93: What do I do with my child’s things?

Episode Pointers: 

There are certain things that we want to be gone right away, especially those things connected to their death.

In other people’s experience, there are other people who came into their lives and pushed them to get rid of things or pushed them to pack away their child’s clothes when they weren’t ready yet. And, they regretted it or they had to go back and redo it by themselves.

There’s a thing called linking objects. It is when you begin to connect to your dead child through certain things.

Here are some ideas on what to do with their things:Made a quilt out of their clothes.Give some of their things to other children to use.Reusing clothes for your other children (If you feel okay with that.)Creating their bedroom into a way to remember them.Making a blanket out of their clothes.

You have the option and right to do nothing.

You don’t have to throw anything away if you don’t want to. You can begin to put the things into storage. You can take them out anytime if you wanted to.

Whatever you choose, there is no right or wrong way to deal with your child’s things. What’s very important is listening to your gut. 

If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.meganhillukka.com/workshop to check it out. 

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