Breakup Recovery Podcast
113 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 6 years ago - ★★★★ - 241 ratingsIt’s never easy when you are going through a breakup, separation or divorce. Breakups can leave you feeling sad, angry, lost, alone and anxious about you’re future. Breakup Recovery podcast is a mixture of practical tips, ideas, and strategies from myself, experts and real people with real stories so people can begin their journey of recovery after their breakup’s.
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#112 How To Survive The Holiday Season As A Single Person with Martha Bodyfelt
December 20, 2017 01:00 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBAs the holiday season is fast approaching anyone who experiencing a breakup, separation or a divorce are possibly dreading this time of the year. Martha offers some practical tips and ideas to get you through not only the holiday season but also any other time of the year that can bring an uprising of emotions. This advice will help you to not only handle your reactions but help in your recovery. Martha’s own marriage ended at the beginning of the holiday season. The hardest part of the br...
#111 How To Stop Holding Yourself Back And Find Happiness After Your Breakup with Michelle Chalfant
December 15, 2017 00:26 - 20 minutes - 18.4 MBMichelle Chalfant believes your limiting beliefs and the false stories that your tell yourself after your breakup can hold you back from recovering and finding happiness again. When you are going through a breakup you experience a lot of emotions such as shame, anger and sadness. Most people are not good at feeling their emotions, instead they use vices that distract them like drinking, going out or finding other things to do so they don’t feel and process their feelings. Your mind can sta...
#110 All You Need To Know About Dating Again After A Breakup With Jenn Burton
December 06, 2017 01:00 - 20 minutes - 19 MBIn this week’s episode I talk with Jenn Burton on all things relating to dating again after a breakup. Jenn shares some important tips on dating so it can be done your way and on your terms so the experience can be fun and doesn’t have to filled with dread. We talk about how to know when you are ready to date again, how to begin this process, what preparations you need to complete before you start and amongst other things what your expectations should realistically be when dating a man. Je...
#109 How To Be Happy Again After Your Breakup
November 29, 2017 01:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBThere can be a number of emotions that are stopping you from moving on after your breakup, separation or divorce. In this episode I am going to explore two reasons why you are not finding happiness in your life. I am going to be talking about the impact that grief and self-sabotage can have on your emotions and why not dealing with these two things can hold you back from moving forward and finding happiness again. Grief is an emotion that is not only associated with a relationship breakup...
#108 How To Have An Honest Relationship with Robert Kandell
November 22, 2017 01:00 - 21 minutes - 19.4 MBRobert Kandell is a successful writer, teacher, podcast host and coach. He has helped people build successful and honest relationships through workshops, lectures and live events. Robert understands the challenges that arise when breakups happen and he shares his own breakup stories and the steps he undertook to get back on track. One of the key strategies that Robert did following his breakup was to learn to be by himself. He started a four-month celibacy, where he did not look for an...
#107 How To Survive 2 Divorces And Still Have a Positive Outlook On Life with Dave Jackson
November 15, 2017 01:00 - 32 minutes - 29.5 MBMost people find the divorce process difficult at best, I was pleasantly surprised after having a conversation with Dave Jackson who has navigated the Divorce process not once but twice and found that he still had a positive outlook on life. For some the end of marriage brings doom and gloom, but Dave has been able to dust himself off, reflect on his actions, look at what he did, what he could have done and what he can do better in the future. Dave talks about his first marriage and how th...
#106 Discover The Secrets To Successful Relationships with Chris Armstrong
November 08, 2017 01:00 - 19 minutes - 17.6 MBChris is a relationship coach and in this episode we discuss how to Chris navigated his own breakup, how to sustain a successful relationship, the importance of knowing what we want and need in a partner, the significance of loving ourselves and how to achieving self love. When Chris Armstrong went through his own breakup he let some time go by before he explored at the breakdown of his relationship. By taking this time he was able to look at it with a clear head. He filled his spare time ...
#105 How To Cope With Change After A Breakup With Gary Szenderski
November 01, 2017 01:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBA breakup often involves many changes; there can be a change in your living arrangements, your routines, your status, your wealth and for the children, all of which can be overwhelming. Change for most people can be difficult, and it can be especially challenging if you didn’t want the change in the first place. You can feel that you have lost control and the things that you would normally be able to handle with easy can suddenly feel demanding. Gary believes that everybody has the power t...
#104 What To Do When You Get A Breakup Text Out Of The Blue From Your Husband Of 16 Years with Lisa Arends
October 25, 2017 01:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBLisa’s life felt like a movie gone bad when she received a text whilst on holidays from her husband of 16 years telling her the marriage was over. And that was the last piece of correspondence she ever had from her husband. After some digging Lisa found that her husband had been living a double life, he had manufactured a job he didn’t have, he fabricated an income, racked up a 6-figure debt and had married another woman therefore committing felony bigamy. Lisa felt completely alone, and s...
#103 How To Get Support You Need When You Are Breaking Up with Lisa Thomson
October 18, 2017 01:00 - 16 minutes - 14.9 MBIf you are thinking about going through or have gone through your divorce, Lisa Thomson’s books and blogs are a great source advice for divorce navigation and recovery. Lisa was married for 17 years when she took a deep look at why she was unhappy and faced the hard truth about what she needed to do to bring the joy back into her life. Lisa’s first book ‘The Great Escape; A Girl’s Guide To Leaving a Marriage’ provides practical how to tips and stories based on her personal experiences. It ...
#102 Divorce Does Not Have To Mean Your Life Is Over with Tanya Somerton
October 11, 2017 01:00 - 18 minutes - 17.1 MBSo often when you are experiencing a breakup, divorce or separation you feel like you are swimming in play dough, your arms are moving but you are going no where. In this episode Tanya Somerton explores the benefits of working with a life coach and stylist, about gaining clarity on problems and issues you may have found elusive, some of the stigmas surrounding divorce, her book ‘The jelly bean jar’, working with both men and women and much more. Tanya Somerton is a divorce expert who toget...
#101 How to Get Through The Divorce Process With An Army Of Angles with Tanya Somerton
October 04, 2017 01:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBTanya Somerton is a divorce specialist who together with her army of angles, navigate the divorce process to ensure the best possible outcome and framing the future success for clients that are going through a divorce. After experiencing the many challenges whilst going through her own divorce Tanya decided that the process should be more streamlined. She has developed a one-stop divorce shop where people only have to tell their story once and Tanya engages the necessary experts to work ou...
#100 How Do You Stop Loving Someone And Move On After Your Breakup And Should You Un-friend Your Ex On Social Media?
September 27, 2017 02:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBThis is Breakup Recovery’s 100th episode where I asked listeners to send in the questions that they wanted me to cover in this special episode. I shared my insights, tips and strategies on a number of topics ranging from ‘how do you stop loving some one so much?’, ‘how do I move on’, ‘should I follow them on social media’ and ‘the importance of you’. There are so many emotions that are going through your body after a breakup. You are possibly stuck and don’t know how to move forward, that ...
#099 You Can Have A Happy Life After Leaving A Sociopath with Stacy Brookman
September 20, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 16.1 MBAfter enduring a lengthy, stressful and difficult divorce from her sociopath husband, Stacy Brookman enrolled in a memoir class that changed her life forever. Stacy found when writing her crazy stories down on a piece of paper, she was able to gain clarity about her situation and work out the necessary steps she had to take in order to recover and move on from her breakup. Writing out your stories after a traumatic and harrowing life situation, can give you insights into what has happened ...
#098 The Optimist’s Guide To Divorce with Jill Sockwell
September 13, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 15.6 MBJill Sockwell and her co-author Suzanne Riss were both divorced and looking for advice that was uplifting, and inspiring. Answers that were realistic and true to life that they themselves could put into place so they could navigate this challenging process called divorce. They couldn’t find this advice or the resources to match their requirements, so they wrote their book ‘The Optimist’s Guide To Divorce’, which is a ‘how-to’ for people going through a divorce. Jill describes the divorce p...
#097 How To Start Loving Yourself Again After A Breakup with Orion Talmay
September 06, 2017 02:00 - 19 minutes - 17.4 MBOrion went through her own dark moments in life after her breakup from a very abuse partner. She was in a state of depression that lasted years until she found her own way to mend her heart and regain her strength. One of the strategies Orion shared in this podcast was mirror work. A very powerful approach that boosts your self-confidence and increases the love for yourself. Orion also explored some of the mistakes that single women can make when looking for love again, as well as the impo...
#096 Quick Effective Solutions That Work To Eliminate Stress And Overwhelm After a Breakup with Stephanie Dalfonzo part 2
August 30, 2017 02:00 - 24 minutes - 22.1 MBStephanie Dalfonzo offers some practical exercises that can quickly break up and change habits that are causing you to feel overwhelmed, stressed and anxious. Using these simple yet effective strategies and techniques can help bring you out of depression and into the present moment. Doing things differently does not have to be complicated, long or big, they just have to be of value. Like the restorative yoga pose of legs up the wall, even thought it’s a passive pose, combine it with controll...
#095 How To Find Ways to Cope With Despair And Stress After A Breakup with Stephanie Dalfonzo part 1
August 23, 2017 02:00 - 22 minutes - 21 MBIn times of crisis such as a breakup you need to find techniques and ways to deal with your emotions, if you don’t it is very easy to fall deeper into despair. Its not easy to move on when you are experiencing grief, stress and anxiety. In this episode Stephanie Dalfonzo explores the three P’s of pessimism that will keep you in a negative state of mind if you don’t work on making the simple shifts in your thought process to create lasting changes for the better. When you are going through ...
EP#094 How To Accept The Relationship Is Over
August 16, 2017 02:00 - 15 minutes - 14.5 MBAccepting that your relationship is over and making the necessary adjustments to your life can be difficult. It’s human nature to resist change and to cling to comfort. However the more you resist the breakup, the harder it will be to heal and move on and the easier it will be to fall into depression and anxiety. Learning how to accept a breakup you didn’t want or expect doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to being single or unhappy for the rest of your life. In this episode I offer som...
EP#093 How To Achieve The Best Outcome For You When You Are Breaking Up with Karen Covy
August 09, 2017 02:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MBKaren Covy is a divorce advisor, mediator, lawyer and divorce coach and her number one tip for people who are going through a divorce is to understand and educate yourself on what you are facing at the front end of your breakup so you will make better decisions during the process. In this episode Karen also shares the top three fears people experience when they are going through their breakups. Fear of not having enough money, fear of how the breakup will affect the children and fear that th...
EP#092 Tips For The Single Parent with Julia Hasche from Single Mother Survival Guide
August 02, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 15.7 MBJulia’s number one tip for women who have broken up with their partners is to join a single parent or a single mum’s group. These groups will give you insights and help and support you through and beyond your breakup. Julia’s podcast is another great resource for single parents and was created to assist newly single mothers in all things they need to know about been single. Subjects range from sex, dating and relationships, helping your children through the separation, interviews with other ...
EP#091 How Long Does It Take To Get Over Your Breakup with Otto Collins
July 26, 2017 02:00 - 19 minutes - 18.1 MBMen often pretend that everything is ok when they are going through a breakup. They don’t want others to know that they are in fact hurting and unhappy and their life is a misery. Their world is falling apart and the negative and unhelpful story they are telling themselves will only keep them from moving forward. Otto explains that if you can sit with your emotions and feel them, don’t push them away of bury them they will pass. In time you will realise that the healing has begun, you are mo...
EP#090 How To Pick Yourself Up After A Breakup
July 19, 2017 02:00 - 15 minutes - 13.7 MBLiving through a breakup can be stressful, it can be daunting and it can be emotionally draining. Your thoughts are overwhelming as you struggle to think of positives in your life. So how do you pick yourself up after your breakup, how do you dig yourself out of the big dark hole you find yourself in? How can you change the negative story you keep telling yourself? In this episode I offer suggestion to do just that, to change the way you think and act, to bring happiness and joy back in your...
EP#089 Tools To Make Co-Parenting And Blended Families Work Successfully After A Breakup with Rosalind Sedacca
July 12, 2017 02:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBA breakup doesn’t mean the end of parenting obligations and as much as co-parenting is complex it is a process that can be done so long as the channels of communication are kept open, a certain level of respect is observed and the focus of attention is on the well being of the children. One of the tools Rosalind mentioned is an on line scheduling tool that eliminates a lot of the conflict between parents as it details the children’s activities, appointments and schedules find out more @ http...
EP#088 How To Be A Successful Single Mom/Dad After Your Breakup with Honoree Corder
July 05, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 16.4 MBHow do you go from being a hot mess to creating the life your want after your breakup? In her books, her blog and her program Honoree provides the formula for victory for single moms and dads so that they can find success, find new love, cook healthy meals and find a general sense of happiness. Self-acceptance and self love is the first step in attracting the life for yourself and your children. Find more about the Single Moms & Dads books @ http://honoreecorder.com/single-moms/
EP#087 How To Navigate Grief & Loss For Yourself And You’re Children After A Breakup with Ali Wilks
June 28, 2017 02:00 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MBThere are so many challenges associated with dealing with the grief and loss you are feeling after your breakup. Not only do you have to navigate this process but often you have to help and support your children through this difficult time. Ali explores some ideas and strategies to not only help you but others that may be having difficulty accepting the changes that are occurring. We also discussed how keeping the children out of the conflict would help them to manage the major adjustments. ...
EP#086 How To Ease The Pain Of A Breakup
June 21, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 15.8 MBThe ending of a relationship can be traumatizing and comes with negotiations and compromises as you navigate the separation process. In this episode I explore some strategies that will help ease this hurt in order for you to have a more painless breakup. So if your emotions are all over the place and you are feeling overwhelmed, depressed and anxious listen to this podcast so you can gain some strategies and ideas so that you can feel that you can cope and handle anything that comes your way...
EP#085 How To Get Over A Cheating Partner – with CJ Grace
June 14, 2017 02:00 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MBIn this episode I talk with CJ Grace about how to get over the shock of infidelity a subject that CJ knows all to well and has written a book and many articles on this very subject. CJ believes that the best revenge is to get past wanting revenge and using the shock of infidelity to trigger positive transformation in your life. CJ’s book ‘Adulterer’s wife how to thrive whether you stay or not’ and her blog can be found at her web site www.adultererswife.com
EP#084 How To Stop That Inner Voice Beating Yourself Up - With Rene Brent
June 07, 2017 02:00 - 15 minutes - 14 MBBreaking up can rip open old wounds from childhood and its not until you release some of those false beliefs and perceptions that you can move forward with happiness. Rene shares some techniques she had successful used to stop that inner voice validating why you should stay in a place of hurt and anger, stop that merry go round and reframe those negative false beliefs to unsure a joyful life. Find out more about Rene Brent @ PracticeHappyNow.com
EP#083 Can You Be Friends With Your Ex After A Breakup?
May 31, 2017 02:00 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MBEnding a relationship on any terms can be painful, especially when you’ve invested a lot of time and emotional energy into it. In this episode I explore some of the reasons why you can’t be friends with your ex due to circumstances and events that have happened. I also look at why it would be beneficial for you to at least have a friendly relationship because of certain situations that are unavoidable and children that will tie you to that person for a very long time. I talk about how import...
EP#082 How To Turn The Pain Of A Breakup Into The Life You Deserve with Honoree Corder
May 24, 2017 02:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MBHonoree is very good at helping people move through the process of divorce with their integrity and self-esteem still in tact. She talked about how to stop the war with yourself and to realise that hoping things will get better is not a strategy that will help you to move forward. It’s about putting practical and constructive steps in place and making them work for you.
EP#081 Breaking up Can Introduce A Level Of Instability For The Children with Alanda Josey
May 17, 2017 02:00 - 19 minutes - 17.5 MBAlanda describes her breakup as one of the most painful and challenging process she has ever been through. The displacement for her children was regrettable. Listen to Alanda’s story as she took a leap of faith, took ownership of her decisions and learnt to trust her own judgment. She started her blog @ cocoamommy.com which is her journey of being a single mom, the challenges of parenting, divorce and much more.
EP#080 How To Heal The Emotional Pain Of Heartbreak After A Breakup with Patty Blue Hayes
May 10, 2017 02:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBPatty’s 12-week audio program ‘You Can Heal Your Heartbreak’ supports women on their healing journey. Her book ‘My Heart Is Broken. Now What?’ offers 12 practices for healing the emotional pain of heartbreak. It can be a bumpy path of healing and we all want the answers to the question of ‘how to get through this excruciating pain?’ Patty suggest that people not be afraid of their emotions. Its best to recognize, feel, express and release and its something we shouldn’t have to struggle throu...
EP#079 You Can’t Get Through Your Breakup Alone And You Shouldn’t Have To with Amy Botwinick
May 03, 2017 02:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBThere are so many challengers to deal with after a breakup. It takes courage to start a new life when you feel vulnerable, overwhelmed and scared. This is where Amy Botwinick can help as she assists people to find the bravery within and to look for the smart ways to move forward by building a strong team to surround and support you through this difficult process. Amy has written a book 'Congratulations On Your Divorce The Road To Finding Your Happily Ever After’ and co-author of ‘Divorce Par...
EP#078 What Can You Look Forward To After A Breakup?
April 26, 2017 02:00 - 22 minutes - 20.7 MBWhen you are going through a breakup the idea that you have something to look forward to can seem impossible. You can get caught up in the intense feelings of unhappiness and sadness as you deal with the stresses and decisions that breaking up with your expartner brings. However this episode explores some of the things you can look forward to and steps you can put in place so you can enjoy your life again and look forward to happiness and joy
EP#077 How To Make Co-Parenting Work After A Breakup with Rosalind Sedacca
April 19, 2017 02:00 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MBCo-parenting is a life long process that involves maturity and sensitivity for both parents. Rosalind suggests that if you think of yourselves as a co-parenting team you will have a better chance of making the transition and adjustment for the children much better post breakup. Children thrive more when they are surrounded with harmony and love. Find out more about Rosalind Sedacca @ http://www.childcentereddivorce.com
EP#076 Infidelity with the Au Pair Ended A 16-Year Marriage with Abi Shepherd
April 12, 2017 02:00 - 16 minutes - 15.1 MBAbi’s honest account of her mental health issues, her husband of 16 years leaving her for their Au Pair and finally finding her passion gives everybody hope that happiness and fulfillment can be found after a devastating breakup. Abi writes in her blog about divorce, separation, mental health and parenting subjects to name but a few and can be found at www.muminahurry.com
EP#075 How Julia Left A Controlling Partner When She Was Pregnant with Julia Hasche
April 05, 2017 02:00 - 17 minutes - 15.9 MBIt wasn’t until Julia saw herself in the eyes of other people after an ugly interruption at her work place by her partner that the reality set in that his behavior was both inappropriate and not normal. Even though Julia found her self-pregnant she gained the strength to leave the emotionally abusive and controlling relationship
EP#074 How To Heal From A Broken Heart After Your Breakup with Susie & Otto Collins
March 29, 2017 01:00 - 20 minutes - 19 MBSusie and Otto Collins are two people who have been there and done that. Along with working as relationship coaches, mentors and speakers, they have written many books to help people through their breakups including ‘How To Heal Your Broken Heart’. In this episode we cover a variety of subjects from how going through a breakup is normal but it doesn’t feel or seem normal to how both Susie and Otto helped each other heal from their own painful breakups. You can find out more information about...
EP #073 How To Stop Feeling Rejection After A Breakup
March 22, 2017 01:00 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBThe intensity of the negative emotion of rejection after a breakup can be all consuming. It can be difficult to put this pain aside and concentrate on healing from the hurt and begin the journey of moving forward with your life. Don’t let these feelings of rejection take away the happiness in your life instead use this time to reconnect with you and what you want from your life from now on.
EP#072 Healing The Pain Of A Breakup With Poems with Paula Groothuis
March 15, 2017 01:00 - 16 minutes - 15 MBAfter two failed marriages and years of crying Paula sought the therapy that would help her to move forward with her life. She set about finding spiritual healings that restored her love of life, healed her pain and accept who she really was. Writing poems for her book was a way to express her feelings and Paula shared a few of these in our interview. You can contact Paula @ pgoo@optonline,net
EP#071 Divorce Can Lead To A Suicide Attempt with Patty Blue Hayes
March 08, 2017 01:00 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBPatty’s 17-year marriage had devolved into emotional and substance abuse, and the shock of infidelity left her feeling vulnerable, crushed and broken. Her emotional pain became her physically pain and when she attempted to take her life she added feelings of shame and humiliation. Patty turned all of this into a successful book ‘Wine Sex and Suicide My Near Death Divorce’ and coaching business. You can get more info about Patty @ http://www.pattybluehayes.com
EP#070 How To Stop That Feeling That Your Divorce Is All-Negative with Dr. Kevin Karlson
March 01, 2017 01:00 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MBDr. Kevin Karlson is an expert in divorce litigation and recovery and helps people navigate through the emotional, legal, financial and physical aspects of the divorce process. Most people can feel overwhelmed with what has to be done and how little they know on how to get through the legal procedures. It’s easy to take a few steps forward and ten steps backwards. Read more from Dr. Kevin @ http://www.drkevinkarlson.com
EP #069 Are You Ready To Move On After Your Divorce? With Vanessa Gaboleiro
February 22, 2017 01:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBVanessa Gaboleiro is a divorce transformation mentor who helps recently divorced women recreate their lives. At a time when all her friends were getting engaged Vanessa was getting a divorce and it was through this experience that Vanessa developed the tools and strategies to help and guide women on their paths of self discovery. You can connect with Vanessa @ http://vanessag.me
EP #068 How Do You Tell The Children You're Breaking Up with Rosalind Sedacca
February 15, 2017 01:00 - 17 minutes - 15.8 MBRosalind Sedacca is a divorce, parenting, dating and relationship coach. In this episode we talk about how parents can handle their breakups with out damaging or scaring their children on a deep emotional and psychological level. Rosalind’s work includes helping to educate parents to make wise decisions so they can move through their breakups in the best possible way. Download free resources from her website @ http://www.childcentereddivorce.com
EP #067 Can There Be Any Positives After A Breakup?
February 08, 2017 01:00 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MBYou can often get stuck thinking about all the things that are going wrong, all the things that aren’t going your way, the pain and anguish you are feeling and all the things you want to change after your breakup. It can be difficult to find anything positive, anything that is going your way and anything to look forward to. In this episode I explore ways to rethink your breakup and turn your thought process around.
EP #066 How To Stop Feeling Lonely And Isolated After A Breakup
February 01, 2017 01:00 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MBA breakup can lead to feelings of loneliness as you struggle with all the emotions you are feeling. Isolating yourself from the rest of the world is a common practice of people who are going through a breakup, as self-doubt and uncertainly take over. In this episode I offer some tips and ideas to help you overcome locking yourself away from the world that surrounds you.
EP #065 How To Manage A Narcissistic Expartner After A Breakup
January 25, 2017 01:00 - 15 minutes - 14.4 MBBreakups are stressful enough without the challenge of having to deal with a narcissist expartner. Not all narcissists are the same however in this episode I share some techniques, tips and ideas so that you can take back your power and control and start your journey of recovery after your breakup.
EP #064 Do Quotes About Breaking Up Make You Feel Better?
January 18, 2017 01:00 - 14 minutes - 13.7 MBA lot has been said and written about the power of using quotes to change your self-talk, to inspire you to see things differently and to help you through a dark period in your life such as a breakup. In this episode we explore some of the most popular quotes and the meanings behind them to see if they will help you to see your situation in a more positive note.
EP #063 Struggling To Move on After Your Breakup
January 11, 2017 01:00 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MBStruggling to move on after your breakup is something that many people experience. Breakups often leave you feeling hurt and angry. Your emotions are all over the place as you battle to see a way forward. In this podcast episode I offer strategies and tips to help you regain your confidence so that you feel stronger and more able to find solutions to your problems.