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#70: What if I Can't Get Better [Student Highlight]

You're doing your healing process (or you're thinking about starting) and you have this fear about what if I can't get better? What if this is all I will ever be? What if I try to change but don't actually improve? This can make you feel defeated before you even start. In this episode, we're going to talk about what those pauses mean and how they are actually proof of your improvement.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my ...

#69: The 4 Types of Love Addicts

Not all intimacy disorders are created equal. In this podcast episode, we talk about the 4 different types of love addicts! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT...

#68: Mindfulness & Healing Your Trauma f Valerie Ritchie

When healing the trauma that causes disruption in how we connect to others and ourselves, we have to start with paying attention to our bodies and what is it that we truly need. Mindfulness is a tool that will help us get there. Join me and guest expert Valerie Ritchie as we talk more about the importance of incorporating mindfulness in healing our trauma.  Follow Valerie Ritchie IG: @vibrantlifecollectivebyval Website: https://www.vibrantlifecollective.com/ Ready to heal your Love Addi...

#67: When You're the Friend Who Can't Get it RIght

Are you the friend who constantly has relationship issues and you can't get it right? Feeling some shame about it and as if you're permanently flawed? You don't have to feel that way. This one is for you!   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the ...

#66: Changing and Learning New Lessons

In our life, we are GOING to change, and we have to adjust with those transitions along with learn the lessons that stage is trying to teach us.  We dig into this concept more along with practicing humility and owning your power.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast...

#65: You're Worth It (Student Highlight)

In this episode, we have a student highlight and then focus on the fact that YOU are worth it and the stories that may get in the way of us believing it.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs ...

#64: Stop Testing Yourself

In this episode, we talk about walking the fine line of going back to old behaviors (and relationships) to test yourself and see if you've healed.... and basically why you shouldn't do that.  Take a listen to dig into this hot topic!   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podc...

#63: Take Your Time

We can be impatient with our healing process, but it's so important for us to take our time.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website...

#62: Therapy vs Coaching When Healing From Love Addiction

If you are wanting to do coaching while you do therapy or vice versa to heal from love addiction, this episode is for you.  Shena breaks down the different responsibilities and roles of your therapist versus your coach when healing from your intimacy disorder.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or...

#61: The Four Communication Styles with Kourtney Dubois

Let's talk about how we communicate and where it comes from! In this podcast episode, we talk with Relationship Coach Kourtney Dubois about how to communicate in a healthy way and the three styles that may keep us stuck.   Connect With Our Guest CoachMeKourtney.com/ Take the Communication Style Quiz Instagram: @CoachMeKourtney_ 10% off any service or package with the code: BGH   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my sign...

#60: Grieving Who You Thought They Were

When you have to face the truth of a relationship, you will experience some sadness. We dig into that truth in this week's episode.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements...

#59: Grieving Who You Thought They Were

When you have to face the truth of a relationship, you will experience some sadness. We dig into that truth in this week's episode.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Register for the Self Love Experience – Enroll Now Recovery School Waitlist – Join the List Start Your Own Healing Circles – BlackGirlHealingCircles.com FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN...

#59: Why They're Treating You the Way They're Treating You

You were so in love, but things have changed.  Y'all were best friends, but now it feels like she betrayed you.  And while things change in relationships all of this time, this was one where you didn't expect it to be this way. It's totally blind-sided you.  In this episode, we're going to talk about why they're treating you the way they're treating you.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to hel...

Special Announcement: The Black Girl Healing Circle Directory is Now Live!

If you're ready to start a healing circle and learn how to connect to other women, talk about intimacy, and build relationship with others, the Black Girl Healing Circle Directory is here! Search for women in your area, women who are wanting to start virtually only groups, and learn more about who you're connecting with.  Join for FREE by going to BlackGirlHealingCircles.com and get the free guide. 

#58: Living A life With Regrets

Many of us can relate to having a few regrets. But what happens when you feel frozen by them and ruminate? In this episode, we talk about moving forward, making new meaning, and understanding that everything that is for you is for you! You have not missed your opportunity.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program,...

#56: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah)

Sometimes we deal with feeling empty and unsatisfied. Sometimes we don't even realize it! In this week's episode, we dive into exactly what feeling unsatisfied looks like and haw to heal from it. We speak with a current student of the Black Girls Heal Recovery School program and hear how this feeling presented its self in her life.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Register for the Self Love Intensive: blackgirlsheal.org/self-love Recovery School Waitlist: therecoveryschool.com/waitlist Sta...

#57: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah)

Sometimes we deal with feeling empty and unsatisfied. Sometimes we don't even realize it! In this week's episode, we dive into exactly what feeling unsatisfied looks like and haw to heal from it. We speak with a current student of the Black Girls Heal Recovery School program and hear how this feeling presented its self in her life.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced...

#56: Starting a Healing Circle

In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blackgirlshe...

#55: Starting a Healing Circle

In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Start Your Own Healing Circles – BlackGirlsHeal.org/HealingCircles Or BlackGirlHealingCircles.com FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group

#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)

A new episode Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blackgirlsheal.org Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlsheal Facebook...

#54: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)

#54: Practicing Gratitude (Even when It's Hard)

In this podcast episode, we talk about the importance of practicing regular gratitude especially in times of stress and turmoil.  FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group

#53: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing

When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who would be healthy fits to support your journey. FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group  

#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing

When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who would be healthy fits to support your journey. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upg...

#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness

We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial trauma.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announce...

#52: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness

We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial trauma.  FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group

#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)

Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well.  In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of my students in hopes it will help inspire you to get started as well.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? C...

#51: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)

Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well.  In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of my students in hopes it will help inspire you to get started as well.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Black Girls Heal Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join The Bonus Club Patreon Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls...

#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship

Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs a...

#50: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship

Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in relationships. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE How to Change Your Internal Magnet Masterclass - Click here to register [Free]  FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group   ...

BONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma

Racial trauma hits different. It goes deep, affects our bodies, and our peace.  In this episode, I talk about how it's been affecting me, and some resources I have found.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously anno...

#49: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's talk about how. We dig into that and 3 ways to keep ownership of your own healing.   The Black Girls Heal Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join The Bonus Club Patreon Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: ...

#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's talk about how. We dig into that and 3 ways to keep ownership of your own healing.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the ...

#48: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship

When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4 things to look out for and how it may be connected to your trauma. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Mother's Day Healing Workshop - Click here to get your ticket Saturday Night Lives – Click here to Save Your Seat Black Girls Heal Amazon Store - Click here to explore   MORE RESOURCES The Black Girls Heal Recovery School – TheRecovery...

#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship

When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4 things to look out for and how it may be connected to your trauma. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click he...

#47: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect

If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that relationship. Listen to 3 things that you must have in place to make sure both your heart and theirs is protected.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Saturday Night Lives – Click here to Save Your Seat The Black Girls Heal Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join The Bonus Club Patreon Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadma...

#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect

If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that relationship. Listen to 3 things that you must have in place to make sure both your heart and theirs is protected.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program...

#47: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People

Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions...

#46: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People

Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE [Free Event] Saturday Night Lives – Click here to Save Your Seat The Black Girls Heal Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join The Bonus Club Patreon Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirl...

#45: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response

Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay. Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and finding balance.      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Save your spot for our weekly Saturday Night Lives! Click here to register --> blackgirlsheal.org/snl Join the Bonus Club Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website:...

#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response

Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay. Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and finding balance.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously ...

#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice

In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blackgirl...

#44 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice

In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join the Healing Circle Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group

#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It

In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is!   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: Blac...

#43: A Reminder in Case You Need It

In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is!   Let's Work Together! Book a Free Discovery Call - Click here to set up a time The Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join the Healing Circle Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls Heal Facebook Group

#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors

In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be tempted to go to unhealthy coping mechanisms.  This episode will focus on showing up as your best self and not using relationships to cope with triggers.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled...

#42: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors

In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be tempted to go to unhealthy coping mechanisms.  This episode will focus on showing up as your best self and not using relationships to cope with triggers.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Schedule your free discovery call – Click Here Join the Black Girls Heal Bonus Club – Click here Cardi B Coronavirus Remix   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Ins...

#41: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled

We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode!     MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Core Beliefs Download Work With US! The Recovery School – TheRecoverySchool.com Join the Healing Circle Membership FREE DOWNLOAD The 5 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal_ Facebook: Black Girls Heal Website: Blackgirlsheal.org JOIN THE CONVERSATION Black Girls ...

#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled

We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacement...

#41: Is Shame Controlling You?

In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be projecting your shame. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously a...