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255: How to Be Courageous (especially when it's hard)
Relationship Alive! - December 29, 2021 01:20 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIt's easy to talk about being courageous - but how do you actually take action when it feels like a huge risk? Whether it's the decision to enter a relationship, or to leave a relationship, or all of the moments within a relationship when you might have to make a choice that feels a little edgy ...
254: From a "Fair" Relationship to Radical Generosity - the 80/80 Marriage with Kaley and Nate Klemp
Relationship Alive! - November 30, 2021 05:21 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIt's easy to talk about being generous in your relationship - but how do you actually put it into practice - especially when things feel unfair or out of balance? If you're stuck in fighting for fairness in your relationship, it's time to learn a new way of being together where shared success be...
253: How to Keep Children from Wrecking Your Relationship - The Baby Bomb with Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin
Relationship Alive! - October 28, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsHow do you keep your relationship strong despite the pressures that child-rearing can create? And how can you leverage your attachment styles in how you show up for each other to improve your relationship along the way? Our guests are Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin, co-authors of the new book "Baby...
252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict - Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis
Relationship Alive! - September 30, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen you can't be yourself in your relationship and avoid the tough conversations that you might need to have, it erodes your relationship AND your sense of self. Today we're going to focus on how to lean into conflict in ways most likely to lead to deeper connection with others as well as inner...
251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis - with Pete Pearson
Relationship Alive! - September 01, 2021 00:40 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsAre there ways to build trust in your relationship - even if you're in the middle of a crisis? How do you identify your relationship strengths - and use them in these most challenging moments? Today we have a return visit from Dr. Peter Pearson, co-founder of the Couple's Institute (along with h...
250: Start Your Day with Being OK
Relationship Alive! - July 28, 2021 04:52 - 52 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsHow do you find the place within you that's "ok" no matter what? And how do you use that place as a resource to help you handle the things that aren't ok? In today's episode I'm going to give you a quick-and-easy way to start your day on the right foot - while at the same time getting a clear lo...
249: When You're the One Doing ALL the Work
Relationship Alive! - June 30, 2021 16:00 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhat do you do when you feel like you're the only one doing the work in your relationship? When things would just fall apart if you weren't on top of it? Or what can you do if things aren't going so well, and you're the only one who seems to care enough to try and make things different? And how ...
248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?
Relationship Alive! - May 25, 2021 08:11 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIf your relationship is going to thrive and stand the test of time, then what are the essential ingredients for that to happen? What do you have the "right" to do - and experience - in your relationship? And - like any time that we have rights - what are the responsibilities that go along with t...
247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship
Relationship Alive! - March 25, 2021 18:14 - 47 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIf you have an insecure attachment style (or your partner does - or both of you do) - can you have a healthy relationship? And how do you know if an issue that comes up is something that you'll actually be able to fix? Avoidant, anxious, island, wave - or secure - sure, it's helpful to be able t...
246: How to Get Honest with Yourself
Relationship Alive! - February 26, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsHave you ever gone through a major life change, and then, in retrospect, wondered how you could have possibly been living the way that you were living? Everything seemed so great at the time, right? Or, at least, great enough. But when the spell is broken, and the veil is lifted - suddenly every...
245: How to Not Die Alone - Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating - with Logan Ury
Relationship Alive! - January 28, 2021 02:11 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsModern dating can be so challenging. Simply finding good people is challenging. Knowing how to take a relationship to the next level, when to commit, or when to get out of a relationship so that you can find something better - that’s challenging! Today we’re going to focus on all the ways that y...
244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes
Relationship Alive! - December 20, 2020 17:00 - 43 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen you want to shift something in your life, sometimes the scale of the change can seem daunting. So how do you get from point A to point B (or...point Z) in a way that's actually doable - and sustainable? It can be tempting to take drastic actions to make big changes - but you might sabotage ...
243: Ultimatums - The Good and The Bad
Relationship Alive! - December 13, 2020 03:03 - 50 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsAre ultimatums ever a good idea? If so - when? If not, what can you do instead? What should you do if you receive an ultimatum from your partner? And how do you undo the damage that an ultimatum can do to a relationship? In this episode, we're going to cover all the ins and outs of what to do wh...
242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song!
Relationship Alive! - November 21, 2020 04:32 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen emotions are stuck within you - how can you use your creativity to get things moving? Sometimes the muse within you is a quiet whisper - other times screaming for your attention. Today we'll talk about how to find the voice - and what to do once you have. And, towards the end, I'll share a ...
241: Breaking Up and Moving On - What's Normal? What's the "Right" Way?
Relationship Alive! - November 11, 2020 04:00 - 53 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen it comes to breaking up, is there a right way to do it? How long should it take for you to get over your ex? How do you know when it's time to see someone new? How do you deal with the way that your ex is handling the breakup? In this week's episode, we're going to cover what's "normal" in ...
240: When You're in Conflict - How to Find Optimal Outcomes - with Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler
Relationship Alive! - October 24, 2020 01:16 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen you’re stuck in conflict, how do you step outside of the situation enough to identify ways to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck? Especially in ongoing conflict, just doing more of the same isn’t going to change your outcome. Our guest is Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler, author of Optim...
239: How to Avoid the Negative Bypass
Relationship Alive! - October 16, 2020 16:00 - 39 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsDo you ever feel like you *should* have gotten over something challenging - that you’ve grown, and learned from the experience, but that on some level it still haunts you? Or do you feel inner conflict around decisions that seem like they should be relatively clear-cut? Are you afraid of failure...
238: Unmotivated Partners - What To Do? - with Pete Pearson
Relationship Alive! - September 26, 2020 02:55 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhen your partner is unmotivated to change and has resorted to stonewalling - or blaming everything on you - what can you do? If you’re a therapist working with a couple in this situation, you’ll learn some valuable ways to directly address this issue and change the dynamics. In today’s episode,...
237: Overcoming Procrastination - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin
Relationship Alive! - September 19, 2020 05:25 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsDo you ever procrastinate? If you’re looking for a way to finally stop putting things off - and get them done - then today’s episode is for you. As a follow-up to a session with me on being overwhelmed, David Burns has returned for a session to help me with my own procrastination. You’ll get to ...
236: When Talking about How You Feel Goes Horribly Wrong
Relationship Alive! - September 10, 2020 01:18 - 53 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsHow do you talk about your feelings - without your partner getting reactive and defensive? There are some common mistakes that we make when talking about our feelings that can lead to it going horribly wrong. In today’s episode, we’ll cover ways that you can adjust how you talk about your feelin...
235: Microaggressions in Life and Love with Kevin Nadal
Relationship Alive! - August 29, 2020 16:00 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsAre you undermining your connection with your partner, or the others in your life, with microaggressions? While the “little things” can be the building blocks of something amazing - they can also undermine the very fabric of how you relate with another person, perpetuating sexism, racism, or oth...
234: The Anti-Relationship Episode
Relationship Alive! - August 15, 2020 05:14 - 56 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWARNING: If you’re looking for the typical hope and optimism that you can find on Relationship Alive, then this might not be the episode for you! After 233 episodes focused on how to have an amazing relationship, it feels like it’s time to ask the obvious question: Why? Let’s turn things on thei...
233: What Makes a Marriage Last - with Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue
Relationship Alive! - August 06, 2020 17:19 - 41 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsLet’s put the theory aside for a minute. When it comes to having a successful, long-lasting relationship, what has actually worked for couples whose relationships have stood the test of time? In order to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue interviewed 40 famou...
232: Solving the Acceptance Paradox - with Neil Sattin
Relationship Alive! - July 25, 2020 04:03 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIn a relationship, it’s important to be able to accept your partner as they are. What if accepting your partner traps you in a relationship that isn’t healthy? What’s the balance between accepting your relationship as it is - and wanting to shift things without trying to turn your partner into s...
231: How to Make Better Decisions in Your Relationships (and Avoid Common Pitfalls) - with Logan Ury
Relationship Alive! - July 18, 2020 05:01 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsThe quality of your life is directly related to the quality of the decisions that you make. So, when it comes to love - is there a way to make better choices and to identify your blind spots, to improve your chances of a long-lasting, thriving connection? Today’s guest, Logan Ury, is a Behaviora...
230: How to Win Any Argument
Relationship Alive! - July 11, 2020 16:00 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIn today's world, it's challenging to avoid conflicts - whether with our intimate partners, or simply with people at the grocery store or on social media. How do you take control of any fight so that you can create the best outcome? How do you resolve conflicts in a way that helps bring you clos...
229: Sexting for Fun and Connection
Relationship Alive! - June 29, 2020 19:13 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsSexting - what is it? How do you do it? Why would you want to do it? And...most importantly...how do you ensure it goes well - and how do you keep it from going horribly wrong? Whether you have been with your partner for a long time - or are just getting to know someone - sexting can be a fun wa...
228: Facing Overwhelm - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin
Relationship Alive! - June 19, 2020 18:16 - 2 hours ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsIf you’ve got big feelings going on - overwhelm, anxiety, depression, sadness, anger - how can you discover the valuable messages they contain, and then transform them rapidly into feeling good - or even great? In today’s episode, you’ll get to listen in as David Burns helps me bust through feel...
227: Racism, Racial Equity, and Relationships - with Neil Sattin
Relationship Alive! - June 06, 2020 04:33 - 42 minutes ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsHow do we confront our blind spots and tackle the ways that racism and privilege affect our relationships, our lives, our society? And...our podcasts? This week's episode is not meant to be a complete answer to those questions - just a beginning to the conversation. So today you'll hear more abo...
226: Feeling Good - What Matters and What Doesn't - with David Burns
Relationship Alive! - May 29, 2020 16:29 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 451 ratingsWhat can shift anxiety, depression, overwhelm, or simply feeling “down” - into feeling good, or even great? What are the hidden obstacles that get in the way? When it comes to improving your inner world, there are some things that consistently work. And there are other things that might help, bu...
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