Intervention Workshop
20 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 5 years ago - ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsHow to help your addicted loved one accept treatment for alcoholism and drug addiction, using the Love First model of intervention. Jeff and Debra Jay, authors of the best-selling book "Love First," provide a detailed guide to the intervention process.
Topics include: the neurobiology of addiction, creating an intervention team, writing intervention letters and bottom line letters, preparing for objections, choosing a treatment provider, intervention day, and 20 FAQs. Learn at your own pace. Share them with friends and family. Help your family find recovery. Organizing tools and documents mentioned in the podcasts are downloadable here: http://bit.ly/IWdocs33
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Episodes
Section 1, Chapter 1: Introduction: Facing the Problem
March 29, 2019 16:00 - 10 minutes - 10 MBJeff Jay and Debra Jay provide an introduction and overview of the Intervention Workshop. How can we come together as a family to help our addicted loved one get treatment? How can we avoid catastrophic consequences and raise the bottom to right now? Planning and preparation are critical. There is little chance for success without training, rehearsal, and a detailed plan. There are many details to consider.
Section 1, Chapter 2: Underestimating the Problem
March 28, 2019 16:00 - 7 minutes - 7.04 MBFamilies often hope it's not really addiction (or substance use disorder). Different family members have different opinions, and that dilutes the power of love and family. By the way, family is whatever we define "family" to be. Addiction is a brain disease, and sometimes a brain injury. It will not get better on its own. Addiction is a medical problem that requires professional treatment. Our addicted loved one will minimize the problem and blame others. This is normal. We cannot expect t...
Section 1, Chapter 3: Inside the addicted Brain
March 27, 2019 16:00 - 9 minutes - 8.87 MBDebra Jay takes you inside the addicted brain for an up-close look at the neurobiology of addiction. Addiction has been recognized as a disease since 1877, and it has been recognized as a disease by the American Medical Association since 1955. Addiction is not a learned behavior, or simply a way of medicating unpleasant feelings. People may use chemicals to change the way they feel, but when a person becomes an alcoholic or addict, the situation changes drastically. A person suffering f...
Section 1, Chapter 4: Myths and Misconceptions
March 26, 2019 16:00 - 20 minutes - 18.6 MBSubstance use disorders, alcoholism and drug addiction are widely misunderstood. They are often considered moral issues or failures of will power, or defects of character. These ideas are wrong. In this chapter, we explore the many myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction, and set the record straight.
Section 1, Chapter 5: Enabling
March 25, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes - 5.47 MBJeff Jay discusses the dynamics of enabling. Here he defines "innocent enabling," which happens when the family thinks there loved one is just going through a phase, and will grow out of their problem. Then he talks about "desperate enabling," when the family finally realizes their loved one has a disease, and they are desperately trying to avoid greater consequences. He then discusses the process by which families awaken to what they really need to do.
Section 1, Chapter 6: Detachment and the Brain
March 24, 2019 16:00 - 9 minutes - 8.39 MBDebra Jay describes the changes that happen inside the brains of family members and friends who are trying to deal with an active addict. How does unpredictable stress and unmanageability affect us? How does stress and fear affect the developing brains of children in the household? This podcasts gives us even more reasons to take action.
Section 1, Chapter 7: Power of the Group
March 23, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes - 5.07 MBWhy does 1-to-1 discussion seem fruitless with someone with a substance use disorder? Addicted people tend to keep friends and family off balance, telling different stories to different people, pitting one against another, and playing the blame game. When family and friends come together in a serious learning, training, and rehearsal process, they become a powerful force for good in their loved one's life. In fact, family and friends are the perfect group, as they have the best intentions an...
Section 1, Chapter 8: Road to Integrity
March 22, 2019 16:00 - 12 minutes - 11.7 MBAddiction robs the individual of their integrity, causing them to lie to the people they love the most. But family members also lose their integrity. We say we won't stand for it anymore, but we do. We say we won't cover up or enable, but we do. the intervention process helps family members recover their own integrity, and set a positive example for their addicted loved one. We are going to learn, get a new plan and take action.
Section 2, An introduction: Step by Step
March 21, 2019 16:00 - 5 minutes - 4.96 MBStarting your intervention process. Choosing a detail person. Downloadable materials. How to find a good interventionist, getting referrals from top treatment provider. The necessity for planning carefully, and not cutting corners. When you need a professional: 1) history of suicide attempts, 2) co-occurring psychiatric disorders, 3) history of violence, 4) family can't work together, 5) history of failed treatment attempts, 6) if the family is uncomfortable doing it on their own. Tools and ...
Section 2, Chapter 1: Building Your Team
March 20, 2019 16:00 - 17 minutes - 15.8 MBWho should be on your intervention team? Who should not be on the intervention team? How to involve reluctant team members and bring them into process. Guidelines for when children (minimum age 12) can be involved. Tips for determining if an employer can be involved. How to work with an EAP or human resources department. Getting time off work for treatment.
Section 2, Chapter 2: Choosing Treatment
March 19, 2019 16:00 - 10 minutes - 9.96 MBChoosing treatment, choosing the right level of support, so your loved one has the greatest chance of success. Inpatient residential, intensive outpatient (IOP), halfway house or sober house. Local treatment or a national-level treatment center. Concerns with utilizing insurance. How to identify publicly-funded programs. Can Twelve Step programs be a substitute for treatment? Detox starts the treatment process, but detox is not treatment.
Section 2, Chapter 3: Writing Intervention Letters
March 18, 2019 16:00 - 15 minutes - 14.6 MBA guide to writing letters for an intervention, based on the book "Love First," by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay. Seven point process for writing intervention letters. Interventions should not be done off-handedly, with people making up what they want to say on the spot. Letters provide structure, and allow us to make sure that we have covered all the critical points.
Section 2, Chapter 4: Deciding on Bottom Lines
March 17, 2019 16:00 - 12 minutes - 11.2 MBMost people go to treatment on intervention day, about 85%. However, if we get a hard NO from our addicted loved one, there may be some natural consequences which will follow. At a minimum, we may look at the ways we've been enabling the problem to continue. Many alcoholics and addicts rely on their enabling system, and if the enabling stops they will usually agree to treatment within a couple weeks. Using love constructively.
Section 2, Chapter 5: Brainstorming Objections
March 16, 2019 16:00 - 7 minutes - 6.99 MBIn many cases, the addicts objections to treatment may be the addiction fighting for its life, almost as though the addiction is a separate person. Two types of objections. 1) Substantial objections, such as work or family commitments, scheduling problems, legal matters. 2) Insubstantial objections, such as "I don't want to," "It's not that bad," "My wife is the problem." These can be the toughest objections. The group will be able to brainstorm the right answers.
Section 2, Chapter 6: Rehearsal Process
March 15, 2019 16:00 - 3 minutes - 3.75 MBEveryone is nervous prior to the intervention. When you complete a good rehearsal process, you will feel more confident in yourselves and the process. Use your checklist. Choosing the last letter: the closer. Determine the right order for the letters to be read in. Seating arrangements. Making final edits to the intervention letters and the bottom line letters. Bottom lines are only used when necessary. Love is the key to every intervention.
Section 2, Chapter 7: Choosing the Chairperson
March 14, 2019 16:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBThe chairperson leads the intervention if there is no professional interventionist involved. Even if you have a professional, you will still want a chairperson to head the family and friends group. The chairperson should not be a spouse. The chairperson should be someone who has emotional influence with the addict. It should be someone the alcoholic is not angry at. It should be someone they respect.
Section 3, Chapter 1: Intervention Day
March 13, 2019 16:00 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MBGuidance and tips for the day of the intervention. Preparation is the key to success, so now the work of all the previous chapters will pay off. You must follow all directions to maximize your chances of success. Dealing with silent objections. Using bottom lines properly. Preserving everyone's dignity.
Section 3, Chapter 2: After The Intervention
March 12, 2019 16:00 - 25 minutes - 23.7 MBHow to communicate with treatment, getting a release, delivering bottom lines in case your loved one want to abort the treatment process. How to help your loved one stay in treatment. The importance of Al-Anon. Developing a relapse agreement. Keeping the intervention team intact.
Section 4, FAQs 1-10
March 11, 2019 16:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MB1. Our addict has just had a major crisis. Can we still intervene? 2. What if the alcoholic becomes angry during the intervention? 3. What if the addict walks out? 4. What if the alc says ‘Yes, I’ll go, but not today. 5. How do we act around our addict if he refuses to go to treatment? 6. What if she doesn’t follow her aftercare plan after returning home? 7. What do we do if he relapses? 8. What if he threatens to hurt himself? 9. Should we go to his Alcoholics Anonymou...
Section 4, FAQs 11 to 20
March 10, 2019 19:17 - 18 minutes - 17.4 MB11. When does a family need to hire a professional interventionist? 12. How do we get the alcoholic to the location of the intervention? 13. Aren’t we being deceptive? 14. What if the alcoholic doesn’t show up? 15. How can you say it’s a disease? Where’s personal responsibility? 16. How much time do we need for the intervention? 17. How do we know what language to avoid? 18. What if someone can’t attend the intervention? 19. What should we pack for treatment? 20. C...