Empowered Marriage
126 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 months ago - ★★★★★ - 2 ratingsJoin the unique Helen Harrison from Power of Change Counselling for genuine and open life conversations about relationships, love and marriage.
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How to find your purpose without ending your marriage
July 28, 2021 20:00 - 22 minutes - 41.5 MBHave you lost your mojo and you are unmotivated? Have you lost your identity and what inspires you? This is affecting the quality of your marriage and the connection. A common situation I see, and the ending of a marriage is sometimes not the answer. Each person is responsible for their own happiness and living on purpose is an important part of this. When you experience joy you are more likely to get in touch with your purpose. This is a podcast filled with questions. The quality...
Get rid of that resentment once and for all
July 14, 2021 20:00 - 22 minutes - 41.3 MBYou’re not being heard, validated, perhaps you feel invisible and not important, and you feel resentment. These feelings begin to multiply and if they haven't been dealt with at the time resentment begins to build. Feelings under resentment can include anger, sadness, doubt, grief and many more emotions. Getting to a place where you can learn to let go of the feelings and the resentment and instead feel gratitude, peacefulness and compassion is the pathway to an empowered marriage. I ...
How to feel sexy and deserving of love
June 30, 2021 20:00 - 20 minutes - 37.1 MBYou have lost interest in sex with your partner, you're just not feeling it. Digging a little deeper for women, it’s the body confidence that has disappeared since the children have sucked you dry, pardon the pun. Let’s get your sexy happening so you feel deserving of love to give yourself and receive from your partner. The first place to start is how to love your body: You have to love yourself, feel turned on, tuned in and turned on. “What happens is you teach your brain to noti...
Best communication tool for a power struggle
June 16, 2021 20:00 - 20 minutes - 37.1 MBMany of us live busy, stressful lives. Instead of a power struggle over who’s the most stressed, being able to destress together is a great tool to have. The talking stick is the communication tool that ensures a code of conduct of respect. You can just listen. There’s no need to think about what you’re going to say because you’re not going to be able to speak until you get the talking stick. You get to wait your turn. Too often we want to talk over those who are speaking. We don’t ...
Keeping your relationship turned on
June 02, 2021 20:00 - 21 minutes - 39.7 MBAre you friends, not intimate partners? Perhaps best friends but here is no physical or sexual connection? The longer you leave it, the harder it is to recover from. It’s not going to get easier by putting your troubles on the backburner. It’s about facing them head-on and looking at what you can do to bring back the desire and passion you once had in your relationship. Identify your needs: Identifying what makes you feel like having sex is important. Men can be easily aroused where ...
Take time out to stop a toxic marriage
May 19, 2021 20:00 - 20 minutes - 37.6 MBIt is important that you can recognise when time out is needed in your marriage. Your breathing has gotten faster, your voice is louder, and your tone has changed. You may have started to feel frustrated and angry. Rather than speaking assertively, you tend to change to aggression and criticism. Rather than listening to understand, your partner can ignore, belittle you and argue back. The fight and flight response has been triggered. This is when a time-out is especially needed, as hurtf...
Are you in hiding and what's your mask
May 06, 2021 07:19 - 21 minutes - 39.7 MBAs a masked person, you adjust yourself depending on who you’re talking to. You wear different masks for different people. You act according to how people receive you because it is too painful to risk not getting love. Often, we have learned, and we have adopted various behavioural strategies designed to get approval and love for what you need. It can begin in childhood, continuing into adulthood. These strategies become like roles that you play or masks or personality types that you act o...
My Marriage isn't Working
April 21, 2021 20:00 - 20 minutes - 38.1 MBHere are the most common problems I see in my counselling sessions. The longer you leave these issues unexplored the harder it is to find a resolution. Sexual issues Different views about money Lack of common goals Feeling misunderstood by partner Difficulty in openly expressing feelings and thoughts. Difficulty in expressing love and affection. Different interests Different parenting views Power struggles Begin with reflecting on why your marriage is not working: Be hon...
The 4 Warning Signs
April 07, 2021 20:00 - 22 minutes - 41.5 MBWarning signs your marriage and relationship are in trouble can be slow and gradual and one day you realize you are not happy. When you get married you anticipate that you get married for life and no mention of divorce. If you ignore the warning signs and hope that communication in your relationship will magically improve you are dreaming. There is a distinct slow change in relationships so it’s important to address this as soon as possible. There are 4 Stages to loss of love and passio...
You want more Passion, Desire and Fun
March 24, 2021 19:00 - 22 minutes - 42 MBAre you asking yourself if this is as good as it gets? Are you unmotivated, exhausted, and lazy in your marriage? The reality is if you're bored and tuned out you need to do something about it. Focusing on what you want more than what you don’t want will be helpful and the first place to start is the change that you want to see in your marriage by making it your priority. I will give you 7 Ways to begin making your relationship a priority. Tiny little changes can make a huge differe...
My partner drinks too much
March 10, 2021 19:00 - 20 minutes - 28.3 MBYou feel like you have a third person (being the drink) in your relationship, and you are very tired of the behaviour and what comes with your partner drinking too much, for example: A critical and negative partner An aggressive and angry partner A shutdown and distant partner An agitated partner and so much more. You are tired of talking about it, asking, ignoring, telling, nagging, and trying for your partner to change this hurtful behaviour. You cannot fix this for your partner,...
I Get Angry Easily
February 24, 2021 19:00 - 19 minutes - 27.3 MBSo, you’re in a marriage/relationship and your feeling hurt and you get angry easily, 0 to 10 very quickly. You may feel some of this: Not heard Not validated Feel invisible Not important These feelings can begin to multiply if they haven't been dealt with at the time resentment begins to build. Feelings under resentment can include anger, sadness, doubt, grief and many more emotions. Getting to a place where you can learn to stop feeling the resentment and instead feel gratitude, pe...
You're no longer attracted to your partner
February 10, 2021 19:00 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBRealising you're no longer attracted to your partner can be scary, worrying and all too consuming. You start getting stuck in your head, overthinking and catastrophising. Stay in it too long and you get into an emergency response and the fight and flight response takes over. Before you know it, you’ve moved out, in a rental and have started a new life. For starters let’s slow down, right down. For some of you, the lack of attraction can be a phase and for others, it may mean the heart ha...
I just want you to love me
January 27, 2021 19:00 - 20 minutes - 38 MB“You please me, and our relationship is good.” “Please me and we are good, and I will stick around.” This is called a conditional relationship and a large part of relationships and marriages are like this. Conditional relationships are held together with individuals not taking responsibility for their own happiness and connection with themselves. Staying in alignment with yourself is the key. Staying true to your inner voice and not looking out there to get what you need.
Has your partner outgrown you?
January 14, 2021 11:11 - 21 minutes - 39.8 MBYour partner seems different? In every area of his/her life. Your partner has discovered how intuitive they really are. A whole new dimension of life has opened, enhancing job, relationships, self-esteem, creativity and health. Their ability to create visions for the future that are strong and robust, and you feel like you’re being left behind. If you criticise and judge and you want to be in a long-term happy marriage, then this is for you. Intuition increases our empathy and compassion...
3 Steps to rebuild trust
December 30, 2020 21:56 - 21 minutes - 39.3 MBHealing after betrayal/infidelity is painful and hard work. This requires vulnerability and this cannot occur without the offending partner’s continual expression of remorse. Reflecting on the experience is especially important to re-establish confidence in the relationship. It's easy for the offending person to assume that if they have said sorry once, then they've taken responsibility and the debt is enough and let's just park it. It is not enough. I can assure you to apologise one ti...
How to avoid divorcing again
December 16, 2020 19:00 - 21 minutes - 39.4 MBSo you are married for a second time or you are about too. This could be the most important information you have read in a while. The divorce rate is high so here are some practical ways and education to empower yourself. Avoiding divorce means commitment and priority to your marriage. The return of closeness and sexual intimacy can happen if you have lost it. Slowing down, it's by dedicating the time and the energy that it's going to take to accomplish that. It's about owning what's going...
9 Most Common Marriage Problems
December 02, 2020 19:00 - 21 minutes - 40.9 MBThe 9 top marriage problems I see on a regular basis and what you can do today to fix it. Here is my top 2. 1. Deficient communication. Communication is a verbal and nonverbal than one person to communicate, it’s focused on a connection between people where it’s safe to openly share ideas and information free of judgment. When partners are unable to communicate clearly, it’s easy for them to fall into a habitual way of ineffectively speaking to one another. What’s worse is that if poor ...
You want more passion in your marriage
November 18, 2020 19:00 - 20 minutes - 38.4 MBYou want more passion in your marriage. Being grounded and centred enables you to live life in a way that flows with everything. Being uncentered causes you to struggle and fight against life, it’s a struggle. Being ungrounded makes you experience your emotions in a stronger and more negative way when you could be experiencing a much calmer way. Grounding is crucial for more passion in your marriage. Find out how do you ground yourself to become more centred and calmer. Once ground...
What's your pattern and when to walk away
November 04, 2020 19:00 - 22 minutes - 42.1 MBI have found a lot of people will do anything to make their relationship work and that’s why they almost never regret it when it’s time to walk away. Yes, it is painful and there will be grief, but they do it anyway. Toxic is when you cannot let go but your partner cannot treat you right. I discuss, what does toxic look like? Going back to somebody that isn’t good for you, you are going to miss them until you don’t, and you will then move on. Understanding the pattern, you are playing c...
Are you a compatible couple?
October 22, 2020 01:13 - 21 minutes - 39.4 MBDid I choose the wrong person? Are we just incompatible? Tough questions that many couples ask themselves after the honeymoon phase or the blissful part of the relationship has gone. Compatibility is key to a life-long partnership. “Compatibility is more important than love ― believe it or not ― and goes hand in hand with respect and communication at the top.” Asking yourselves if your wanting similar things in a relationship is vital. There are 4 primary types of compatibility and...
Your relationship with you
October 07, 2020 20:00 - 21 minutes - 40.3 MBIf you can let the thoughts pass on by on a superficial level, not giving them any energy, just noticing them you will stay in the present moment. You don’t have to repress your thoughts, notice them and don’t attach to them. You don’t have to act on any thoughts you don’t wish too. Instead check within if it’s aligned with your values and coming from a place of love and compassion. Main points on how to free yourself from your thoughts Remember you have a choice so observe your thoughts...
Libido in a long-term relationship
September 23, 2020 21:00 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBIntroducing Naomi Hutchings, a clinical sexologist currently working in Brisbane, Queensland. What is a sexologist? A sexologist is someone who has extensively studied, at a university level, the field of human sexuality in all aspects. There are presently three fields of professional practice in sexology: research, sexual education, and clinical practice. I want to want sex! “People have unrealistic expectations which gets them down”. “There is a lot of grief and they think there ...
Clutter hurts marriage
September 09, 2020 21:00 - 23 minutes - 33.3 MBClutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast Introducing sisters Bonnie Blake and Lilly Goleby The role of professional organisers is really a combination role where we are part: best friend part support worker part therapist part like cleaner or housekeeper We're really physical and hands-on in the work that we do and we provide that emotional support as we are really focused on the psychology of why are we keeping things. Clutter hurts We really...
Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper
August 27, 2020 02:07 - 21 minutes - 30.7 MBPeter Hooper is the legal practitioner Director of Brisbane Family Law Specialists Pty Ltd trading as Hooper Family Lawyers. Peter has been a Queensland Law Society Family Law Accredited Specialist since 2007. Peter explained that Separation under the law requires three things. That there's an intent to separate by one party. A communication of that intent to the other party And then acting upon it. If somebody decides the marriage is over and then through words or actions communica...
Family addiction with Georgia and Kym
August 12, 2020 22:12 - 24 minutes - 34 MBIntroducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes. Two dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected, then I'm going to reach outside of myself and I'll have to use, that's addiction”. “So if I'm disconnected from myself, then I can't be there for my partner”. ...
Move your baggage for a happier marriage
July 30, 2020 00:57 - 20 minutes - 29.1 MBMany people live with baggage, events that have happened in their lives, and never come to peace with them. You've not had closure, healing, and acceptance. You have not processed the emotional component of events that have occurred in your life, particularly when you were younger. You then get triggered easily in fight, flight, freeze, and you feel unsafe. The question to ask yourself is, do I live in survival, or am I thriving and calm? The psychological changes in your body when you a...
Can a marriage last with no communication
July 16, 2020 02:19 - 19 minutes - 27.3 MBAs you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication. In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. It’s crucial to make your relationship a priority and put the necessary work and commitment into your marriage/relationship. Research says the average couple spends only 20 min a week talking with each other! Asking yourself if you want a happier marriage and what your willing to do to get this. Where d...
How to stop avoiding confrontation
July 02, 2020 06:05 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBHere are some reasons you may avoid confrontation Your family of origin did not do confrontation Your fear of disapproval and rejection You are a martyr; you sacrifice yourself for others and more… Part of self-love is listening to yourself all the time. It involves listening to yourself and noticing within yourself when something does not feel right, trusting your intuition and being able to say ‘no’. What is the cost to you in avoiding confrontation? You reject yourself and put o...
Are you living with a man-child?
June 18, 2020 00:40 - 20 minutes - 29.3 MBWhat is a man-child? I talk about the behaviours of a man-child and the ways you can deal with this if you are on the receiving end of a man-child. You're tired of being his Mom and nagging and speaking to him like you are his parent. You will be enabling him to stay in the man-child if you behave this way. You're aware of this but not sure how to change it? You're tired of making excuses for him. This is not your burden or your opportunity to rescue him, and perhaps you are doing thi...
Are you a lonely wife or husband?
June 04, 2020 04:46 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBIf you are lonely in your marriage it's painful and it hurts, and you wonder how you got here. What does it look like? Your both at one place together yet you cannot connect with each other. You feel awkward and uncomfortable being in the same room together. You are not physically, mentally, or emotionally connected. When you do connect it may be hostile, defensive, argumentative and you start assuming things and taking things very personally. You both no longer share your feelings with...
How to encourage your partner to express emotion
May 21, 2020 04:34 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBWhen partners can’t express their emotions, it can erode the marriage. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities, and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. Without emotion in your marriage, this erodes trust, security, intimacy, and closeness, and it's very painful if you’re on the receiving end of it. If a partner is not sharing emotions like sadness, loss, or grief, the relationship doesn’t become a hav...
Ways to Make Marriage Fun again
May 07, 2020 02:21 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBHaving no fun in your marriage is slowly killing it and I see firsthand how it is affecting the couples I work with. It's putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire. Understanding that you need to bring fun back will make for a much happier empowered marriage. 10 Ideas to start bringing the fun back into your marriage: Prioritise your marriage Schedule time for fun Let Worry go …… and more
Can you really trust your partner again
April 24, 2020 02:31 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBBeing able to trust your partner is the most important part of being in a relationship. Your life’s experiences can impact your ability to trust others. When we are a child that’s where we learn about trust and love, our first family. Were you able to express emotions? Were you able to count on your parents? Was speaking your truth safe? As adults, we carry our old programming including fears, abandonment, rejection, trust issues and our stories from the past. Sometimes we get trigge...
Education leads to Empowerment with Gabriela Rosa
April 09, 2020 01:54 - 23 minutes - 33.2 MBGabriela Rosa is a world-renowned fertility specialist, host of the Fertility Challenge™ and the founder and clinical director of the Rosa Institute, an organization dedicated to helping couples create healthy babies, despite previous reproductive challenges. A very interesting interview discussing: Important question to ask yourself in life “As a result of growing” Who do I need to become? What’s your keys against stress?
10 Warning Signs You're In a Toxic Marriage
March 26, 2020 02:30 - 24 minutes - 34.6 MBThere is no such thing as a perfect marriage/relationship. Our intimate relationship I believe has a huge bearing on our own worthiness to give and receive love. What we are willing to accept is deeply connected to our level of self-esteem and how conscious we are and how available we are to ourselves to release any suppressed traumas and healing our wounds. There are warning signs you’re in a toxic relationship. Educating yourself on what’s toxic is so important. Here are 5 of the 10 wa...
Happy Marriage Happy Kids
March 11, 2020 22:42 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MBInterview with Megan Warren from Key to Kids. Megan offers beneficial skills in building a relationship with children because children will do anything for you if they: feel that they're loved if they feel that they're valued and you have that relationship with them Megan talks about the top three skills/tools for parenting that will support you in your parenting and also your marriage.
Fall Back In Love With Your Partner
February 20, 2020 02:25 - 21 minutes - 39.6 MBYou hear those hated words, “I’m not in love with you.” Or maybe your partner thought they made it a little easier for you by saying, “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” It hurts. You love your partner but for whatever reason, your partner no longer wants to be with you. To be in love with each other again can happen with WILL, WANT AND WORK. The Process for saving and liberating Your Marriage is dependent on many factors and this week’s blog and podcast goes into detail about ...
Tired Adrenals - The Marriage Killer
February 13, 2020 01:36 - 23 minutes - 44.6 MBAn interview with Garry Borman from Feeling Great Naturally. Listen to the complete interview on the Empowered Marriage Podcast. Tired adrenals are something Garry see lots of and how numerous health conditions can all come back to this one common syndrome. There are many symptoms if you're suffering from adrenal fatigue syndrome and where do you begin addressing this? It affects the quality of your life and your marriage. Attending to this early is vital. Knowing the signs and actin...
Mend my marriage
February 03, 2020 04:04 - 22 minutes - 42.6 MBWhen you have a problem in your life you work out what you’re doing wrong, come up with a solution and you try and fix it yourself or seek assistance. This waiting and blaming is very destructive to yourself and your marriage. Each of you needs to take responsibility for the problems and aide in the solutions. What are the common signs that your marriage needs mending? Follow the 7 Steps to Mend your Marriage in 7 days and notice a change in how you’re feeling about your marriage.
Is Anxiety destroying your marriage?
December 26, 2019 09:52 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBAnxiety in the suburbs is rampant and I see firsthand how it is affecting the marriages of Australia. It's putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire. Understanding it and healing it will make for a much happier empowered marriage. Do I have anxiety? 2 Questions to ask yourself Is my reaction over the top for what’s presenting? Are you finding it difficult to do things that you use to find easy? For e.g. groceries, riding in an elevator or being...
Map your marriage
December 19, 2019 03:46 - 20 minutes - 29.3 MBWhen did you last reflect on your marriage and the reality you are living? What is the reality of your marriage, not the stories in your head? Are you in an Empowered marriage filled with passion, desire and love? Map your marriage looks at the 10 different areas that make up your marriage (From Prepare-Enrich Marriage Program) Communication Conflict Resolution Partner Style and Habits Financial Management Leisure Activities Sexuality and Affection and more Discovering the ...
Best friends and room mates
December 12, 2019 04:08 - 18 minutes - 26.2 MBIf you are feeling more like roommates and best friends, not lovers, then I'd encourage you to look at your relationship. The longer you leave this, the harder it is to come back from. It’s very painful if you are in this position in your marriage. Desire is about staying open to yourself and your partner. The mystery of that person in your life who's living right beside you. And it's having trust and being vulnerable. The desire to reawaken the spark in you and your relationship begins wi...
From adrenaline addiction to authentic living - Part 2
December 05, 2019 04:13 - 17 minutes - 24.8 MBDeciding you want to change this and live in a calmer way; a thriving way is a personal decision and often brought on because it’s affecting the quality of your marriage. 9 signs that you are overcoming adrenaline addiction will help and support you through this transition. The adrenaline was like a drug for you, getting you through the day and making your life more exciting. When you take this away, you may notice that your motivation subsides, your energy lessens, your thought process is...
From adrenaline addiction to authentic living - Part 1
November 27, 2019 22:33 - 18 minutes - 26.6 MBThe Cost to you and your marriage You get busier and busier with no relief in sight. You push and push yourself and create situations to get a hit of adrenaline. Extended periods of stress will in time catch up to you and roll into chronic stress which will in time affect your health. You cannot live this way forever and something must give…. Listen to how you become used to living with the rush of adrenaline and actually don’t know another way. You get hooked to the adrenaline flooding y...
When do you say I do
November 21, 2019 08:52 - 18 minutes - 26.2 MBMarriage can be one of the biggest decisions of your life and should not be rushed. Sometimes I sit with couples and wonder why they got married in the first place. They committed to someone who was displaying behaviour that worried them, upset them however they got married anyway. Commitment is a mindset. Your behaviour should reflect this mindset. How do you know if you’re not committed? 9 signs which may surprise you. Knowing when to commit: 10 signs which will not surprise you.
Personal cost of an unhappy marriage
November 14, 2019 00:21 - 18 minutes - 26 MBHow could your life have changed so radically? You’re wondering about simply surviving an unhappy marriage. When you are surviving there is no pleasure or joy so and not a lot of physical intimacy. There are so many reasons why you may be unhappy in your marriage. Gaining clarity on what they are is a great place to start and knowing the personal cost to you. People show you who they are. Again, and again. Believe them the first time. We live in the hope and potential that someone...
How to overcome being needy
November 07, 2019 03:51 - 18 minutes - 26.3 MBA common theme in my Counselling sessions. Why are we needy and what does it look like? You may be always running to your partner for help? Perhaps you are constantly texting, messaging even if they are at work? Needing affection and attention from your partner? Finding what you need from within yourself and not your partner is the key. Understanding how the masculine and feminine energy works is a great place to start. The differences between immature and mature energies.
Prepare and cope with an empty nest
October 31, 2019 04:27 - 17 minutes - 24.9 MBNothing prepares you for the transition to an empty nest and it can cause damage to a marriage and a relationship. It's important to prepare for when your children leave home. You need to start preparing years before your children leave home. I believe if you can connect and build on your purpose the empty nest will not be so hard-hitting and you will transition into your new life more easily. Raising your children is not your purpose it is your role. Understand that raising your children ...
The top four most argued issues ever
October 24, 2019 02:49 - 18 minutes - 17.6 MBWhat do you think the top 5 most argued issues are? Yes, you guessed it: Sex Money Chores Children Partners will always have disagreements however it’s how you overcome conflict, and this is dependent on your communication skills. Some questions to discuss around sex with your partner include: What do you enjoy/don’t enjoy sexually? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? What does sex give us? Connection, spirituality, connection physically? What're your f...