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Section 1, Chapter 1: Introduction: Facing the Problem
Intervention Workshop - March 29, 2019 16:00 - 10 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsJeff Jay and Debra Jay provide an introduction and overview of the Intervention Workshop. How can we come together as a family to help our addicted loved one get treatment? How can we avoid catastrophic consequences and raise the bottom to right now? Planning and preparation are critical. There ...
Section 1, Chapter 2: Underestimating the Problem
Intervention Workshop - March 28, 2019 16:00 - 7 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsFamilies often hope it's not really addiction (or substance use disorder). Different family members have different opinions, and that dilutes the power of love and family. By the way, family is whatever we define "family" to be. Addiction is a brain disease, and sometimes a brain injury. It wi...
Section 1, Chapter 3: Inside the addicted Brain
Intervention Workshop - March 27, 2019 16:00 - 9 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsDebra Jay takes you inside the addicted brain for an up-close look at the neurobiology of addiction. Addiction has been recognized as a disease since 1877, and it has been recognized as a disease by the American Medical Association since 1955. Addiction is not a learned behavior, or simply a w...
Section 1, Chapter 4: Myths and Misconceptions
Intervention Workshop - March 26, 2019 16:00 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsSubstance use disorders, alcoholism and drug addiction are widely misunderstood. They are often considered moral issues or failures of will power, or defects of character. These ideas are wrong. In this chapter, we explore the many myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction, and set the reco...
Section 1, Chapter 5: Enabling
Intervention Workshop - March 25, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsJeff Jay discusses the dynamics of enabling. Here he defines "innocent enabling," which happens when the family thinks there loved one is just going through a phase, and will grow out of their problem. Then he talks about "desperate enabling," when the family finally realizes their loved one has...
Section 1, Chapter 6: Detachment and the Brain
Intervention Workshop - March 24, 2019 16:00 - 9 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsDebra Jay describes the changes that happen inside the brains of family members and friends who are trying to deal with an active addict. How does unpredictable stress and unmanageability affect us? How does stress and fear affect the developing brains of children in the household? This podcasts...
Section 1, Chapter 7: Power of the Group
Intervention Workshop - March 23, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsWhy does 1-to-1 discussion seem fruitless with someone with a substance use disorder? Addicted people tend to keep friends and family off balance, telling different stories to different people, pitting one against another, and playing the blame game. When family and friends come together in a se...
Section 1, Chapter 8: Road to Integrity
Intervention Workshop - March 22, 2019 16:00 - 12 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsAddiction robs the individual of their integrity, causing them to lie to the people they love the most. But family members also lose their integrity. We say we won't stand for it anymore, but we do. We say we won't cover up or enable, but we do. the intervention process helps family members reco...
Section 2, An introduction: Step by Step
Intervention Workshop - March 21, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsStarting your intervention process. Choosing a detail person. Downloadable materials. How to find a good interventionist, getting referrals from top treatment provider. The necessity for planning carefully, and not cutting corners. When you need a professional: 1) history of suicide attempts, 2)...
Section 2, Chapter 1: Building Your Team
Intervention Workshop - March 20, 2019 16:00 - 17 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsWho should be on your intervention team? Who should not be on the intervention team? How to involve reluctant team members and bring them into process. Guidelines for when children (minimum age 12) can be involved. Tips for determining if an employer can be involved. How to work with an EAP or h...
Section 2, Chapter 2: Choosing Treatment
Intervention Workshop - March 19, 2019 16:00 - 10 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsChoosing treatment, choosing the right level of support, so your loved one has the greatest chance of success. Inpatient residential, intensive outpatient (IOP), halfway house or sober house. Local treatment or a national-level treatment center. Concerns with utilizing insurance. How to identify...
Section 2, Chapter 3: Writing Intervention Letters
Intervention Workshop - March 18, 2019 16:00 - 15 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsA guide to writing letters for an intervention, based on the book "Love First," by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay. Seven point process for writing intervention letters. Interventions should not be done off-handedly, with people making up what they want to say on the spot. Letters provide structure, and ...
Section 2, Chapter 4: Deciding on Bottom Lines
Intervention Workshop - March 17, 2019 16:00 - 12 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsMost people go to treatment on intervention day, about 85%. However, if we get a hard NO from our addicted loved one, there may be some natural consequences which will follow. At a minimum, we may look at the ways we've been enabling the problem to continue. Many alcoholics and addicts rely on t...
Section 2, Chapter 5: Brainstorming Objections
Intervention Workshop - March 16, 2019 16:00 - 7 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsIn many cases, the addicts objections to treatment may be the addiction fighting for its life, almost as though the addiction is a separate person. Two types of objections. 1) Substantial objections, such as work or family commitments, scheduling problems, legal matters. 2) Insubstantial objecti...
Section 2, Chapter 6: Rehearsal Process
Intervention Workshop - March 15, 2019 16:00 - 3 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsEveryone is nervous prior to the intervention. When you complete a good rehearsal process, you will feel more confident in yourselves and the process. Use your checklist. Choosing the last letter: the closer. Determine the right order for the letters to be read in. Seating arrangements. Making f...
Section 2, Chapter 7: Choosing the Chairperson
Intervention Workshop - March 14, 2019 16:00 - 19 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsThe chairperson leads the intervention if there is no professional interventionist involved. Even if you have a professional, you will still want a chairperson to head the family and friends group. The chairperson should not be a spouse. The chairperson should be someone who has emotional influe...
Section 3, Chapter 1: Intervention Day
Intervention Workshop - March 13, 2019 16:00 - 38 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsGuidance and tips for the day of the intervention. Preparation is the key to success, so now the work of all the previous chapters will pay off. You must follow all directions to maximize your chances of success. Dealing with silent objections. Using bottom lines properly. Preserving everyone's ...
Section 3, Chapter 2: After The Intervention
Intervention Workshop - March 12, 2019 16:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsHow to communicate with treatment, getting a release, delivering bottom lines in case your loved one want to abort the treatment process. How to help your loved one stay in treatment. The importance of Al-Anon. Developing a relapse agreement. Keeping the intervention team intact.
Section 4, FAQs 1-10
Intervention Workshop - March 11, 2019 16:00 - 16 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratings1. Our addict has just had a major crisis. Can we still intervene? 2. What if the alcoholic becomes angry during the intervention? 3. What if the addict walks out? 4. What if the alc says ‘Yes, I’ll go, but not today. 5. How do we act around our addict if he refuses to go to treatment?...
Section 4, FAQs 11 to 20
Intervention Workshop - March 10, 2019 19:17 - 18 minutes ★★★★★ - 8 ratings11. When does a family need to hire a professional interventionist? 12. How do we get the alcoholic to the location of the intervention? 13. Aren’t we being deceptive? 14. What if the alcoholic doesn’t show up? 15. How can you say it’s a disease? Where’s personal responsibility? ...
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