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Beat Your Genes Podcast

367 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 422 ratings

Let's look at life through the lens of our ancestors. Our instincts were shaped by their struggles in an environment much different than our current environment. Our instincts haven't changed much but our environment has changed dramatically. We blend the science of evolutionary psychology with the clinical experience of Doug Lisle, PhD to explore common problems and stumbling points in our pursuit of happiness.

New episodes come out Wednesdays at 8:30 PST. If you have a question or comment, or maybe even a complicated situation that you'd like some advice on, feel free to call us and leave a voicemail at (714) 900-2601 or send in a question through www.BeatYourGenes.org

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Episodes

109: What can our behavior signal to a romantic partner?

March 22, 2018 03:30 - 33 minutes - 30.9 MB

Questions for tonight are as follows: A listener's husband spends money on certain displays but not others - what does it mean? How does a 10-year married couple navigate being swingers when one of them no longer wants to do it?  Why do some men feel guilty or nervous about Valentine's Day? Why do romantic partners act surprised when their spouse/partner leaves despite threatening to do so for a long time? Why does it feel so devastating when a spouse cheats?

108: Punishing children, advice to psychology students, cynical from evo psych..

March 15, 2018 03:30 - 46 minutes - 42.5 MB

Questions today are about: Influencing children - how does punishment work? Advice to psychology students who want to learn evo psych in a school that teaches conventional psychology Phobias like snakes, heights, etc.. are briefly explored Brief question regarding Big Five personality and how/if those traits can change as we age and gain status. Sharing evolutionary psychology knowledge in social settings. Getting cynical from evolutionary psychology - accepting the tragic view of existence.  

107: Bullying, Job satisfaction, Changing careers

March 08, 2018 04:30 - 58 minutes - 53.4 MB

Listener questions today are: 1.  Pediatrician has overweight child patients that get picked on at school.  Asking for advice on what to tell them.  2. Job satisfaction - should people select their job based on their own IQ, conscientiousness, and stability?   3.  Stay-at-home mom has finished raising her kids and now wants to do something that makes her feel productive.  Her family, on the gravy train because of all that she does for them is giving her push back.  She's a little stuck betwee...

106: Dreams, Meditation, Listener calls in

March 01, 2018 04:30 - 53 minutes - 49.2 MB

Dreams, Meditation, Listener calls in about a childhood question

105: Personality traits of 'alpha' males, advice to women dating 'alpha' males

February 22, 2018 04:30 - 55 minutes - 50.8 MB

A news article sprinkles in evolutionary psychology when explaining why people are purchasing certain electronics.  We will review the alpha/beta male dynamics, discuss the typical personality traits of alpha males, and shed some light on what women should consider when dating the 'alpha' male.  We also have a listener who calls in asking for advice about a family conflict.

104:Helping mom out, Closing an open-loop

February 15, 2018 04:30 - 1 hour - 56.9 MB

Helping mom out, Closing an open-loop

103: Family conflict turns into 8 years of unresolved rumination

February 08, 2018 04:30 - 1 hour - 55.9 MB

We start the show with an update from a listener who took Dr. Lisle's advice last year.    We had a caller on hold looking to discuss her open-loop - Our caller had a falling out with her family 8 years ago, then her father passed away of cancer, she has now been estranged from them for years and is looking to get clarity on the situation.

102: Relationships, Time in Womb, Free Will, Evo Psych of Bad Teeth

February 01, 2018 04:30 - 55 minutes - 50.6 MB

Relationships, Time in Womb, Free Will, Evo Psych of Bad Teeth

101: Neoteny, Why do women stay w men who don't love them, Asexuality

January 25, 2018 04:30 - 51 minutes - 46.7 MB

Neoteny, Why do women stay w men who don't love them, Asexuality

100: Special Episode: Getting Personal with Dr. Doug Lisle

January 18, 2018 04:30 - 1 hour - 58.9 MB

Getting Personal with Dr. Doug Lisle

99: Introvert socializing, happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Nature fallacy

January 11, 2018 04:30 - 1 hour - 55.8 MB

Socializing as an Introvert, Finding happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Appeal to nature fallacy

98: Evolutionary psychology in 2018

January 04, 2018 04:30 - 47 minutes - 43 MB

Evolutionary psychology in 2018

97: On-air session - Daughter is having health problems, what do we do?

December 28, 2017 04:30 - 32 minutes - 30 MB

97: On-air session - Daughter is having health problems, what do we do? 

96: 10 paid dates-what now? Societal expectations of parents, future of race

December 21, 2017 04:30 - 50 minutes - 45.8 MB

10 paid dates-what now?, Parenting with societal expectations,  the future of races

95: OCD, Jealousy, Over-working, and advice for a naturopath

December 14, 2017 04:30 - 1 hour - 55 MB

 OCD, Jealousy, Over-working, and advice for a naturopath

94: Dating on a diet, Painful memories, jealousy, working long hours

December 07, 2017 04:30 - 58 minutes - 53.2 MB

Continuing on with the questions from last week's show.   5. Is orthorexia real?  Does it apply to an actually health-promoting diet & lifestyle? 6. Dating while on a diet: How to bring it up without scaring your date away 7.  Painful memories: Why do they replay?  Why do they come up? 8. Do women naturally attempt to dominate men in long term relationships? 9. Jealousy 10. How much abuse can our bodies take from working long hours all our lives?

93: Relocating, Sexual Harassment current events, Dating on a diet, and more...

November 30, 2017 04:30 - 1 hour - 58.5 MB

Tonight's questions will be: 1. Follow up question for what the future will look like 2.  What to consider when relocating your life:  Near family, low cost of living, wild experiences, etc.. 3.  Sexual harassment allegations in the current news 4. Anxiety about transitioning to a healthy diet 5. Is orthorexia real?  Does it apply to an actually health-promoting diet & lifestyle? 6. Dating while on a diet: How to bring it up without scaring your date away 7.  Painful memories: Why do they rep...

92: What will the future look like?

November 16, 2017 04:30 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MB

What will the future look like?    

91: Live callers

November 09, 2017 04:30 - 47 minutes - 43.7 MB

Live callers

90: Saying sorry, Borderline personality, Multiple personality, politics

November 02, 2017 03:30 - 57 minutes - 52.7 MB

Saying sorry, Borderline personality, multiple personality, politics

89: Ex-husband & father of my kids is a sociopath. On-air session

October 26, 2017 03:30 - 52 minutes - 48.2 MB

Ex-husband & father of my kids is a sociopath. On-air session

88: Quitting vices: One by one or altogether? Helping your SO with their vices

October 19, 2017 03:30 - 50 minutes - 46.6 MB

Topics: Quitting vices one by one or altogether?  Helping your SO with their vices Why are students so stressed? Tips to deal with this. Standing up for yourself if you're highly agreeabl  

87: Psych of Halloween costumes, talking to yourself, modern technology

October 12, 2017 03:30 - 49 minutes - 45.5 MB

87: Psych of Halloween costumes, talking to yourself, modern technology

86: What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like, braces, alcohol addiction .

October 05, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 56.2 MB

What is a middle-of-the-bell-curve person like? and more listener questions

85:Is online dating worth it, qualifying for your spouse..

September 28, 2017 03:30 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MB

Is online dating worth it, qualifying for your spouse.. Article on online dating:  https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/30/science/for-couples-time-can-upend-the-laws-of-attraction.html

84: Building a community, Getting over an ex's past, non-sexual fetishes, & more

September 21, 2017 03:30 - 54 minutes - 49.5 MB

Building a community, Getting over an ex's past, non-sexual fetishes, & more

83: Q &A

September 14, 2017 03:30 - 47 minutes - 43.5 MB

Ep 83

82: Overcoming height/weight/financial differences while dating

September 07, 2017 03:30 - 43 minutes - 39.5 MB

Overcoming height/weight differences while dating

81: Questions for Dr. Lisle

August 31, 2017 03:30 - 54 minutes - 50.2 MB

episode 81

80: On-Air Session w Listener & Dr Lisle

August 24, 2017 03:30 - 56 minutes - 52 MB

On Air Session w Listener & Dr Lisle

79: Doing good, Overbearing parents, Does birth order matter, facing death

August 17, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 58.1 MB

Overbearing parents, Does sibling birth order matter, facing death

78: Google's memo controversy

August 10, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 56.9 MB

A google engineer wrote a memo explaining biological differences between men and women.  

77: Child prodigies, Cat-fishing, Being born w a deformity

August 03, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 55.5 MB

Child prodigies, Cat-fishing, Being born w  a deformity

76: Dating mind-games, Binge-eating

July 27, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 66.5 MB

Some fun listener questions 

75: Helping friends/family, self-confidence vs. self-esteem

July 20, 2017 03:30 - 54 minutes - 50.3 MB

Helping friends/family, self-confidence vs. self-esteem

74: Millenials

July 13, 2017 03:30 - 52 minutes - 47.6 MB

Millenials

73: Parenting styles, Millenials, Bringing back purpose

July 06, 2017 03:30 - 50 minutes - 46.5 MB

Parenting styles, Millenials, Bringing back purpose

72: Confidence, Intolerance, finding your purpose

June 29, 2017 03:30 - 49 minutes - 45.3 MB

We'll go over an interesting study, some listener emails/questions. 

71: Hard-wired: Nature vs. Nurture

June 22, 2017 03:30 - 58 minutes - 53.5 MB

Tonight's episode:  - Two recent studies  - Listener emails - A very funny caller with a great question

70: Finding your identity - an on-air session w Dr. Lisle and a listener

June 15, 2017 03:30 - 47 minutes - 43.7 MB

Dr. Lisle talks with a listener during an on-air session about life direction, identity, and finding happiness. 

69: Animal haters, Porn in LTR, Being a nicer person, Decision fatigue & Netflix

June 08, 2017 03:30 - 57 minutes - 52.5 MB

1.  If evolutionary psychology considers parental investment theory and the investment in kin as essential why do so many people in the West keep animals.  2.  I used to get really upset when my partner watched . I have relaxed and now feel like it's not the worst thing he can do and will not end my relationship so I shouldn't get upset. What do you think? 3.  Can a person's placing on the agreeability continuum be situational? I believe I am more or less disagreeable depending on the dynamic...

68: Explaining enablers, dating with psychiatric disorders, and having grit

June 01, 2017 03:30 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MB

 Explaining enablers, dating with psychiatric disorders, and having grit

67: About Dr. Lisle Part 2, Myths of Moderation when making health changes

May 25, 2017 03:30 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MB

Part 2 of Dr. Lisle's interview on Andrew Taylor's Spud Fit podcast.  He disusses the Myths of Moderation along with the Ego Trap with regards to making healthy lifestyle changes. 

66: About Dr. Doug Lisle

May 18, 2017 03:30 - 44 minutes - 40.3 MB

We'll get to know a little more about how Dr. Lisle became a psychologist and how he learned about evolutionary psychology.  This is Part 1 of a two-part interview.  Stay tuned next week for part 2. 

65: Finding your edge in life

May 11, 2017 03:30 - 47 minutes - 43.3 MB

I'll read a follow-up email with one of our listeners. And some fun questions from our listeners this week as well.  We will try to get to as many as possible.

64: Dealing with a Micromanager - An On-Air session with Dr. Lisle

May 04, 2017 03:30 - 37 minutes - 34.2 MB

Our caller just got a new job and his new supervisor insists on micromanaging everything he does.  

63: Marital jealousy, Distancing yourself, Self-limiting beliefs,and more...

April 27, 2017 03:30 - 42 minutes - 38.9 MB

Question we will try to get to: 1. Is the concept of self limiting beliefs the same as ego traps in evo psych? Why do these occur? 2.  My boyfriend and I are very nice people (very agreeable). Frustrating and funny at the same time. We have a problem figuring out what we want, since our first reaction is to please other people. But because we are not alone in the world, what happens a lot is that our decisions are made by others... We decided to try to have a baby. There is simply so much wri...

62: Making it to Date #2, Political Correctness, Self-Limiting Beliefs

April 20, 2017 03:30 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MB

Listener questions we will try to get to for today: 1. For a successful first date, Dr. Lisle said the goal is to not get ruled out.  I'm using online dating and it seems like every time that I've met a girl that meets my standards physically, we'll have a pretty good first date, but then when I try to set up another date I usually hear from them that they didn't feel a connection.  Based on what you guys talk about in your podcast it leads me to believe that what they're saying is an inoffen...

61: Marxism, Affairs, Video Games, Tattoo signaling

April 13, 2017 03:30 - 48 minutes - 44.5 MB

Marxism, Affairs, Video Games, Tattoo signaling

60: What if your mate rival drives a Porsche, Succeeding at job interviews

April 06, 2017 03:30 - 1 hour - 55.1 MB

What if your mate rival drives a Porsche, Succeeding at job interviews

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