96: Guilt

Guilt is a very normal emotion to feel because we think that is our  job to raise and protect our children, to keep them safe. It is also our job to  make sure they are okay,healthy, loved, and ultimately protect them from dying.

The reality is, that we cannot protect them from dying, but it certainly feels like it's’ our responsibility and that we do everything we can do to prevent it.

 I encourage you to process and feel guilt. The whole point and purpose is to move through guilt, so that you don’t get stuck and trapped in a cycle of guilt.

 It’s easy to begin to attach to your child through this emotion(guilt). Other people think that, not processing and not feeling guilty anymore means you are letting go of your child. 

Learning to carry your grief is all about learning to process and move through all of the emotions that come. Being okay with feeling and experiencing the painful and heavy emotions. It’s an experience that ebbs and flows. It’s learning to live with the grief you have, and then there is suffering. 

 Guilt is not an emotion that serves you, and it only causes suffering. So learning to process the guilt through your mind and your body, can truly lighten your load in your grief journey.

 Guilt is an energy, an emotion that needs to be felt and experienced first. It first needs to be processed in your body, before you can begin to choose new thoughts surrounding it.

If you want to join my  100th podcast episode + birthday giveaway, please check the full details on www.meganhillukka.com/giveaway. I’m giving away some products that I’ve found very helpful and useful on my grief journey including some books, affirmation cards, and a journal, as well as some spots in my next Relief in Grief workshop (coming up in July), some spots to my Life After Child Loss Program, and a free 1:1 coaching call with me. 

If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.meganhillukka.com/workshop to check it out. 

If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community