My Way Or The Highway

This podcast and article are about the people who manipulate, blame, shame, intimidate, and issue ultimatums to you to get you to do what they want. Everyone has this kind of person in their life or has an experience of them. They are impossible to deal with, they cause drama, trauma, and chaos, they refuse to consider anyone else’s needs or position and they can be very mean when they do not get their way. Their ‘my way or the highway’ attitude lets you know that they only value you to the extent you are useful to them and your needs do not matter at all and especially not more than theirs. But you do have options and solutions so let’s talk about the my way or the highway people in your life, what they can teach you, and how to remove them and their influence from your life. 

Why is this important to you and what does it have to do with spirituality, energy, congruence, and energetic sovereignty, topics that you usually hear me speak and write about? Because these people and situations are your biggest, most frustrating, and most obsessive energy drains. They are your energetic black holes, where you pour energy into them hoping for a transformation. They are your biggest emotional black holes, where you have so much emotional energy invested in the outcomes you want and the connections and transformations you want to happen that they trigger you into saying and doing things that are not in your best interests or highest good. 

Understanding the process of aggressive ultimatums and people and situations that have the potential to create so much drama, trauma, and chaos in your life is your first step into unraveling the energetic and karmic ties that bind you to them. 

What do you do when you try hard to please someone and no matter what you do they refuse to see things your way or to compromise with their position? They want their way, no matter what and they want you to honor their path, fears, desires, and needs no matter how outrageous or difficult they are or how much it costs you in terms of time, energy, or emotions. No matter how many times you tell them you are not available, it is inconvenient for you, you simply cannot do what they want, they ignore your protests and act as if you said yes. 

They are a basket of needs, steamrolling through your life, upsetting your plans, and status quo, demanding that you make them a priority in every situation. They must always be the center of attention, at the forefront of every consideration, and you must be willing to drop everything and respond to their whims. Or you must give them what they ask for or want, no matter how inconvenient it is, you do not want to, or it just will not work for them. 

I’m not exaggerating here because these kinds of people do exist and you may have known one or more of them in your life. In fact, you may know a few of them right now. They can be anyone – family, friends, your children, your partner, husband, or wife. They can be a manager or boss or another employee at work. They can be a customer in your business. It’s always ‘my way or the highway’ with them and you seem to have no way to escape their overpowering energy and incessant demands. 

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