Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman
322 episodes - English - Latest episode: 12 days ago - ★★★★★ - 694 ratingsIn a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.
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S2E5: What You Need to Know About Being Black and Queer and Why it Matters with Dr. Ja'Nina Garrett-Walker
May 03, 2019 14:21 - 57 minutes - 26.5 MBIn today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ja’Nina Garrett-Walker from the University of San Francisco. They engage in a conversation about how as a Black community we can all be better accomplices for the Black queer community. Dr. Garrett-Walker gives us some information on what it means to “deconstruct the binary” and the damage it does to the entire community when we focus on the binary. She also gives us lots of terminology that we all need to learn in understanding our queer co...
S2E4: Our First Fight: Tips to Manage Conflict for the Non-confrontational Woman
April 26, 2019 15:11 - 43 minutes - 24.7 MBTension, pain, frustration, sadness, heart racing, butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, stress. Any of those things sound familiar? Those are some of the feelings that come up when we experience conflict. Lady, you’re going to want to grab something to take notes because Teacher T steps into H.E.R Space and helps us to explore what is conflict resolution and why is it important. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri use real-life scenarios to show us how to disagree with someone effectively...
S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence
April 19, 2019 04:31 - 37 minutes - 71.4 MBLady, you are ENOUGH. Let that sink in. Say it out loud. “I AM ENOUGH.” Now take a deep breath in, slowly let it out and get ready to dive into today’s episode. This week Dom and Terri discuss the narratives that reverberate in our brains that influence our confidence and self-esteem. Our confidence is situational and subjective. It's also different from self-esteem and both may fluctuate with the various phases of our lives. Terri and Dom share their self-esteem and confidence journeys with...
S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence
April 19, 2019 04:31 - 37 minutes - 26 MBLady, you are ENOUGH. Let that sink in. Say it out loud. “I AM ENOUGH.” Now take a deep breath in, slowly let it out and get ready to dive into today’s episode. This week Dom and Terri discuss the narratives that reverberate in our brains that influence our confidence and self-esteem. Our confidence is situational and subjective. It's also different from self-esteem and both may fluctuate with the various phases of our lives. Terri and Dom share their self-esteem and confidence journeys with ...
S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry
April 12, 2019 05:00 - 36 minutes - 70.9 MBResearch has shown that there can be healing in humor. Belly laughs from way down deep can be so good for our souls. Lady, when was the last time you laughed? Not that polite laugh, but the real authentic one. When was the last time you tapped into your imagination and chaired the fun ministry? With so much sadness and seriousness, Terri and Dom take a break from the heaviness to have a lighthearted episode telling some corny jokes and share some ways in which they tap into their inner child...
S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry
April 12, 2019 05:00 - 37 minutes - 21.4 MBResearch has shown that there can be healing in humor. Belly laughs from way down deep can be so good for our souls. Lady, when was the last time you laughed? Not that polite laugh, but the real authentic one. When was the last time you tapped into your imagination and chaired the fun ministry? With so much sadness and seriousness, Terri and Dom take a break from the heaviness to have a lighthearted episode telling some corny jokes and share some ways in which they tap into their inner child....
S2E1: Let's Talk About Sex with Eliza Boquin
April 05, 2019 04:00 - 43 minutes - 20.1 MBIn today’s episode we’re diving into a topic that’s taboo for many but oh so necessary to a fulfilling and joyful existence...S-E-X. Joining Terri and Dom is the first of many expert guests in H.E.R Space. Eliza Boquin, is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Relationship Therapist, and Sexuality Expert. She’s the owner, founder, and primary psychotherapist of The Flow and Ease Healing Center and specializes in working with relationship & sexuality challenges. But wait, there’s more... sh...
S1E14: Season 1 Finale - Shoutouts, Black Enterprise Feature, and Season 2 Teasers
March 29, 2019 05:00 - 48 minutes - 27.9 MBLady! We did it! We made it through 13 episodes! That means we have finished the first quarter of 2019! Can you believe it? Whether you've been rocking with Terri and Dom since Day 1 or just tuning in...know that this week's episode will give you a quick recap of each episode and shout out some folks. Also, Dom and Terri offer additional insights, commentary and follow-ups. But wait...if you enjoyed season 1 you CANNOT miss what we have in store for season 2! As always, thank you for tuning i...
S1E13: Boundary Violations You Might Be Crossing That Are Impacting Your Relationships
March 22, 2019 05:00 - 37 minutes - 21.2 MBWe all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boun...
S1E12: Imposter Syndrome: How to Deal When You Feel You Don't Belong
March 15, 2019 04:00 - 29 minutes - 17.1 MBEver wonder, “How did I get here? I’m not as good as everyone else here. What’s going to happen to me when they find out I’m not as smart as them?” If you answered, “yes” then chances are you have experienced Impostor Phenomenon or Imposter Syndrome. This experience was initially coined to describe the experiences of White women who believed their achievements were a result of happenstance; lived in fear of being taken as a fraud; and setting sometimes unrealistic high standards of achievemen...
S1E11: How to Create a Dream Team For Your Life and Business
March 08, 2019 16:26 - 33 minutes - 19.1 MBTerri and Dom switch things up a bit in this episode. Dom starts us off with a quick story about how she came to realize she has a team. If we want to live our best life then having a team will get you there. Who do you need on your team? How can you create a team with limited finances? Terri and Dom share with us some of the people they have on their teams and how they navigated finding coaches when they did not have the money. They also discuss their “co-parenting relationship” for H.E.R Sp...
S1E10: Thriving With Depression
March 01, 2019 05:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBLife is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a fe...
S1E9: How to Set Boundaries Effectively- No Is a Complete Sentence
February 22, 2019 21:40 - 38 minutes - 22 MBNo! In case you were wondering, no is a complete sentence. Use it without hesitation. Nike! (Just do it!) Know that using it is an act of self-care. Can you think of a time when you’ve had to say no or struggled to say no? Who have you had to say no to? How do you feel when you have to say? These situations are boundary testers and using “No” is a way for us to outline our rules of interaction. Terri and Dom offer us ways to say "No" within real-life situations, including instances in which t...
S1E8: How to Find Your Own Self-Care Routine
February 15, 2019 17:57 - 33 minutes - 19.2 MBIt’s the day after Valentine’s Day. How did you spend the day? Were you focused on others or did you take time to care for yourself? Or was it just another day for you? Hopefully, you did something that made you feel good. In this week’s episode, Dom and Terri dive into the importance of self-care...doing the things (whatever they are) that make you feel good. While self-care is a phrase that seems to be tossed around a lot lately, do we know what it really means? How can we engage in it when...
S1E7: The Dating Game LIVE SHOW at University of San Francisco
February 08, 2019 15:35 - 37 minutes - 17.1 MBIn this week’s episode, Terri and Dom invite you to join them for a live recording they held with several amazing women at the Womxn of Color Conference at the University of San Francisco. Just in time for Valentine's Day, this episode focuses on dating and relationships. No matter your current relationship status, ask yourself the questions Dom asked the live audience: “What are three things you look for in a relationship?” and, “What is your idea of a perfect date?” Asking these questions c...
S1E6: Colorism, Talking White, and Black History, Oh My!
February 01, 2019 17:00 - 32 minutes - 18.4 MBOn the first day of Black History Month, Dom asks us to examine what it's like to be Black in America. Terri and Dom dive into a discussion about colorism, good hair vs. bad hair, representation, how we talk, and lots of other factors that could tear down one’s self-esteem depending on how we perceive it. Dr. Dom drops some knowledge about the Clark doll study, the original experiment that illustrates how we've been conditioned to view ourselves as bad. Terri shouts out her husband’s books t...
S1E5: Adulting Woes: When Everyone's Life is LIT and You Feel Stagnant
January 25, 2019 16:05 - 30 minutes - 17.4 MBTerri is scrolling down her social media timeline and noticed everyone else’s life was lit while hers seemed stagnant. She felt overwhelmed instead of inspired. Dr. Dom reminds Terri of her #BlackGirlMagic but noted a bigger issue...what happens when we don’t reach certain adulting milestones? We tend to engage in negative social comparison (your day 1) based on the highlights of someone else’s life (their day 100). We let other people tell us what we should focus on even if it’s not bringing...
S1E4: The Best Ways to Heal After Leaving a Toxic Relationship
January 18, 2019 16:41 - 37 minutes - 21.2 MBTerri shares with us a reader question about leaving a toxic relationship. We’ve all been there or know someone who’s been there. Terri talks about her healing from a toxic relationship- the ups and downs of it all, including having “friends”. What are your options? While there are many, Dom wants us to use the time to focus on healing ourselves- our in the meantime. What does time with ourselves really look like and is it even possible? Dom and Terri share with us some pretty cool ways to sp...
S1E3: How to Overcome Procrastination and Make Progress Fast
January 11, 2019 06:54 - 31 minutes - 17.8 MBTerri and Dom continue the conversation started in last week’s episode this time focusing on goal setting and overcoming procrastination. We all have been guilty of procrastination and Terri lets us in on when she realized she had to stop procrastinating to help reach her goals. What’s keeping you from following through and being accountable? They ask us, “what does try really mean?” and how does that affect the accomplishment of our goals. Then Terri and Dom use real life and personal exampl...
S1E2: 7 Easy Tips to Help You Manage Your Time Effectively
January 04, 2019 17:00 - 32 minutes - 64.3 MBIn today’s episode Terri and Dom discuss time management and procrastination. They ask some tough questions like, “How do we allocate our time? Do we know the difference between urgent and important or reactive vs. proactive?” Dom shared with us how she managed her time when she was working a 9-5 and trying to complete her dissertation to graduate on time. Terri gives us a game changer in her time management. Then they pull out their top 7 tips from a Business Insider Article that outlin...
S1E2: 7 Easy Tips to Help You Manage Your Time Effectively
January 04, 2019 17:00 - 33 minutes - 19.2 MBIn today’s episode Terri and Dom discuss time management and procrastination. They ask some tough questions like, “How do we allocate our time? Do we know the difference between urgent and important or reactive vs. proactive?” Dom shared with us how she managed her time when she was working a 9-5 and trying to complete her dissertation to graduate on time. Terri gives us a game changer in her time management. Then they pull out their top 7 tips from a Business Insider Article that outlines ...
S1E1: Welcome to the H.E.R Space Podcast!
January 01, 2019 17:00 - 24 minutes - 22.8 MBWelcome! Start here to learn more about your hosts Terri and Dom, get more insight into why they created H.E.R Space, what scared them about the process, and why they pushed forward to release this podcast in the midst of fear and uncertainty. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.