 89.3 MB

🧠 Let's simplify some complicated neuroscience into accessible and easy-to-understand bites!   Did you know that understanding the intricate ways our nervous system responds to our environment can actually help us raise children who are resilient, healthy, and mindful?   Joining me today is Seth Porges. Seth co-wrote the amazing new book, Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, along with his father, the creator of polyvagal theory, Dr. Stephen Porges. In it, this fath...

147. BTS: What are practical tips for dealing with whining kids?

November 02, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 25.6 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   1:51 - Understanding the context and circumstances of why your child is whining.   4:01 - Responding to the content of your child's feeling or unmet needs rather than the tone.   7:26 - Getting to the root of what your child is trying to communicate, rather than asking something more of them in the moment.   8:20 - What to do when your chi...

146. The hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace

October 31, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 82.8 MB

Uncover the shocking impact toxic achievement culture is having on our kids' well-being - and what we can do to change that for the better! 😵‍💫   With her extensive research and thought-provoking insights, author of the NY Times best selling book Never Enough, Jennifer Breheny Wallace brings to the forefront the challenges our children face in this high-pressure world.   In today's episode, we'll delve into the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which the toxic achievement culture inf...

145. BTS: Will encouraging my child's big imagination lead to lying in the future?

October 26, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   3:18 - Having a big imagination is a form of cognitive play for child and a very healthy way for them to make sense of their world.   6:32 - How can parents respond and engage with your child when their fantasies are aggressive.   9:47 - After the "toddler fantasy" stage parents often see a "preschool denial of behavior" phase come next.   ...

144. Couple goals: Unlocking the secrets to a thriving partnership as you parent together with Dr. Suzanne Burger

October 24, 2023 09:00 - 51 minutes - 70.3 MB

❤️ Practical strategies for nurturing your relationship while navigating the ups and downs of parenthood. 👇🏻   As couples embark on the journey of parenthood, their relationship naturally undergoes a huge transformation. However, in a society that often places excessive focus on children, it's easy to overlook the vital need to nurture and prioritize our connection with our partner.   Clinical psychologist Dr. Suzanne Burger is here to share valuable insights on how coup...

143. BTS: How do I raise a street smart kid who understands risks without creating a heightened sense of danger and fear

October 19, 2023 09:00 - 27 minutes - 38.3 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   3:07 - Putting a scary experience into perspective and viewing it as an opportunity to have a conversation on safety and boundaries with your child.   5:17 - You can review ground rules with your child without using shame or fear to make them impactful.   9:41 - Understanding your unique child's level of impulsivity and how they learn best. ...

142. Becoming the parents your kids deserve with Gary John Bishop

October 17, 2023 09:00 - 44 minutes - 61.2 MB

Uncover the secrets to raising intentional and reflective kids! 🌱👨‍👩‍👧‍👦   How does our perception of life shape our sense of self? And how can we teach our children to examine the meaning they make of their feelings and experiences to help them learn to be intentional in their actions?   Prepare to expand your horizons, reconsider your perspective, and embark on a transformational journey with this week's guest and the author of GROW UP: Becoming the Parents Your Kids Deserve, Gary...

141. BTS: How can I support my teen who is having trouble adjusting to college?

October 12, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     3:07 - Addressing your own anxiety and the "what if's" first, so you can separate your emotions from your child's experiences and feelings.   6:59 - Shifting this parent's thoughts from "I am responsible for fixing this" to "I am responsible for paying attention."   8:44 - Utilizing school resources and familiarizing yourself (and your chi...

140. How understanding our child's sensory sensitivities can help us strengthen their emotional intelligence with Alyssa Blask Campbell

October 10, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 75.9 MB

Helping our children learn to understand, process, and make sense of their emotions can be pivotal for fostering their mental well-being all the way into adulthood.   Join me for an enlightening conversation that promises to empower you as a parent or caregiver is the author of the new book TINY HUMANS, BIG EMOTIONS, Alyssa Blask Campbell.   Discover practical strategies to support your child's emotional regulation, build resilience, and foster empathy, and explore the ways sensory s...

139. BTS: Can my kid be securely attached to me if I'm insecurely attached in my adult relationships?

October 05, 2023 09:00 - 22 minutes - 31.3 MB

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   4:12 - The quick 101 on attachment theory - it's most simple definition.   7:29 - Understanding the difference between making bad choices and having unhealthy romantic relationships versus having an attachment disorder.   10:12 - If a person does have an avoidant insecure attachment style, what can they do not to pass down this attachment styl...