06 - The Truth About Lying
One Day You'll Thank Me
English - July 29, 2020 04:00 - 30 minutes - 21.2 MBParenting Kids & Family Health & Fitness Mental Health parenting teen mental health therapy parent coaching social media kids family experts author Homepage Download Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Title: Ep 06 - The Truth About Lying
Cast:
Dr. Tara Egan (host)
Anna (teen cohost)
Dr. Tara Egan and Anna discuss lying---why kids lie and how parents can address it. Anna agrees that everyone lies from time to time. Tara shares a common lie she's told in order to reassure clients that they shouldn't feel self-conscious about the state of their home when she conducts a home visit. Tara encourages Anna to reveal all her big lies on air, but Anna denies that she has ever told "huge lies."
Top Reasons Why Kids Lie:
1) To get out of trouble
2) To avoid something unpleasant
3) To avoid shame or embarrassment
4) To protect privacy or keep a secret
5) To try to control what others' opinions are of them
6) To protect their safety
Tara encourages her brother, Kevin, to confess to the lie he (probably) told when they were children.
Lying is a complex form of communication. It's simplistic to say, "lying is always wrong," as lying can be functional and it's often role modeled by parents. Parents have to set the tone as to what the family culture is when it comes to telling small lies.
Help kids be truthful from the start. Don't "set a trap" for them to lie and then be angry when they do. Avoid triggering defensiveness and be direct about what you know. And parents may have a different version of the truth than their child, and they both can be right.
Anna asks, "Is it better to have a bunch of little lies, or a couple of big lies?"
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