Divorce Talk With Nicola Beer
103 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 7 years ago - ★★★★ - 27 ratingsDo you want to save and revive your marriage? Create a new life after divorce? Or perhaps help your children through divorce?
This show focuses on helping executives, professionals and expats get unstuck, create change, heal their life and relationships after marriage breakdown and divorce.
The show includes tips from Nicola Beer, an International Relationship & Divorce coach as well as interviews with best-selling authors, speakers, divorce lawyers and mediators.
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How to Protect Children Through Divorce - Radio Interview
June 13, 2017 00:00 - 1 hour - 108 MBDivorce is always a difficult transition. It can be painful, stressful and exhausting for all involved. However the way that parents handle it can greatly influence how well they and their children cope. No parent contemplating, going through or coming out of divorce needs the added burden of worrying about the damage divorce will have on their children. In this I will cover: How to strengthen children through divorce The top 5 ways to best Protect them What to do if you are feeling overwhelm...
How To Save a Marriage, Stop Divorce and Be Happy Again
June 06, 2017 00:00 - 1 hour - 92.9 MBRadio Interview - where I discuss how to save your marriage and avoid divorce, and actually feel happy again. For more free relationship advice and resources to save your marriage and avoid divorce with Nicola Beer visit www.nicolabeer.com and www.savemymarriageprogram.com #relationshipadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagecounselling #relationships #marriageproblems #coupletherapy #relationshipcounselling #relationshipcounseling #howtosaveamarriage #saveyourmarriage #savemymarriage #marriage...
To Stay or Leave a Marriage in Crisis? Why we MUST get out of Limbo
May 30, 2017 00:00 - 1 hour - 87.2 MBToday we live in an age that promotes self-awareness BUT when it comes to relationships, most of the advice we are given on how to make the decision to stay or leave, leaves us more confused and feeling alone. here are literally millions of men and women ambivalent about whether to stay in or leave their marriage. If this is you, I will share why you MUST get out of limbo for the sake of your sanity, health and relationship. For more free marriage and relationship, resources contact me on...
Did I Marry the Wrong Person? Marriage Advice for Marriage Problems
May 24, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 11.3 MBWhen people get to the stage of seeking help for the dissatisfaction or conflict in their marriage, they often wonder "Did I marry the wrong person?" or "Did I marry right or well?" These are common thoughts many share with me that they struggle with. So, how do you know if you have? Is there such a thing as 'the one' or the ‘right’ person?
How to have a Thriving Business & Marriage - Entrepreneur & Marriage Advice
May 20, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 17.3 MBAs an entrepreneur or senior executive, the business you run is like your baby and you will do anything to make it a success. This can lead to conflict in the marriage, so avoid this I share my 8 tips for having a thriving business and relationship.
Relationship Advice: Rid Your Mind From Clutter, Resentment & Anxiety to Attract More...
May 17, 2017 00:00 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBIs your relationship cluttered with negative thoughts or resentment? Do you love your partner but struggle to find time to make the relationship thrive? Has poor organization in your love life, caused you to hurt those you care most deeply for? Is past hurt preventing you from being close to your lover? If the answer is YES you are not alone. Most relationships suffer because of clutter - things we cannot control that occupy our minds and get in the way of our happiness or poor organization. ...
Overcoming Resentment - Couples Therapy, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling
May 13, 2017 00:00 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBResentment is a sense of unfairness - that you are not getting enough attention, consideration, affection, reward or appreciation that you deserve for aspects of your life and relationship. It's a mental process of repetitively replaying a feeling, and the events leading up to it, that angers us. It often starts off as a mild form of anger, but overtime build and builds until it reaches an alarming level. It can be far more destructive to health, romance, and happiness than anger though, beca...
How to Keep Your Relationship Loving After Children
May 10, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12.1 MBHas your relationship changed since your children? Does he not understand? Is she always busy with the children? There is no need for you to loose sight of what made you fall in love. I will share 3 relationship advice tips of how to keep your loving relationship after children... To book your free consultation visit www.savemymarriageprogram.com/consult
Why Do People Cheat? Infidelity, Affairs, Cheating Husband or Cheating Wife
May 07, 2017 00:00 - 10 minutes - 15 MBA common question for couples after the discovery of an affair is Why did I cheat... here I cover this. If you are struggling in your marriage right now - book a free consultation at www.savemymarriageprogram.com
How to Recover from a Cheating Husband or Cheating Wives Affair
May 03, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 18.6 MBHealing after an affair is different for everyone. However there are things you can do to help yourself recover faster, I will explain what these are. If you are struggling do book a free Save My Marriage consultation at www.savemymarriageprogram.com/consult
Relationship Advice & Attraction Tips With Dating Expert Dr Arn
April 30, 2017 00:00 - 29 minutes - 40.9 MBDr. Ashley is a psychologist, coach, relationship expert and joined me on the show to discuss relationship compatibility success and attraction skills, as well as the psychology behind relationship success. To learn more from Dr Ashley Arn view her webinar here https://goo.gl/FeBfKJ Or book a free dating single to soulmate session click on the below https://goo.gl/D7QZiM
Marriage Counseling, Couples Therapy Feedback from How to Save Your Marriage
April 27, 2017 00:00 - 19 minutes - 27.3 MBVery few people are willing to talk publicly about their marriage problems and how they solved them. But occasionally someone steps forward to tell their story. It’s always interesting. Click here to listen to Avrohom from New York... Contact Details http://www.simiplex.com
Can A Marriage Survive Infidelity? 10 Key Questions to Know
April 25, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MBInfidelity and affairs happen more frequently than we like to think about.. The good thing is most women and men who catch a cheating husband or wife want to fight for it and give the marriage a second shot. Similarly cheating wives and husbands who see what they have risked and may lose, often want to make amends' than stay with their new love interest. In both cases the act of research or seeking support and willingness to try the solutions is a strong sign that the marriage can survive inf...
Ultimatums - Why we MUST avoid them in Relationships - Marriage Counseling
April 23, 2017 00:00 - 12 minutes - 17.1 MBAre you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour you have no more to give? Are you at the end of your tether? Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out? We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than not these ultimatums are being issued by a parent to a child. This is a relationship where power and responsibility lie with the parent. It is the parent’s job to ensure that a child grows up knowing what is r...
Silent Treatment - Why You MUST Break It. Relationship Counseling & Advice
April 20, 2017 00:00 - 12 minutes - 17.3 MBIt’s more than likely that you have been on the receiving end of silent treatment, or that you, yourself have used it on your spouse. I doubt that there are many relationships where this hasn’t occurred whether that is in a marriage, other close relationships with family or in the professional environment. This is not surprising, as research has found that it is one of the most commonly used ‘tools’ in a relationship. However, it can be very destructive and detrimental. The silent treatment c...
Marriage Advice How to Deal With I'm Not in Love with You
April 16, 2017 00:00 - 9 minutes - 13.1 MBIt's a confusing statement for sure. The good thing about it is the "I Love You" is it means care, and care is necessary for a healthy happy marriage. So what about the - Not "In Love" The majority of us falsely assume from love stories in tabloids, TV series, celebrity news and movies that once that happens that's it. We are taught that Love is something you find and that's it - The END. That is just not true. I'll address what you can do to save your marriage and prevent divorce if this is ...
Annoying Habits - How to deal with this common Marriage Problem - Relationship Advice
April 13, 2017 00:00 - 12 minutes - 17.2 MBWhat are your spouse's most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune, snore or crack their knuckles? And when was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An Hour Ago? One of the most annoying things about annoying habits is that they can be so small, but still drive you mad. Overtime you may find the list of annoying habits grow. It may not be that your spouse has added more irritating habits as years have...
Why Talking About Marriage Problems Can Make Things Worse - Marriage & Relationship Advice
April 09, 2017 00:00 - 8 minutes - 12 MBNo one ever solved their marriage by talking about their problems. What most of us to is try to talk our partner into our own way of thinking. This always fails! It takes actions to save a marriage, rebuild love, trust and respect. Let me share with you how in this episode. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your m...
Relationship advice- When does Drinking Become a Problem in a Marriage - Alcohol / Alcoholism
April 06, 2017 00:00 - 19 minutes - 27.3 MBThere are many reasons why marriages break down and it's rarely just one. Usually it's a culmination of events and behaviors, that stir up negative feelings. In my practice alcohol "issues" come up frequently. Occasionally it is when a spouse doesn't agree with their partners drinking for religious reasons, more often than not though it's about the amount someone drinks, how frequently they drink and their behavior whilst under the influence. So when does drinking become a problem in a marria...
Grow Together Not Apart After Children Are Born - Marriage Advice
April 02, 2017 00:00 - 12 minutes - 16.9 MBI'm currently working with a couple in the U.S who are struggling to communicate and connect after their son was born. Like many couples they thought that when their baby was born they would be closer than ever. Instead 18 months later, they feel frustrated with one another and like they are drifting apart. Sadly this is a common occurrence, in fact the highest risk of divorce is when children are between 1-5 years old. I've outlined some of the most common problems and how to get through the...
Are You Spending Enough QUALITY Time Together? Relationship & Marriage Advice
March 29, 2017 00:00 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MBTime can be a big source of conflict in relationships. When you get married “your time” also becomes “their time” and if you have children then you need to also schedule in “family time” and of course time for family chores and all the other errands you need to run. Many couples I speak to are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled in multiple directions that the quality of the marriage is declining. Perhaps you can relate? Are you both so busy with work, the children and your own int...
How to Deal With Your Spouses Negativity - Marriage & Relationship Advice
March 26, 2017 00:00 - 15 minutes - 21.6 MBIt's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep yo...
Infidelity - 4 Steps to Affair Proof Your Marriage & After the Affair Tips
March 23, 2017 00:00 - 16 minutes - 22.2 MBAs a relationship counsellor who works online with couples all over the world, what I can say from my experience is that infidelity is by far the most common presenting issue I help couples recover— and transform their marriages—from. There are many reasons why people cheat. I believe that focusing on the factors contributing to extramarital affairs is futile; a bleak outlook doesn’t help a couple remain connected or move forward after the fact. As they say, prevention is better than cure, an...
Infidelity, Affair Recovery - How Long Does it Take to Recover from a Cheating Wife or Cheating Husband?
March 20, 2017 07:34 - 9 minutes - 12.4 MBInfidelity, Affair Recovery - How Long Does it Take to Recover from a Cheating Wife or Cheating Husband? In this episode I will go through the most common stages of affair recovery.
Infidelity - How to Help Your Spouse Heal After the Affair - Relationship Counseling
March 20, 2017 07:14 - 14 minutes - 20.5 MBIf you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading some of these tips. Or, if you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating wife or husband unintentionally keeps on hurting you in their attempts to make you feel better, put this episode in their in their hands. Looking For more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a ...
The 5 Negative Thought Patterns That Lead to Divorce -...
March 07, 2017 00:00 - 14 minutes - 19.3 MBAfter the honeymoon period in a relationship is over, and our partner raises complaints about us, or does things we don't agree with or is somehow absent, we often start to make or draw slightly negative conclusions about them or the relationship. Typically it starts off as a thought one day, but if their actions continue to match it, we can start to think that way about the relationship or them. Negative thinking doesn't only affect you, it can kill connection, communication and passion, if ...
Grief & Loss Expert Interview Discusses Loss & Preparing for It
July 25, 2016 00:00 - 28 minutes - 38.7 MBJane Duncan Rogers wrote her memoir Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth 3 years after her husband died and now is passionate about enabling the western world to become more comfortable with the thought of dying and loss. She is committed to guiding people to the relief and peace of mind that comes from having faced up to the impact of loss in their lives, whether it be from death or from divorce. With over 25 years of experience working in the personal growth, psychothe...
Expert Interview with Divorce & Sports Parenting Coach - Brian Brunkow
July 15, 2016 07:37 - 29 minutes - 39.9 MBBrian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, sports parenting coach, and author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce & effective & “sane” sports parenting. With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping divorced parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of divorce & effective sports parenting.” When time and money is used as a weapon in divorce, the “ABC’s” (Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard & Controlling Controllables) encourage pare...
Part 2 Help Children with Divorce - Using Universal Laws
July 13, 2016 10:47 - 16 minutes - 23.3 MBFrom the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their...
Help Children Thrive After Divorce - Using Universal Laws from Amazon Best Seller
July 04, 2016 10:55 - 14 minutes - 20.3 MBFrom the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their...
Help Children Thrive After Divorce - Using Universal Laws from Amazon Best Seller
July 04, 2016 10:55 - 14 minutes - 20.3 MBFrom the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their...
Want to Change Your Life? Law of Attraction Interview with Expert Chris Spink
June 21, 2016 09:36 - 54 minutes - 74.3 MBDo you have any specific obstacles or challenges in your life or relationship you’re ready to overcome? Are you open to learn about and acquire powerful mindset changing tools to take your life to the next level? If you answered yes to these questions check out this interview with Chris Spink, Law of Attraction Coach, International Best-Selling author, who has thousands of students enrolled in his courses from all around the world. In this episode he gives one of his courses for FREE. JUST IN...
6 Ways to Support Children Through Long Distance Separation and Divorce
June 19, 2016 15:28 - 18 minutes - 25.3 MBLong-distance children experience many changes. Often, the relationship changes rapidly and dramatically, which can be upsetting and unsettling for children. I have outlined 6 of the biggest changes children experience and some solutions to minimize the stress and change, the absence of a parent can bring. My hope is through awareness you can take measures to strengthen the parent-child relationship, whether it's you, your partner or ex, who is living further away. P.S If you enjoyed readin...
7 Surprising Reasons Exercise Can Make You Happier - Relationship & Divorce Support
June 11, 2016 19:10 - 22 minutes - 31.6 MB7 Surprising Reasons Exercise Can Make You Happier Insomnia, Anxiety, Depression, Low Self-Confidence Are common when a relationship breaks down or ends in divorce Wondering what the future will hold and how things will turn out can send even a healthy, happy person into a state of turmoil and unrest It's in this time more than ever we need to turn to nature and our own bodies natural defense system to help us. I care about your happiness And that's why I'm excited to share with y...
When Past Hurts Affect Your Current Love Relationship
June 08, 2016 15:30 - 10 minutes - 15 MBWHEN PAST HURTS AFFECTS YOUR LOVE RELATIONSHIPS Past hurts from our previous relationships or even our childhood can get in the way of our current relationship happiness. When our partner says or does something we may get triggered and over react as: • We may fear history repeating itself • We may feel like we have been here before and know the score! • We may get angry, bitter and start doubting the relationship • We may want to run It is difficult to stop our past from affecting our c...
How to Grow TOGETHER Not APART When Children Are Born
May 29, 2016 15:39 - 11 minutes - 15.8 MBI'm currently working with a couple in the U.S who are struggling to communicate and connect. They like many couples thought that when their baby was born they would be closer than ever. Instead 18 months later, they feel frustrated with one another and like they are drifting apart. Sadly this is a common occurrence, in fact the highest risk of divorce is when children are between 1-5 years old. I've outlined some of the most common problems in this episode and some tips gained from my exper...
7 Questions to Know if Your Expectations Are Too High
May 27, 2016 19:13 - 11 minutes - 16.3 MBWhen expectations are not being met on a consistent basis in a marriage it can often lead to disappointment, destruction and sometimes divorce. As our expectations of others, our relationships, our self and how we expect live our life directly impact our happiness it is important to know if our expectations are realistic or too high. Knowing whether your expectations are too high or not, is a tricky one. Here I share 7 questions to know if your expectations are too high. P.S If you like thi...
8 Ways To Ensure Hobbies Help Not Hurt Your Relationship
May 27, 2016 19:13 - 8 minutes - 11.4 MBWhether you or your partners hobby is triathlon's, golf, video gaming, sailing, football... many marriages suffer from a hobby that one passionately embraces and the other sees as nothing but an intrusion. If not dealt with, the built up frustration and resentment can lead to explosive rows or distance and withdrawal. So what can you do? Inside this episode you will get my 8 Keys to not let hobbies come between you. So they help the marriage instead of hurt it. Nicola Beer - International R...
Regret Over Wasted Time - 5 Tips to Let Go & Move Forward
May 27, 2016 19:13 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MBYou can waste your food. You can waste your money. You can waste your clothes... But wasting time is a whole other ball game. I'm not referring to the hour you spent in traffic or 2 hours you spent watching a trashy movie. I am talking about months and years of wasted time people stay in unhappy relationships. Where they either hope things will get better over time or don't want to give up on time they have already invested. One of biggest regrets I hear time and time again is YEARS of wast...
8 Ways to Overcome Insecurities After an Affair or Break Up
May 07, 2016 19:39 - 11 minutes - 15.9 MBInsecurity is a feeling of general unease that is triggered by perceiving oneself to be inferior in some way or vulnerable. Listening to our inner critic can do serious damage to our self-esteem. It can cause us to feel desperate toward our partner or pull back, get angry and reject them in fear of being rejected. It can also exaggerate feelings of jealousy or possessiveness or leave us feeling unworthy. It's perfectly natural to feel insecure from time to time, especially after an affair o...
Help My Spouses Negativity Is Bringing Down - 5 secrets to keep you feeling good and your energy high
May 01, 2016 19:24 - 12 minutes - 17.1 MBIt's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep yo...
Were Only Staying Together For The Children
April 24, 2016 19:30 - 12 minutes - 16.9 MBWhen couples come to me saying that "we're only together for the children" I can't help but feel concerned for their future happiness and marriage and like to suggest an alternative plan. You see when couples think, say and believe that there is nothing else but their children holding them together, they destroy their connection. As it implies they have willingly agreed to a life of misery, accepting something they wish they could avoid. If you have begun to associate your spouse and the...
When Will I Stop Feeling Guilty? 7 Truths to Eliminate Post Breakup & Divorce Guilt
April 20, 2016 06:31 - 14 minutes - 19.8 MBWhen will I stop feeling guilty? Is a question that comes up frequently in my private online sessions. Typically it's where after much deliberation and consideration someone has decided to leave their marriage and cannot shake off the breakup and divorce guilt. Some worry about how their ex has taken the news, others are consumed with fears about the impact it will have on their children. Then there are those who feel guilty for causing pain, shame and disrespect to their parents and extend...
All It Takes Is Good Habits - Interview with Weight Loss Expert Carole Holditch
April 20, 2016 06:18 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBDuring relationship challenges and divorce it is common to either overeat or not eat and neither aids recovery. To change your life "All It Takes Is Good Habits" - I borrowed this line from Carol Holditch founder of Good Habits UAE, it’s the slogan for her business which has helped hundreds of men and women change their eating and lifestyle habits. Her philosophy is that switching to good habits should be easy, fun and for life. Curious about how she does that, I jumped at the opportunity t...
If I'm SO Amazing then Why am I Still Single?
April 09, 2016 20:18 - 22 minutes - 30.9 MBThis episode is for single men and women, looking for love. Want to know why so many people struggle with finding incredible relationships? No… it’s not because there aren’t any good women or men left out there, or because they are in the wrong city, profession, or wrong time in their life. And it’s definitely not because the kind of love and relationship they want doesn’t exist. The 3 main reasons people struggle will be explained in this episode...as well as some tips to help you set yours...
Having a Shared Meaning in Marriage Is The Glue That Can Hold it Together
April 02, 2016 20:03 - 13 minutes - 18.3 MBWhat is Your Reason for Being Together? Do you have a Purpose for sharing a Life with one Another? Gottman in his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" that has sold over a million copies worldwide, states that in order to have a successful marriage we must create a shared meaning. I have found this extremely useful in bringing couples closer together and want to share this principle with you. Even if you are not in a relationship right now you may find it useful, as it help...
12 Tips for Successful Long-Distance Parenting - Staying Connected After Divorce
March 24, 2016 00:00 - 18 minutes - 25.4 MBOf all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of divorced families. In this episode I will explore common reasons for long-distance parenting, the changes long-distance children experience and offer 12 tips for successful long -distance parenting. Whilst this is written for those separated and divorced, many expats living apart from their children ha...
Do Teenagers Need Support Or Space Through Divorce? What are the Warning Signs?
March 18, 2016 06:56 - 15 minutes - 21.2 MBWhen it comes to teenagers and divorce, many parents can find difficult to know whether teenagers need space or support. In this episode I cover the 3 warning signs to look out for, so you can decide if extra care or additional help is needed. If you like this, you may also like my free e-book Protect Children Through Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce/
What do Men Need from Relationships?
March 12, 2016 19:44 - 12 minutes - 17.1 MBWhat Do Men Need from Relationships? Well certainly the worst advice you can ever receive when it comes to meeting a man's needs is "treat them mean, keep them keen!" According to Dr Harley's research many of us fall in love with our partners partly because of the compliments they give us. Some of us just love to be told we are appreciated. attractive and admired for being a good worker, lover, parent etc. More men than women in his research had admiration as one of their top 5 needs. Lis...
When Does Drinking Become A Problem In A Relationship?
March 12, 2016 13:29 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBSo when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship? Alcohol consumption in my coaching has been linked to an increase in angry outbursts, arguments and aggression. It also blamed or used as an excuse for infidelity and being out of control. Others mention how drinking has caused; their sex life to dwindle, a lack of in...