Flying Free
586 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 days ago - ★★★★★ - 950 ratingsFlying Free is a support resource for women of faith who need hope and healing from hidden emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and narcissistic abuse. Because of misogynistic theology taught in controlling and spiritually abusive churches, many Christian women find themselves in destructive marriages where there is an uneven power dynamic. Male partners use their status as a husband to gain power and control over a woman’s mind, emotions, body, social life, finances, and more. When she tries to get help from her equally abusive church environment, she is betrayed and re-abused. Flying Free offers a Christ-centered, gospel-oriented perspective on domestic abuse that protects and honors the voices and autonomy of women. Tune in each week to hear conversations with emotional abuse advocates and fellow survivors who will walk with you on your journey up and out. We hear you. You are not alone. Learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com
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Learning to Love the Bible Again - 029
July 31, 2019 15:26 - 34 minutes - 34.9 MBIt's hard to love the Bible when it's been used as a weapon to hurt and control you. Today we talk with Stacey Wynn about how we can take back the Bible as a healing balm and learn to love it again.
Learning to Love the Bible Again After You've Been Spiritually Abused
July 31, 2019 15:26 - 34 minutes - 34.9 MBWomen of faith in emotionally and spiritually abusive relationships have been bruised by Bible bombs over and over again. Religious abusers love to use the Bible as a weapon of control. As we walk through the healing process, how do we learn to love the Bible again? Our guest today is Stacey Wynn, a high powered career woman and abuse survivor who left the corporate world to go to seminary and help other survivors. She's going to teach us how to take back the Word of God and use it...
The Benefits of Merciful Divorce - 028
July 17, 2019 15:56 - 55 minutes - 54.4 MBYou may have heard horror stories about Christians who get divorced. But Natalie and Jeni, both abuse survivors and divorcees, discuss the benefits of a merciful divorce from an abuser.
Sometimes Divorce is a Gift of Mercy
July 17, 2019 15:56 - 55 minutes - 54.4 MBYou may have heard horror stories about Christians who get divorced. But Natalie and Jeni, both abuse survivors and divorcees, discuss the benefits of a merciful divorce from an abuser. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Conf...
Sometimes Divorce is a Gift of Mercy [028]
July 17, 2019 15:56 - 55 minutes - 54.4 MBYou may have heard horror stories about Christians who get divorced. But Natalie and Jeni, both abuse survivors and divorcees, discuss the benefits of a merciful divorce from an abuser. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Conf...
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - 027
July 10, 2019 15:51 - 56 minutes - 55.1 MBNatalie and Rachel answer three questions about staying or leaving. What if he is starting to show some change? If I leave, am I giving up on the power of God to help? Is five years too early to leave an abusive marriage?
If I Leave My Abusive Marriage Am I Giving Up On the Power of God to Change My Husband?
July 10, 2019 15:51 - 56 minutes - 55.1 MBNatalie and Rachel answer three questions about staying or leaving. What if he is starting to show some change? If I leave, am I giving up on the power of God to help? Is five years too early to leave an abusive marriage? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book,...
If I Leave My Abusive Marriage Am I Giving Up On the Power of God to Change My Husband? [027]
July 10, 2019 15:51 - 56 minutes - 55.1 MBNatalie and Rachel answer three questions about staying or leaving. What if he is starting to show some change? If I leave, am I giving up on the power of God to help? Is five years too early to leave an abusive marriage? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book,...
This is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like
July 05, 2019 17:40 - 36 minutes - 36.9 MBToday we'll meet an emotional abuse survivor who has perfectly captured the dynamic of covert abuse in an incredible poem. After she reads her poem, we'll talk with her about how she was able to realize her confusing experience was abusive. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first ...
This is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like [026]
July 05, 2019 17:40 - 36 minutes - 36.9 MBToday we'll meet an emotional abuse survivor who has perfectly captured the dynamic of covert abuse in an incredible poem. After she reads her poem, we'll talk with her about how she was able to realize her confusing experience was abusive. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first ...
THIS is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like - 026
July 05, 2019 17:40 - 36 minutes - 36.9 MBToday we'll meet an emotional abuse survivor who has perfectly captured the dynamic of covert abuse in an incredible poem. After she reads her poem, we'll talk with her about how she was able to realize her confusing experience was abusive.
Three Survivors Share Their Experience with Flying Free - 025
June 26, 2019 18:14 - 42 minutes - 43 MBThree women of faith who have survived emotional and spiritual abuse share their experiences learning how to go from crawling to flying with the help of the private education and support group, Flying Free.
Three Reviews of the Flying Free Sisterhood Community [025]
June 26, 2019 18:14 - 42 minutes - 43 MBThree women of faith who have survived emotional and spiritual abuse share their experiences learning how to go from crawling to flying with the help of the private education and support group, Flying Free. Please note: this was recorded in early 2019. Since that time the program has developed and grown, now offering weekly coaching, a brand new private forum, and an expanding vault of expert workshops. Learn more and get on the waiting list: https://joinflyingfree.com Access the ...
Three Reviews of the Flying Free Sisterhood Community
June 26, 2019 18:14 - 42 minutes - 43 MBThree women of faith who have survived emotional and spiritual abuse share their experiences learning how to go from crawling to flying with the help of the private education and support group, Flying Free. Please note: this was recorded in early 2019. Since that time the program has developed and grown, now offering weekly coaching, a brand new private forum, and an expanding vault of expert workshops. Learn more and get on the waiting list: https://joinflyingfree.com Access the ...
How to Help Kids Heal From the Effects of Emotional Abuse in the Home [024]
June 20, 2019 01:08 - 32 minutes - 48.2 MBEmotional abuse traumatizes both the victim and her children. What does she need to help those children recover and heal from the effects of emotional abuse in the home? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, ...
How to Help Kids Heal From the Effects of Emotional Abuse in the Home
June 20, 2019 01:08 - 32 minutes - 48.2 MBEmotional abuse traumatizes both the victim and her children. What does she need to help those children recover and heal from the effects of emotional abuse in the home? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage,...
Parenting Traumatized Children - 024
June 20, 2019 01:08 - 32 minutes - 48.2 MBEmotional abuse traumatizes both the victim and her children. What does she need to help those children recover and heal from the effects of emotional abuse in the home?
Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Abusive Man
June 13, 2019 16:08 - 43 minutes - 62.9 MBDealing with an emotionally abusive spouse is hard enough, but what if you share children? How does their abuse affect the kids, and what can you do to alleviate these effects? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Mar...
Co-Parenting with an Abuser - 023
June 13, 2019 16:08 - 43 minutes - 62.9 MBDealing with an emotionally abusive spouse is hard enough, but what if you share children? How does their abuse affect the kids, and what can you do to alleviate these effects?
Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Abusive Man [023]
June 13, 2019 16:08 - 43 minutes - 62.9 MBDealing with an emotionally abusive spouse is hard enough, but what if you share children? How does their abuse affect the kids, and what can you do to alleviate these effects? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Mar...
But Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband! [022]
June 05, 2019 23:51 - 38 minutes - 39 MBIn episode 22 Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners: 1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change? 2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men? 3. Should I "take up my cross" and suffer - or get out of abuse? 4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage...
But Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband!
June 05, 2019 23:51 - 38 minutes - 39 MBIn episode 22 Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners: 1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change? 2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men? 3. Should I "take up my cross" and suffer - or get out of abuse? 4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage...
Should You Keep Hoping for Change? (and other questions!) - 022
June 05, 2019 23:51 - 38 minutes - 39 MBIn episode 22 Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners: 1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change? 2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men? 3. Should I "take up my cross" and suffer - or get out of abuse? 4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse!
Why the Church is Often the Most Dangerous Place for an Domestic Abuse Survivor to Get Help [021]
May 31, 2019 00:19 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBThe church is sometimes the most dangerous place for a woman to go for help when she is in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage. Here's why. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an asses...
Why the Church is Often the Most Dangerous Place for an Domestic Abuse Survivor to Get Help
May 31, 2019 00:19 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBThe church is sometimes the most dangerous place for a woman to go for help when she is in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage. Here's why. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an asses...
The Role the Church Plays in Emotional Abuse - 021
May 31, 2019 00:19 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBThe church is sometimes the most dangerous place for a woman to go for help when she is in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage. Here's why.
The Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage [020]
May 23, 2019 21:13 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBIn this episode, Rachel and Natalie compare and contrast their former marriages to emotionally abusive partners and their current relationships with emotionally healthy men. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marria...
Differences Between a Normal Marriage and a Dysfunctional Marriage - 020
May 23, 2019 21:13 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBIn this episode, Rachel and Natalie compare and contrast their former marriages to emotionally abusive partners and their current relationships (Natalie is remarried, and Rachel is in a serious relationship).
The Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
May 23, 2019 21:13 - 34 minutes - 35.4 MBIn this episode, Rachel and Natalie compare and contrast their former marriages to emotionally abusive partners and their current relationships with emotionally healthy men. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marri...
Sacred Self-Care - 019
May 17, 2019 17:19 - 31 minutes - 32.7 MBWhat exactly is self-care, and why is it important? Is self-care selfish, as so many Christians seem to think? In this episode, Natalie talks with Sarah McDugal about why self-care is actually a sacred duty.
Is Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty? [019]
May 17, 2019 17:19 - 31 minutes - 32.7 MBWhat exactly is self-care, and why is it important? Is self-care selfish, as so many Christians seem to think? In this episode, Natalie talks with Sarah McDugal about why self-care is actually a sacred duty. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Find Sarah on her website, WildernessToWild.com, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Grab Sarah's book, ONE FACE: Shed the Mask, Own Your Values, and Lead Wisely. If you are a ...
Is Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty?
May 17, 2019 17:19 - 31 minutes - 32.7 MBWhat exactly is self-care, and why is it important? Is self-care selfish, as so many Christians seem to think? In this episode, Natalie talks with Sarah McDugal about why self-care is actually a sacred duty. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Find Sarah on her website, WildernessToWild.com, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Grab Sarah's book, ONE FACE: Shed the Mask, Own Your Values, and Lead Wisely. If you are a ...
When Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father [018]
May 10, 2019 18:24 - 45 minutes - 40.3 MBIn today's episode, Rachel and Natalie answer three questions from listeners. How do I forgive my abuser? How do I deal with the emotional pain of losing my marriage? Why do my older kids side with their abusive father? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, I...
When Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father
May 10, 2019 18:24 - 45 minutes - 40.3 MBIn today's episode, Rachel and Natalie answer three questions from listeners. How do I forgive my abuser? How do I deal with the emotional pain of losing my marriage? Why do my older kids side with their abusive father? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, I...
Forgiving Abusers and Healing Raw Emotions - 018
May 10, 2019 18:24 - 45 minutes - 40.3 MBIn today's episode, Rachel and Natalie answer three questions from listeners. How do I forgive my abuser? How do I deal with the emotional pain of losing my marriage? Why do my older kids side with their abusive father?
Is it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage?
May 03, 2019 00:38 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBCan a Christian woman in an abusive relationship take action against the abuse? Or is it her duty before God to surrender to it? These are the questions Rachel and Natalie discuss in today's episode. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sens...
What Does Surrendering to God Look Like in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship? 017
May 03, 2019 00:38 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBCan a Christian woman in an abusive relationship take action against the abuse? Or is it her duty before God to surrender to it? These are the questions Rachel and Natalie discuss in today's episode.
Is it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage? [017]
May 03, 2019 00:38 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBCan a Christian woman in an abusive relationship take action against the abuse? Or is it her duty before God to surrender to it? These are the questions Rachel and Natalie discuss in today's episode. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sens...
I Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband
April 23, 2019 17:56 - 33 minutes - 34.1 MBHave you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you're dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first ...
The Burden of Perfection - 016
April 23, 2019 17:56 - 33 minutes - 34.1 MBHave you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you're dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power.
I Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband [016]
April 23, 2019 17:56 - 33 minutes - 34.1 MBHave you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you're dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first ...
During Separation, How Do I Cope With an Overwhelming Workload and No Support?
April 17, 2019 21:20 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBWhen you separate from an abusive partner, you find the peace that comes from not being in close proximity with emotional/spiritual abuse. However, as your to-do list grows exponentially, so your support declines. Here are some ways to cope with that. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!)...
During Separation, How Do I Cope With an Overwhelming Workload and No Support? [015]
April 17, 2019 21:20 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBWhen you separate from an abusive partner, you find the peace that comes from not being in close proximity with emotional/spiritual abuse. However, as your to-do list grows exponentially, so your support declines. Here are some ways to cope with that. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!)...
Overwhelming Workload with No Support - 015
April 17, 2019 21:20 - 32 minutes - 33.8 MBWhen you separate from an abusive partner, you find the peace that comes from not being in close proximity with emotional/spiritual abuse. However, as your to-do list grows exponentially, so your support declines. Here are some ways to cope with that.
Christian Women, You Don't Need Permission to Make Your Own Decisions [014]
April 09, 2019 18:48 - 14 minutes - 16.6 MBLearning how to make decisions for your life is difficult if you've always let everyone else decide for you. Today we talk about four important truths you need to learn in order to start making necessary change in your own life. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of m...
Christian Women, You Don't Need Permission to Make Your Own Decisions
April 09, 2019 18:48 - 14 minutes - 16.6 MBLearning how to make decisions for your life is difficult if you've always let everyone else decide for you. Today we talk about four important truths you need to learn in order to start making necessary change in your own life. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of m...
Four Things You Need to Know to Make Good Decisions for Yourself - 014
April 09, 2019 18:48 - 14 minutes - 16.6 MBLearning how to make decisions for your life is difficult if you've always let everyone else decide for you. Today we talk about four important truths you need to learn in order to start making necessary change in your own life.
What Happens When You Set Boundaries with an Emotional Abuser? [013]
April 03, 2019 16:57 - 30 minutes - 31.2 MBSo you set some boundaries, but then you get the kickback. Let's talk about that! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. A...
What Happens When You Set Boundaries? - 013
April 03, 2019 16:57 - 30 minutes - 31.2 MBSo you set some boundaries, but then you get the kickback. Let's talk about that!
What Happens When You Set Boundaries with an Emotional Abuser?
April 03, 2019 16:57 - 30 minutes - 31.2 MBSo you set some boundaries, but then you get the kickback. Let's talk about that! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. A...