Develop A Positive Mindset For Success

Develop A Positive Mindset For Success with Colleen Elaine, Bd Cert Hyp. ACT

Colleen Elaine helps exhausted entrepreneurs unravel the self-betrayal that often shows up as self-sabotage so that they can claim their power and live life fully on their own terms. Board Certified Hypnotherapist and Reiki Level II Practitioner, Colleen merges her expert skills and intuitive abilities as she guides and compassionately supports clients using the powerful Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) processes to excavate the root cause of their issue. By tapping into the subconscious mind to uncover the ‘when’ and ‘why’ behind the limiting belief, clients are then able to understand, release and transform it. Colleen is an Expert Instructor for Inspired Living University TM, bestselling coauthor and contributor to Aspire Magazine. Learn more at www.ColleenElaine.com

Colleen lives in Florida with her husband and teenage daughter and they are blessed to also have their two adult sons and their families within close proximity. When she is not working with clients, she enjoys spending quality time with her family by sharing laughs and healthy meals together, getting outdoors and enjoying nature or reading up on anything related to her passions of personal development, health and mindset.

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Full Transcript Below

Roy (00:02):

Hello, and welcome to another episode of Feeding Fatty podcast. I’m  Roy.

 

Terry:

I'm Terry.

 

Roy:

So as you know, this is chronicling mine and Terry's journey. Basically, it's my journey with Terry helping me along with my weight diet exercise. You know, we take a balanced approach. We don't want to be gimmicky or have any overnight fixes. We're going to take a long term approach, but we are fortunate enough to have guests every now and then. And today we have Colleen Elaine.

Terry (00:36):

Colleen Elaine is an entrepreneur, a bestselling author and an advocate for all things related to personal development and self-love. She's going to talk to us today about the mental health mindset and personal development as an overall issue and different ways that we can get into the right mindset.

Roy (01:06):

Well, you know, we we've talked before on the show that I kind of liken it to golf…the toughest six inches on a golf course are the six inches between your ears. So you'll hear that repeated often, because I think in our personal journey with our weight, diabetes, high blood pressure and exercise that it's just as important if not more important because we've got to get it right in our mind to be on the ride.

Roy (01:36):

Right. And you need to be open, open to it. And there are a bunch of different things that can get in the way, you know, anxiety, depression, emotional blocks, your confidence, stress levels, but I'm going to allow Colleen Elaine to talk more about that. Colleen, can you tell us a little bit about yourself?

 

Colleen:

Sure. Well, first of all, thank you for having me on your show today. I really appreciate the opportunity. So I'll tell you a little bit about how I got to where I am today. So I grew up in a family and I heard a lot of negative messages as a kid. My father was a very depressed person and I only recall maybe a handful of situations where he, I ever felt like he was happy. So he was very depressed and my mom worked a lot to stay away because of the fact that she didn't want to have to deal with the depression.

Collen (02:32):

And they were forward with the kids. I'm the second of four, but the oldest girl. So there was a lot of pressure on me to do things around the house and to cook meals by the time I was 12 years old. So I developed the, I guess, the mindset that I needed to do things for everybody else. And I needed to, I guess, be that barrier for my younger siblings when my dad was having maybe a rage or something because he had a problem with alcohol as well. So you were a mother and he kind of exactly. Yes, I was a mother to my two younger sisters and my brother was just a year older and we got along great, he and I, but there was also a double standard in our family.

Collen (03:24):

So what was good for my brother was not necessarily good for us. And some of the negative messages that I received as a kid as a girl, I like to brush my hair. And so my father would say to me, oh, stop primping. You know one day, you're going to attract negative action, negativity to yourself because that's just not the right thing to do. You don't need to be vain. And some of the some of the other things my dad loved…Jeopardy. He was a very, very intelligent person. And so if we didn't know the answer to a specific question that he would ask us, he would say, you don't know that answer? Well, what are they teaching you in school? So there were all these messages that you're not smart enough.

Collen (04:08):

You're not good enough. Exactly. But nobody ever taught me that I had the ability to say no to thoughts, that I could say no, I don't accept that thought or no, I'm not buying that or no, I'm not going to let that in. So it wasn't until gosh, probably in my late twenties that I realized that I had that ability. I kind of let things roll off my back like a duck let the water roll off his back in my earlier years, probably in my teen years. But then I had an incident when I was 17. I was drugged and sexually assaulted. So that was kind of the start of myself turning inwards towards self-development because I never spoke of it to anybody. I never told my parents. And so for 28 years I stuck that down, you know stuff every, every emotion down.

Collen (05:08):

And so it was something that I had to personally deal with myself until the day my father passed. Yeah, yeah to let that fester for so long. And that's why I do what I do is because mental health is so important. Nobody should have to suffer in silence, particularly when something like that happens. But I grew up with the stigma that if a woman was sexually assaulted, it was her fault. That that was the message I received as a kid. So when that happened to me, I couldn't, there was no way I could tell my parents because my dad would have said it was my fault and I didn't want to bear that burden. So I just shoved it down and forgot about it. Well, 28 years later, you know, when you suppress emotions for too long, they have to come up there.

Collen (05:58):

You're just a pressure cooker and there's got to be a release. So when that started to come up for me, um, I actually took some college courses. I took a public speaking class and I took a psychology course. And so I really got involved into, um, the mental realm. And I read some books by Joe Dispenza. And I studied some of the things from Bruce Lipton and also some things about brain injuries and through all of that, I was able to release all those emotions that I had trapped for so long. And then around the time, I think it was back in 2009, my father passed. And so the day after my father passed, I actually told my mother what had happened to me so many years before that. And I told her why I had never mentioned it to them before, because I felt like my dad would have blamed me for it. And she said to the contrary, no, he wouldn't have blamed you. He would have supported you. But nonetheless I was able to finally express what had happened to me and again, start my healing journey. And so also for 35 years, I was a real estate appraiser. That's what my dad did. And I kind of fell into the profession right out of high school. So it had occurred to me when my father passed as well, that I had been living my life based on other people's expectations.

Collen (07:25):

And I no longer wanted to do that. You know, something inside of me said no, there's so much more, there's other things you need to be doing. And so I took my passion of personal development and also learning to love myself. And I decided, well, you know, I want to get into helping people. So I did some life coaching for a couple of years. And then I got into the hypnotherapy, which has done a tremendous amount of good for myself and for my clients, because what happens in hypnotherapy is you're actually going back to the root cause of when something occurred for you. So in being able to do that for myself, I was able to heal parts of me that I didn't even know, you know, was causing self-sabotage in my life, so much of that. Yes, yes, yes. And so, and that's what happens when we have a traumatic issue, when we're a kid and I mean, a traumatic issue can be something as simple as falling and having other kids laugh at you, you know? And in that moment, you, you make a decision that, Oh my gosh, I'm clumsy. I can never let that happen to me again.

Roy (08:30):

Right. It's funny that I'm speaking of that, how those little memories like that. I know that there are the big tragic ones do for sure. But there are those little memories from your childhood where you did something wrong, or you said something wrong, you felt a little embarrassed. And even at my age, those, sometimes those things just kind of rush over you. And yet you're  like, why am I still thinking about what I did, you know, I did something I did something 50 years ago. Yeah that was a little bit embarrassing. Or you felt embarrassed anyway. And now it's like, why am I still carrying that with me? I's very strange.

Collen (09:14):

Right. And a lot of times it's not even the embarrassment, but somebody has shamed you for it. And so you feel like you're, you're wrong, you know, you didn't just do something bad, but you're wrong as a person. Right. And a lot of times we don't even know that that's the trigger that's happening because we don't, we may not be able to recall that memory. So you're lucky if you are recalling memories and you know what's triggering it. Right.

Roy (09:40):

Right. Well, and even in this weight challenge we talked a little bit before we went on the air about this last week we had a struggle. Terry was out of pocket and wasn't here. And so I fell back to some old ways. And part of that I think is that narrative is that, well, you know what, I'm already overweight. So is another taco or some fries from the Chick-Fil-A is that really going to hurt? I mean, what's the big deal. And I think an isolated incident of that is one thing. But when we repeat that, then all of a sudden that's where it becomes very bad for us, but it's that negative reinforcement that we seem to give ourselves on a lot of aspects of life.

Collen (10:34):

Right. And that's just it, because you can fall into that negative thought loop of berating yourself for having that extra taco. And if that turns into that thought loop where you're just being negative and saying in the next day, okay, well I did that yesterday, so now I've completely fallen off my eating plan. So I'm going to just eat this instead of my healthy food. So that's when it becomes a problem, when it develops into that negative habit or pattern and you've got to be able to have compassion for yourself, you know, and always stop and think, okay, what is it that I'm feeling right now? Because a lot of times we're stuck in our head and we're thinking one thing, but we forget to check in with our body to see, okay, what is it that I'm feeling? Why am I reaching for this particular food that is harming your body. Will you use that for instance, that it's harming your body? So why am I reaching for this particular food? What emotion am I feeling right. And what could I do instead of that?

Roy (11:38):

Yeah. You know, we had a little bit of that this morning. We, we got up and had a very healthy breakfast. So in between taping some of the shows, we had a break and Terry said, are you hungry? And I said, Oh yeah, yeah, I'm starving. And then I thought for a minute, and I said what, I'm really not. I just want something, but my stomach was full. It wasn't a hunger, but the older me would have gone ahead and charged ahead and got something to eat and ate and not taken that extra second just to kind of listen to my body to see, am I really hungry or what's driving that feeling.

Collen (12:17):

Exactly. And then saying those words, I'm starving. So maybe just changing the vocabulary because then you realize in that moment, well, I'm not really starving. So yeah. You're tricking your mind by changing your vocabulary, because it all revolves around making what's familiar, you know, changing that and making it unfamiliar. So you using different words and then changing the habit or the pattern, you know, breaking free from that and doing something that you might not normally do. So if you wanted to reach for that snack, knowing you're not really hungry right now, then maybe go outside and take a 10 minute walk or something instead.

Roy (12:55):

Yeah. And that is, yeah, that's great advice. There I go try to do that more and more lately is, um, you know, instead of reaching for the food is just go out, take a walk. We don't even go for a long, if we just go down to the end of our little street, you know, it's about a little five minute trip, but clears my head gets me off of that thinking, and then I can kind of get back to what I was doing

Collen (13:18):

Exactly. Because a lot of times it's more of a mental strain. That's triggering that, that need to want to go and have a snack or something.

Roy (13:27):

Right. And I guess growing up, my life was based all around food. It's

oh, you had a bad day. Well, dang, let's go get something, let's go get an ice cream that’ll make you feel better. Or, Oh my gosh, that, that good thing happened to you. Let's go celebrate, let's go out and eat. Or, you know, the family gatherings, family, church, everything revolved around food. It seems like

Collen (13:53):

Yes. And still does. I mean, all over the place, we were the same way. We just always want to eat, always want ice cream, always wanting dessert. Oh, wait, we're going to bake. Okay. We're going to, I mean, just food, food, food, the messages. Yeah. They definitely are. And that's what I've found a lot when I, when I'm working with people that in fact, I had a client recently that came to me, he had a sugar addiction. And so what we discovered in his regression was that sugar and sweets were a comfort food and a caring His mom would make baked goods whenever he hurt himself or was feeling bad about something so that was what he used for comfort. So now, you know, in his work life where he was feeling stressed, he was always going to the vending machine, looking for a sweet. Right. Because he needed that care and that comfort that he was missing.

Roy (14:53):

Yeah. And excuse me, I noticed, the last, I don't know, five, six, eight years I got in a very bad habit of, I guess, fighting sleep. You know, I kind of felt like a toddler, you know it'd be eight or nine o'clock at night and. I'd be getting a little sleepy. Instead of just laying down and going to sleep well, I would, I'd never kept, I don't keep snacks in the house, but I would definitely get in a car at nine o'clock at night and drive up to the little local convenience store and load up on something sweet, something salty, maybe a cold drink to wash it down and eat at 10 o'clock at night. And then but what I noticed is I needed, I got in a habit of needing that full feeling in order to believe I could lay down and sleep and yeah. And since we've been eating right, it's like trying to fight that at night saying like, number one, when I feel tired, I need to go lay down because my body's telling me it's time to sleep. But the other thing too is I don't have to be stuffed like a sausage to go in there and go to sleep. I can sleep better, restfully and wake up feeling much better when I don't do that.

Collen (16:16):

Exactly. And yeah. And the fact that you're noticing that and having that awareness is, you know, is crucial. That's the beginning of it, you know, becoming aware and knowing and if you go to sleep, right before you go to sleep, if you have a glass of water, maybe that helps give you that full feeling. Right. Because sometimes our bodies are telling us that they're hungry, but in essence, it's really thirsty. Right.

Roy (16:40):

So if you can shed a little bit of light. You know, I feel like I've had a lot of successes in my life as an athlete as younger, you know, had a lot of big plays, a lot of wins, a lot of this and that. So why do we, as humans tend to always dredge up the negative or let that negative narrative hang around with us, instead of being able to tell ourself that positive.

Collen (17:10):

That is a great question. And I am very familiar with that because I did that most of my life. Yes. For sure. Yeah. Yeah. We have. And I think that, you know, just based on what's going on in the world today, if you notice everyone is talking about negativity and so it's, yeah, it's all around us. So we're inundated with that. And I think we're taught from a young age to focus on what's negative rather than what's positive. And so our minds are kind of programmed in that way. And that's where we need to turn things around now and focus on the positive what's working in my life and what's good in my life and how, you know, coming from an attitude of gratitude, no matter what's going on around us. And that's all, yeah, that's all part of that awareness becoming aware that, okay, yes, this is happening in my life. But if I think about a time, you know, when I was younger, when I was really happy, so bring those old memories to the forefront, to help you focus on what's positive in your life and how you got to where you are, because, you know, if your life was complete, you know, all negative, you wouldn't be where you are today. So you definitely had some positive things that have brought you to this great place where you are today.

Roy (18:29):

And when I get that when it's events that are happening in front of us, like I don't know, we'll be driving down the road and somebody cuts you off. And instead of hollering at them I'll tell Terry, you know what, this is a great time that we don't waste our energy on this negative aspect. We're not going to change that event, that guy, whatever, but we need to focus on our cause. Don't take our mind off of our goal and where we need to be. I get that.

Terry (19:04):

Don't flip them off. Is that what you're saying? Come on. You're so positive about that.

Roy (19:11):

Well, I lived in Boston for a while and I used to take the train into town and a guy asked me like, don't you drive? And I'm like, well, I've never figured out how to drive in Boston because I can't honk the horn, flip people off and still steer the car all at the same time. So, but I get it when it's events like that. But I guess when things are quiet and you're sitting here by yourself and ,like we were saying ,those old memories kind of creep in it's a lot harder to turn them off and to, I don't know, self-talk and turn yourself around. I've gotten where I'm getting better at it, but it's still a struggle. I mean, are there any tips that you have that you can share with us on when that negative thought creeps in? How can we turn that around?

Collen (20:04):

Okay. Yeah so when those negative thoughts from the past are creeping in, we have to stop and just take a pause and remember that everything that is from the past, that's trying to creep in that may be negative is just that it's in the past. So we have to kind of center ourselves and get present with where we are today. Because if we focus on those past memories, we're giving our power away and our energy, you know, like you mentioned before, while you talked about energy, we are energy. So when we are focusing on the past and the negativity, we're giving our power back to the past and we can't be in the present moment and we can't move forward into the future. So being able, just observe and recognize that your letting your mind go back to the past. That's number one, number two would be to take a couple of deep breaths. I would suggest at least four deep breaths because of that. What that is going to do is get you centered and into the moment. And once you do that, then you can call in a more positive message, or you can use your senses in the moment to help you become even more present by observing something with your eyes or smelling something or hearing something or using all of your senses to again, keep you in that present moment so that you stay away from the past and the negativity.

Roy (21:29):

Okay. That's great advice. And, and this maybe way far out there, but you know, when we talk about the past it's just, I find it bizarre that it's not like yesterday or last week, and I'll bring this up because I was just thinking about this the other day. It was a play a play on a baseball field when I was maybe 10, 12, I mean like way, way back there. And it's like, why would number one? Where did that even come from? Why would I even give that any thought? But it's like, so, so far in the past that it's, I don't know. It's sometimes it's kind of bizarre. Yeah, yeah,

Collen (22:11):

Yeah. Something must have triggered it in the present. So what happens during that play? How are you feeling when that play went on?

Roy (22:19):

Oh, I was just like, you know, I could have done this better. I should have done this. You know, I just, it was just a mistake making a throw to the wrong base and not throwing it to the right base. And I don't even remember, did we win the game or not? I don't even know if it was a crucial pivotal point in it. It was just that it's just kind of weird just sitting around how something like that will just flash up. But now if you asked me what I had for breakfast last Tuesday morning, I couldn't even tell you about that.

Collen (22:50):

Right. So obviously that memory is bothering you. And so that is probably coming into play somewhere in your current life, as some form of, you know, possible self-sabotage where you're recasting. Okay. Well, you know, why didn't I make this play or that play, right. So you've got to kind of take a look at that and then think about where in your current life you might be experiencing that same questioning of yourself.

Roy (23:15):

Okay. Yeah. And the other thing growing up and I'm not sure if this is related, but just thinking back, growing up on usually nights that I had a game, whether it was football, baseball, whatever, or even as an adult, as a young adult, I played on some adult softball teams. I would have very active dreams and not very good sleep on some of those nights, you know? And it was always like weird, like the coach was trying to put you into the game and you couldn't find your glove or you couldn't find your helmet in the bathroom. Yeah. It’s just kind of offbeat stuff like that, but it was very present enough in my mind that you kind of shake yourself awake and have to take a few minutes to realize that it was just a dream.

Collen (24:10):

Right. And that kinda sounds like maybe a feeling of being unprepared for what's coming. Okay. Yeah. So in that case, if you're feeling unprepared, then a question you might want to ask yourself is okay with this feeling of being unprepared, what can I do to make myself better feel prepared to what I'm going into?

Roy (24:32):

Okay. That's good. Well, and I guess then we can kind of relate that to the throw in the baseball play, thrown to the wrong base. I guess that is mainly question in current decisions maybe we feel like we should have made another decision or we're questioning a decision that's coming up.

Collen (24:53):

Yeah. Possibly very possibly, because all those things a lot of times we use metaphors to bring us into what's currently going on, especially in the dream state. So that's definitely a metaphor, like I was saying feeling unprepared the way you described it to me. That was the word that showed up. So definitely it's a metaphor for something that's currently going on. So you have to take a little bit of time to explore that and just kind of ask yourself questions throughout your day.

Roy (25:28):

Okay. Did you have a question?

Terry (25:32):

So how, how can we, um, get in a better mindset as far as sorry, I didn't mean to scream as far as being able to stay on task with our nutrition and fitness and how can we help do that just by being more present with everything. I know there's, there are many aspects of it, but in a nutshell.

 

Colleen:

Great question, Terry. Being present is definitely one. You know, the number one thing you can do is be present in the moment. The second thing I would say is to, to plan ahead if you know that you're going to have a particularly busy week with work or with family or anything else, then you want to be able to plan your meals ahead. And if you know that say on Sunday afternoon, you've got a three hour block where you have some time, you might want to do something like a baked chicken or a roast where you can take that one meal that you made and break it down into two or three different meals throughout the week where it's going to save you time and effort in those days where you have a lot on your plate with work and whatnot.

Collen (26:48):

Sure. So you definitely want to be able to plan ahead because eating healthy definitely takes time but it's well worth the effort and building that foundation of planning ahead, and then also being a support system for each other, because there's going to be days where Terry, when you just feel like I think we should just pick up something for dinner. And so Roy, you're going to have to be the stronger one and say, no, I, I think we've got this. I think we can spend 30 minutes in the kitchen and, and knock out a great meal and vice versa. There's going to be times where you need a little bit of support and then Terry's going to be there for you to cheer you on. And then you both win by making the healthier meal. And it doesn't quite work like that. And we're both like, Hey, let's go get some to eat. All right. Whoever said it first is the one who is failing, but no we're going along with it. Cause that's kind of what we've been doing.

Roy (27:43):

Yeah. It's tough. I mean, it's tough to stand up and we are good for each other because we do help and we are support. But on the other side of that is sometimes when we both get in that bad place at the same time, we are like a codependent, I guess

Collen (28:00):

She's taken. Yes. That definitely happens. You know? But that's where the planning comes in. If you have the plan post it on your refrigerator, Hey, this is the plan and we're sticking with the plan.

Roy (28:13):

Well, and let's talk about, I guess maybe for a lack of a better term training our minds to think positive. And when we hit the floor in the morning, we need to try to be positive. Like I've got a schedule, I've got a calendar, these are things I'm going to accomplish. And my downfall is not setting the bar high enough. Usually I try to way overdo it and get myself in trouble. Cause I've just over committed. So I try to manage that level, but I have a priest I'll give a shout out to Father Darrell. He once told me that, our mind is like a grinder and it's grinding all the time, but we make the decision of what it's going to grind. And basically we make a conscious decision. Are we gonna run negative thoughts through our mind today? Are we gonna run positive thoughts? So, what are some tricks or tips or how can we train ourselves to when we hit the floor, not only how do we start out thinking positive thoughts, but the next thing is if we get tripped up early in the morning, not let that just totally wreck the whole entire day going forward.

Collen (29:37):

Exactly. So what I like to do is when I wake up the morning, the first thing I do before I even get out of bed is I set an intention for my day. And if I know I have a particularly heavy schedule, I set the intention that everything is going to flow with ease and grace. I'm going to get it all done. You know, if anything pops up out of the ordinary, I'm just going to take a breath take a few breaths and let it be what it is and move on and just get things done. Another thing I like to do is I like to put reminders in my phone to go off at a particular time where I know might be a trigger for snack time, or if I know I'm going to be driving or something like that and might get triggered by traffic or whatnot.

Collen (30:26):

So I set a reminder in my phone to go off with some kind of positive message, a positive affirmation, it's going to remind me to be calm, to stay present, or, let things go and, and also checking in with your body throughout the day making sure that you're drinking enough water not putting off going to the bathroom, if you have a particularly busy schedule. So self-care is extremely important, taking care of your physical needs, your mental needs, your emotional needs throughout your day. So trying not to over plan, but you have little 30 minute or even 15 minute windows throughout your day where you can just stop and check in with yourself, with your body and what you need.

Roy (31:14):

Okay. Yeah. And on a previous episode we had talked about gratitude and being thankful just like for exercising, being instead of thinking, Oh my God, I've got to go exercise. Think about, Hey, you know what, I'm lucky I've got my faculties. I can go exercise and try to try to flip that switch. And I get to do it instead. Exactly, exactly. And again, it's like, everything seems to be interrelated when you are trying to get in touch with the universe and you're listening. But we talked about an author that I like, his name is Ryan Holiday and he talks about the stoic and daily stoic and has a lot of good reminders. But the other thing that he put out, it was a coin that I carry around that says the obstacle is the way and what I try to use this thing as.

Roy (32:15):

So I want my day to be perfect. I want to wake up, I want it to go smooth. I want it to go the way I want it to go. I don't want any bumps. And sometimes detours can throw me out of whack. I get upset. I have to stop and take a few minutes because now it's wrecked my hope. You know, I'm usually on such a tight calendar that now it's wrecked my entire schedule. So I really have to do a lot of shuffling. And I'm trying to retool my thoughts about what obstacles are there to be solved. That's what makes us successful. Because if nobody ever ran into any obstacles, then life would be very easy and we would all be successful. But that obstacle overcoming it is I think that's where our successes live at.

Roy (33:06):

And so trying to re embrace is that, you know what, I have the tools to solve most, any problem that comes at me every day. And if I don't have the tools personally I've got Terry to rely on and I've got other networks of personal and business acquaintances that I can reach out to. I've got YouTube, I've got Google to reach out and try to solve this problem. But I think I'm out, I may be the only one, but it's like, we shouldn't take an obstacle to our day as crushing and as maybe just as hard as I do, maybe that's being spoiled.

Collen (33:46):

Yeah. And I think that that coin is a great anchor for you. If that's something that you carry around with you, then once yeah. Once an obstacle presents itself, then what you need to do is you need to put that coin in your hand and just press your thumb and index finger together on that coin and say, okay, what is the gift in this obstacle, right? What is this here to teach me? So use that coin as your anchor point to stop and then just question yourself, because then again, that's going to put you in the present where you can better meet that obstacle, because normally what happens is when an obstacle presents itself, we're triggered and our brain is going to the past where something happened. And that's why when that obstacle presents itself we're out of that moment. And we can't solve the moment from what happened to us in the past. So we have to get present and that coin is going to be your anchor to keep you present. So you can move through that obstacle quickly and easily.

Roy (34:47):

Yeah. And I think it's just so important for us to try to take responsibility, take control of our thoughts and be mindful of those negatives and the bad is going to creep in. Sure, I don't think we can ever get away from it, but I think it's recognizing it as soon as possible. And then taking that action to get back on a positive track.

Collen (35:12):

Exactly. Yeah. Getting present and then using your presence to make the best decisions moment by moment.

Roy (35:20):

Yeah. Well, Colleen, we certainly have appreciated talking to you. We appreciate you taking time out of your day to speak with us about this. If you don't mind, can you tell us either one tool or one ritual that you have in your life, either on a daily or weekly basis that you just don't think that you can live without or something that's very helpful for you?

Collen (35:47):

Okay. Yes. So I like to do kind of like a three step process. So number one is taking some deep cleansing breaths. So I usually do about four breasts and what I like to do as I breathe in whatever I need in that moment. So if I need peace, I breathe in peace. And then I exhale, fear, whatever is coming up for me. So it might be breathing in peace, breathing out, fear, breathing in love, breathing out, anger so just have a word or something that you use for the breath. And then the second thing would be to drink a glass of water because this world, even though we're all incredibly dehydrated, we don't drink enough water because our bodies are like 75% water. So having a drink of water definitely helps get you more centered and present.

Collen (36:39):

And then the third thing would be to get grounded. So if you have an opportunity to get outside and take your shoes off and walk on the earth to ground yourself, because we're so surrounded with

technology these days that oftentimes we don't take that time to get outside and if we are outside, we

 

don't normally walk around barefoot. So if you can take your shoes off and just step on the ground, that's going to ground you. And it's going to kind of break that connection we have with the technology and get you more present in your body.

 

Terry:

Okay. I like that. Yeah, I do too. We're going to have to watch for snakes. We're going to have to watch for snakes though. Cause we live in a wooded area. I'll have to send Roy out for the snake check.

Roy (37:28):

Gosh. Well, if you wouldn't mind, just tell us, um, tell the audience basically who's your client, what you can do for them, who you like to work with and then also be sure and give us all of your different contact information where people can reach you.

Collen (37:46):

Okay. Sure. Yeah. I like to work with overwhelmed and anxious entrepreneurs. And then through hypnotherapy and regression, I am passionate about helping my clients release any blocks or fears or false beliefs that they have that are preventing them from living their life fully. And once they're set free from those disempowering beliefs they can live fully from their authentic truth. And that's what I believe life is really about, it’s loving who we are, being present and feeling good in our bodies. And that's the gift that I want to help bring to people. And so you can find out more about me at ColleenElaine.com and I'm also on Twitter. And my handle is at CE Millet that C E M I L L E T T. I'm also on Instagram at Coleen Elaine underscore hypnotist and on Facebook at B R I T E life transformations.

Roy (38:49):

All right, well, great. Well thank you so much. Again, you can find us at www.feedingfatty.com. We're on Twitter at feeding fatty pod. Also find us on Instagram, Facebook. If you are a professional that helps people get healthy and we're not looking for any gimmicks, we're looking for that balanced approach. So if you think that you'd be a good guest, we'd love to talk with you. If you have a success story about some things that have worked for you in your life please reach out with, enjoy the conversation until next time, I'm Roy.

 

Terry:

I’m Terry.