Intentional Living with Tanya Hale
317 episodes - English - Latest episode: 17 days ago - ★★★★★ - 105 ratingsJoin certified LDS mid-life coach Tanya Hale on a journey of discovering how to navigate middle-age with more meaning, acceptance, contentment, and happiness.
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#113 Self-Acceptance
August 24, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 20.4 MBRecognizing and embracing the truth that we are human and will make mistakes is such an important piece of the self-acceptance puzzle. Learning to accept what we can change, what we can't, and then having the courage to change what we can, will bring us to a place of self-acceptance that creates space for positive change. Let's chat about it. . .
#112 Interview with Beth Hillman, Coach for Parents of Struggling Teens
August 17, 2020 10:00 - 40 minutes - 37.5 MBBeth Hillman is an amazing coach who works with parents of struggling teens. Join me today as Beth talks about her own personal journey with her struggling teen and how learning to take responsibility for her part in their relationship changed everything. You can find Beth at bethhillmancoaching.com.
#111 The Checklist Relationship
August 10, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBWe are hard-wired as humans for connections with other humans. And yet, our primitive brain is hard-wired to take the easiest path possible and get all habitual and superficial with our relationships. So how do we move out of the primitive brain "checklist" and into a space where we emotionally engage with the people we love? That's what we're talking about today. You won't want to miss this one!
#110 The Cost of Being Right
August 03, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 24.8 MBIf you want to be right, you are not alone! Being right is a primal desire for humans, and sometimes we will work to be right at any cost. But the thing is, the cost can be huge, and the biggest casualty is our relationships with the people we value the most. Today let's look at our reasons behind being right and how we can let go of it.
#109 Your Reasons Matter. . . A Lot
July 27, 2020 09:00 - 42 minutes - 38.6 MBOne of the most amazing things we can be aware of with ourselves is our reasons for why we make the decisions we make. Our reasons will make all the difference on our end results, as well as give us valuable insight into our minds and what motivates us. Once we clue into the thinking of our minds, we have a distinct advantage!
#108 Spiritual Submission & Our Self-Worth
July 20, 2020 10:00 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MBWhat is the connection between submission and self-worth? More than you'd think! Learning to truly be submissive to God, to create a relationship of trust is so valuable to our spiritual growth. And so is embracing our God-given self-worth. Today we're talking about how these two ideas are intertwined. Good stuff!
#107 Why Our Thoughts Are So Important
July 13, 2020 10:00 - 29 minutes - 27 MBMost self-help books out there make it seem like it's so easy to change your life. If you will just follow these easy steps you can make your life better. But until we get to the cause of those behaviors, our thoughts, long-lasting change is not possible. Are you ready to up-level your life? Let's start with your thoughts.
#106 Fierce Self-Love
July 06, 2020 10:00 - 32 minutes - 29.3 MBReally learning to love ourselves deeply, and unconditionally, is the path to truly being able to love others deeply and unconditionally. When we can let go of needing other people to love us in order for us to feel love, and whole or complete, then we are free to love and serve others with openness and honesty. Loving ourselves fiercely is an empowering, energy-producing creation in our own lives that allows us to bring forth our greatest contribution in this world. Let’s talk about it!
#105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present & Future
June 29, 2020 10:00 - 27 minutes - 25.3 MBSelf-love is so important in our lives. When we extend this love to our past and future selves, rather than just loving our present self, we can develop a much deeper, more inclusive love that will impact our sense of self and our personal growth as well. This is a discussion you won't want to miss!
#104 Cultivating Self-Love
June 22, 2020 10:00 - 34 minutes - 31.5 MBSometimes the concept of self-love can get a bad rap because people will associate it with being arrogant, or conceited, or vain. But real self-love will lead you into a place of honor and respect for yourself and your worth, and will allow you to tap into the best parts of you. Today we are going pretty in-depth about how to begin cultivating your own self-love. You won't want to miss this one!
Bonus Episode - Supporting Our Sisters with Anita Miller
June 15, 2020 22:54 - 54 minutes - 49.7 MBWith all of the racial tension going on in our country right now, many of us are feeling a little helpless and disempowered. I've been spending so much time seeking to educate myself and become more aware of the racial issues within the United States. This week I'm chatting with my friend Anita Miller. She is a fellow life coach and a black woman who focuses on finding solutions. I hope you enjoy what she has to share.
#103 The Case for Curiosity
June 15, 2020 10:00 - 24 minutes - 22 MBCuriosity is the beginning of everything great that will happen in your life! Curiosity is the first step to growth and progression because it creates awareness, and awareness means we finally see what we need to see. Today we'll talk about how curiosity will move you into the next best version of yourself.
#102 The New Normal
June 08, 2020 10:00 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBAs the Covid-19 Pandemic is slowing down, I keep hearing about the dreaded "new normal." And yet, when we can learn to start looking for the opportunities in this new normal, rather than expecting disaster, we can create a very different experience for ourselves. Because it all starts with a thought. . .
#101 Conscious Unbelieving
June 01, 2020 10:00 - 29 minutes - 27.1 MBOur brain is always so busy thinking all kinds of thoughts, the VAST majority of those which are unconscious. And a lot of these unconscious thoughts are not serving us, in fact, they can often be very detrimental for our progress and growth. Learning how to identify and un-believe those thoughts is vital. Let's talk about how.
#100 Lessons Learned Through 99 Podcasts
May 25, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 25.8 MBIt's amazing what a person can learn about themselves in the process of creating 99 podcasts! Today I get a little personal, and sometimes a little emotional, as I share the lessons I've learned in the past 15 months of podcasting.
#99 Parenting Adult Children
May 18, 2020 10:00 - 26 minutes - 24 MBMaking the transition from parenting young children, over whom we have a lot of say, to parenting adult children, over whom we have no say, can be a really difficult challenge for many of us. But the only way we can have the connected relationships we desire with our adult children is to learn to step back, let go, and love unconditionally.
#98 Mom Guilt
May 11, 2020 10:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MBIf you're a mom, you've most likely felt this at some point in your parenting career, and it doesn't just go away when our children become adults. But let's take a closer look at what it is, and why it is, and how to create something different -- like a closer, connected relationship with our children.
#97 Why The Thought Model Matters
May 04, 2020 10:00 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBThe Thought Model is a tool I use in my life and with my clients to help them understand their feelings and actions better. Building upon last week's podcast, today we're discussing how understanding our thought model can help us to feel more empowered and step into emotional adulthood.
#96 Understanding The Thought Model
April 27, 2020 10:00 - 40 minutes - 37 MBDo you ever wonder why certain situations make you so happy or angry or frustrated? Do you wonder why you act the way that you do or why the results in your life are what they are? The Thought Model is a tool I use with coaching my clients that helps them to understand the connection between circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. This is the basis for my coaching. If you want to know how to feel more empowered in your life, understanding and implementing The Thought Mod...
#95 Resilience
April 20, 2020 10:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBWho are the people who come through challenges and adversity more successful and fulfilled than they were before they experienced it? You got it. Resilient people. People who have the ability to bounce back and recover easily. How do we become more resilient? Join me today and let's talk about it.
#94 The Right Path
April 13, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 20.6 MBWhat is the right path and how do we determine if we are on it? Join me today as I share with you my recent personal revelations about what I've learned about my path and the paths of others. I love growing up and learning these kinds of things about myself!
#93 Finding Fulfillment
April 06, 2020 10:00 - 24 minutes - 22.6 MBFeeling a deep sense of fulfillment in our lives is something that we innately crave, and yet, so many of us still struggle to get to a place where we feel we've tapped into the level of fulfillment we desire. In this episode we discuss what does and what doesn't help us to feel fulfilled with our lives and where we are.
#92 Clean Love
March 30, 2020 10:00 - 24 minutes - 22.3 MBHave you ever noticed that sometimes your love will come with conditions? And not just conditions on the front end, but conditions on the back end as well? We often expect that when we show love to another person that they will behave in a certain way in return. That, my friends, is controlling and manipulative. Clean love is when we learn to love without any expectation at all. And that, is an amazing place to get to!
#91 Personal Responsibility
March 23, 2020 10:00 - 27 minutes - 25.1 MBIt is so easy to not only blame other people for things that go wrong in our lives, but just as easy to expect people to be responsible for our happiness and for fulfilling our needs. Well, it's time to step up, my friends, and start taking responsibility for the emotions, including happiness, that we feel, and also for our own needs. Wanting, or expecting, someone else to take care of these things for us leaves us completely powerless, and who wants that?
#90 Divorce Trauma
March 16, 2020 10:00 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBDivorce is traumatic, and we can carry that trauma with us for many years. And it's not just the trauma of the separation, it's also the trauma of many years of developing unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the dysfunction. This is a great discussion to help you become more aware of the trauma and learn how to work through it.
#89 Mid-Life Teenage Angst
March 09, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 20.7 MBWhat do mid-agers and teenagers have in common? A lot of angst! And for a lot of reasons you may not have considered. Join me today as we discuss how our mid-life funk correlates so strongly with the life of a teenager.
#88 Marriage Mending with Jane Copier
March 02, 2020 11:00 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MBToday I get to interview my good friend and fellow life coach, Jane Copier (janecopiercoaching.com). Jane is an amazing coach who focuses on helping couples save their marriages. If you've been married you know that it definitely has it's challenges, but you may not feel that divorce is the option for you. That being said, you also don't know how to fix it and be in a healthier and happier marriage. Jane can help!
#87 The Law of the Lid
February 24, 2020 11:00 - 24 minutes - 22.5 MBWhy is personal growth so important? Because our personal growth puts a lid on everything else that we engage with in our lives -- our relationships with others, God, and ourselves, as well as our work. We are limiting every aspect of our lives by our lack of personal growth by what is known as The Law of the Lid.
#86 Is Self-Care Being Selfish?
February 17, 2020 15:31 - 19 minutes - 17.8 MBWhen is it self-care and when is it selfishness? Good question! But here's an important distinction. Self-care is us taking care of our needs so that we then have the energy to take care of the needs of others, while selfishness seeks to exploit others to take care of our own needs. We actually have to engage in self-care in order to be self-less.
#85 Emotional Tones
February 10, 2020 11:00 - 23 minutes - 21.1 MBDid you know that the actual words we speak are only 7% of our communication? 93% of what we say is communicated through the tone of our voice and our body language. Today we're going to talk about our emotional tones and how they impact our relationships with others. If we want to truly connect with the people around us, it's important to pay attention to our tones, understand where they come from, and how to change them.
#84 Creating Energy
February 03, 2020 11:00 - 20 minutes - 19.1 MBWhat is it about mid-life that makes us feel tired all of the time? I'll tell you a secret -- some of it has to do with what you're thinking. Today we're talking about how to create energy with your thoughts when it feels like you don't have any. Our thoughts create energy. . . who knew?!?
#83 Self-Honesty
January 27, 2020 11:00 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBSo many of us are just not honest with ourselves. Not on purpose, mind you, but unconsciously our brain perpetuates lies. At one time these lies may have kept us safe or been coping mechanisms that helped us to manage the difficulties in our lives. And even when they're no longer useful, our brain continues to tell these lies because they're easy and comfortable. Learning to become aware of these thoughts and develop honesty with ourselves is vital for our growth and progression. Let's ...
#83 Self-Honesty
January 27, 2020 11:00 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBSo many of us are just not honest with ourselves. Not on purpose, mind you, but unconsciously our brain perpetuates lies. At one time these lies may have kept us safe or been coping mechanisms that helped us to manage the difficulties in our lives. And even when they're no longer useful, our brain continues to tell these lies because they're easy and comfortable. Learning to become aware of these thoughts and develop honesty with ourselves is vital for our growth and progression. Let's ...
#82 Courage and Fear
January 20, 2020 11:00 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBDid you ever think that we couldn't have courage without fear? They really do work together. We often think of fear as only being a negative emotion, but when we adjust our thoughts around it, fear can be a great motivator to move us into courage. And courage is when we grow and get things done!
#81 How To Be More Patient
January 13, 2020 11:00 - 23 minutes - 21.3 MBIs patience your thing or not your thing? Most of us struggle at some level with being patient. Today we're going to discuss the reasons behind our lack of patience and how to learn how to be more patient, creating a better version of ourselves and healthier relationships with those around us.
#80 What A Girl Wants
January 06, 2020 11:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBAlright, My Sweet Lady Friends, let's have a chat. What do you want? Do you know? Some of us don't. If you do know, do you let people around you know what you want? Some of us don't. Do you speak up and ask for what you want? Some of us don't. Today we're going to explore all of these scenarios and discuss why it's so important for us to know what we want and ask for it.
#79 Gratitude
December 30, 2019 11:00 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MBWant to be happier and more content in your life? Numerous studies point to gratitude as a major player in creating what you're after. And where can we find gratitude? In our thoughts of course! Because thoughts create our feelings. Believe it or not, gratitude actually has nothing to do with the circumstances in our lives. It's what we think about our circumstances that creates our feelings of gratitude.
#78 Playing Small
December 23, 2019 11:00 - 26 minutes - 24.7 MBI believe that one of the most damaging things we can do in our lives is to play small. As women, we often feel this person inside of us wanting so desperately to come out and impact the world in amazing ways. And yet we keep shushing her and buy into the cultural ideas that we have our place and should stay there. But I know God gave us these talents, abilities, and desires for a reason. Because we need to use them. Let's get started!
#77 Other People's Opinions
December 16, 2019 11:00 - 20 minutes - 19.1 MBWhat is it about other people's opinions and criticisms that can make us feel hurt or insecure or good? Actually, nothing. Their opinions and criticisms are just neutral circumstances. It's what we make those things mean that cause our feelings about them. Let's dig into our thoughts to figure out how to manage our feelings better around what other people think and say about us.
#76 Finding My Wings
December 09, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBGrowing up is such an amazing journey. I feel that this stage in our lives is perfect for putting all of the pieces together, discovering who we are and what amazing contribution we can make in this world. Today we're talking about the process of finding our wings and really stepping into what we feel we are called to do while here on earth.
#75 Emotional Adulthood
December 02, 2019 11:00 - 24 minutes - 22.6 MBEmotional Adulthood. It's a beautiful thing when we learn how to take full responsibility for all of our emotions and stop blaming others for how we feel and for our behaviors. It can be a process to learn because most of us were taught from the time we were young that other people were responsible for how we feel, but taking back the control over ourselves is an amazing, empowering process!
#74 Money Management
November 25, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 20.1 MBThis is #10, the last of our concepts necessary for mental health -- money management. Our emotional relationship with our money and our stewardship over it plays a huge role in our self-respect, which is a major player in our mental health. When we can learn to understand this relationship and learn to engage with it in a healthy way, we make a direct deposit into our mental health. And the better our mental health, the happier we are and the better relationships we have with those in our ...
#73 Time Management
November 18, 2019 11:00 - 37 minutes - 34.2 MB#9 on our list of mentally healthy behaviors is Time Management. Technically, it's managing ourselves within our time, and it's brilliant when we can wrap our discipline around being clear on what we want and need to do to progress into a better version of ourselves. On this podcast we talk about the processes necessary for better "time management" and why it's all so important, anyway. Turns out, it's vital for our self-respect which is always a must for better mental health.
#72 Unconditional Self-Love
November 11, 2019 11:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MB#8 on our list of things we need to be mentally healthy is unconditional self-love. This one is SO IMPORTANT! When we can first, learn what it really means to have unconditional love, and then apply that to ourselves, we are finding a place of acceptance and kindness and real growth. And mentally healthy people grow, and grow often! They embrace their imperfections as part of this amazing human journey and they exhibit grit and resilience. This is all part of our unconditional self-love...
#71 Contribution
November 04, 2019 11:00 - 22 minutes - 20.1 MB#7 on our list of important things to do to have good mental health is contribution. This refers to contributing to ourselves in order to become the best version that we can be, and then turning that best version around to contribute to the world in meaningful ways. And a third piece to this -- embracing our contributions as important and valuable to the world. Such a great piece to the mental health component!
#70 Self Reflection and Self Coaching
October 31, 2019 10:00 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MB#6 on our list of mental health behaviors is self reflection and self coaching. When we become more aware of where we really are, and when we can start intentionally moving ourselves out of negative thinking and into more positive thinking, we are also moving into better mental health. Awareness and intentional change are a powerful combination in helping us to truly discover our true selves.
#69 Internal Control
October 28, 2019 10:00 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MB#5 on our list of good mental health indicators is internal control. This refers to our ability to take full responsibility for our feelings, realizing they come from our thoughts rather than from external situations. Tapping into our internal control allows us to feel empowered in relation to our future and our potential rather than at the mercy of outside forces. And feeling empowered is great for our mental health.
#68 Taking Action
October 24, 2019 10:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB#4 in Brooke Castillo's list of things we need to do for good mental health: Take Action. And this is brilliant because when we take action we create confidence and self-respect. We grow into the person of our dreams and we move forward in accomplishing our goals. And all of those things are key elements of having great mental health.
#67 Buffering
October 21, 2019 10:00 - 18 minutes - 17.1 MB#3 for better mental health is little to no buffering. Buffering is the process of using something external to try and solve for an internal problem, such as emotional discomfort. But buffering, although it may feel good in the moment, has some unintended consequences such as keeping us from truly experiencing life and keeping us from truly knowing who we really are. Discovering how and why we buffer and how to stop is a huge component in getting to greater mental health.
#66 Emotional Balance
October 17, 2019 10:00 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MB#2 in our list of things we need to have good mental health is emotional balance. Here we are talking about the 50/50 balance of positive and negative emotions, and specifically about our ability or inability to feel and work through the negative ones. They can be challenging for sure, but only in choosing to feel them can we find the balance that we seek that brings mental health.