Attached Podcast
91 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 months ago - ★★★★★ - 43 ratingsA podcast about the loved ones we’re attached to and the good, the bad, and the ugly advice about those relationships that maybe we shouldn’t be attached to. We here at Attached want to share ways to enhance your relationships and debunk bad relationship advice using science.
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Episodes
Season 2 ep 13: Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Find Me an Alternative!
March 02, 2021 21:48 - 55 minutes - 51.4 MBThis week we talk about the Netflix reality show Indian Matchmaker in Poppin’ Culture. Then in the Academic Deep Dive segment we talk about the article, “Romantic alternative monitoring increases ahead of infidelity and break-up, ” written by Drs. Lane Ritchie, Scott Stanley, Galena Rhoades, and Howard Markman at the University of Denver. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice we talk about an article from Very Well Family about advice about how to cope when people judge your parenting.
Season 2 Ep 12: Racism-Specific Support: the Influence of Partners to Buffer the Impact of Discrimination
February 16, 2021 19:26 - 1 hour - 60.2 MBThis episode was recorded on January 24th, 2021. After we record this episode, the host of the Bachelor, Chris Harrison, promoted and condoned racist ideas. We strongly condemn these ideas and call on Chris Harrison and the other producers of the Bachelor to root out the ideas and systems that are present in the show that promote white supremacy. In this episode, we discuss the academic article, “Racial Discrimination, Racism-Specific Support, and Self-Reported Health Among African America...
Season 2 Ep 11: Expecting the Best: Academic Resilience in Black Families
February 02, 2021 14:03 - 45 minutes - 41.8 MBIn this episode, we are celebrating Black History Month. In Poppin’ Culture we talk about misapplying science as demonstrated by the Documentary “The Vow". Next, in the Academic Deep Dive segment we discuss the article, “Expect the Best; Not the Worst: The Impact of Parental Expectation on Black Males’ Math Scores” by Dr. Lawrence Jackson and colleagues. Finally, for Good or Bad Advice we go over an article by Dr. White about how to talk to our children about racism. Academic Deep Dive: he...
Season 2 Ep 10: BridgerTON of success (but, keep it to yourself)?
January 19, 2021 13:56 - 57 minutes - 53 MBThis week we talk about Netflix’s SMASH hit Bridgerton and how it depicts destructive entitlement in Poppin’ Culture. In our Academic Deep Dive segment, we discuss a paper “Hiding Success” published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology by Annabelle Roberts and Dr. Emma Levine at the University of Chicago, and Dr. Ovul Sezer, at UNC Chapel Hill. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice, we discuss found on social media. Article: HERE Advice: here, here, here, here, and here YouTube: ...
Season 2 Ep 9: Covid-19 and Working Moms
December 29, 2020 16:32 - 1 hour - 59.1 MBThis episode we first talk about The Cabin, a Netflix reality show and debunk the idea that in order to “find yourself” you much remove yourself from the people you love. Then in the Academic Deep Dive segment, we discuss the article: “When Paid Work Invades the Family: Single Mothers in the COVID-19 Pandemic” written by Dr. Rosanna Hertz at Wellesley College, Jane Mattes at Single Mother by Choice Organization in New York City, and Alexandria Shook at Yale, and was recently published in th...
Season 2 Ep 8: Operation Christmas Drop While Crying it Out
December 08, 2020 19:15 - 51 minutes - 47.9 MBThis episode we first discuss the Netflix Christmas RomCom “Operation Christmas Drop” in Poppin’ Culture. Then in the Academic Deep Dive Segment, we discuss the academic article, “Parental Use of ‘Cry it Out’ in Infants: No Adverse Effects on Attachment and Behavioural Development at 18 months,” written by Dr. Ayten Bilgin and Dr. Dieter Wolke at the University of Warwick in the UK. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice we reviewed the article: “How to Prevent Holiday Stress and Anxiety in Childre...
Season 2 Ep 7: Sleep with me!
November 24, 2020 12:42 - 42 minutes - 39 MBThis episode we first discuss the Bachelorette and how NOT to start a relationship in Poppin’ Culture. Then, in the Academic Deep Dive segment, we discuss the academic article, “Bed-sharing in Couples is Associated with Increased and Stabilized REM Sleep and Sleep-Stage Synchronization” by Dr. Henning Johannes Drews and colleagues. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice we discuss advice from social media.
Season 2 Ep 6: Advice: The Good, The Bad, and The Unwanted
November 10, 2020 16:55 - 59 minutes - 54.6 MBThis episode in Poppin’ Culture we talk about the epigenetic transmission of trauma in Netflix’s Haunting of Bly Manor. Then in the Academic Deep Dive segment, we discuss an article titled, “Adult Children’s Daily Experiences with Parental Advice: The Importance of Life Problems and Relationship Quality,” written by Dr. Haowei Wang and colleagues. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice we discuss advice from social media.
Politics & Parterships: An Election Day Mini-Pod Special
November 03, 2020 13:14 - 39 minutes - 36.1 MBThis election day special mini-pod we discuss the stress of the election and how to keep relationships (and yourself) healthy in the context of political differences. First, in the Academic Deep Dive segment we discuss the academic article, "Explaining the impact of differences in voting patterns on resilience and relational load in romantic relationships during the transition to the Trump presidency." Then, in Good or Bad Advice we discuss the NY TImes article, "Talking with Relative across...
Season 2 Ep 5: Double Double, Emotional Toil, and Trouble (Copy)
October 27, 2020 23:51 - 55 minutes - 51.3 MBIn this episode, Jacob leads by discussing how to be a good ally for our LGBTQIA loved ones when they’re coming out. Next, Sarah takes us on an Academic Deep Dive into a new study on emotional labor: “ The Psychological Toll of Emotion Work in Same-Sex and Different-Sex Marital Dyads,” written by a team led by Dr. Debra Umberson at UT Austin. Finally, Patricia brings us some relationship advice from Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok - all the social medias! We’re ready to rate it all Good or Ba...
Season 2 Ep 4: Just Some Normal People Trying to Get Unstuck
October 13, 2020 22:18 - 41 minutes - 38.5 MBThis episode Patricia talks about the Hulu show Normal People in Poppin’ Culture, and the healing power of supportive relationships. Next, Sarah breaks down the academic article, “Feeling Stuck: Exploring the Development of Felt Constraint in Romantic Relationships,” written by Dr. Tyler Jamison at the University of New Hampshire and Dr. Jonathon Beckmeyer at West Virginia University. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice, we discuss the qualities (and questionable advice) of the couple therapist o...
Season 2 Ep 3: To Bae or Not To Bae
September 29, 2020 16:43 - 59 minutes - 54.5 MBIn this episode, Jacob talks about the new Netflix show, Baewatch, in Poppin’ Culture, and what it may suggest for how to intentionally create closeness in relationships. Next, Sarah takes a deep dive into the academic article, “Negligible Evidence that People Desire Partners Who Uniquely Fit Their Ideals,” written by Dr. Jehan Sparks, at the University of Cologne, and colleagues. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice, we talk about several quotes and videos from social media - some are funny, some...
Season 2 Ep 2: I’ve Got Your Number: Enneagrams, Household Stress, and Step-Families
September 15, 2020 14:25 - 52 minutes - 48.4 MBIn this episode, Jacob discusses the pros and cons (spoiler: there are many cons) of Enneagrams. Sarah does a deep dive on the academic article, “ Parent’s Anxiety Links Household Stress and Young Children’s Behavioral Dysregulation,” written by Andrea Fields, Chelsea Harmon, Zoe Lee, and Dr. Nim Tottenham at Columbia University, and Dr. Jennifer Louie at Child Mind Institute. Finally, in Good or Bad advice, Patricia walks though advice about becoming a step-family from WebMD.
Season 2 Ep 1: Predictors of Healthy Relationships on TikTok
September 01, 2020 11:50 - 53 minutes - 49.4 MBIn the Season 2 opener, Jacob brings us a discussion of the new show Labor of Love in Poppin’ Culture. Sarah brings us an Academic Deep Dive discussing the article, “Machine Learning Uncovers the Most Robust Self-Report Predictors of Relationship Quality Across 43 Longitudinal Couples Studies,” written by Dr. Samantha Joel at Western University and 85 of her romantic relationship researcher colleagues. Finally, Patricia discusses Good or Bad Advice found on TikTok. Article: Here YouTube: ...
July Book Club: "The All-or-Nothing Marriage"
August 11, 2020 17:57 - 1 hour - 90.4 MBThis month we welcome Dr. Eli Finkel to talk about his book “The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work”
Episode 24: Does a Moira Rose by Any Other Name Smell Like Sleep?
July 07, 2020 15:05 - 53 minutes - 49.4 MBThis week we discuss the TV show Single Parents and the importance of constructing intentional narratives for our relationships. Then, we dive deep into the article, “The Scent of a Good Night’s Sleep: Olfactory Cues of a Romantic Partner Improve Sleep Efficiency,” written by Marlise Hofer and Dr. Frances Chen at the University of British Columbia. Recently published in the journal Psychological Science, these researchers explored how the smell of a loved one may affect sleep quality. Finall...
June Book Club: "The Relationship Cure"
June 30, 2020 17:19 - 57 minutes - 78.3 MBThis special episode is the first in a three-part mini-series of our Summer Book Club: ”The Relationship Cure" by John Gottman and Joan DeClaire.
Episode 23: Lean On Me: Lending a Hand, Putting in the Work, Reaping the Rewards
June 16, 2020 16:38 - 46 minutes - 43.7 MBThis week we're focusing on leaning on each other and putting the work into relationships. First up, Jacob discusses Too Hot to Handle on Netflix and the show's ability to show us how putting effort into your relationship can payout in improving it! Next, our Academic Deep Dive discusses research on getting support from family out of Rutgers Camden by Dr. Joan Mazelis and colleagues, published in NCFR’s Journal of Marriage and Family. The researchers study how low-income new parents activate...
Episode 22: Saying Sorry: What Makes For a Good Apology?
June 09, 2020 18:40 - 53 minutes - 49.7 MBThis episode we discuss “Feel Good” on Netflix in Poppin’ Culture. Then, in Academic Deep Dive we discuss the article titled “Apology and Restitution: The Psychophysiology of Forgiveness After Accountable Relational Repair Responses,” written by Dr. Charlotte Witvliet at Hope College and her colleagues Lindsey Luna, Everett Worthington Jr., and Jo-Ann Tsang. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice about making friends from The Guardian.
Episode 21: Listen to Your Heart (About Kids this Summer)
May 19, 2020 17:44 - 53 minutes - 49.9 MBIn this episode, we talk about a new reality show called, “Listen to Your Heart” and the importance of uniqueness within the couple during the Poppin’ Culture segment. In the Academic Deep Dive, we talk about, “Developmental changes in parental authority legitimacy and over-associations with adjustment” by Dr. Campione-Barr and colleagues. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice we talk about how to cope with kids in the summer and debunk advice from Messy Motherhood Youtube: https://youtu.be/V6a0LQ...
Episode 20: Relationships On a Role: The Good and the Bad of Changing Identities
May 05, 2020 16:53 - 55 minutes - 76.6 MBIn this episode, we first talk about the show Rami on Hulu about our larger family systems. Then in the Academic Deep Dive, we discuss an article about parenting, “Adult attachment and jealousy of the partner-infant relationship at the transition to parenthood” published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Finally, in Good or Bad Advice, we talk about ways to deal with a difficult Mother-in-Law. Academic Deep Dive:https://bit.ly/35B26hh Good or Bad Advice: https://bit.ly/2...
Episode 19: Getting aroused in the Ozark Mountains during Covid-19
April 21, 2020 14:37 - 53 minutes - 76.8 MBThis episode we talk about toxic marriages in the new season of Osark on Netflix. Then we talk about physical arousal (not what you thinking) in the academic deep dive segment. Finally, we wrap up with Good or Bad advice from TV and listeners.
Episode 18: Writing About What Makes A Good Marriage
April 07, 2020 17:44 - 48 minutes - 44.8 MBThis episode Jacob talks about the difference between Love Island and The Bachelor using SCIENCE! Then, in academic deep dive, Sarah breaks down the article “Expressive writing and marital satisfaction: A writing sample analysis”. Finally, in good or bad advice we really take to task an article about supposed characteristics of a healthy relationship. Academic Deep Dive: https://doi-org.proxy.lib.utk.edu/10.1111/fare.12416 Good or Bad Advice: https://markmanson.net/healthy-relationship-ha...
Episode 17: 6 Feet Away... Yet, So Close Together (Coping with Covid)
March 24, 2020 13:32 - 50 minutes - 46.3 MBThis episode we talk about many many ways to stay connected during social distancing and ways to care for our mental health. In Popping Culture we discuss how to maintain boundaries with consuming screen time, Next, we discuss an article about “walking contemplation” strategies and their effects on decreasing anxiety and improving well-being. In Good or Bad advice we provide strategies people sent in about how to cope with Covid-19 social distancing. Academic Deep Dive: https://link.springe...
Episode 16: Love is Blind: What about Loneliness and Distance?
March 10, 2020 17:32 - 56 minutes - 77 MBBecome a member of our ATTACHED and help us keep producing content by signing up at our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/attachedpodcast This week we’re back to discussing relationships in pop culture via Love is Blind - What can we learn from netflix’s new reality show? You know Jacob has some words of wisdom. Then, in this week’s Academic Deep Dive, we break down a new study in Family Relations by Dr. Anne-Elina Salo and colleagues investigating different types of loneliness in chil...
Episode 15: Helping for the Rainy Days of Grief
February 25, 2020 14:58 - 58 minutes - 85.1 MBThis week we welcome a new expert Kate Seamons to talk about grief and bereavement and her company Rainy Day Boxes. In Poppin’ Culture we discuss grief and father-son relationships with the show Modern Family. Then, in this week’s Academic Deep Dive, we break down a new study in Psychosomatic Medicine by Dr. Richard Lopez and colleagues investigated how individuals’ specific emotion regulation strategies in the face of losing their partner were associated with problematic inflammation. La...
Episode 14: Variety - not Drama - is the Spice of Life
February 11, 2020 20:37 - 45 minutes - 62.6 MBThis week we’re back to discussing relationships in pop culture via The Bachelor - how does Pilot Pete’s need to rescue others begin to shape relationships across the show? And, what does it tell us about how we may enter into drama triangles with people in our own lives? Then, in this week’s Academic Deep Dive, we break down a new study in the Journals of Gerontology: Social Sciences by Dr. Karen Fingerman and colleagues investigating whether social integration (involvement in a diverse col...
Episode 13: Relationship Tune Ups: Checking In Before It’s Too Late
January 28, 2020 15:56 - 1 hour - 105 MBThis episode we have special guest Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon! Dr. Gordon shares her expertise on couple therapy, joins us for a discussion about Netflix's Sex Education, and leads our Academic Deep Dive with a recent article of hers describing a Relationship Checkup intervention. We also discuss advice people get when they learn about their partner's infidelity - good, or bad? Link to article: bit.ly/2RZuNhg Link to advice: bit.ly/2RUTtHY Link to Atlantic article about Sex Education: bit.l...
Episode 12: Team Work Makes the Dream Work - Building Connection and Cohesion through Fun and Family Time
January 14, 2020 17:10 - 1 hourThis episode we discuss the dating implication of the reality show Flirty Dancing. Then we discuss an academic article from the Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy. Finally, we discuss advice listeners sent in about a movie quote from Netflix’s Set It Up and about creating good sibling relationships.
Episode 12: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work: Building Connection & Cohesion Through Fun and Family Time
January 14, 2020 17:10 - 1 hour - 88.6 MBThis episode, we’re talking about teamwork, and shared experiences! Our pop culture segment focuses on building trust and connection by getting out of your comfort zone and creating shared fun experiences, via the new reality show Flirty Dancing. Then we discuss new research published in the Journal of Marriage and Family that explores the role of leisure time for parents. Finally, we discuss advice listeners sent in from Netflix’s film Set It Up and about sibling relationships. Link to aca...
Episode 11: The Many Languages of Love
December 17, 2019 22:43 - 1 hour - 87.7 MBThis episode we talk about the many languages of love. First, we discuss communicating by technology and its effects on family boundaries via the new Amazon show The Feed. Then, in the Academic Deep Dive, we discuss a new research study by Annelise Murphy and colleagues about the potential benefits of consensual non-monogamy (opening up romantic relationships), and the need for intentional decision-making. Finally, we evaluate the listener-submitted 5 Love Languages and whether the book refl...
Episode 10: MINI-POD - The Knight before Christmas with a View for Noelle
December 10, 2019 17:26 - 29 minutes - 40 MBThis episode we talk about the wonderful world of Christmas Movies and why we hate to love them. We talk about The Knight Before Christmas produced by Venessa Hudgens, Christmas with a View from Nextflix, and Noelle from Disney Plus. Happy Christmas Movies to ALL!!
Episode 9: You Gotta Keep 'em Separated
December 03, 2019 16:01 - 53 minutes - 73 MBThis episode we focus on separation, and discuss the importance of intentional breakups with another dive into a Temptation Island couple. Next, we talk about new research in the journal Demography, “Repartnering Following Gray Divorce: The Roles of Resources and Constraints for Women and Men,” by Drs. Brown, Lin, Hammersmith, and Wright. Lastly, we debate relationship advice from Will Smith about who’s responsible for your happiness - you or your partner - as well as advice to create separa...
Episode 8: You & Me & We: The Power of Positivity in Relationships, And Its Limits
November 19, 2019 14:40 - 57 minutes - 78.5 MBIn this episode we talk about the importance of expressing emotion in relationships, unlike a very specific couple on Temptation Island. Then, we do an Academic Deep Dive into the concept of “capitalization,” and the power of sharing good news with your friends and family, in a new study published by Dr. Ariela Pagani and colleagues in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Finally, we talk about two pieces of relationship advice: whether to turn lemons into lemonade (spoiler alert: pre...
Episode 7: MINI-POD - Bloodlines or Lovelines: Who Matters More for Health?
November 07, 2019 11:26 - 49 minutes - 67.5 MBIn our first ever MINI episode, we discuss brand new research done by…us! In an Academic Deep Dive, we talk about a study (out today in the Journal of Family Psychology) in which we tested whether the quality of family relationships and intimate partnerships is linked to physical health over 20 years of adulthood, with surprising findings! We also talk about advice for how to deal with difficult family members. Link to article: bit.ly/36Gnth8 Link to advice: bit.ly/32jkZSA
Episode 6: Commitment Tests, Gratitude Mismatches, and Long Distance: Tempting Fate!
November 05, 2019 20:00 - 1 hour - 82.6 MBThis episode we talk about why NOT to test your relationship commitment like the couples on Temptation Island. Then, we dive deep into an article about gratitude, relationship satisfaction, and the risk of gratitude mismatch, published in APA’s Journal of Family Psychology. Finally, we talk about listener-submitted relationship advice regarding long-distance relationships. Link to article: bit.ly/2r9uDKy Link to advice: bit.ly/33wEyIk
Episode 5: Relationship Politics: Setting Boundaries Right, Left, and Center
October 22, 2019 14:12 - 53 minutes - 122 MBThis episode we talk about family roles in HBO’s Succession, and do an Academic Deep Dive into an article about the negative impact of politics on health and relationships, titled “Friends, relatives, sanity, and health: The costs of politics” in PLOS One. Finally, in the Good or Bad Advice segment, we discuss how to talk politics with family (if at all!), as well as some listener-submitted advice about creating relationships with “flowerers” and “gardeners,” and saying “no.” Link to articl...
Episode 4: Schitt's Creek, Therapy, and Netflix - OH MY!!!
October 08, 2019 19:36 - 57 minutes - 132 MBThis episode we talk about an article from Schitt’s Creek from the Atlantic during the Pop Culture segment: https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2019/09/schitts-creek-and-the-subtle-joy-of-the-marriage-sitcom/598540/. In the Academic Deep Dive segment we talk about how couples present to therapy with new research out of the Gottman Institute: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jmft.12395. Finally, in the Good or Bad Advice we talk about Netflix Cheating Advice from ...
Episode 3: Bachelor, Biden, and Babies - OH MY!!!
September 25, 2019 14:16 - 56 minutes - 77.2 MBThis episode we talk about the Bachelor in Paradise and Joe Biden in the Democratic Debates during the pop culture segment. Then in the academic deep dive, we discuss the article, "Intensive Mothers, Cautionary Tale Fathers: Adult Children’s Perceptions of Parental Influence on Health" by Dr. Kissing (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0192513X19875772). Finally, we review some advice from the Chicago Tribune about parenting advice (https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/parent...
Episode 2: Triangles, Sex, and Brides - OH MY!!!
September 18, 2019 19:42 - 56 minutes - 129 MBIn this episode, we talk about triangulation from Love Island - UK, an academic article from Dr. Labrecque et al. (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/famp.12472?casa_token=jc4OuY4Rp1gAAAAA:HvP2lzsERBwZEnpFIx9zqNcUs5_RqYwhHF-CUiUukJ2L7W8MXvKuL044L6AJgeDbenNmmR2u33bMoA), and advice from mothers to their daughter brides (https://www.businessinsider.com/best-marriage-advice-from-parents-2018-11).
Episode 1: Openness, Cognition, and Fatherly.com - OH, MY!
September 09, 2019 18:28 - 55 seconds - 127 MBThis episode’s article: The Cognitive Dimension of Household Labor - Allison Daminger, 2019https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122419859007?journalCode=asra This episode’s advice article: https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/7-signs-your-partner-is-losing-interest-in-you-and-how-to-win-her-back/