Reinventing Dating with Kira Sabin
344 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago - ★★★★★ - 183 ratingsWe all want love, but most of us don't want to date to get it...because dating kinda sucks. That's why I'm Reinventing it.
Welcome to Reinventing Dating! A podcast from Positive Psychology Coach, Kira Sabin that helps singles learn the foundational knowledge & skills to date like you f*cking mean it.
Join Kira weekly, for short, smart & sweary conversations on what's working in dating, what's not, and where we go from here.
Because love isn’t broken, but dating is. Let’s fix it.
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The Loneliness Epidemic and How It is Changing Dating
May 09, 2018 21:43 - 31 minutes - 57.8 MBLoneliness has been officially declared an epidemic. It's something that not only is affecting our health but also the way we date. Listen up to my thoughts on what loneliness is and how to change it.
Are your expectations kicking your ass?
April 26, 2018 21:43 - 38 minutes - 69.8 MBThey probably are and you don't even know it! But we are breaking that down today. I have resurrected an old amazing interview with my friend Rob Mack and you are going to love it! Listen up.
Does Friends With Benefits Really Work?
April 18, 2018 19:32 - 29 minutes - 53.4 MBOh....I have thoughts.
Are you a victim in your relationships?
April 13, 2018 19:55 - 29 minutes - 53.4 MBLaying down some truth today. Listen up.
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?
April 04, 2018 19:09 - 30 minutes - 56.4 MBSo this week I am talking about cheating, but not from the moral aspect, but the relationship aspect. What can we learn from cheating and how do we do better.
How to Deal With Ghosting...
March 29, 2018 23:01 - 35 minutes - 64.7 MB'Cause it's the worst. This week I am talking about ghosting, bread crumbing, zombieing and even the new term mosting. All of them suck and we need to have a convo on what to do about it. Listen up!
Why the Dating Culture Is So Fucked Up Right Now!
March 22, 2018 20:29 - 47 minutes - 87.3 MBI can't even. We are having a come to Jesus moment, so just listen up.
Are you too busy for love?
March 14, 2018 19:26 - 20 minutes - 37.6 MBIt seems that almost all the time when I ask people how they are, they tell me they are so busy. Crazy busy. But are we? And if we are, are we too busy for love? Today, I break down the whole busy trap that a lot of us are living in and how to figure out if we are too, or are dating people, too busy for love. Check out the NYT article here.
What I Learned About Love from Ron Swanson
March 09, 2018 01:49 - 17 minutes - 32.7 MBI love me some Parks and Rec and more than Leslie, Ben, Andy or Tom...I love me some Ron Swanson. And one of my favorite love lessons comes from a line in the final season that I decided to do a whole episode around. Listen up!
How important is compatibility anyway?
February 28, 2018 18:59 - 22 minutes - 40.3 MBRecently in the OM Class, this awesome quote was brought up about compatibility and I wanted to break it down today on the podcast. Enjoy!
Do guys need the chase to be interested in a relationship?
February 22, 2018 01:55 - 20 minutes - 36.8 MBDo they? And if they don't, what do we do instead? Well I think you know that I am breaking that shit down for you today. Listen up!
What if you have met the right person already?
February 07, 2018 20:01 - 23 minutes - 42.2 MBOh shit. I am bringing it today. There is a big pile of bullshit that I calling out today. The idea that you haven't met the right one yet...because you probably have. I know...ouch. Come on over and let me give you a hug because believing that myth is NOT helping you. But I break down a new mindset today that will! And don't forget that the new Owner's Manual Class is starting on February 19th and you get it free if you sign-up to join me in Mexico. Check out all of the info h...
The Five Stages of Relationships
February 03, 2018 21:12 - 30 minutes - 55.3 MBIn my research for the new Owner's Manual, I found this killer info about the stages of relationships and was not surprised to find out that most of us never get past stage one or two. Really. Listen up as I share this totally mind-blowing info and find out where you are getting stuck.
Let's Talk About What Love Really Is
January 23, 2018 21:55 - 21 minutes - 38.5 MBI mean really. I can rant day after day about boundaries, vulnerability, communication, etc...but all of it means shit if we don't actually understand what love truly is. I am breaking down some new theories on love, so get ready to blow your mind wide open.
How striving to be perfect is keeping you from love
January 17, 2018 22:40 - 27 minutes - 50.5 MBLADIES! Man, is this week super special. I recently had a good session with a brand new client and she offered for me to share it with all of you! So you are going to get a private peek into what a session and "doing the work" really looks like. During the excerpt we talk about: How love is only a single emotion Why falling in love isn't real How striving to be perfect keeps you further away from love and so much more. Listen up!
Hiding Out from Love with Life Coach Andrea Owen
January 10, 2018 20:04 - 40 minutes - 74.4 MBThe New LOAS podcast is here! Today's guest, Andrea Owen, is talking about her new book "How to Stop Feeling Like Shit" and how to stop hiding out from love. Listen up!
Are you making choices that will get you love?
November 24, 2017 18:39 - 16 minutes - 30.5 MBOh I am on a roll today! I have a question for you. Are you making choices that will actually get you love AND a relationship? The short answer is probably not. Most ladies aren't. Listen up today as I share stories about choices and how you can choose to be in a relationship as well as love.
How to Become Available to Love!
November 18, 2017 01:57 - 19 minutes - 36.5 MBSo over the last few podcasts I have been talking about ways that we are unavailable and probably don't even know it. I see it all of the time. A client will come to me telling me all she wants in the world is love and a relationship. She has been waiting forever! And that might be true. But when she meets someone or starts to date someone new she: * bends over backwards * is nervous to speak up for herself * doesn't ask for what she needs to feel good in the relatio...
Are You Sure You Were Ghosted?
November 10, 2017 23:21 - 12 minutes - 22.9 MBI've got a story from a client this week...that was pissed off. Frustrated. Over it. Because she got ghosted...again. But here is the deal...she wasn't. Listen up as I tell her story and make sure you prevent this from happening. Want to listen to my other podcasts on ghosting? Check them out here and here.
Four Signs You Are Emotionally Unavailable
November 03, 2017 19:09 - 18 minutes - 33.3 MBIf I were to ask you if you are emotionally available, what would you say? Most women I work with yell from the rooftops how available they are. They think they could not be more available...they are dying to be in a relationship. But if there is something that I have learned in my 9+ years of doing this it is that some many women I work with "think" they are emotionally available and just plain aren't. Today on the podcast, I am breaking it down. Listen up!
Should you jump in to a new relationship?
September 29, 2017 17:34 - 15 minutes - 28.8 MBI know I have, have you? When you meet someone and it just feels so, so right. You can't help but just say "fuck it! Let's do this!" Right? I have thoughts and stories and even some theories to share about whether or not you should just follow your heart...or not.
Are The Ideal Love Stories In Your Head Kicking Your Ass?
September 22, 2017 20:07 - 13 minutes - 24.1 MBThis week, I get personal again. I tie up the story about my Dad's passing and what it has to do with my relationship. What I learned and how the stories about what your relationship is "supposed to" be like it total bullshit. Listen up.
Are Men Intimidated By Successful Women?
September 08, 2017 19:28 - 12 minutes - 22 MBAre they? Well some are. But many are not. However there may be a whole other piece at play that you are not even thinking about and today I break that down for you.
Girls Uninterrupted
August 11, 2017 18:40 - 36 minutes - 66.8 MBReady for one part honest stories +one part really smart stuff + one part ridiculous talk about 90s fashion? Done. Today, I have two of my favorite people on earth on my podcast. Amy Smith from thejoyjunkie.com and Andrea Owen from yourkickasslife.com. We got together for this awesome interview to talk about our own struggles, share some funny stories and talk all things 90s. We also talk about the amazing retreat we having coming up in October that you don't want to miss! Check it...
Are men the problem with dating?
July 23, 2017 00:37 - 9 minutes - 17.5 MBWhat do you think? You know I have thoughts on it... Listen up as I break down my thoughts about men, love, dating, relationships...all of it! And join the challenge that starts on July 24th at loas.co/5
Are you sure you even want a relationship?
July 17, 2017 23:25 - 13 minutes - 23.8 MBIt gets confusing nowadays... You look around at everyone you know and you might be asking yourself...do I even want a relationship? No one who is in one seems that happy... I get it. Today I am going to talk about why you DO want a relationship and how to get there.
What to do when people ask "why are you single?"
July 10, 2017 00:57 - 19 minutes - 36.1 MBThis is the worst. Seriously. It is so tough when the well-meaning family, friends, co-workers and even dates ask this question! Let alone when they love to weigh in on what you should do! Today we are going to talk about mindsets and scripts about how to handle this and not lose your shit.
The Danny Chronicles: How it all started
June 30, 2017 19:43 - 22 minutes - 40.7 MBI have a guest on the podcast this week and it is pretty much my favorite guest ever...my boyfriend Danny!!!! He is on the podcast to talk about the ridiculous night we met, the beginning of our relationship and what we did wrong and right! It's a good one. Listen up!
Are you willing to get honest with yourself for love?
June 19, 2017 00:32 - 21 minutes - 39.4 MBI am sharing my guts all over the place this episode. About how I felt about my birthday this week. Not so great things that happened in Costa Rica. Personal failures. All of it. All for the sake of learning. Listen up!
Should you be friends with an ex?
June 02, 2017 16:49 - 22 minutes - 41.3 MBSo this is a tricky one... They may be funny. Smart. Kind. But if you aren't dating anymore...should you be friends? It's complicated, right? Today, I give you some questions and thoughts that you will want to answer before you decide to make the decision if being friends with your ex is a helping or hurting. Listen up!
How Summer Camp Changed My Life
May 26, 2017 16:25 - 17 minutes - 31.6 MBI don't know about you, this time of year always starts to get me thinking about camp. When I was 13, I went to summer camp and it turned out to be the most life changing experience of my childhood. Listen up today as I tell my experience as well as some ridiculous stories about me:) And if you are ready to change your life, join me at the TripleTConference.com!
When to introduce someone new you are dating to friends and family
May 14, 2017 17:32 - 11 minutes - 21.4 MBWithout even noticing, introducing people to friends and family can be the natural next step or sabotaging your new relationship. Do you know which you are doing? Today, I am going to break down three ways to know when it is a great time to introduce a new boyfriend/girlfriend to move your relationship forward.
Do you want to be cherished and put on a pedestal?
May 05, 2017 14:04 - 12 minutes - 22.7 MBWe all have times in our life where we want to be adored, cherished, put on a pedestal by someone. Right? Wrong. I am breaking down today why having that mindset is not helping you or your relationships.
Dating When You Are Not Happy With Your Weight!
April 27, 2017 21:21 - 16 minutes - 30.4 MBDo you wonder if your weight is keeping you single? I am going to share some of my own personal experiences of dating at my far from perfect weight and mindsets to challenge you to date any size.
Do you really want love as much as you say you do?
April 19, 2017 19:48 - 15 minutes - 28 MBI just read a brilliant study from Harvard about the number one thing that makes us happy and healthy. Can you guess what it is? I am going to tell you and also share a story from my past and what had to happen for me to get to this place. It's a doozy. If you want to read the Harvard study it is here.
What To Do When An Ex Pops Up Again
April 11, 2017 21:37 - 7 minutes - 14.6 MBIt happens to the best of us. We are home on a rando Tuesday night and all of a sudden we hear from someone we never thought we would hear from again. What do we do? I am breaking down some theories of why they are there and what to do about it.
Why Vulnerability is Mandatory When You Are Dating
March 09, 2017 17:51 - 14 minutes - 27.1 MBDo the people that you are dating and having relationships with know how to love you? Treat you? Are you asking for what you need? If you just laughed out loud...I get you. That is why I am breaking down today why getting Vulnerable is not optional it is mandatory if you want a relationship that works! Also, check out the No Cheese Left Behind Retreat!
Strategies for Online Dating To Keep You Sane
February 20, 2017 00:30 - 16 minutes - 30.4 MBHell has not frozen over...I just had a stellar talk with my retreat participants and decided that we have a smart talk about online dating. Not what picture to put up or what to write in your profile but mindsets and strategies to keep you sane! Listen up as I breakdown how you might be unconsciously sabotaging your online dates and how to do it better!
Chivalry is Dead and You Fucking Killed It
February 03, 2017 17:32 - 14 minutes - 26.4 MBOn a regular basis I hear ladies saying...chivalry is dead. I pretty much have to agree, but I think that overall, we have killed. I know...bold statement. Listen in as I explain why I think that and what we can do about it.
How we can change the dating culture...
January 27, 2017 19:49 - 14 minutes - 26 MBwas in tears multiple times this past weekend. I sat back in awe as I watched women all over the world stand up for what they believe. It confirmed what I already knew...that women who stand together can change the world. And there is a lot of change needed. As a life coach who works with singles, I am constantly blown away by the powerful women I see who rock their jobs/businesses, have strong, beautiful friendships, are raising thoughtful children and yet struggle with self worth and...
What's on your fuck it list?
January 16, 2017 20:44 - 11 minutes - 20.7 MBSo we are here in Costa Rica and my shit is coming up for me. So I am going to tell you a story about my fears and what I am doing about them. And when you are done listening, create your own LOAS Fuck It List and share it! Also, say fuck it and join me in Costa Rica in March!
Why We Need To Stop Listening To Dating Advice
December 30, 2016 19:43 - 13 minutes - 25.5 MBCause we do. Seriously. If you are confused, listen as I breakdown why listening to love advice isn't working for us anymore and what to do instead.
What To Do When You Have Put Your Foot In Your Mouth
December 23, 2016 03:38 - 13 minutes - 24.8 MBSo I tend to: a) have a lot of feelings. b) express them a lot. Anyone else? So today I breakdown what to do when we express our thoughts, feelings, etc and it doesn't go over well. And what the hell to do about it.
It's OK To Be Nervous
December 15, 2016 21:02 - 13 minutes - 24.6 MBA lot is happening over here for me. Huge life changes that are super exciting...yet I am super nervous. Listen in as I breakdown why I am nervous and what it has to do with love. K
Does Your Type Suck?
December 07, 2016 23:02 - 10 minutes - 19.5 MBGather around for story time! Today, I share a story from my past where I made mistakes to prevent you from making the same ones. A few years ago, I was struggling with figuring out why I was having such trouble with guys until I figured out that my type sucked! Listen in as I tell you what I did about it and how you can make sure your "type" is working for you!
Four Easy Ways to Change Your Life (and the World)
December 03, 2016 01:59 - 15 minutes - 28.6 MBThis week has been rough around here and I have some things to say...with quite a bit of swearing. Something's gotta give, everybody. Today I breakdown how we all have to start fixing this shit around us and it all begins with love. Listen up, Hot Pants!
Tell Everyone to Shut the Fuck Up About Your Love Life
November 22, 2016 22:13 - 16 minutes - 31 MBThey mean so well...they really do! But we have to be very, very careful about who we let give us advice about relationships and dating. Because between you and me....a lot of it sucks. Listen today, as I break down who to listen to and who is cramping your style...
How to Stop Giving Away Your Self Worth While Dating
November 17, 2016 03:44 - 17 minutes - 31.9 MBAfter nine years of coaching and working with single women, there is one thing I know to be true...that without even knowing it so many women are giving away their power, worth and confidence ever single day. But it doesn't have to be that way. Today, I break down what this looks like and what to do instead. Because we can't make chicken salad out of chicken shit!
How To Be Single Through The Holidays Without Losing Your Shit
November 11, 2016 23:04 - 11 minutes - 21.6 MBWELL….FUCK. No matter how much you love the holidays, when you are single there are some just some annoying as fuck parts to it that it can downright tarnish your jingle bells. So, today, I am going to cut through the crap and just talk mindsets and strategies to just get through it. Through the obnoxious relatives, awkward parties and just overall grinchy moments that make the holidays less than stellar when you are single. Let's grab the holidays by the jingle bells...