How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost
217 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 months ago - ★★★★★ - 143 ratingsThe podcast where we get real about building the marriage of your dreams. Marriage coach Kayla Levin takes married Jewish women from surviving and overwhelmed to thriving and connected through practical tips, real life inspiration and more than a little self awareness along the way.
Whether you are newly married, considering marriage, or have been married for years, I will share with you a powerful framework to help you get the most enjoyment and fulfillment from your relationships--and ultimately, your own growth.
Find out more & join to get live coaching at https://kaylalevin.com
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Ep. 108 - The Pesach Episode (Part 2)
March 14, 2021 19:04 - 30 minutes - 41.8 MBWelcome back! For Part 2, Noach and I continue to share communication ideas and tools to help you have a happier Pesach. Make sure to join the mailing list to get updates and coaching tools at www.firstyearmarried.com Enjoy!
Ep. 107 - The Pesach Episode (Part 1)
March 11, 2021 22:57 - 31 minutes - 42.6 MBThis week Noach and I are answering your questions about getting ready for Pesach (aka Passover)--as it applies to your marriage, extended relationships, and general sanity. Enjoy! If you're looking for more support, registration is open for a few more days for the Newlywed Mastermind. Get details and register here: firstyearmarried.com/coaching
Ep. 107 - The Pesach Episode - Part 1
March 11, 2021 22:57 - 31 minutes - 42.6 MBThis week Noach and I are answering your questions about getting ready for Pesach (aka Passover)--as it applies to your marriage, extended relationships, and general sanity. Enjoy! If you're looking for more support, registration is open for a few more days for the Newlywed Mastermind. Get details and register here: firstyearmarried.com/coaching --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/firstyearmarried/message
Ep. 106 - Do It For You
February 24, 2021 21:22 - 16 minutes - 23.3 MB[The Newlywed Mastermind is open for registration for the March cohort! What in the WORLD are you waiting for?! www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching] Who says coaching has to be complicated? In this week's episode, I'm sharing a quick tip for building more positivity, commitment, and love in your relationship... and you can do the entire thing yourself. Working on your marriage isn't always about the heavy lifting--sometimes, it's a small shift in mindset and a tiny detail. Also, coffee. (P...
Ep. 105 - What You Want
February 11, 2021 22:38 - 23 minutes - 31.7 MBHey friends! This one was a re-record thanks to technical difficulties but I think take two turned out even better for you! This week I'm talking about what you want. No, not the simple fluffy "I feel like a VANILLA latte" type of wanting, but what you REALLY want, what lights you up--and what to do if you don't even remember. But we're also going to take it another level deeper and learn a skill about using the language of "want" when you are working towards your goals--whether that's a ...
Ep. 104 - Living the Dream
February 04, 2021 22:18 - 25 minutes - 35.7 MBThis week we're talking about what the "dream" is in your marriage -- and why you might already be living it without even realizing it. Also, I ramble a lot. ...and use the phrase "pea in a cup" EXTENSIVELY -- but it's not like the kind at the doctor. Ennnnjoy! More stuff: www.firstyearmarried.com Mastermind (because obvs): www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching
Don't Miss the Newlywed Mastermind!
January 20, 2021 22:05 - 6 minutes - 6.03 MBEnrollment is now open for my newest program, the First 3 Years Mastermind! Get the info here and sign up at firstyearmarried.com/coaching Can't wait to work with you!
Ep. 103 - Your Superhero Mission - Invisible Cape Part 2
January 10, 2021 19:26 - 18 minutes - 25.1 MBWhat struggles are you dealing with that could actually be a non-issue? How do we find the mental obstacles we've created? When you set a compelling goal, your brain has a heyday. Lucky us, right? But what's awesome about that is it gives you a chance to see WHAT your brain has been offering you all the time. (It just gets louder.) So this week I'm taking you on a mini coaching session (workbook included at www.firstyearmarried.com on the podcast episode page) to find your obstacles, cl...
Ep. 102 - Inlaws, COVID, and Playground Fights
December 31, 2020 21:49 - 17 minutes - 24.4 MBThis week I'm addressing a really common situation I've heard from a surprising number of you! Dealing with EXTRA in-law time when your family is far away and you can't see them due to COVID. BUT even if that's not your highly-specific scenario, I want you to know that I'm also teaching a new tool that you will DEFINITELY want to use in your self-coaching! So don't miss this one. By the way, make sure you're on the email list. Really good stuff coming your way soon. You don't want to miss ...
Ep. 101 - The Husband Interviews Kayla (part 2)
December 27, 2020 15:21 - 23 minutes - 32.7 MBYour feedback on part 1 was awesome and here's the second installment. This week you'll hear all about how we've used self-coaching tools to improve our marriage and deal with challenges that have come our way. More from Kayla at www.firstyearmarried.com (make sure you're subscribed to the email list!) Learn more about the self-coaching model by Brooke Castillo that we reference in the episode at thelifecoachschool.com
Ep. 102 - The Husband Interviews Kayla (part 2)
December 27, 2020 15:21 - 23 minutes - 32.7 MBYour feedback on part 1 was awesome and here's the second installment. This week you'll hear all about how we've used self-coaching tools to improve our marriage and deal with challenges that have come our way. More from Kayla at www.firstyearmarried.com (make sure you're subscribed to the email list!) Learn more about the self-coaching model by Brooke Castillo that we reference in the episode at thelifecoachschool.com
Ep. 100 - That Time I Let My Husband Interview Me (part 1)
December 14, 2020 16:42 - 40 minutes - 56.1 MBIn honor of our 100th episode (WHAATTTTT!!!), The Husband (AKA Noah) is interviewing me this week. 99 episodes of editing this podcast has given him a lot of ideas of what he'd LIKE to hear me talk about! In the first half of this interview, we discuss newlywed cooking meltdowns, a devastating loss during shana rishona, the challenge of aliya, and how our marriage has transformed over the years. Happy Chanukah everyone! Rabbi Tatz Marriage shiur on SimpletoRemember.com (part 1) Rabbi Tat...
Ep. 99 - How to Do a Marriage Check-In
December 03, 2020 11:00 - 18 minutes - 25 MBAs we wrap up 2020 I wanted to share a simple tool that can have a profound impact on how you experience your marriage: the Marriage Check-In. Now, there are ways in which just generally thinking about our marriages can actually lead us unintentionally into negativity and worry. A structured process allows us to guide our brains to help us to think creatively and proactively so we find answers that will give us the biggest real-life benefit. To get the PDF, go to www.FirstYearMarried.com ...
Ep. 98 - Exercise Guru Beatie Deutsch, Olympic Candidate
November 26, 2020 13:47 - 34 minutes - 47.4 MBWife, mom of five, and... Olympic marathon candidate?! Beatie is going to blow your mind with her story about how she took up running to get herself back to being active and ended up as a professional runner for Israel and a candidate for the Tokyo Olympics. Not only is her journey incredible, but she speaks from such a real place about the struggle of taking care of yourself, especially while growing a family, and the value of exercise for each person--marathon runner or not! She is suc...
Ep. 97 - When Your Husband Skips Minyan
November 19, 2020 09:50 - 28 minutes - 39.3 MB(Heads up: I'm calling this one a #Jewsode because it is PARTICULARLY specific to the religious Jewish world. All are welcome to listen and apply as you like, of course, but since the content is inherently about Jewish life, this episode may be less generally applicable than usual.) I've had several requests, especially during COVID, to talk about husbands who are skipping minyan (prayers), not going to shul or praying at all, or otherwise not doing what you expected in the spiritual realm....
Ep. 96 - Grief & When It Won't Be Getting Better
November 08, 2020 18:55 - 20 minutes - 28.7 MBOn the two year anniversary of my "diaversary" - the date of my type 1 diabetes diagnosis - I wanted to talk about how we use thought work when we can't improve a situation. We focus a lot on what we can change--SO MUCH more is in our power than we realize. But sometimes it's not in our control. What do we do with that? www.firstyearmarried.com
95 - What Motivates Your Husband with Alison Armstrong - Part 2
October 26, 2020 21:25 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MBDon't miss Part 2 of my interview with Alison Armstrong! Here are a few gems she shares: Your husband ACCEPTS YOU FULLY (and what that actually mean) Your husband manages his energy and motivation differently than you do. How men change throughout their development, and how we change, too (but differently) How to communicate with your husband so that he'll WANT to help LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two b...
Ep. 95 - What Motivates Your Husband with Alison Armstrong - Part 2
October 26, 2020 21:25 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MBDon't miss Part 2 of my interview with Alison Armstrong! Here are a few gems she shares: Your husband ACCEPTS YOU FULLY (and what that actually mean) Your husband manages his energy and motivation differently than you do. How men change throughout their development, and how we change, too (but differently) How to communicate with your husband so that he'll WANT to help LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong's programs can be found at her website UnderstandMen.com I strongly recommend her two b...
Last Chance: Marriage Mastermind Closes Friday
October 14, 2020 20:26 - 8 minutes - 8.74 MBAnswering your questions about the Marriage Mastermind - registration closes Friday October 16th! Check it out and register here.
Ep. 94 - Newlywed Lessons (for Every Stage) with Alison Armstrong - Part 1
October 14, 2020 18:43 - 31 minutes - 43.5 MBWHOOPEE! One of my absolute favorite humans, teachers, thought leaders, the marvelous Alison Armstrong, is back on the podcast this week!! We talked about what newlyweds come up against--the frustrations and struggles--and how they reappear at each stage along the line. Mainly, you'll learn about expectations: how they change when we get married (for ourselves and for our partners) and how we often realize they're there a little too late. I know you'll enjoy this episode so much! LEARN ...
Ep. 93 - Choosing Up! with FYM Book Club Author Ilana Kendal
October 06, 2020 06:16 - 37 minutes - 51.3 MBHi friends! I wasn't planning to post my Zoom conversation with Ilana last week onto the podcast, but it was just so darn good that I had to! Enjoy the inspiration from Ilana Kendal who will teach you on this episode about how to use storytelling to channel personal growth, plus you'll get a peek into our very first FYM book club book. It's fun, we had fun, and I'm excited to share it with you. We'll be having Ilana back on in early December to answer your questions about the book, and I'l...
Ep. 92 - My Goals for the New Year
September 29, 2020 11:17 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBIn this episode I'm sharing my somewhat unusual take on new year's resolutions. Whether you celebrate now or in January (or heck whenever you feel like it), this episode will help you think about your goals in a way that will be more compelling and more sustainable than the goals you've tried before. Join the mailing list at www.firstyearmarried.com Or you can apply here for 1:1 coaching
Ep. 91 - Your Relationship With Others
September 23, 2020 09:10 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBThis week we're diving into the idea of your relationship with Others--this can be the closer relationships like parents, siblings, and in-laws, or more distant relationships like coworkers or neighbors. We usually run a paradox in our minds: "I wish you were less like you" and "I want us to have an authentic relationship." But an authentic relationship means we accept the other person AS THEY ARE. Your brain wants to believe that if they changed you'd feel better. But the reality is, if...
Ep. 90 - Your Relationship With Your Husband
September 13, 2020 09:49 - 14 minutes - 20.1 MBSo many times, we go outside of ourselves for answers that are ours to decide. We ask, "how is my relationship doing?" and then wait, looking for clues to tell us. But if a relationship is, at its essence, just the thoughts you have about a person and your connection... Then you're the one who gets to pick how it's doing. What do you want to choose to think on purpose about your marriage? This week I'll walk you through this exercise.
Ep. 89 - Your Relationship With Yourself
September 07, 2020 09:16 - 24 minutes - 33.1 MBYour relationship with yourself is nothing more than the sum total of your thoughts about yourself. It’s not more profound. It’s not more literal. And, despite popular belief, finding out WHY you have negative opinions of yourself is not always necessary. In fact, it can be counterproductive when this “research” into our thinking inadvertently reinforces the opinion. Wanna know the good news? If it's all about your thoughts, you can change them. Listen this week to find out how....
Ep. 88 - Self-Regulation Guru - Chava Neiditch
August 30, 2020 20:35 - 1 hour - 83.7 MBLADIES I have such a treat for you this week! This conversation is such a total shift from what we normally talk about and SO IMPORTANT! I often get questions from women about how being tired/pregnant/sick/hormonal fits into thought work. This conversation, with occupational therapist/homeschooling supermom Chava Neiditch goes deep into our own individual profiles of what we need to stay regulated, balanced, and centered and how we all vary so much from one another. This is a fabulous episod...
Ep. 87 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon Part 2
August 24, 2020 18:43 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBLast week we covered everything pre-and-during pregnancy. On this week's episode, Lauren Ohayon is answering questions about post-partum recovery and what myths we need to break about our bodies and what fitness is all about to take the best care of our bodies and ourselves. Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram
Ep. 86 - Pre & Post Pregnancy Guru - Lauren Ohayon
August 17, 2020 19:40 - 43 minutes - 60.3 MBThis week I'm so excited to bring you Lauren Ohayon of the popular Restore Your Core and One Strong Mama programs. Lauren is a body expert who guides her clients to prepare for healthy births and recovery. I asked Lauren to come on and share with us, since I've had so many questions about preparing for and recovering from a first pregnancy. Whatever type of birth you are aiming for, I just love how Lauren describes how the body works and functions in a way that is totally understandable and ...
Ep 85 - Do-Over Guru Bari Mitzmann
August 11, 2020 09:12 - 46 minutes - 63.4 MBWe talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Neva...
Ep. 85 - Do-Over Guru Bari Mitzmann
August 11, 2020 09:12 - 46 minutes - 63.4 MBWe talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who embraces the “do-over.” Bio: Bari Mitzmann is a wife, mother and content creator living in Neva...
Ep. 84 - Self Care Guru Krystal Conner
August 04, 2020 20:45 - 46 minutes - 63.8 MBThis week I have Krystal Conner on to talk to us about self care. Krystal takes what can sometimes seem like an undefined, unattainable idea and makes it super clear and actionable. I loved this conversation and I know you will, too! Website: https://www.krystalconner.com/ Instagram: @drkrystalconner
Ep. 83 - Home Organization Guru - Shira Gill
July 26, 2020 20:31 - 49 minutes - 67.4 MBProfessional organizer/stylist Shira Gill talks about how to hack the thinking of a tidy person, what simple system she uses with all her clients to go from overwhelming mess to styled space, and how she and her husband communicate about their different tidiness-styles. This episode is PACKED with tips and amazing ideas. Enjoy! Follow Shira: www.ShiraGill.com instagram.com/shiragill
Ep. 82 - Torah & Marriage Guru - Shevi Samet
July 20, 2020 19:45 - 49 minutes - 68.5 MBToday I'm excited to bring you a conversation with Shevi Samet, a Jewish educator who, among other things specializes in working with women before and after marriage. We're going super meta here today, talking about true meaning of marriage (we discuss this from the perspective of Torah concepts but feel free to use this as a springboard for your own belief work). We also dove into why we get married, the social and individual concepts that drive us that we sometimes aren’t even aware of,...
Ep. 81 - Cooking Guru - Jamie Geller Part 2
July 12, 2020 20:02 - 22 minutes - 30.2 MBIn the second half of my interview with Jamie Geller, we moved beyond cooking to some other major areas where she's been an inspiration to those around her. As the head of the largest kosher food network, Jamie Geller has a lot to teach us about entrepreneurship. In this episode, she shares a bit about her background as a successful producer at HBO and the transition to building her own business. She also gives some really practical advice for those of us who are launching our own businesse...
Ep. 80 - Cooking Guru - Jamie Geller Part 1
July 08, 2020 09:16 - 26 minutes - 36.2 MBWE GOT JAMIE GELLER!!! Can you tell I'm excited?! Jamie Geller, today the head of the largest kosher network in the world, has been an inspiration to me from the time I was a newlywed and stumbled upon her first cookbook, Quick and Kosher. Reading about her transition from successful single professional to what-am-I-supposed-to-do-with-this-oven made me feel so validated in my total lack of kitchen know-how. In this first half of our interview, Jamie opens up about her own newlywed tran...
Ep. 79 - Find a Guru (Summer Series Announcement!)
June 28, 2020 19:18 - 15 minutes - 21.3 MBLast week we talked about finding your inner guru, the voice of calm that you can call upon when your brain feels like it’s spinning out of control. This week I want to introduce you to the idea of finding an external guru. The concept is simple. Find an area where you struggle, whether practically or emotionally. And instead of troubleshooting, look for the person for whom this is natural, satisfying, even... dare I say it... fun? Actually, you don't need to go looking, because this summ...
Ep. 78 - Your Inner Guru
June 20, 2020 19:55 - 16 minutes - 22.7 MBIn this week’s episode, I’m going to teach you a fun, easy tool that you can use to access the “wise” part of your brain when your thoughts feel out of control. When we get caught up in anxiety, insecurity, resentment, or other strong emotions, especially if we are also newly-married and those emotions can be super intense, it can feel like our thoughts are spinning out of control. We get caught up in playing out every scenario, every conversation, every imaginary argument, and it feels pro...
Ep. 77 - Anxiety & Resentment
June 15, 2020 20:46 - 16 minutes - 22 MBThe best thing about working on your marriage is that you get exposed to patterns of thinking that have existed for years--maybe even your entire life--and never really surfaced until it affects you in this relationship. What looks like a big problem is actually an amazing opportunity to improve your own self-mastery in a way you never could before. Anxiety and resentment both come from an essential judgement, either of ourselves or of another person. With many newlyweds, these emotions s...
Ep. 76 - Getting Re-Centered in the Middle of Chaos
June 09, 2020 21:44 - 7 minutes - 10.7 MBThis isn't the podcast I wanted to record this week. I wanted to record a podcast to help you feel safe and connected even when you disagree with your husband. Even when you disagree about the big stuff. But right now the big stuff has me off-balance. So I'm taking some time to re-center myself. Remind myself of what I know to be true. This is the only way for me to be the best wife, mother, coach, and rabble-rouser that I can be. What do you know to be true, my friends? Stay ...
Ep. 75 - Happily Ever After
June 01, 2020 06:00 - 6 minutes - 9.18 MBSometimes we get so caught up in "fixing" things that we lose sight of what we are actually aiming for. But what does marriage look like with *true* connection? What can we achieve when we allow ourselves to drop our agenda and truly experience our spouse? Disney may have given us one image of what "Happily Ever After" looks like. Design your own dream. Let's aim high.
Ep. 74 - The Danger of External Validation
May 24, 2020 08:52 - 20 minutes - 28.8 MBIn this week's episode, we're diving into what happens in your brain when someone gives you a compliment and why never manages to improve our self image in the long term. It's a brain-nerdy one, so I know you'll love it :) Think about who you could be when you could generate your OWN confidence and self-esteem, whenever you need it. I'm going to tell you how. First Year Married Online Course First Year Married on Instagram
Using Questions to Deepen Your Relationship - A Conversation with Maggie Reyes
May 18, 2020 20:34 - 54 minutes - 74.3 MBWhat do you get when you put two marriage coaches on a Zoom call? A fun, loving deep dive into the world of making marriages better. Maggie Reyes recently came out with a (now best-selling) book, Questions for Couples Journal and I thought this was the perfect chance to invite Maggie on to share with the FYM audience! I get so many questions about how to make date nights more meaningful and what books I recommend. I also love this book as an idea for couples who aren't going out on traditi...
Ep. 73 - Using Questions to Deepen Your Relationship - A Conversation with Maggie Reyes
May 18, 2020 20:34 - 54 minutes - 74.3 MBWhat do you get when you put two marriage coaches on a Zoom call? A fun, loving deep dive into the world of making marriages better. Maggie Reyes recently came out with a (now best-selling) book, Questions for Couples Journal and I thought this was the perfect chance to invite Maggie on to share with the FYM audience! I get so many questions about how to make date nights more meaningful and what books I recommend. I also love this book as an idea for couples who aren't going out on traditi...
Ep. 72 - How to Prepare to Be an Amazing Parent
May 11, 2020 10:53 - 19 minutes - 26.9 MBIt amazes me how much more comfortable we are talking about working on our parenting, but nobody wants to mention that they're working on their marriage. Somehow, we can grow in parenting and it's noble, but if we need to grow in our marriage, it speaks of some deep failure in us. But let's take a step back and consider... What is actually going to make the biggest impact on your child's life? Another class, or a healthy and happy home? In addition--not that we need anything beyond that-...
Ep. 71 - Newly Married & Unemployed
May 04, 2020 12:53 - 24 minutes - 34.2 MBWhether it's you or your husband, because of COVID-19 or you simply haven't landed the right job yet, unemployment can cause huge stress--particularly for newlyweds. In this episode, I'm diving into some of the neuroscience that explains why our reaction might be more intense than logic dictates, what to do about it, and how to use this (or any) challenge as a way of building and supporting your new marriage. I'm also sharing our personal journey as unemployed newlyweds, and why I wouldn'...
Ep. 70 - Your Thoughts About Your Thoughts
April 27, 2020 17:46 - 12 minutes - 17.8 MBAre there some things you just shouldn't think in a marriage? What does it mean if I'm annoyed by my husband? Do happy couples ever think like this? This week we're going to dive into something that's been coming up a lot in my coaching-- worry and panic and fear about certain thoughts. Put another way, your thoughts ABOUT your thoughts are causing more trouble than the thoughts themselves! How do we address this? Can Kayla manage to describe this without a visual aid? You'll have to l...
Ep. 69 - For the Love of Lists
April 22, 2020 05:16 - 15 minutes - 21.9 MBIt's been a crazy few weeks for us all! I'm sorry I haven't been here in a little bit but I needed to step back for a few weeks. Hopefully you had a chance to catch up on some older episodes during the break. ;) There's no possible way for a podcast episode to address the range of experiences and emotions that COVID-19 is bringing up for us. For some, it's the frustration of being stuck inside, needing our normal outlets, missing our friends and support systems. For others, it's the devast...
Ep. 68 - Why is My Husband Wasting His Time?
March 29, 2020 21:00 - 15 minutes - 21.5 MBIn this week’s podcast, I’m answering questions that have come in about being irritated with a husband who is wasting his time during lockdown. This is a pretty common challenge (a LOT of you commented on this one!) so know you’re not alone--but I wanted to share a few ideas to help you understand this differently and hopefully experience less frustration. He seems like an extension of us when we want to get things done. Now I have four hands! But… he’s not. He does actually get to decide h...
UPDATE: Waiving Course Fee to Support Newlyweds During COVID-19
March 26, 2020 13:08 - 1 minute - 2.23 MBI've heard from a lot of you about how challenging social isolation is when you're still working to build your marriages. Others are trying to find ways to maximize this time and stay positive. We've decided to make the course pay-what-you-can (minimum of $20) on a temporary basis to get this material into the hands of anyone who needs it, regardless of what's happening for you financially right now. If there are other ways we can support you, please let us know! Sign up for the course at ww...
Ep. 67 - The Newlywed's Coronavirus Survival Guide (& Passover!)
March 25, 2020 13:52 - 26 minutes - 36.8 MB* Coronavirus Update: After hearing from several of you, Noah and I talked extensively about how to best support you all during this situation. We've decided to make a temporary pay-what-you-can pricing on the First Year Married online course. Please share with your friends and let's support each other as much as we can. This doesn't have to be hard on your marriage--it could actually be amazing. www.FirstYearMarried.com/course gets you to the signup page. Let's talk about surviving this wh...