Amanda Luterman on Erotic Empathy (#40)
Candour Communication Podcast
English - February 13, 2022 19:00 - 1 hour - 45.3 MB - ★★★★★ - 6 ratingsSelf-Improvement Education Society & Culture Relationships empathy simon sinek soft skills jocko podcast people skills brene brown leaders unlocking us dare to lead candour Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
2:09 - how do people respond when Amanda introduces herself at a networking event.
3:52 - scared of talking about sex.
5:06 - how Amanda's journey into erotic empathy started.
6:43 - what is erotic empathy.
7:47 - we push our partner away because of the way we feel about ourselves.
8:57 - not being judgemental about your partner's sexual preferences.
11:08 - is it usually females who are more likely to find themselves unattractive?
12:52 - how to open up with your partner about your sexual preferences.
16:01 - asking your partner: what were you fantasizing about during sex?
16:16 - power dynamics are a common sexual fantasy.
16:47 - example of initiating sex with a power dynamic.
18:54 - the way people engage in partnered sex contradicts the way people masturbate.
21:57 - lessening the pressure and expectations in sex.
24:30 - how important is sex in a romantic relationship.
25:57 - your marriage isn't over just because you develop feelings for someone else.
27:06 - the pressure men feel during sex.
29:50 - a lover is not responsible for both people's pleasure.
30:35 - being good at sex is not about technique.
32:18 - religious or moral constraints on sex.
34:36 - therapy can help couples communicate their sexual needs and expectations more safely.
35:32 - how to get better at talking to your partner about sex.
38:12 - what do women want? what do men want?
40:22 - power switching and taboo fantasies are super arousing.
41:44 - is there hope if you are no longer attracted to each other?
46:42 - marriage is a promise to look after yourself for the other person.
48:21 - what if I'm not into the same things that turn on my partner?
51:48 - can sharing fantasies of sleeping with other people go too far?
53:52 - controlling your emotions so your partner can share their sexual preferences openly with you.
54:51 - sex is about communication and emotion regulation skills.
55:34 - the paradox of building confidence in your sexuality.
57:01 - how important is sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.
59:38 - why is sex important for your relationship and your health.
1:02:02 - connect with Amanda.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/amanda-luterman/