Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast
430 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 months ago - ★★★★★ - 353 ratingsLife on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.
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SS 076: Gang-Bang The Mailbag III – Jealousy in Open Relationships
June 04, 2012 16:12 - 51 minutes - 29.5 MBWe return to the mailbag, still full after last week to discuss a number of jealousy related issues. A newly poly girl is uncomfortable with her husband dating his monogamous ex girlfriend, what is the difference between different flavors of non-monogamy, is jealousy healthy, does it show your partner that you care?
SS 075: Gang-Bang The Mailbag II - Oral Sex & Cum, Bad Swinging Experiences, Drinking, Chemistry, & Primary Partners
May 29, 2012 16:38 - 1 hour - 35.5 MBTo celebrate our 75th episode we go back to gangbanging the mailbag for another listener question episode. We get excited that Shira's transient boy is staying in America and Cooper is narrating Tristan Taormino's radio show. Our ire is raised that the Catholic church is suing about birth control. Then our listeners ask us to talk about spanking, kinks to watch, revisiting oral sex to talk about cum, the girls talk about how much they enjoy watching men ejaculate, how to bounce back from a b...
SS 074: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project
May 19, 2012 01:19 - 1 hour - 38.6 MBTristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st.
SS 073: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy
May 07, 2012 19:40 - 1 hour - 44.3 MBPepper Mint discusses Sex Positive Classes, Conferences, and hosting OpenSF on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast!
SS 072: Hard Kink - Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More
April 30, 2012 17:53 - 1 hour - 48.1 MBPepper Mint (@freaksexual, http://freaksexual.com/) rejois the Swingset for discussion on hard kink. We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper cringes when needle play is mentioned, and we end by talking about how wonderful the human body is and how people process ...
SS 071: Words Matter - Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open
April 23, 2012 16:07 - 55 minutes - 32 MBWe are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term "Vanilla" as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is, in general a positive or negative.
SS 070: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa
April 16, 2012 16:42 - 1 hour - 36.4 MBShira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait of a nude Shira B. Katz striding along the beach with glistening wet labia. And Cooper insists that geese are bastards.
SS 069: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes
April 02, 2012 19:11 - 1 hour - 43.5 MBOral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan's cock, Shira B. Katz gives us both information and directions on better oral play with barriers.
SS 068: Ch-Ch-Changes - Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations
March 26, 2012 14:23 - 1 hour - 43.9 MBIn this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects... ourselves! We've been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we're moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two listener questions / comments and all in all have a good time sharing our lives with each other.
SS 067: Newly Non-Monogamous - Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists?
March 19, 2012 17:44 - 58 minutes - 33.8 MBAfter a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking's time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of Classic Chicago Commercials. Cooper closes the show by reviewing Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide To Pegging.
SS 066: Chemistry - Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy
March 05, 2012 20:02 - 1 hour - 31.2 MBDylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you're mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blindside, and the difficulty of getting four way chemistry in swinging dating. Cooper reviews the Nexus Revo.
SS 065: Friends & Lovers - Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck?
February 27, 2012 16:41 - 1 hour - 35.7 MBJV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, and Dylan rants about politics.
SS 064: Kink-O-Rama - Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort
February 18, 2012 20:22 - 1 hour - 35.3 MBWe cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's k...
SS 063: Swinging For Dummies IV - Relationships, Websites, & Sexy Vacations
February 07, 2012 02:27 - 1 hour - 35.6 MBWe wrap up our "Swinging For Dummies" primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you're trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.
SS 062: Swinging For Dummies III – Rules & Group Sex
January 30, 2012 19:41 - 1 hour - 38.7 MBWe squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You're dating as a team.
SS 061: Swinky - A Very BDSM Show Length Business
January 23, 2012 20:48 - 42 minutes - 24.1 MBThe Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we've talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.
SS 060: Swinging For Dummies II - Talking To Your Partner About Non-Monogamy
January 16, 2012 18:53 - 54 minutes - 25.8 MBWe continue our "Swinging For Dummies" discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a "deal-breaker" for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it's important to remember that you're going to be okay TOGETHER.
SS 059: Swinging For Dummies I - Realizing You're Non-Monogamous
January 09, 2012 22:04 - 1 hour - 28.3 MBWe go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger's panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamo...
SS 058: Bareback or Condoms: A Bad Swinger Sex Party
December 31, 2011 18:06 - 1 hour - 51.1 MBAfter a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.
SS 057: 12 Vibrating Yule Logs - Sex Toys, & The Smitten Kitten
December 18, 2011 22:40 - 1 hour - 37.4 MBSS 056: A Voicemail Gang-Bang - Anal Sex Play, Penis Size, & Pregnant Swingers
December 12, 2011 06:26 - 50 minutes - 29.3 MBAfter Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.
SS 055: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella II - Swingers, Open Relationships, & Polyamory, 2gether 4 Eva
December 05, 2011 05:38 - 1 hour - 42.5 MBWe continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a "fight" over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of "straddling the line," Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of "old and evil." And of course, we all get silly many times.
SS 054: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella I - Can't Swingers And Polyamorists Get Along?
November 26, 2011 23:29 - 58 minutes - 32.6 MBPepper Mint, polyamory blogger, activist, & organizer joins us for a dialog on why the swinging and polyamory camps still have trouble getting along. We rant about a swing club that has been shut down by the authorities. Cooper doesn't want to "put baby in the corner" but finds it easy to shuffle Shira off to the poly side, but even she is shocked by the discussion of poly sex parties. Dylan is horrified to find that sometimes people want to move in after a month; and Ginger confesses her or...
SS 053: Naked In Paradise II - The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa
November 10, 2011 23:47 - 57 minutes - 26.1 MBWe continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa
SS 052: Naked In Paradise I - Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa
November 05, 2011 18:51 - 52 minutes - 26.9 MBHave your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we're talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.
SS 051: Our Evolution II - Anal Sex & Male Bisexuality, Getting Flogged & Opening Up
October 28, 2011 22:26 - 1 hour - 31.6 MBWe continue our 50th episode reflection of what we're still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she's in an exploratory mood lately.
SS 050: Our Evolution - Polyamorous Leanings, Coming Out Sexy
October 23, 2011 05:00 - 1 hour - 33.7 MBThe Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yearns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.
SS 049: Unite The Clans! Coming Together on Swinging Sites & Sex Clubs
October 16, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 33 MBAfter Shira horrifies us all by talking about a potential boy-toy's penile subincision, we manage to pull it together and discuss the changing landscape that is online swinger sites and sex clubs along with our special guest Emily from Kasidie.com. We talk a bit about the history of the website, and Emily's role there, but use it as a springboard to discuss the larger themes of how the word is spreading about non-monogamy, and how welcoming and accepting out communities can be
SS 048: We’re Porn Again – Our Fetishes & Home-Made Porn
October 02, 2011 00:01 - 58 minutes - 35.6 MBDylan asks Shira how polyamorists feel about one night stands. We all talk about the kind of porn that gets us going, then each of us admits to what our guilty pleasure porn is; Cooper feels very bad about his and insists everybody is judging him. After the break we discuss homemade porn, what we've all made, and why swingers take pictures and video
SS 047: Naked People Doing Dirty Things – Porn All Around Us
September 25, 2011 00:01 - 52 minutes - 28.7 MBWe wonder if pubic hair is making a resurgence, find out that Shira has no tolerance for young people, discuss how we first encountered and discovered porn. We learn that Ginger didn't believe people actually had sex in porn. Shira talks about her past with jealousy over porn. The boys refuse to let Shira go into body negativity mode. Then we all talk about what we've learned from porn
SS 046: Burning Man ’11 Pt 2 – Fear & Loathing on the Playa
September 18, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 31.8 MBUh oh! You heard the last podcast and were left wanting for juicy details? The second part of our Burning Man shows reveals exactly what happened between Dylan and the Majestic Woman he met at Burning Man 2011. You will also find out if there was love in the air for Shira B. Katz. Emotions run high in this heartfelt episode recorded just one week after Shira and Dylan return home from the Playa
SS 045: Burning Man ’11 Pt 1 – Shira & Dylan’s Excellent Adventure
September 14, 2011 22:00 - 50 minutes - 23.2 MBCooper & Marilyn take a vacation to visit sexy friends from the Great White North. Dylan & Shira B. Katz haven’t been about to shut up about Burning Man and now you finally get to hear why. Listen as the crew discusses what Burning Man has to do with non-monogamy, who they camped with, and what a non-monogamous person can expect on the Playa. Ahoy! Burning Man; land of The Human Car(cass) Wash, The Snack Food Glory Hole, and a place where even the monogamous have an opportunity to open up a ...
SS Special – Dylan Crosses The Rubicon from Swinging to Polyamory at Burning Man 2011
September 08, 2011 17:53 - 32 minutes - 28.4 MBDylan here - I visited Burning Man this year, and while I fully expected to have a mind-blowing experience, I found myself wrapped up in the loving arms of another woman, and unable to completely handle some of the consequences of that. I had my first little polyamorous experience, a "playawife" for a few days, but I needed to get some of what was on my mind out. So, this recording is me, on-site, at 8am the day after I decided that what I was doing wasn't going to last. Take a listen, and t...
SS 044: Fucking Technology – Sexting, Cybersex & Phone Sex
August 22, 2011 00:01 - 52 minutes - 23.9 MBWe are living in the golden age of sexual communication. There are so many ways to have sexy conversations and interactions online, it's really rather amazing. We talk about our likes and dislikes, our enthusiasms and wants, and how we all get off online
SS 043: Flirting as Swingers, Polyamorists, & Non-Monogamists
August 09, 2011 00:56 - 48 minutes - 22.5 MBFlirting! It's like a gateway drug, and that gateway sometimes leads to all manner of sexual exploits. Tonight we discuss the importance and value of flirting and how it has helped shape the panel's sexual lives, as well as how Ginger & Shira flirted their way onto the show. And speaking of that, this is Ginger's anniversary episode, as she's been swinging on the Swingset with us for a full year now. All this, Cooper has sexy house guests, Dylan almost picks up a woman at a buffet line at a ...
SS 042: Kody Brown & the Polygamy Lawsuit – Legislating the Bedroom
July 26, 2011 11:04 - 44 minutes - 20.5 MBDylan hosts this episode where we discuss Kody Brown's lawsuit, the fight for polygamy, and "Sister Wives." Shira has learned the power of selfish sex. Cooper rants against religion and oppression, but what else is new
SS 041: Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do For Swingers Too
July 11, 2011 13:42 - 1 hour - 28.1 MBCooper tells the crew about the breakup he and Marilyn went through with a unicorn friend of theirs, their struggle with it, and how they've applied their feelings about polyamory and non-monogamy to the situation. The crew uses this as a jumping off point to discuss breakups in general in non-monogamy and how they differ from monogamous breakups. Then Dylan finally discusses his bisexual leanings
SS 040: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner’s Penis on Twitter
June 27, 2011 14:25 - 1 hour - 28.4 MBThe crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an example of our society's extreme slut shaming, if it's possible he has an open marriage, and how we feel about this type of scandal in general
SS Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality
June 21, 2011 23:52 - 8 minutes - 4 MBIn this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.
SS 039: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple’s Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago
June 19, 2011 00:01 - 48 minutes - 22.1 MBDylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink friendly clubs. Cooper talks about how odd it is to wander around nude with an erection, and Dylan continues his epic flirt
SS 038: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple’s Playhouse
June 04, 2011 03:40 - 55 minutes - 25.4 MBAfter Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's...for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a friend, Cooper and Marilyn take separate dates, and we discuss a wonderful trip to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago, and our experiences within in part one of our two part discussion
SS 037: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open
May 23, 2011 01:39 - 1 hour - 35.9 MBIn our first "Listener Mailbag" episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexuality, the HIV positive military man swinger, and more
SS 036: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together
May 09, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 29.3 MBWhile Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many "spot" orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what orgasms feel like for us.
SS 035: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex
April 25, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 35.7 MBOne of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the concept of acceptable risk, how we all need to make the decision for ourselves if our lifestyle is worth the risks inherent in it, and ways to minimize our exposure risks
SS 034: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle
April 10, 2011 23:01 - 55 minutes - 25.7 MBMiss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession
SS 033: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You
March 28, 2011 00:45 - 54 minutes - 24.9 MBThe Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those four letters. (Dylan also discovers he might be more interested in exploring this than he thought...)
SS 032: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa
March 14, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 43 MBCooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn's Excellent Adventure!
SS 031: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax
February 27, 2011 23:59 - 1 hour - 28.5 MBIn Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and ...
SS 030: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy
February 17, 2011 23:15 - 1 hour - 29.4 MBIn Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves
SS 029: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino
February 04, 2011 00:01 - 1 hour - 29.6 MBIn Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and putting things in hers and other people's asses.