12 - Guest Expert: Sherry Smith, LMFT & Divorce Coach, "How Mom Can Heal After Divorce"

Cast:
Dr. Tara Egan
Anna, teenage co-host
Sherry Smith, LMFT and Divorce Coach

Discussion: How can mom heal after divorce?

Sherry works with women who are thinking about or are going through recovery from divorce. Many of her clients are women who are thinking about whether they want to stay in the marriage or not. She has created a model to determine if the marriage is salvageable and  supports them in their process, whether they choose to stay in the marriage or if they decide to leave, helping them to minimize the trauma to the family system. She helps women figure out who they are again, get their identity back, and fix their "picker" so the next time around they get into a relationship that sticks!

1) Sherry shares with us what happens if women do not honor their grieving process and how it repeats patterns in the next marriage.

2) We discussed how important it is to distinguish if you are grieving the loss of the spouse or the loss of the family unit. Many times women are often surprised on what they discover.

Ways you can support yourself and your kids in the grieving process:
 - surrounding yourself with a strong support network, support groups
 - journaling
  - learning more about yourself
 - focus on being a secure base for kids, learn how to sit with your kids and their emotions       more comfortably

3) It is important to take part in healthy coping mechanisms, kids pick up on them. Sherry shares how to sit with your own negative emotions.

Tara share what she feels is her finest parenting moment..."The Kitten Story".

4) Sherry shares how to carve a positive experience in this recovery process.

5) We learn in depth about the difference between the "leaning in partner" and the "leaning out partner". How it is important to know which one you may be in terms of the ending of the relationship and grieving process.

Anna shares her experience of going through her parents divorce.

Tara uses her own marriage as an example as we discuss that in healing, it is so important to be able to take a look at yourself and to own YOUR role, not just his role. It is such a crucial step in the healing process and is more empowering, so you can make changes and you don't repeat the same patterns. That is the key the difference between those women that stay stuck in victim mode or that grow and evolve.


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