Focus is a superpower, but you have to use it right.

We talk about focus and how it's a super-power, or is it? We talk about stories of Nascar and white water rafting as they relate to focus. We talk about negative focus vs. positive focus, beliefs, awareness. What our subconscious does and how it can be detrimental.

Why you should focus on the WHY and not the HOW.

Ethan and I discuss his new plan to revamp and travel with their camper and do their personal training from the road and what we have going on.

NOTE: There's a couple of minutes of technical issues around minute 22:00, but we come back! Sorry for the inconvenience!

Transcript:

[00:00:02] spk_0: Hey everyone. It's J with a life next level podcast. We got our buddy here

[00:00:10] spk_1: reason.

[00:00:11] spk_0: Alright or nailing it. How you doing man? What's new?

[00:00:16] spk_1: I'm doing good man. What's what's new? What is new? I know I always talk about the weather. What else is new? Uh

[00:00:27] spk_0: I'll tell you what I want to know about. I want to know more about what's your plans for for the camper this summer man. I know you have one, you said in another episode like you're going to your hometown with one, but like you haven't like, do you do you know what is your plan? So to back up again and I know, I think we talked about briefly in another episode like you and Caroline, your wife are going to planning to travel at some point longer term I think and to personal training from the road a little bit

[00:00:56] spk_1: more. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, we're gonna have a buddy who

[00:01:02] spk_0: who

[00:01:04] spk_1: is going to school like uh I don't know if it's a great school, if he's getting his PhD or whatever, but for therapy, like family therapy I think in both. Uh and so so yeah, so we're gonna go to colorado with some friends uh probably in july and yeah, usually uh you know, pre pandemic, we both, you know, uh yeah, me and my wife for both entrepreneurs and so we would work a number of jobs. And so yeah, so our scheduling was such that like if we were going to take a trip or something, like, you know, you would usually feel like your typical trip length where it's like a week or something, maybe max or whatever. I mean it depends on the person obviously, but uh but yeah, but now, you know, after covid we've had, we are jobs are different and we, you know, have been doing a lot more virtual stuff. And so um, so yeah, so we have the opportunity essentially that it's not like we need to be back, you know, necessarily at a certain time. So I think, yeah, I think we're gonna spend some time in colorado. We love colorado. You know, we've got there a few times. My uh, yeah, I've had some family who's lived out there and, but we haven't had the chance to like really just like kick around and explore and go from one mountain range to the other, whatever people do in colorado, you know? And so, so yeah,

[00:02:24] spk_0: ways that imitation like supposed to be someone from colorado.

[00:02:28] spk_1: Yeah, not necessarily the accent, but you know, that's what you do in colorado, isn't it? Just like, you know, go to one mountain and then make your way over to another mountain and, you know, maybe some uh, Wikipedia. So, uh, yeah, so that would be really fun and uh and we're trying to think about it, well maybe try and go some other some other spots to, it's kind of like it's just fun to have the to know when we're going to leave, but you know, within reason we're not exactly sure when we'll come back, maybe it'll turn into a month, maybe it'll be a little bit longer. But yeah, that's why it's so fun to have the virtual option because you know, yeah, the internet is everywhere for the most part. So so can you be when you're working, you know, if you do it virtually.

[00:03:20] spk_0: Yeah, it's crazy. Um So what's awesome about that is we have an episode coming up. I don't know if it'll come up before or after this because they kind of get jumbled around and switched around based on things, but we're just talking about comfort zone again, and I feel like that's a really good opportunity for you guys to get out of your comfort zone and see how it works out for you. You know, maybe maybe it won't necessarily or maybe it won't for long term, but but I think you guys will figure it out, it'll work out great, and then you will be able to potentially travel the freaking us and just work people virtually, and I think that's super cool.

[00:03:52] spk_1: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, man. Yeah, so it is it's exciting, but what about you, what's new with you?

[00:04:00] spk_0: Yeah, well, you know, taking a couple more classes, I've got, I'm really getting into this creating creating uh content and creating uh courses for people now. So I'm writing, I told you I'm writing a couple of books, but I'm actually really expanding upon them, and I'm gonna have a couple of short books coming up, but now I'm gonna have a couple of like kind of packed them into larger books and then I'm going to create classes around them and I'm super excited about that. It's a lot right now, it's a lot on my plate, I'm working a lot, but I enjoy the hell out of it. So I'm really excited about that and put that out there for people. One is, one is basically personal growth on which, you know, is kind of my huge passion and another is another is business coaching and growth and basically starting a business. And I think that that the fun part to me is that they were both separate things that I was doing and then I realized they really go hand in hand when people want to grow a lot of times or something happens in their life that makes them want to change or go after something else, a lot of times career or starting a business or something with that like that they're passionate about comes about that too. So it's really interesting that I kind of started both of them separately and now they both kind of interconnected and I'm still working on them separately, but I'm going to somehow connect them as well. So I'm super excited about that, I think that, you know, in the next three or four months that I have something to show for that for people and I just um yeah, you know, I just love, I just love the service, the services, but I love to help people, so, so I'm hoping that that's gonna be really cool. I know it'll be really cool. It's uh it's, you know, figuring out the best method to get it out there and get it out in front of people and stuff. Of course, I mean, you can have the best thing ever, but if you don't get it in front of everyone, I mean, there's probably a book written, that's that's that's greater than some of the top 10 books written, but they never got out in front of everyone, never saw the light of day, and it's it's kind of all about that, so, you know, it's figuring that aspect out of it, but I think it will be really good, and uh yeah, so I'm really excited about that, but it it's a lot of work as you, as you well know, because I think you're gonna follow in my footsteps, we're going to do that for you too.

[00:06:09] spk_1: Yeah, man, no, that's uh that's cool. It is really doctor to organically feel things that, you know, it's like, oh you got this thing that you want to do and you've got this thing and you're like, well who knew that they fit together like lego pieces, you know, like it's pretty cool to find that

[00:06:26] spk_0: it really is and it kind of goes back to, we're talking about it, another podcast actually about the personal growth thing about like just step outside your comfort zone, you don't know. And I happen to step out in multiple ways. And I started doing two separate things and then I realized like they're kind of one and the same. They can be, they connect very well and I didn't even realize that going in, so, so it's pretty cool.

[00:06:49] spk_1: Yeah, that's awesome. That's really cool.

[00:06:52] spk_0: Um anyway, not not to bore our audience with with our lives, but cool its awesomeness, but but what we're talking about today is is focused, but it's a little bit more than that because uh I really think focus is either a superpower or it's like what we'll take you down um and I'll explain a little bit as we go on, but uh I think I think it's all what you focus on now, I don't know, I don't know your experience with focusing, you can you can talk a little bit about it. I know that we had, I think that really interestingly we always go back to the personal training aspect as we did that together, but I think that honestly that brought out a lot of my focus on the positive and negative, but how to focus more on the positive because because a lot of the people that we would train, like you have to focus on the positive with them, you have to take it step by step and focus on the positive and the negative about about things.

[00:07:58] spk_1: Yeah. Yeah, 100%. You know, because the biggest thing for success and fitness is like the time doing it, you know? And so I think that when somebody is focusing on, I feel like a lot of times it's popular when if we're talking about, you know like losing weight is always a common, the common one, real common one or whatever. I mean a lot of times it's you know, different whatever but and so I just when when you can tell that somebody

[00:08:28] spk_0: is

[00:08:29] spk_1: like yeah really really focusing on how much they don't like how they are right now, you know? Uh not to laugh at it, but it's just like that, you know, I can I can resonate with that um and identify with that and no, you know what it's like physically to yeah, be like I do not like how I feel right now. Um But the issue is that if you focus on that and that's your driving force for trying to change it. Like you're just going to be focused on how you don't like how you are right now, not, not what you're hoping to have happened, which is, you know, yeah, some change in some whatever. But but so uh so the reason I bring up the time um and how successful fitness comes from from time is that uh it's way more sustainable to direct your focus on um Yeah, what you would like to what you would like to see, you know, or how you would like to experience those things or whatever. And so um yeah, basically what I'm saying is just that uh yeah, what's the what's the saying where it's like where the, where the energy we're going,

[00:09:35] spk_0: where the focus goes, the energy flows.

[00:09:40] spk_1: Yeah. And that's exactly like you made a low key, really, really want this goal or whatever. But if you're just focused on how much you don't like how things are right now or whatever, that's where you're going to be, you know? Yeah. Or same as like, you know, if you're talking about a telescope where you focus the telescope is what you're going to see, you know, like, like so it works, you know,

[00:10:01] spk_0: it's true. Yeah, it's true. And so, so before I go in depth, a little bit of that, I have something for you. So I don't remember where I heard this or like who said it, but I know being a personal trainer, it was always very hard because well for one you have to have smart goals so you have to have like goals set up and that's neither here nor there, but you have to have like baby steps, right? Like you see progress this week, otherwise people will quit, they have to see the positive in it. If they keep focusing on negative, they won't succeed. But um there was a trainer and he was having trouble with, with this, this woman and she was

[00:10:39] spk_1: going to quit and so what he

[00:10:40] spk_0: did and so all she, she wanted to get back to her ideal weight and let's, and let's be super clear um like you and I like the ideal weight is very important, not model weight, ideal with everyone's ideal weight is that is an important step, right? Um because I think, I think unfortunately, you know we, a lot of times in America we focus on the wrong things and uh you know, you focus on some place that is hard to attain or that you shouldn't even want to attain ideal way, it is where we should be. Um So she wanted to go back to her ideal with and so what he did was found a pic, got a picture of her in her ideal weight and went someplace and got it blown up and put a life size picture of her in her ideal weight in her apartment or house or whatever it was so that every day then when she got up she saw she focused on that rather than looking in the mirror and saying uh you know getting like getting down on herself, so she focused on that like this is what I want because she wouldn't keep going and that helped her to focus on what to do and she couldn't get it out of her mind, She saw it every morning, every night she saw her in her ideal perfect way. And so that's what she went for and that's what she got. Yeah so that's all I don't know something a little bit well for some training but again I don't remember I heard it but I thought it was pretty good. Um Yeah there's something in a nascar that's that when you are when you are like spinning out of control when you're in a tailspin that the coaches that are the driving coaches or whatever, they make sure that you focus on the open road or the open track, the open lane I guess. But everybody wants to focus on the wall because they focus on what they don't want to hit and almost to a t everyone hits the wall so they will coach them in the car and they were like point they're like no look here look here don't look at the they're looking at the wall as they're spinning around and then they look at the wall and then they hit the wall. But you focus away from the wall if you can train your brain to do that and you straighten it out. Yeah. So it's it's not Look it's certainly not like a 100% thing. Like if you're focusing on the right things it doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna succeed 100% of the time. But if you're focusing on the wrong things you're gonna fail 100% of the time. Yeah. Yeah. And unfortunately we have a tendency to focus on the wrong things. We we always focus on the negative, we focus on the bad, we focus on what the bad that could happen. Um You know we do we talked about visualization, we've we've talked about that in a couple episodes. We love to focus on the bad that can happen. So it's like okay, oh my gosh, if this doesn't work, I'm gonna, how am I going to pay this bill? Oh my gosh, what are they going to think, oh if I fail, this is going to happen? How often do we say if I succeed, this is going to happen? Oh if it works out, this is going to happen and if you just focus on the failure, you're probably going to fail. Yeah.

[00:13:43] spk_1: Yeah. Yeah. I think one thing that plays into that too is that it's really, you know, like it's really easy to underestimate I think how much energy uh it can take, how much energy we we utilize to focus on things and number one and number two, uh it's easy to underestimate how much you subconsciously focus on, like how much, you know, like your brain is like working on all of the problems that you've come up with, you know throughout the day or throughout the week or throughout the whatever that's like on your brain and it's going back and forth and your, you know, yeah it's running in there and that's taking energy and so I think that um you know like talking about focus is like choosing where you're gonna put your energy and uh and I think that uh it just really is true, you know like just even you know you like the wu kind of stuff that you hear people talk about what it's like manifest your world, the new reality and you know whatever, like not saying anything about the like yeah magical side of that, just saying like that like in a lot of ways like the nuts and bolts of the stuff like still does make sense, you know, in terms of like uh yeah, I feel like whenever somebody talks about manifesting something or whatever, you know, it's usually something along those lines, like picturing, you know, it's easy to imagine people, you know, like oh I want my dream car or whatever, blah blah blah blah blah. But all I'm saying is that like um you know, if you spend time um thinking about it and thinking about ways that you could do what you what you are trying to accomplish, you know, like, like that's just going to put those things in your purview like like where they wouldn't be otherwise. And so um yeah, I just think it's summed up by the I'm saying the same things that we've been saying, which is just like, you know, I'm trying to find more complicated ways to say something that's ultimately really simple, which is literally just that, like, yeah, where you put your attention is going to be, where your attention is going and you

[00:15:50] spk_0: believe that you can achieve it. I mean, it sounds super simple and super lame, but honestly, if you don't believe it, you ain't going to achieve

[00:15:57] spk_1: the other side. Yeah.

[00:15:59] spk_0: Like if you're trying for something in the back of your mind is saying, I'm not going to do this, you're not going to do it. You're you're saying, I'm not going to succeed at saying, gosh, it just keeps thinking like, I'm probably not going to succeed, Why the hell am I doing this? You're not going to succeed? You have to make yourself believe it before you can achieve it. You really do. And uh, and that's your only limitation. I mean, you might fail if you go for it, but I guarantee you, if you went for all in, you went all in, you didn't have any like you had no negative thoughts and you just focused on the right things and you failed. You would learn a hell of a lot and you would go do something else because you would have learned so much. You would be like, oh, I was so close now. I know what not to do. I'm going to go do that, right? Right. Um, to your point, I think you're thinking of magnetism and I agree with the law of attraction. I'm not a law of attraction believer, but what I am is I'm a believer of your thoughts can impact what happens to you. So people that are lucky, uh, you know, you always hear that you're lucky. You're, that guy is just so lucky. Is he lucky? Or does he believe that something's going to happen? He's just open to it when it arrives. Whereas it's like some people they're just not open to it, it just passes him by. And I think that that's true. So I think if you if you believe it, I don't think you manifest it. I think it's there in front of a lot of people, but most people just miss it, just miss their opportunities. Whereas if you're, if you truly believe it, you're always looking for and you're like, oh and you grab anything you can and you grab it and you take it, you're like here it is. Damn it. It's real. Like magnetism, magnetism is real and I guess to that extent it kind of is there's something there, right?

[00:17:38] spk_1: Yeah. Yeah. Well the thing too that I think it's really interesting to see if I'm gonna remember it, if I'm gonna forget as I bring it up um uh just with the idea of um we might have to come back to it. I thought I had it was like when we're talking

[00:17:56] spk_0: sometimes, like I'll think of something to and I'm like, oh, I have to remember it. I tried to plant a flag and then by the time I don't want to interrupt and then by the time you're talking like crap,

[00:18:05] spk_1: it's Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Uh

[00:18:13] spk_0: Okay, well you're thinking, let me tell, let me give another analogy. I heard this story is from Dean Grassy O. C. I don't know if anyone that would be listening knows him, but he's kind of up there with Tony Robbins, They're both epic. Really? Uh I was still on a story about whitewater rafting and that he brought his sons and like a whole troop to whitewater raft and like what happened was it down poured and it was like the next day, it was like the rapids. So they do like a one through five level or something like one, no big deal, five avoid that. And it was like there was fives all over and there's all this stuff. They woke up the next day, they were like, we can't do this. And uh so there's like, I don't know, probably 20 kids and some dads and then you know the white water rafting expert that was going to go with him? And they were like, well we can't do this. And then the guy came and he's like, all right, let's go, you guys right? And they're like, no, no, we can't do it. And he's like, don't worry, we got this. And his story was the first like 10 times he went out, there would be going down and there will be a tree laying there, or there would be bad rapids and he would point and say, we have to, we can't go there, we can't go there, we have to avoid that. Nine times out of 10 they hit that tree or that hit those rapids and flip and so then we didn't learn to do was whenever he would see that you look at the kids and say we have to go there, don't look anywhere but there and paddle there and nine times out of 10 they made it like they would go where they had to go because they weren't focused on the bad thing, but when you focus on it, even if you're trying to get away from it, you inevitably hit it. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:19:55] spk_1: Yeah, exactly, exactly. I think that relates to what, you know because it focuses also about you know that awareness of of paying attention to like that's what I mean with you know, where you're putting your energy, like um you might not notice when the things that we, you know, I think are based on a belief, everything is based on a belief that we're holding and uh so you you you know, so I can just picture somebody being like I'm trying to focus dog, I'm focusing on what I'm not seeing it, so and uh and that's kind of where I think it's important to hold that little extra awareness because maybe you're not noticing, you know, like you said that that belief where um you know, you're you don't realize that you're focusing on expecting this thing not to work, you know like and all your you know the reason why all you can think of is all of these negative things are like these ways, how something won't happen is because your underlying belief is that you know like this thing can't can't go like that and that's where you've got to, you know that's where you know sometimes focuses about knowing when to yeah, like literally say I got to retrain my gaze right now and put it on this other thing um and not get caught up on that belief because sometimes it's about focusing on whether you agree with the belief that is driving you because maybe you don't actually, maybe it's just you know an old belief that's been there and you haven't changed it.

[00:21:29] spk_0: That's true, that's true. Yeah, I think that I think uh focusing on the wrong thing can be a little bit tricky because um yeah, you think you're focused on no. Uh huh. Well postpones Okay, okay. Yeah, frick. Yeah, man, and that's why I think that focusing on the wrong thing is super tricky because you usually don't even know that you're focusing on the wrong thing. I mean you're having self doubt but you're trying to focus on the right thing, but really your subconscious, unfortunately it's very hard to control its focusing on the wrong thing and your subconscious ultimately starts to drive you towards that you fear the wrong thing. And so you're thinking about it all the time and in thinking about it all the time, that kind of means you're focusing on it and it's it's again it goes back to the race car for example, or the or the whitewater rafting. Um you're looking at the wrong thing, trying to get the right way, yeah, you know, you're trying to focus on the right thing, but you're looking at the wrong thing and that's kind of where it goes. It's it's not an easy thing to do. You, as long as you start to recognize that you're doing it, then you can start to do better about it. And we have an episode. I will link to the episode, I'll have to remember to do that on positive visualization because that's the key to all of it. If you can visualize positively every day and you can start to believe the awesome things that could happen, then you will start to focus on the right things, right? Right. But you can start by just acknowledging that it's happening.

[00:24:26] spk_1: Um Yeah, because that's powerful alone.

[00:24:29] spk_0: It's so powerful alone. If you realize it's happening, then you can start to do something about it. But you have to understand like it's not an easy thing to do something about it. It's something that has been with us since birth, basically, right? We've had it's our subconscious, I mean look, it's trying to protect us, not going to go into all that detail right now, it's trying to protect us from getting hurt. Um and all growing up between society and our parents and school education, we're taught not to fail. We're taught stay safe and that's staying safe. Like not failing is staying safe, but at the end of the day it's not staying safe, staying good, staying healthy, staying Happy is not playing everything safe and not staying in your comfort zone and not being afraid of failing. But we're taught that for 20 to 30 years of our life before we start, before we start to want to go out of our comfort zone. And so switching that takes time, it's just like working out again, not to use that analogy, but apparently we're going to use it in every episode. But yeah, You can't expect to have eaten like crap and never worked out and not taking care of yourself for 20 years and then expect a huge change in one month. No, no, no, it took 20 years for you to get to that place, not staying at stake 20 years for you to get out of it. But it's gonna take a little time and it's going to take some brain training more than anything and you have to acknowledge that because it took time to get where you're at, it's gonna take time to break you out of where you're at.

[00:26:03] spk_1: Yeah. You know. Yeah, I love analogies and I think that to you know, not to take it a negative route, but if you imagine a horror movie and you imagine the person

[00:26:16] spk_0: border movie a negative romance.

[00:26:18] spk_1: Well I just mean like I just I just mean the motivation of the example I'm using his fear of death, you know, it's okay. But like, you know, you picture the person running away from this like spooky whatever thing, you know, murderer or whatever in the woods and it's like they fall over because they're busy looking back there's good and they're super convinced that they're going to get caught and if you just apply it all your energy to getting out of there, you know, and like whatever you're going to see the stuff that's in the way, you know what, it's the same as like thinking about a relay race in the olympics or track or whatever. Like the people don't spend forever looking back the train. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Right. Yeah. They train enough to figure out when the person is coming and then they know how to do it so that they don't have to look back. So you have to waste all of that energy looking backwards and going, you know slower or whatever. Uh and yeah, you know, if you are still caught up on what has happened in the past, that you, you know a better way. Just like you can get really caught up in what's happened in the past in such a way where it will inhibit where you go in the future.

[00:27:26] spk_0: Every everybody, even me, even you like our past inhibits where we go in the future. We just do a better job of it than most, but it's still there all the time. You know, I mean, you're right, I mean that's another focal point. If you want to talk about it, look to the future, stop looking to the past. Stop looking at your past. I mean, it happens, learn from it of course. So look at it enough to learn from it and then move on. If you haven't learned from it yet, learn from it. Like the things that come to you every day and just eat you up. You're avoiding learning from that because you don't want to think about it. But think about it, sit down with the journal. I don't care learn from what happened and then move on and stop looking at it. And when you do tell yourself to look into the future right? Or to look to now, actually the

[00:28:13] spk_1: present, not the future. Yeah,

[00:28:16] spk_0: my bad. The present look to right now because we always time we spend so much time in the past, so much time in the future. Future. We stop thinking about that now we and then now is what's important be happy right now. Yeah. So yeah, so to your horror movie reference that was that was good. I did not mean to say what's bad about being in a horror movie.

[00:28:38] spk_1: That

[00:28:39] spk_0: would be terrible. What's bad about watching a horror

[00:28:41] spk_1: movie

[00:28:42] spk_0: respect, but like popcorn and watching a movie sour patch kids, that's my jam, but watch a horror movie or movie is great, but sour patch kids.

[00:28:53] spk_1: Exactly, yeah.

[00:28:55] spk_0: Yes, yes. Being in a horror movie, you're right. I mean what we always laugh at them because they trip every time it's like stop looking back, stop tripping. That's a that's a fricking great analogy man. Because yeah, we do every time I'm watching, I'm like what are you doing? Stop looking back, just run to the

[00:29:12] spk_1: opening you're

[00:29:14] spk_0: doing. But that's what we do, isn't it? Yeah, that's what we do. It's crazy.

[00:29:18] spk_1: Yeah. It makes a ton of sense because you're trying to think that I hate about you know whenever yeah like in a horror movie when the baby uh you know like pops up and then people do you know like run away. Usually I'm like you know what you should just really just like not let either get out of there, commit to it or don't let them out of your sight so they can't startle you again so they

[00:29:45] spk_0: can't

[00:29:46] spk_1: because that's also how you're going to get you know whatever and so but either way yeah I do think that yeah but anyways um I don't know I just that that focused oh it's just saying how it makes sense. You know you're doing your best effort to do that, to track in in the movie setting, you know to track that threat and pay attention to it and hope, you know, you know what your you know where it's at and what your odds are. But you can absolutely see in that example how it just hedges you so hard and then you trip you fall and then you stabbed in the back of bunch of times, whatever it.

[00:30:24] spk_0: And the interesting part about that is why do you think we're so interested in horror movies? It's our brains are literally like, okay, I'm trying to take something from this, something bad is happening. If I can learn from this, it won't happen to me. That's true, man. Like that's why we love stories so much. That's why we love campfire stories. Like we we were like the one species on Earth that can actually learn from another person to not do something or how to avoid something. That's why we love not to get into the total tangent right now. But that's why we love the news and the bad news and I don't watch the bad, I don't watch the news anymore for that reason. But that's why we love it because our brains are like, okay, okay, something bad is happening here. How do I learn from this? So it doesn't happen to me. That's why we have dr slowdowns on freeways, like nobody knows it, but it's subconsciously that's what's happening. Like what do you know? How do I, Oh my gosh, what happened? How do I avoid that happening? And that's what our subconscious is doing, right? But yeah, and that's kind of the same thing with the horror movie, you know? That's weird. We're like, okay let's avoid doing that. So yeah, avoid doing this. Stop looking back, look at look at your focus on the right things.

[00:31:38] spk_1: Yeah,

[00:31:39] spk_0: So the last thing I'll say about this, and I think it's very important and we're going to do an episode on this tube. But uh, yeah, speaking of focus, we love to focus on the why. So any of you out there that want to have, like, something larger to focus on that, that want to do something better, that that just have aspirations or want to create something. Um the one of the best things I've heard, and it came from Tony Robbins, I mean, he's the best in the business, you know? Um he said, uh it was probably like six or seven years ago, and he said it was right when I started my journey, honestly. And he said, f the how focus on the why, because the how will stop you in your tracks, because what we do is we're

[00:32:27] spk_1: like, okay, this is what

[00:32:28] spk_0: I want and we all do it, every one of us do it like, personally, professionally, whatever, whatever the hell we want, this is what I want, and then we step back and like, how am I going to do it? I don't know this, I don't know that, I don't know how to do this, I don't know how it's all going to come together and then where our brains exploded, we're done like that's it because it's too much, we don't know what the hell we're doing, but if you focus on the why the how will come again, baby steps focus on the why the how will figure out, you'll figure out the how don't worry about the however, always focus on the y yeah, that's what I'll leave this with.

[00:33:02] spk_1: I agree with that 100%. And I feel that I wasn't uh yeah I didn't always think about that um Maybe even until recently and and so just you know that is super impactful with me because I really agree and I'm excited to do the episode on it because I think that that is the it that is the it's you know if you can just because again because I just think that we're inherently really amazing and adapting and at making things happen I think everybody is and it just has to do with yeah what your what your motivation is and if you're you know if you're motivated if you have a clear why that just related to you it's obvious how people can make amazing things happen. So yeah that's gonna be that's gonna be a good one. J I'll say that for sure

[00:34:03] spk_0: that is going to be a good one. That's a tee up for a later episode. Probably next week. Or I don't know, we'll see, we'll see. But after this one but I will say I will say also that I lead my life that way right now, it doesn't mean it's easy because how always comes up and I'm like, I don't know how I'm just going to keep going and it's kind of the same thing is getting outside of your comfort zone that we're talking about in another episode that it's like you just got to do it and things will happen magically. Sometimes sometimes they will just happen. It might not be the exact same thing you want to happen, but it'll be something that's like that you just never freaking know and if you don't ever do it, you'll never know if you focus on the wrong things. If you don't get outside your comfort zone. If you never do something, just ask yourself why, why do you want to do it, if it's good enough reason why are you doing it, do it?

[00:34:56] spk_1: Yeah, yeah, exactly, and and if it's really, if you're really bogged down by the how, which I feel is a common thing, super common thing. If you're really bogged down by the how as a just a nice acute exercise, think about that, why there too, it's a good road block avert er to, yeah, you know, a person can picture how, how frustrating it can feel to not see how in front of you to not see those house and and that's kind of why the why is there right? Like the y the y makes the house, you know more reasonable or more you're willing to do it more. And so I just, yeah, I really, I really like that one.

[00:35:42] spk_0: All of the most successful people focus on the why I'll put it that way. We'll leave that as a lead into the next one. Yeah. There's a reason for that. Yeah. So, All right, man. Well, I got I got nothing else. How about you? Got any last comments?

[00:35:58] spk_1: That's that's all the all the juicy tidbits have already been

[00:36:02] spk_0: given right on. Well, again, thank you all for joining that Life Next Level podcast. We'll see you next time

[00:36:12] spk_1: I see you.