Sometimes it’s better to go with the current

It is easier to go with the current than against the current. That is the reflection of the day.   Today, I was extremely excited because I was going to see my little girl, Natasha after 4 weeks of not being able to see her because we decided to open Formé Medical Center as a Covid testing center.   I personally wanted to make sure that she was protected.  I wanted to bring her back when I felt that my team was ready to be able to handle dealing with the covid patients and everything.  This Friday,  I was ready to do this.  I was ready to see her.  I got tested on Tuesday to make sure that I was negative and I did everything I could to stay away from patients to make sure that I could see her and feel that I was protecting her. The excitement of seeing my little girl was so beautiful.  But I get home and things don't always go the way that you expect. I found out my ex-husband, her father, decided that he was going to take her for a hike.  Unfortunately, the hike took a lot longer and Natasha was calling me at 9:00pm at night.  She looked like she was having a hard time making the decision to either come today or come tomorrow morning to see me.  She didn't want to hurt my feelings.  As I saw her struggles, I decided that I was going to make the decision for her.  So I told her, “I am not upset Natasha. Obviously, I'm sad that I am not going to see you and I miss you but I know that you are exhausted. I know you just want to go to sleep and that you want me to pick you up tomorrow. So I will pick you up tomorrow.  I know that this is something that my ex-husband could have been more conscious of since I have not seen her but you know what, I can't control what I can't control.  I could go against the current if I want to, but, ultimately, who am I hurting? I am hurting my daughter, not my ex-husband.  So I decided to make the decision for her and be ok with it.  What I want you to think of are the many people that might be listening to this podcast who might have gone or are going through a divorce.  You’re struggling because you wanted to fight your ex’s decisions, but, ultimately, it is the connection with your children that you are looking for.   That is why going with the flow is not as bad.   So I won’t see her until tomorrow.  I had a conversation with my son, Franco, at one point where I was struggling because I have not seen Natasha.  It was about 2 weeks into this and he said to me, “Mom, you didn't see your mother for  5 years when you were a young girl and you still have an amazing beautiful relationship with your mother.  You are an amazing daughter and you guys were connected.  I am sure these few weeks that you will not see your daughter will not destroy the connection.”  That is why I decided to go with the current and go with the flow.  I wasn't going to make it more difficult for her because it wasn't about me, it truly is about her and what is the best thing for her. I want you to reflect if you are going through a similar situation.  Ultimately, the best thing for your children is what matters!  With that said, let's reflect, reset and reconnect.

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