Ep. 116: How Often Should You Have Sex?

When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for their own preference, or that of their partners, and they think that this means something about who they are as a person. In this episode, I introduce the importance of exploring our motivations behind wanting to have sex, separating any meaning from the frequency of sex sessions, and yes, I even give you a number. 

 

The next cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program is starting soon! If you are someone who is unhappy with the frequency of your sex life and you are looking to make a change, I invite you to join us in the group program. This is just one of the many topics we explore in this group. Email us at: [email protected]

 

Topics In This Episode:Recommendations if you’re experiencing pain during sexThe mind-body connection, and the relationship between our thoughts and our physical bodiesPhysical changes you may experience when you begin to prioritize your pleasureWhat studies show for average frequency when it comes to sexThere is a difference between the sex you may or may not be having, and what you are making it mean about you, your partner, and your relationshipLooking at quantity versus quality. Frequency doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel good!Ask yourself: why is this important to you?Benefits of sex, both partnered and solo sex sessionsWhere to start, if you aren’t at the recommended number, or if you aren’t happy with the frequency

 

As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Remember to be grounded in love and to be open to your partners feelings. Create a safe space for them and for you to be able to talk about this topic, which can be difficult and scary. Good luck in your conversations and I can’t wait to talk with you next week.