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How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything

172 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 months ago -

"My two sons' godmother, who is a first-generation Dominican in New York City, was having a really, really hard time getting through to her mother about taking extra precautions during the start of the COVID pandemic," says Juleyka Lantigua, host and creator of How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything, Apple Podcasts' Spotlight show for January 2023. "It was like they were speaking to each other in two different languages. The cultural and generational differences between them seemed to push them further apart as their conversations progressed. I realized they represented millions of children and parents enmeshed in a drag-out white-knuckle fight because those of us who are 'Americanized' see the world—and most importantly, live in the world—very differently from our immigrant parents."

Lantigua, who is a veteran reporter and founder and CEO of the digital audio and production company LWC Studios, launched How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything in 2020. She found out quickly that many listeners could relate to the experiences discussed on the show. "It was a grand experiment, and we were nervous and excited," she says. "And then the emails started pouring in from listeners who never knew they needed these conversations or those who wished they'd had the show growing up 20,30, 50 years ago!"

Each episode features a listener with a problem that can range from navigating relationships with parents who disapprove of their spouse to maintaining a relationship with a difficult parent for the sake of the grandchildren. An expert on the episode’s topic joins Lantigua on the show to offer professional advice and analyze the generational and cultural dynamics at play. "So many of us straddle that hyphen of being American and something else. So many of us are trying to honor our parents' ways while making our own way in the world," Lantigua says. "This is a place to find solace and really good advice."

After nearly 150 episodes, Lantigua is taking the plunge into extending the brand with a sister show, How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything. And her hope is that there’s more where that came from. "My vision is that the "How to Talk to" franchise continues to grow and serve the rising-majority audience in the US for years to come.”

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Episodes

TRAILER: Driving The Green Book!

September 03, 2020 04:00 - 4 minutes - 4.1 MB

We produced something beautiful for Macmillan Podcasts!! Introducing Driving the Green Book, a ten-part documentary series premiering September 15. Follow award-winning BBC broadcaster Alvin Hall as he retraces many of the locations featured in the historic travel guide. From Detroit to New Orleans, Hall takes us on an immersive audio journey, collecting powerful, personal testimony about how Black Americans used the Green Book to travel with dignity during the height of segregation. New epi...

A Historical Wound He’s Trying to Understand

August 31, 2020 04:00 - 19 minutes - 18.2 MB

As Jewish immigrants from the former U.S.S.R., Michael’s extended family endured a history of prosecution and genocide. But he finds that his parents lack empathy toward those seeking safety and freedom in the U.S. He's having a hard time understanding where they’re coming from. And an even harder time talking to them about it. An expert in negotiation and mediation has some advice for us all. Our expert this week is Sara del Nido Budish, Assistant Director and Clinical Instructor at the Ha...

She’s Stuck in a Family Triangle

August 24, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.5 MB

Irina is ready to quit being the mediator between her Russian and Cuban parents and her younger, more Americanized brother. The role has strained her relationship with all of them, and, now that she has her own family, she wants to find the best way to change this dynamic—and to let them work things out on their own. A marriage and family therapist offers insights and techniques for anyone in this dilemma. Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her ow...

Parents’ Reason for Ignoring COVID-19 Restrictions: “We gotta live.”

August 17, 2020 04:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MB

When COVID-19 hit, Harold quickly reshaped his routine to protect his family. At first, his parents also followed public health guidelines, but as the pandemic extended they began to relax their precautions, even having people stay over on weekends. Harold says he has been deeply impacted by their carefree approach, especially because he fears for his infant son’s health—and theirs. Plus: a COVID-19 contact tracer joins the show to share strategies. Our expert this week is Oscar Baez. He is...

She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It

August 10, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MB

TK grew up in a family of medical professionals. She followed in their footsteps and became a nurse, but had passion projects on the side. When she left nursing, her parents had a hard time understanding her new goals and the dreams she deems essential to her happiness. A career coach guides us in how to navigate career choices with skeptical loved ones. Our expert this week is Jasmine Escalera, a Job Search and Career Strategist who works with women of color. You can visit Jasmine's websit...

When Helping Leaves You Feeling Bad After

August 03, 2020 04:00 - 17 minutes - 15.7 MB

Perla, a paralegal, uses her training to help her dad navigate the federal COVID-19 relief process. But, when Perla takes charge, personalities clash and roles reverse. An old father-daughter dynamic comes back, and she’s left feeling undermined. A family therapist who works with Latino clients returns to guide us in finding better ways to get through these trying moments. Featured Expert:  Claudia Cuevas is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Mission Viejo, CA. She has a Masters i...

At Home, Being an Adult Is Testing Parental Limits

July 27, 2020 04:00 - 21 minutes - 19.4 MB

Deepa is a political journalist who thought she had set clear and practical boundaries with her parents. But, now that she’s living with them through the COVID-19 pandemic, she finds everyone at home falling into old patterns that disrupt her work and cross boundaries. Then, we hear from a business and leadership coach who offers pointers on how to recalibrate and refocus. Our expert on this episode is Dr. Shweta Oza, who coaches individuals and entrepreneurs helping them find joy, prosperi...

Dad Denies Systemic Racism

July 20, 2020 04:00 - 19 minutes - 17.9 MB

Estefania was always close to her dad, but lately their relationship has been strained. Thanks to the Black Lives Matter demonstrations, they’ve been talking more about race and racism. It’s become clear they don’t see the issues the same way. Also, social justice doula who helps people put into practice their anti-racism gives Estefania and the rest of us the vocabulary that can lead to more honest conversations with loved ones. Our expert on this episode is Lutze Segu, Social Justice Doul...

When Mamí Grieves Different Than You

July 13, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MB

Erika’s mom has always been a huge support for Erika and her sisters. But when Erika’s grandmother passed away in the Dominican Republic amid the COVID-19 pandemic, Erika wanted to support her during this difficult time. Figuring out what her mom needed—and didn’t—turned into a delicate dance of giving and receiving, for both of them. And a grief counselor implodes some myths about grief while offering practical advice on how to best help loved ones. Our expert on this episode is Alica Forn...

How to Get Help When You're the Designated Translator

July 06, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MB

Louise has always helped her mom translate important documents and handle formal transactions. Recently, she helped her file for unemployment insurance during the COVID-19 pandemic — and it caused friction between them. An expert shares techniques and resources that Louise and other first-gens with this responsibility can use to alleviate the pressure and extra work that result when we want to support our parents but need help in the process. Our expert on this episode is Saritha Farris,  a...

Papí and I Don’t Talk, We Argue

June 29, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MB

Tatianna has always questioned authority. As a girl, she’d push back on rules, gender roles and limitations, annoying her family, and especially her dad. As an adult, her feminist ways clash with his machismo. A therapist who focuses on Latinas, men and the families who love them joins the show to help Tatiana and the rest of us find a better way. Featured Expert: Claudia Cuevas is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Mission Viejo, CA. She has a Masters in Marriage and Family Therap...

When’s the Time to Write a Will?

June 22, 2020 04:00 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MB

Mitzi’s mom is her best friend. They talk on the phone daily and have a great relationship. But when her mom started getting sick, it was a race against the clock to make sure she had the care and legal protections she needed. Professor of Law María Mercedes Pabón offers advice on broaching the conversation and gets into the documents our parents should have in place years before they think they need them. Our expert on this episode, María Mercedes Pabón, is a professor of law at Loyola Uni...

He’s the First to Go to College

June 15, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MB

Walter’s parents encouraged him to get an education. They didn’t care where, they “just wanted to see the word university or college at the end.” But as the first to go to college, while at an Ivy League school and then law school, Walter struggled to share his experiences — triumphs or frustrations — with them. Our pro this episode talks about experiencing college with our parents at our side. Our expert in the episode is Sol Cordova, a Licensed Professional Counselor and the owner of Mind...

Dad’s Mental Illness, on His Terms

June 08, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB

Kenia's dad was always the life of the party. But then he became moody and confrontational. Small disagreements would turn into big fights. There were a lot of highs and lows. Kenia worked hard to understand his diagnosis and meet him on his own terms. And a therapist teaches us how to notice if a family member is struggling with their mental health. Our expert, Blanca E Amaya is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who provides psychotherapy in English and Spanish. She owns her own practice, ...

Struggling to Become More than a Dutiful Daughter

June 01, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.6 MB

Merk's parents have always been her biggest cheerleaders. They've always encouraged her to take the life they've given her and transform it into something of her own. But since moving out on her own, she worries that she won't develop her own identity beyond the "dutiful daughter" she feels pressure to be. Featured Expert:  Sara Stanizai (she/her) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the owner of Prospect Therapy, an LGBTQ+ affirming therapy practice based in Long Beach, CA. As ...

Dad Voted for Trump

May 23, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB

Adela loves her dad. “He’s a great husband, a great grandfather, and I just would never do anything to jeopardize the relationship,” she says. There’s just one thing: he voted for Trump because of where he stands on Israel. And now she’s wrestling with her abiding love for him and the political rift it may cause in the family. Our expert, Victoria Defrancesco Soto, is a political scientist and the assistant dean of civic engagement at the LBJ School of Public Affairs at the University of Te...

Trying to Warn Mom about COVID-19 from Afar

May 16, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB

Lory lives in Paris, where COVID-19 shut down the city of lights as the pandemic ravaged Europe. Her mom lives in New York, which weeks after Paris went on lockdown would become the American epicenter. But Lori could not convince her mother to take, what she believed, were necessary precautions. Our expert, Dr. Pam Thompson, is a psychologist, professional life coach and the author of "Surviving Mama,"  a book that focuses on mothers and adult daughters. She joins the podcast to break down ...

Parents Might Be Spreading Fake News

May 09, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.3 MB

Casey’s parents both work in healthcare, but that does not always keep them from believing and sometimes sharing false information whose sources are dubious at best. A pro helps us understand the challenges inherent in this situation and work through tools to empower our loved ones. Featured Expert:  Michelle Ciulla Lipkinis the Executive Director of the National Association for Media Literacy Education. Michelle has helped NAMLE grow to be the preeminent media literacy education associati...

Mom Drove into NYC Amid the COVID-19 Crisis

May 02, 2020 04:00 - 20 minutes - 18.6 MB

Sandra Morales’ mom made a life-threatening decision as COVID-19 escalated in New York City. Family therapist Evelyn Hernandez Brown listens in and helps us with setting boundaries, adjusting expectations, and the work that follows in the “repair” phase. Featured Expert:  Evelynn Hernandez-Brown, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Oakland, California. She specializes in culturally responsible therapy methods for adults. She joins the podcast to talk about better ways to communi...

Welcome to How to Talk to {Mamí & Papí} About Anything

April 24, 2020 20:10 - 1 minute - 1.38 MB

We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to [email protected]. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at [email protected]. And subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.

Welcome to How to Talk to Mamí & Papí About Anything

April 24, 2020 20:10 - 1 minute - 1.38 MB

We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to [email protected]. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at [email protected]. And subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.

Welcome to How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] About Anything

April 24, 2020 20:10 - 1 minute - 1.38 MB

We're a show about family — about how to talk with the people you love when you feel like you. just. can't. Every week, I’ll talk to an adult child of immigrant parents who’s having a hard time broaching a taboo subject, feeling not heard or understood, AND ready to try something NEW. No subject is off limits.  Raising children, coming out, religion... We’re going to get into it. We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipa...

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