GYLTG 172: The Dirty Side of Growth

There’s a dirty side to growth. There’s a dirty side to choosing yourself that many of us refuse to witness and discuss. The dirty side is that once we begin to prioritize ourselves, relationships change, even the ones we thought would last forever. When we focus on ourselves, we naturally see what works and what doesn’t. From there, another natural process begins—boundaries are put into place. This can turn our relationships on their heads.

That’s why we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into the dirty side of growth: what it is, how it impacts us, and how to stop it right now!

So, let’s dive right in.

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Introduction

2:04 The dirty side of growth and two essential questions regarding growth

03:49 When we grow, the people in our lives can lose their positions in our lives

05:17 A personal story of personal growth that is the essence of the dirtiness of growth

09:32 When you go all in on yourself, you have to go all in

10:47 How uncertainty, forecasting, and what-ifs keep us away from new outcomes

13:07 Growth is about clearing, and we are tested to gauge our commitment to the self

17:30 The four questions of need, want, and desire

18:27 You are the one who creates meaning in each situation    

19:22 Each experience/relationship adds to the relationship with yourself

20:24 We have seasons in our lives

22:51 What we can do to be okay with being in the dirt—step 1: witnessing when its time

24:18 Moving through the steps to allow yourself to get onto the path of change and out of the dirt

24:42 When people walk away, it’s not always about us

27:03 Take stock of what you want so you can let go

29:44 When we let go, our memories and feelings don’t disappear

33:03 Be kind to yourself

33:50 Let go to commit to the self

35:53 Mourn the dirtiness

36:48 Practicing the F word – forgiveness

38:05 Check in with where you are to know if you are still on the dirty side of growth

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